"Don't think, just say what's on your mind" How to not become exhausted in social situations?

nastynickdr · 2016-11-16T14:31:35+00:00

Well, at least for me, the problem was that I was too worried about what people were thinking of me. If i act like this, people will think this, if i act like that, people will think that. Give less fucks and do what you wanna do, and dont worry about the others, and enjoy yourself. Open yourself to new experiences. Not everyone is gonna like you, and thats fine. At least thats what works for me.

When you dont know what to say, just ask stuff about the other persons life. Everyone loves bragging about themselves.

savagedealer · 2016-11-16T15:23:51+00:00

When I run out of shit to say I ask questions about things I want to know about .. extroverts love talking about all the "cool" shit they do on a daily basis ...introverts love talking about the same hobby they've had since 3rd grade all day long . Learn to love them both . Don't fake it or eventually they'll avoid you .

DiamondBack43 · 2016-11-16T16:34:40+00:00

Sounds familiar. Any chance you are on the Autism/Asperger spectrum? We Aspies (people on the Asperger spectrum) find socialization to be draining.

[deleted] · 2016-11-17T05:37:51+00:00

Of course, you have to think to talk. But don't overthink. And once you say something don't continually ponder/ruminate on it. Also, if you have nothing to say at the time, don't stress over it.

Terdmuffin · 2016-11-20T06:07:57+00:00

The way I describe it is to learn how to use that little voice in your head to speak with. When you think something to yourself, just say it aloud instead.

Think about how it is when you tell a story from memory. You are just saying your thoughts. That little thought voice is the same as your speaking voice.

Title	"Don't think, just say what's on your mind" How to not become exhausted in social situations?
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Date	November 16, 2016 1:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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