How to treat a female "friend"? TRP all the way? This is a bit confusing.

Auvergnat · 2016-10-22T10:08:06+00:00

Your objective is unclear.

If she is working at the same office as you? In the sense as: if shit were to hit the fan, would this impact your professional life? If the answer is yes, DO NOT try to fuck her.
Assuming you can fuck her without impacting your professional life. Do you want to fuck her or not? If the answer is yes, apply red pill theory. I feel from your post that you do want to fuck her but you're trying to convince yourself you don't because you think you have no chance.
If she's working at the same office OR you don't want to fuck her. Act normal. Don't think alpha or beta, just be you. Use her to grow your social circle.

bainbridge_island · 2016-10-22T11:24:15+00:00

Stop thinking with your dick. Be friends, go out, meet other people and have a good time. this isn't hard.

quicklogaccount · 2016-10-22T10:29:14+00:00

If it matters, she is an exclusive bi hb8 who makes 6 figures in finance, i am a single hb7 who have a better career in another field. This is a bit confusing. What is the proper course of action for the objective?

I'm assuming you got "hb" wrong. I suppose some people could be ok calling guys "hot babe" too but... It sounds weird. So, if you happen to be a girl, ignore this.

It doesn't matter if your goal is laying the girl or actually just being friends, you'll make it a better time for you both if you take the lead of your interactions.
If you put yourself at mercy of her wishes and whims, you won't have absolutely any effect on her mood, but everything and everyone else will. You won't be able to help her feeling better if she's feeling down, and will only hope she'll share her good time if she's feeling up.
Anyway, on her making six figures, you can bring value besides resources. Resources are usually a component of status, status itself being the associated high value. Unless you're actively looking into family building, resources are only looked as means to other ends.

blackedoutfast · 2016-10-22T21:28:14+00:00

if you are basically trying to friendzone yourself showing BB traits will get you there. the downside is that if you do this, she will probably lose a lot of respect for you and start expecting you to act like an orbiter. if you don't do favors for her and all that, a lot of girls will act bitchy. also it can feel pretty disgusting to intentionally act beta.

a better strategy is to maintain your cool alpha guy attitude, and simply friendzone her. don't escalate, limit your kino etc. there will naturally be a lot of flirting and sexual tension, just never let it go anywhere. try to not catch oneitis and don't get drunk and hookup if it would be bad.

be careful if you start mixing AF and BB traits plus being sexually/romantically unavailable. thats the basic recipe for creating an alpha widow. girls can crush on dudes and catch oneitis too, and that can cause problems.

plenty_of_eesh · 2016-10-22T10:01:15+00:00

From what I've seen in TRP, you're going to be told that she has no value outside of being fuckable or being a business contact.

Which I disagree with. Especially if you haven't got other friends. But you still don't have to act like a beta orbiter.

So show some strength. Be social but clearly dis-interested sexually, and don't "cry on her shoulder".

You can keep her as a business contact, wing-girl, she can introduce you to her hot friends, etc.

Edit: By the way, why do you say that if you show signs of interest you would part ways? I don't get this, but anyway you don't have to go "full plowing mode or full beta".. Be the man, draw the line at kino, what's the problem?

Title	How to treat a female "friend"? TRP all the way? This is a bit confusing.
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Comments	9
Date	October 22, 2016 9:21 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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