LTR is upset because of girl I have on FB. She threatens or I remove the girl or breakup. What to do?

MattyAnon · 2016-01-08T17:06:31+00:00

LTR threatened to stop relationship if i didn't delete her.

It's a bluff. Call it.

If she leaves because of this, it's because you are not being a good little beta and you deserve it.

Spend more time with this other girl, call her, whatsapp her, facebook her, really amp it up as much as you can.

Don't kowtow to your LTR or you'll be dead in the water.

Apexk9 · 2016-01-08T20:04:34+00:00

The second she would have given me the ultimatum.

K

And ignore her

purecyse · 2016-01-08T20:03:52+00:00

You're in the midst of a face-off and you're blinking.

Your real problem in this situation is that you're approaching life with the wrong outlook: you lack a mentality of abundance.

If your LTR leaves, there will be another girl and, with that in mind, if you stop talking to this other chick, there will also be another girl.

The simple fact that your LTR has the "balls" to dictate to you already speaks volumes. She's used to holding herself ransom and you paying whatever price is necessary to get her back.

I don't think you have the ability to do what /u/MattyAnon is advising. That's a big step for someone that seems to be static.

I would say delete the other young lady as a show. Afterwards, remove your LTR's access to ALL of your social media. Don't let her see more than the normal Facebook friend/ person that doesn't have access to your phone.

When you're putting your system in place, security should be an issue addressed immediately. No one should know more than you ALLOW them to know.

For your LTR, this will add dread, this will add mystery and this will aid in saving the relationship FROM HER by eliminating her ability to snoop.

2016-01-08T21:28:16+00:00

That isn't blackmail... And if you're in a relationship why are you considering someone a future plate?

RPSigmaStigma · 2016-01-08T16:40:10+00:00

Why have LTR if you still want to put it about?

getRedPill · 2016-01-09T00:06:14+00:00

i've been in situations like this and it never ends well for the guy. Shit women do. Let me explain: either it is a shit test and you pass it only ifbyou play it really well or she is "projecting" she is doing the same or worse because she have 1 or more guys she is being infidel with.

downgrade her to plate as it seems she is doing herself

bigcitytruth · 2016-01-09T07:07:59+00:00

Classic red flag. Dump the LTR. Don't say we didn't tell you so. If you don't heed our warning, about six months from now she's going to dump YOU. Dump her first. Rip it off like a bandaid. Better you dumping her, than her dumping you.

Do the "It's not you, it's me" standard breakup. Don't blame it on this event, just be vague. If you use this event as the reason, she'll try to spin it around and then you'll give in and go back to her. Don't fold, if the girl asks why, just say, "I'm just not ready." When you break up, have something planned nearby with buddies one hour later, so that you have to leave and won't give in. Completely delete her from all of your online profiles and block her number. Move on and date other women.

user5577 · 2016-01-09T14:56:57+00:00

Mm been in this situation. I chose to delete the girl and appeasey LTR..

OP you have to live your life like you have nothing to lose... I was afraid to lose my gf and while i kept the gf, i lost a lot more than i could have imagined.

htbf · 2016-01-08T23:25:23+00:00

Your LTR is right. If a man was talking to her, you wouldn't like it at all. There is no reason for her to put up with something you wouldn't put up with.

Women hate being overt yet she's doing exactly that in this case. You should listen to her or leave her.

Rasalom72 · 2016-01-08T16:29:16+00:00

If this LTR is potential marriage material, then you need to start cutting out the plates. LTR's by definition indicate that you are moving from spinning plates to having one serious relationship. If you want to keep spinning plates, then cut the "LTR" lose.

Title	LTR is upset because of girl I have on FB. She threatens or I remove the girl or breakup. What to do?
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Date	January 8, 2016 4:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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