Girl I used to be friends with before I went NC and started working on myself

medik13 · 2015-12-26T04:22:30+00:00

I wouldn't go there. She rejects you, you work really hard and now she wants you. See the precedent you've set? In her mind you've done this for her.

edwardhwhite · 2015-12-26T04:36:31+00:00

The solution to any girl problem is another girl.

Rayjaysdick · 2015-12-26T07:46:13+00:00

You are definitely just a friend. Nothing more, no pussy tingles. move on to other women.

SarsaparillaCorona · 2015-12-26T04:22:10+00:00

No. No matter what you do, if you've built a foundation on friendship, platonic friendship, you have little to no chance of ever being romantically involved with that person.

Keep being friends with her if she provides you with good things, but pursue other women.

walawalawa · 2015-12-26T05:03:27+00:00

Ok. This is a great post on determining Red Pill vs Blue Pill thinking. "I have strong feelings for this girl..." she's special=Blue Pill. "I like this girl and want to see how I can escalate"=Red Pill.

I'm sensing a real fear of "losing" her if you escalate or make a move=Blue Pill. Abundance mentality is Red Pill.

Learn how to escalate. Learn the steps, the structure, how to recognize when one stage is passed before moving on to the other.

Right now you like a girl, she says a bunch of things that fuck with your head, you start to panic.

Seize control. Read Mystery Method. Read Krauser's DayGame Mastery and his blog. There are clear steps for how to escalate. Once you practice and learn this, your fear and panic at "losing" some girl will evapourate.

I know. I was in a mode of "losing"....I panic, I "lose"...I panic more...it's a downward spiral.

Look at all the successful PUA's. It takes work. Once you master your own thinking, you'll be in a better position to make clearer assessments of your romantic situations. They won't be as confusing. Merry Christmas!

Str8_Pillin · 2015-12-27T01:22:25+00:00

Dread. Pay less attention to her. Let her see you with other girls. If she really wants to keep you she'll have to give up a little on her end.

[deleted] · 2015-12-27T01:15:19+00:00

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Title	Girl I used to be friends with before I went NC and started working on myself
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	December 26, 2015 4:09 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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