How do I escape the anger phase?

TheMGhandi · 2015-10-10T08:17:49+00:00

I've seen kids in developing countries who eat out of trash bins. Some have eyes that look hopeless and they wish they were dead and some have eyes full of joy that hope for a long life. I'm talking about a 4 year old girl that begged me for water when I went overseas. It's hard to forget her even after 12 years.

How do you even compare to people who are in Syria or Palestine and are being killed left and right? Yes, you don't want to hear this, but people are suffering more than you can ever imagine. You don't give two shits about these people. Can you imagine seeing your father and mother and siblings getting raped or killed in front of you? Do the research man. People are suffering.

IMO you were raised by a single mother and are "a lost boy" as IllimitableMan would say. Find your version of masculinity that doesn't include harming yourself or others and act on it.

Konrad250 · 2015-10-10T06:41:01+00:00

Um, TRP may not like this advice, but get some help.

kook333 · 2015-10-10T13:27:51+00:00

The only thing that's helped me with the anger phase is improving. Once you start getting attention from girls you'll start to appreciate that they don't go after guys that "deserve it" but instead go after guys that have earned it. It will take a long time especially from where you're starting but take action every day and live by the motto "become worthy." Not worthy for women but worthy as a man, once you do the hate fades and the women show up.

RPmatrix · 2015-10-10T12:48:41+00:00

well bra, you've got your white middle class priviledge to thank for this, read these to begin with

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2q582c/a_comprehensive_guide_to_the_red_pill/

http://therationalmale.com/2011/08/23/schedules-of-mating/

http://puerarchy.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/TheFuturist_TheMisandryBubble.pdf

These will give you a solid basis to continue your RP self improvement program!

the journey of a thousand miles begins with a step

mr_nate_ · 2015-10-10T13:25:41+00:00

Among other helpful posts to get you out of the anger phase, I just released a post yesterday geared towards helping guys like you get out of the mud from a philosophical perspective. Give it a read and keep improving.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3o4tsy/the_red_pill_vs_angry_society_a_philosophical_and/

The most important thing is to stop being retrospective. Look forward, and make your time worth something.

alveoli1 · 2015-10-11T03:33:55+00:00

The only person who is going to look out for you is you.

You need to learn to like yourself. I know its a lot easier said than done. But if you hate yourself, how can you expect others to like you.

What others see of you is based on how you present yourself. What you look like and what you act like. They know nothing of your past, how you were raised or what you've been through. All others see is what you see when you look in a mirror.

This is why lifting is so important in TRP. It has so many benefits. It makes you look better and carry yourself better.

Another priority for you should be your appearance. What you wear and how you take care of your physical appearance. It matters way more than you think. Especially when you are looking for a job. r-malefashionadvice is a good resource for this.

You also need a job. What do you like doing? Find a field/something related to what you actually enjoy and pursue that. Even if you can't get into what you like doing right away set a goal. If you can't get a paying job right away, don't be discouraged. Volunteer. Volunteering looks great on a resume and you get out and get to meet and talk to people.

Lastly, I would suggest not worrying about girls at all. Once you start improving and find your drive / fire for life inside you and have a I don't give a fuck attitude about girls, you'll find they start noticing you and things will fall in to place.

Who cares if you are 22 and haven't kissed a girl! Literally no-one besides you knows that!! Life isn't a big measuring stick with which to compare yourself to others.

You are the one who has to live with you. So go make yourself into an awesome man.

Good luck! Lifes really not that bad, its just a lot of hard work. So, just go live it!

P.s. read all the sidebar stuff on the main TRP forum.

Coolbeans024ptf · 2015-10-10T15:39:00+00:00

The anger phase is nothing to downplay, it's a powerful feeling that clouds your judgment. Logically you know that your decision making is shit in a heightened emotional state. You my friend are in a long term heightened emotional state and it has clouded your view.

The reality is you are a man and you are responsible for your attitude. Essentially you are failing to maintain frame against life itself. You are being reactionary not actionary. You should be happening to the world with a smirk on your face and letting it react to your advances. Stop playing defense. Control your mind or it will control you.

alwaysthrowmeaway · 2015-10-10T23:33:32+00:00

This is the one book that we never seem to recommend, but it is very important: "Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy". It teaches you how to deal with your emotions in a very RP kind of way. I do these exercises twice a week to not let things build up. over time you will change the way that you think and see things.

You can find it on bittorrent if you want to preview it.

alwaysthrowmeaway · 2015-10-10T23:44:59+00:00

I started with lifting free weights in my room. I have very serious depression (at age 17 I drove a car into a concrete wall tried to kill myself). On bad days I have to stop lifting and I lay down and cry for no reason (yes I finish my damn sets after this BS). This happens much less often now and I am starting to go to a gym now with a trainer. Start with small steps. They will get bigger over time.

Longest_username · 2015-10-10T06:17:44+00:00

Stop being a lil bitch bruh, thats how.

Title	How do I escape the anger phase?
Author	fourlucozades
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	October 10, 2015 4:52 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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