Been with my divorcee girlfriend [31 F] of six months and I love her very much. Things have been going great but I have a few gripes that I cant really talk to her about. I am not sure whether its just me or have I lost perspective on what's right and what's wrong?

Here's what bothers me, for a start she hasn't told me about one of her guy friends whom she had a one night stand with. She told me she had a one night stand with a friend from her pervious workplace but wont tell me the guy's name because she is ashamed of it. She says she didn't want it to happen and that HE was too aggressive so she relented. What's weird is that she slept with another acquaintance of mine when she moved to this city and said the same thing about him. I find this hard to believe because they texted back and forth A LOT, she picked him up, ended up somehow at her apt and ended up having sex.

I recently found out about a fling she had back in college and she had already told me about all the guys she slept with or had relationships with and he wasn't one of them. She showed me the guys pic on fb and we talked about it briefly and I am cool but it worries me that she conveniently forgot about a fling. Somehow I feel that she is lying to me about her sexual past so that I would stay with her and not think she slept around. I know for a fact that she did drugs, alcohol and partied a lot in her college/post college days.

She has some weird orbiting friends who say weird things to her. One of them is her best friend who is recently single. I know he wont do anything but she will often tell me that he is sorta pervy (aren't most guys) and will say stuff like, "Hey, if stuff doesn't work out lets us get married lol jk blah blah". Another guy, is a guy at work who is married. He is a peer of her boss and has already expressed his feelings for her before we met. He told her that she gets him and that he hasn't even talked about stuff like that with his wife blah blah. She shot him down but still talks to him at work in a friendly manner. One day she told me that he commented on how thin her calves look.

That's another thing, she works at a private company in the IT side of things which is almost 80% male. She wears tight clothes and gets ready for an hour to go to work. She mentions occasionally how some guys will lose track of what they are saying and stare at her big knockers. I get sick of hearing all these complains because she can just as easily dress down but she wont and will keep complaining about all the attention. She tells me that she dresses this way because it makes her feel good about herself so I really cant control her wardrobe choices. I sometimes think it's otherwise (attention seeking).

Some of her guy friends will message her randomly on facebook etc. She tells me they are perverts from college days and stuff but I feel that they had a thing. I know this is crazy but this guy keeps reaching out to her persistently and I cant really believe that he is that crazy. The fact of the matter is, there is another guy like that in her life from her past workplace and I think that he is the one she slept with because he keeps saying he will come down to her city to meet her. She has recently cut off contact with him after I kept telling her it was highly inappropriate to keep responding after she said that didnt want to be rude to him. She also adds that almost all her guy friends have been weird with her and she has steered them towards friendships. She mentions that if she hadnt she would be friendless. I don't agree, she talks to a disproportionate number of guys vs women (she does have a few girlfriends)

Recently, she told me her most recent ex whom she broke up with reached out to her family to wish the brother on his wedding eve. She flipped out on him and started complaining that he hadn't done anything like that when they were together blah blah but didn't take any action on the situation. Their common friends whom she talks with frequently will occasionally ask her whether she would give the ex another chance if things don't pan out between her and me. Again, makes me uncomfortable that he is still in the scene after me and her have already fought about him. She finally stopped talking to him two months ago after I told her to stop.

Last thing, she will randomly talk about how black guys (she slept with one) have big dicks in a casual manner or how some guys are circumcised which makes them go longer. Sometimes I will engage in the discussion in a regular and open manner but sometimes I feel weird. As she is older than me I am sure she has been with more people and has more experience than me.

I feel terrible because it just feels like I am insecure and don't trust her and I know that she loves me a lot. However, occasionally all of this just wears me down.

tl;dr: Not sure how to handle gf's past/baggage. She is also friendly with guys who have expressed interest or been weird. Am I too controlling or should I try to be more understanding with my gf?