Red Pill in a nutshell [How to avoid being BP]

RedPope · 2014-08-13T07:27:56+00:00

You can definitely apply this rule to your interactions with women. It will steer you right 9 times in 10.

With men, you can be much more generous. Men are more likely to appreciate favors and reciprocate when needed. Start small. Some men will be deadbeats. You will learn to recognize and discard them with experience.

Those that prove themselves are worth the effort. Having a close group of loyal men who genuinely look out for each other is priceless. Develop the ability to find or build these groups and you can move mountains.

soopad00pa · 2014-08-13T07:26:33+00:00

Learn to say 'no' without explaining yourself.

tyranus89 · 2014-08-13T16:32:21+00:00

Ask yourself, when I do this, who benefits?

I think there's a complementary question that goes along with this: Will I be hindered/disadvantaged by this?

A big BP trait is being the "Yes Man", putting people ahead of yourself, even at your own cost. For example, say a good friend of yours needs a lift to the airport:

A: Hey man, I'm really stuck for a ride to the airport tomorrow. Could you help me out?

B: Sure man, I'm supposed to work, but I'll call in sick.

A: Thanks!

With a more assertive mindset, you don't disadvantage yourself to please others.

A: Hey man, I'm really stuck for a ride to the airport tomorrow. Could you help me out?

B: Sorry man, I'm working tomorrow.

A: OK, thanks anyways!

I believe this is what you're getting at. But even if something doesn't benefit you, it's important to see if you're disadvantaged by the action, too. Example:

A: Hey man, I'm really stuck for a ride to the airport tomorrow. Could you help me out?

B: (I have nothing planned tomorrow. When I do this, who benefits? He does. But am I disadvantaged at all? No.) Sure, I'll see you at noon.

A: Thanks man!

Often, this will end up benefiting you in some way -- in this particular example, you've banked a favour with A, assuming he's a friend you can count on. Either way, when you call the favour out, you'll find out if you need to cut him out or not.

tobythetiger · 2014-08-13T14:03:45+00:00

I'm not gonna do a cost/benefit analysis for every decision I make. If my friend asks to borrow my car once I'll lend him it because that's what friends do. If he asks every week he is taking the piss and I'll say no.

[deleted] · 2014-08-13T14:20:58+00:00

This is a post for the community, if someone wants to add or remove something I'll look into it.

Good post, want to add.

Be clear with yourself of what do you mean with "benefit"

That is important because as a beta blue piller you could see anything as benefitting you in the long run.

Thinking in Karma terms of "if I do that now it might pay off later", "if I do that now it helps me to bond with him/her and that might pay off in the future".

It's not wrong to think about long-term effects of your decisions but one shouldn't make the mistake to say yes to everything that might benefit you later. You'd have to say yes to anything if you have that mentality.

Eamples:

A woman starts bitching about you not doing something she decided you should do.

"It will benefit me in the long run, because she sees that I am understanding. And she will be understanding if I have a bitching fit sometimes in the future.

A friend of yours asks you if you are ok with him borrowing your car.*

"It will benefit me in the long run. If I need to borrow something, he will lend it to me because he owes me."

I'm currently doing "X" thing

"Even if x doesnt benefit me directly, the experience of doing it will perhaps benefit me in the long run."

Again, it's not wrong to think of future benefits, you have to do it, but many people make the mistake of applying it to anything.

Manmore · 2014-08-13T20:00:23+00:00

I don't have a problem saying no to girls, but to friends.

What do you do? White lie? I guess I don't wanna mess up the friendship.

cooltrip · 2014-08-13T23:31:04+00:00

Well, my "redpill in a nutshell" is somewhat related, although I find my form more practical:

In relation to women, always keep your own actions and decisions in accordance with what women earn and deserve from you. In relation to women, always do, act or decide according to what women earn or deserve from you.

Examples:

treat well only women who earn it and deserve it from you.
don't treat well women who doesn't earn it or deserve it from you.
approach a woman only if she earns it and deserves it from you.
don't approach a woman if she doesn't earn it or deserve it from you.
be friends with a woman only as long as she earns it and deserves it from you.
don't be friends with a woman who hasn't earned it or deserved it from you.
In general: Do X only as long as she earns it and deserves it from you; don't do X if she doesn't earn it or deserve it from you.

Yes, it's sort of a "mirror principle": act with women according to how women act with you or earn or deserve from you. There always has to exist some compensation. Never act "for free"; women will never recompense this (since it was "for free" and you've been an idiot).

fucking typos.

Title	Red Pill in a nutshell [How to avoid being BP]
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Date	August 13, 2014 12:00 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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