I'm a 30 y/o male newly dating a 21 y/o female (non exclusive, it's not serious). She has quite a few beta orbiters, and I've noticed that she will hang out and talk with them but ultimately ends up leaving them to hang out with me.

She's not one of those "I'm an independent career woman who don't need no man" types at all, which I like about her, but she portrays characteristics of a red-piller, whose self-optimization allows her to challenge me on things and hold her frame. That is surprising to me as I did not really expect a 21 yr old to challenge me on anything, much less hold their frame.

What's our philosophy on dealing with red pill women or even other men like ourselves?