I swallowed TRP about a year ago and since then have started taking better care of myself, hitting the gym hard, and working on myself. This is a very positive thing, and I am already seeing good things to come from it.

However, the main problem for me is that ever since I have been sexually active, I have had powerful fetishes including female domination, feet, pegging, things like that. These are ostensibly as far away from 'maintaining alpha frame' as possible to get, however these fetishes are unlikely to go away.

On the one hand I am thinking that TRP philosophy may be that I should confidently and unabashedly accept these parts of me- an alpha is secure in himself and his sexuality and not afraid to pursue what he wants. On the other hand, I am fully aware that the VAST majority of girls are sexually submissive, many have rape fantasies, all girls I have talked to prefer a partner in control, and I am worried that it would be impossible to maintain frame after revealing such things.

It's not that I can't be dominant, in fact, with all my previous partners I have been, my first girlfriend was unusually submissive, to the point that she liked me to talk about other girls while fucking her, slapping her, 'raping her' and spitting in her mouth. I do enjoy this, but it will never invoke the kind of arousal that my submissive fantasies do. However, I have never acted out my submissive fantasies. Are they better off forever in my head, should I see an escort every once in a while, or should I just incorporate them into sex in LTRs? (In a once night stand I would always take control).

Does askTRP have any advice for me on this matter?