Recent ex-girlfriend keeps messaging me

[deleted] · 2014-03-11T04:58:31+00:00

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Fantastical14 · 2014-03-11T03:27:22+00:00

She might be shit testing or she might be screwing with you.

Move on. At least for now. Start working on yourself and keeping yourself busy and she will be drawn to you.

I wouldn't message her back at least for a few weeks. Freezing out is more emotionally powerful to a woman than any message you could ever send.

redbluepilling · 2014-03-11T06:21:00+00:00

The basic formula is, if you leave the relationship and you're unaffected, even if she ends it, suddenly she begins to like you again. Magic. The trap is going back to how things were. If you wanted to salvage a relationship, you could come back to the relationship as the one in control of it. You set the rules for how things are going to be from now on, and if that's not okay, there's no relationship.

But....it sounds like that's not what you really want to do, considering you were going to end it. There's tons of advice here about ex-gfs already. You keep your distance and make her just another plate or scrap her entirely.

[deleted] · 2014-03-11T06:22:23+00:00

Why not delete her from Facebook. Seems silly to "unfollow" her.

asd1100 · 2014-03-11T07:19:34+00:00

Why ignore her? Make her a fuckbuddy while banging other girls too. Best of both worlds bro.

Space_Tourist · 2014-03-12T03:45:30+00:00

She probably broke up because she met some other guy she wanted to fuck. He pumped and dumped her, brought her confidence level back to a realistic place, and she decided that you are a decent catch after all.

You can fuck her if you want and you can handle it emotionally (harder than you may think it is). Definitely wrap it up though. Probably better off just ignoring her.

riskrowe · 2014-03-11T08:23:46+00:00

Sounds like she's failing to swing to another branch quickly enough to escape the crushing loneliness of being single. For men it's not too bad but for women it's pure agony; goes back to the reality of tribal living when a woman's relationships were literally her only means of survival. When a woman feels an important relationship disintegrating she really is scared for her life.

Best move is to ignore her until she calms down and stops bothering you. But if you wanna take a gamble and if you can still tolerate her presence you could probably milk a few more BJs out of her... Y'know, to make her feel better. But have no doubts: it's over. The sooner you move on, the better.

Edit: Also, if in 6 months time you're still the best cock she's ever had, she'll start trying to establish contact with you again. Hypergamy.

DjBottleservice · 2014-03-11T06:45:57+00:00

Just went through something like this but a bigger time span. Ignore her, whatever it may be it doesn't even matter anymore. If you're done with her what's the point in participating in these shit tests? Pass.

vandaalen · 2014-03-11T07:06:25+00:00

Where is the problem?

Did you clearly state to her that you want to cut contact? If not: Do so.

If you can't stand her approaches and really are not interested any more, then block her on FB and her number in your phone.

If it doesn't bother you then just ignore it.

Title	Recent ex-girlfriend keeps messaging me
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	8
Comments	23
Date	March 11, 2014 3:18 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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