"I became a Stepford wife and saved my marriage" Re: Surrendered Wife

SirNemesis · 2014-08-22T22:30:45+00:00

If such verbal surrender was just about bearable, Karen struggled rather more with the thorniest element of her new role - sex. As Ellen outlined this aspect of the challenge, Karen found herself bridling at the instruction 'never refuse your husband sex'. She says: 'I was told to make myself available for lovemaking at least once a week.' She pauses, and adds: 'I don't like lying back and thinking of England - my marriage was in such crisis that we weren't even kissing and cuddling.

She struggled to make herself available to her husband for sex once a week? Words fail me.

Also, I want to highlight this:

'But, incredibly, it has saved my marriage. I don't do more housework - I do less, because Ali is so amazed to be thanked so nicely for every small thing he does that he has started loading the dishwasher for the first time in years. 'Before, I would just have criticised him for putting the dishes in the wrong way. He is so thrilled with the "New" Karen that he even told me to sit and watch a film the other night so he could do the ironing.

LifterofThings · 2014-08-22T21:50:48+00:00

I am so very tempted to post this to Facebook... I have a lot of empowered wimmins as friends. I don't really know the states of their relationships, but I really think that this could make for powerful changed for anyone who was willing to give it a try.

I henpecked and simultaneously babied the shit out of my ex, I admit it. Unsurprisingly, this resulted in a non-existent sex life and the death of attraction, as well as depression and withdrawal from life on both of our parts. I'm not saying that this mentality could have/should have saved that relationship, but I think being more mindful of the power dynamics in interpersonal relationships has done my life a world of good. I apply this shit everywhere now and it hasn't always been easy-- my natural instinct is to control things, and it's been an uphill battle to rationally recognize when a power struggle is worth pursuing rather than running on feels and instinct exclusively... But the results have been great. I get along better with coworkers, I know how to more deftly manage conflicts, and my romantic relationship is outrageously filled with love, admiration, and attraction (going both ways!)

Title	"I became a Stepford wife and saved my marriage" Re: Surrendered Wife
Author	RedPillWife_June2014
Upvotes	26
Comments	4
Date	August 22, 2014 7:27 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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