(Disclaimer this is my first post so feel free to rip apart)

I am writing this post as it is something I have started doing in my LTR (lived together 14 years with 3 kids although not legally married) and something I have searched for more info but couldn’t find easily and thought it may be useful.

It is important to note that this needs to be calibrated (my SO knows better to compliance test me, at least often), therefore it is more useful for someone who has already dealt with being tested themselves and wants to progress. It is also useful as can be done in a alpha / dominant manner. You will need to judge how submissive your SO is in general and to you in your relationship at the current time.

It merely is employing what women use to raise their value but flipping it to raise yours. I often think, when a women is shit-testing what she is telling you to do or how to behave, is what she actually wants to happen but the wrong way around i.e. her limbic system wants you to be ordering her around so she can get wet.

The idea is to flip the compliance test i.e. get your SO to do things for you. Again the issue of calibration is important if you start with small commands (known in sales / psychology as foot-in-the-door principal) and then over time escalate to bigger ones (this can be worked both in a non-sexual and sexual context and in fact the overlap in alpha dominance in the former will help the latter).

You can also start with requests and then move on to more dominant ways of asking, it is just a subtlety although sometimes the more dominant way will be the more productive and panty wetting i.e.

i) Will you please get me a drink of water?

vs

ii) Get me a drink of water babe.

None verbal communication / frame is key as if you ask in a supplicating way more likely to be refused or otherwise questions will arise, depending on level of calibration / non verbal used the pet name at the end can be dropped or added as required. Also remember that we are not strictly looking for happy compliance, we are just looking for compliance.

The foot in the door principal works as people like to be consistent and if you request small things first they are more than likely to agree to later larger requests.

This technique also employs the Ben Franklin effect "a person who has already performed a favour for another is more likely to do another favour for the other than if they had received a favour from that person".

Another way to calibrate correctly, if you are starting out, with this is to initially get them to perform a task for you that correlates with something they are already doing so in the above example if you do something like this prior to getting them to go to the kitchen just to get the drink, then progress onto tasks that make them go out of their way;

i) Whilst your taking the plates to the kitchen, get me a drink of water babe.

Shit Tests

Obviously when you do this and have calibrated correctly you are going to get shit-tests to test your frame, these should be treated in the usual way; agree and amplify but then repeat the request or withdraw till she does said task.

An example of a small shit-test on the alpha commands are where she says "Please..." to which you smirk and reply "Now!" and slap her ass at same time.

Simplifying

Depending on the complexity of the task, or if their are any questions that could arise from it state them clearly in the original request, it adds more to the assumption that compliance will be given and less room for them to manoeuvre out of, or give excuses why it hasn't been done i.e.

i) Make dinner for when I get home.

vs

ii) Make dinner for when I get home. I want steak, eggs and fries.

You can have lots of fun with this technique and very useful for SAHMs who have gotten complacent and lazy and are desperate for someone to bring some direction to their lives. Any questions, feedback welcome.