So often, I see guys here in FR's or on askMRP sweating micro-situational bullshit like my wife wanted chocolate ice cream but I got her vanilla, did I hold frame when I told her she better get used to me making the decisions around here??
 
Okay, there can be value there, but Jesus fuck, let's talk about existensialism brothers!  I need some positivity in my life veins.  This is the real shit here.  YOU are in control.  YOU are in charge.  YOU are "a free and responsible agent determining their own development through acts of the will".  Your wife doesn't matter; the essence of man is existential.  You are here to will yourself to your mecca, unapologetically, with or without her.
 
My grandfather, when he passed away, left me a framed poem.  The poem is If by Rudyard Kipling.  It hangs in my home, on its own, somewhere I see it every single day.  It has been referenced here before and I suggest you read it.  At the height of RP strategy is the essence of a man who takes what he wants from life, willing to risk it all for his mission.      

If you can make one heap of all your winnings  
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss    

You have to get here.  To so many of us, especially when you're new, "all your winnings" are the pride you take in being married, your relationship, having a family, making money, providing for them, and being that idyllic man from the storybooks.  It makes you focus on all the little details about those things that actually don't matter!
 
You must foster a willingness to lose everything you have to get what you want out of life: your wife, your reputation, your job, your status, your money, your family, your friends - everything.  When you remove those things as requirements of a happy life, you can live in outcome independence.  This is the attitude I came into MRP with and it is why I have been successful.  Thanks Pops.
 
Understand that this can make for a dangerous operative if you are weak - if you are Rambo - so tread carefully.  There is a difference between being Rambo and being willing to lose everything you have worked for.  The former implies a lack of frame while the latter implies a choice.
 
The development of frame is the foundation to living this life as a smooth operator.  Without frame, you will never survive the onslaught from your wife (who is probably better at it than you) and without a willingness to lose it all, you will never control the frame or power in your relationship.
 
Sure, assess how you handled a situation, but unless you are in a place where you DNGAF about the outcome and are focused on getting your needs met, you're never going to see it clearly.  This is your toolkit, this is not AskJeeves for being MRP.
 
None of this is revolutionary, no!  This is regurgitated.  Some will call it 'being a dick', some will call it 'selfishness', others: 'Machiavellian'.  Who gives a shit?  The purpose here, is to get yourself there.
 
There is not where your wife doesn't question which flavor of ice cream you picked, slick.  There is where no one stands in your way - especially not you.  You do not allow it!  There is where the person whom you show the least mercy is yourself.  Where you hold yourself to the highest standards.  Where you kill your self (ego) and your BP conditioning (super-ego) and:
 

Start again at your beginnings  
And never breathe a word about your loss    

Consider for a moment not the argument you just had with your wife, but whether you are on the path to your mecca.  Are you progressing towards the man you want to be?  Are you so determined that you are willing to lose everything?  There will be mistakes along the way.  Shit happens.  Are you moving in the right direction?  (The right direction is your discretion, by the way - get used to it, pussy).
 
So again, focus on the Macro, not always the Micro.  It's good to analyze your micro-situational bullshit occasionally but you have to take a step back from time to time and assess your movement as a whole.  You are a blip in time, you will be mostly forgotten, and the argument you just had with your wife is fucking meaningless.
 
For all the discussions we have about situation and circumstance, let's take a moment to remember why we are all here.  Follow your MAP, share your lessons, be unapologetically cutthroat about getting what you want out of your fucking life, and remember brothers:

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it