From alpha to beta to alpha to cheater... ...to dumped. Where to now?

bogeyd6 · 2016-10-17T18:42:39+00:00

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RuleZeroDAD · 2016-10-17T14:40:08+00:00

In a nutshell:

You risked your relationship to either validate yourself or seek the ultimate in abundance mentality. You speak like a faggot, so I assume the former.
You have implemented attractive behaviors, but have not internalized anything, and reek of lack of OI or abundance.
Why aren't you closing on (or at least sparring with) the women at the gym? It's because you have complete oneitis.

Do what you want, but your lurking and picking around the edges has made you into an M&M type confection. A thin red candy coating, with a creamy blue tasteless interior.

And blaming another man for your lack of masculinity is about the most BETA behavior I've ever seen. But...But...But...He's smart, sneaky and better looking than me.

fuckmrp · 2016-10-17T14:46:59+00:00

I skimmed, looking for OP to explain what he wants in life. So far, he wants oneitis.

I'm not sure what to say with this bullshit

[deleted] · 2016-10-17T14:43:35+00:00

This reads like something that belongs in r/relationships.

You aren't married, and you have a case of Oneitis.

You sent some lewd texts to a girl, she found them and you broke up. You have low self worth and she knows she has power over you even now.

At this point, even if you groveled your way back to a relationship with her you'd be living in her frame.

I am only a year in, but it sounds like you need to build a better you. If you come back as a strong self confident man, it's the only way you may get her in a way that makes you both happy.

It sounds like you already have diagnosed yourself and are looking for reasons not to cut ties for now.

Best of luck sir.

anythinginc · 2016-10-17T15:27:10+00:00

Let me be clear that if we don’t reconcile I would be gutted

A 33 year old u/starryeyedbum said this about his 9 month girlfriend...remember that next year.

Everything is roses for a few months

That 9 month time-frame might be stretching it apparently.

Things are gloriously disfunctional/disfunctionally glorious.

Sounds awesome bro, glad you're so high value you have time and energy for all that bullshit in your life.

Sex stops...Is still a high value woman

A high value woman that doesn't fuck you...sounds pretty worthless to me.

About 6 weeks ago she had a mini breakdown due to several stresses and came to me for support. I made things better and deliberately didn’t push the relationship side of things-no covert contract.

I saw a bloody tampon Halloween costume that would be perfect for you.

She agrees to every single suggestion I make about meeting up

I'd go out with you too if you payed.

I want this girl back. I've never met one of this quality, her glaring faults and AWALTness notwithstanding...and I've known plenty. I want children with her. Let me be clear that if we don’t reconcile I would be gutted, but life is otherwise good for me and it will certainly go on, However I’m not going to give up on this unless she outright tells me to never speak to her again…and even then, because I'm a stupid, stubborn cunt.

wow

However I’m not going to give up on this unless she outright tells me to never speak to her again…and even then, because I'm a stupid, stubborn cunt.

No pride, no outcome independence, no frame, no value, no self-worth. Sacrificing yourself for this girl, awesome. I'm sure she can smell your needy, validation seeking behavior dripping out of your pores. You can't victim puke like this and not stink like shit and have yellow teeth from all the vomit. Everything you do is being filtered through her lens as the actions of a needy, desperate, spoiled, manipulative little boy. The kind of boy a woman can start weaponizing her pussy with after the 4 month (lol) honeymoon is up and still have him desperately try to get her back. It sounds like she has never given you her best, but you're still trying to give her yours. What does that say about you?

fuckmrp · 2016-10-17T14:56:17+00:00

Can we take bets on how long it takes for the D-Tri friend to fuck this girl?

BobbyPeru · 2016-10-17T14:39:16+00:00

You're fighting an uphill battle once you lost trust. All it takes is that one time, and they always assume it's been going on for a long time. I learned that in my first marriage. Tough lesson to learn.

You just have to focus on you – cut out the oneitis bullshit. Remember, desire can never be negotiated. Read more about frame, and focus on STFU only until you can master that . After you master STFU, you can start working on some other frame techniques. But ultimately frame has to come from within or you will fail sooner or later every time.

chaosmech · 2016-10-17T17:09:18+00:00

In other words, you're an alpha everywhere but with this woman. You know, the one area you are absolutely required to be alpha.

I have a feeling I know why you came to MRP. Because you were under the mistaken assumption that the men here wouldn't kick your ass nearly as hard as the guys over at TRP, because we might somehow understand your one-itis.

But you aren't married. You aren't tied down to this shitty woman. And I cannot for the life of me figure out why you want to attach yourself to her.

So I'm going to give you the same advice the guys over at TRP probably would: NEXT. HER. NOW.

So she's hot and smart. Great, so are literally millions of other women. She comes from a traditional background and has low n-count? Alright, understandably that puts her in a rarer category. But you've already screwed the pooch with this one. She's seen your beta-ness. You came crawling back after cheating on her.

I ask you: If you were truly a high-value man with options, why bother with crawling back to this woman? The answer: You aren't or you don't.

I love my wife. She's all the things you listed in your one-itis and more. But if she treated me the way this woman treats you, there would be some serious re-thinking the relationship on my part. And that's coming from a man who's legally and morally bound to one woman until infidelity or death separate us.

You are in the rare position to continue searching for a better woman without the horrible consequences of divorce. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT. Ditch her, make yourself better. If the HB8's and HB9's at the gym are showing interest, then go for them. They at least haven't seen your pathetic beta side yet, and if you're good enough you might be able to eliminate it before you meet the next LTR candidate.

In short, it seems you've started to understand TRP. But you lack the ability to apply it to yourself because of this girl you have one-itis for. Repeat after me: There. Are. Other Women. Go pick one of them up.

Persaeus · 2016-10-17T17:33:23+00:00

Has experimented with some fucked up sexual shit when she was much younger which bothers me.

The fact that it bothers you says you're still a pussy and do not understand that it is only your turn.

red-pill-man · 2016-10-17T18:40:41+00:00

I see zero abundance mentality.

RuleZeroDAD · 2016-10-17T16:52:17+00:00

Sounds like you have not internalized your own self worth. You want this "high value" woman because you need added value in your life? Abundance mentality is that you are GOOD with or without her. Like others have pointed out, you understand the red pill but you have not internalized it. I recommend you go back to square one and fucking forget this girl. Your desire to save the relationship and...jesus christ man...have kids with this person, is just a train wreck waiting to happen.

Stop crying. Stop being a bitch. Go fuck three random women (pound the shit out of them, I want them speaking in tongues when you are done) and then come back and tell us if you're still crying over your special unicorn...

Title	From alpha to beta to alpha to cheater... ...to dumped. Where to now?
Author	starryeyedbum
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	October 17, 2016 2:15 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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