Introduction

Every Unhappy Wife is a Rape Victim

This x-post is intended to make sure we see some of the impetus behind her not having sex with us. I'm not looking to validate her actions, but here, in MRP, we know that her actions in the relationship are a direct result of the poor container we are providing for her.

She doesn't want to fill a shitty container just like you don't want to be married to a fat cunt.

This post resonated with me because this was one of the things I told my wife I felt like I was doing to her every time we had sex (over a year ago, just before I threw the divorce talk her way, with intent)

Personal and Practical Application

Every wife in an unhappy marriage that has sex with her husband when she doesn’t want to, because she believes she has to in order to keep her financial stability, is a rape victim. She’s essentially being coerced into sex she doesn’t want. And over time, these unwanted sexual acts take a toll.

What I specifically told my wife at one point was (this was actually pre-MRP): "I get it: you don't want to have sex with me. You love me but you aren't in love with me or you like the financial security and social stability me being around provides, or at the very least you like being married so you can at least say you did something better than your sister. The fact is, you hate having sex with me; you lie there like a corpse, wishing you were somewhere else, doing anything else and I can read every awful feeling you're having in your face and body language. I feel like I'm raping you."

Her response was a tentative, not-so-sure-but-yes, "I don't feel like you're... you aren't... it's not that... you're not raping me but..."

"...but you don't want to have sex with me. That is the basic definition of rape: you are having sex that you feel forced into having that you don't want to have. Sure, I didn't force you to, but you feel forced; you'd rather suffer through shitty sex every now and then instead of me leaving you."

Again, from the post:

Take the alpha man pick-up scenario... Chad wants to fuck her... She likes Chad and she wants to see where things go, but if she wants to keep her chance with Chad alive, she needs to fuck him. She doesn’t really want to, but under the perceived threat of losing her chance with Chad, she feels like she has to... So she has sex that she verbally consents to, but didn’t really want, because she felt coerced. Then Chad doesn’t return any of her texts. Her psyche processes this encounter like a rape. She literally feels raped. Obviously, she wasn’t actually raped, but she feels raped, and in girl world, feelings rule.

Here's where why none of use will ever be seen as actual rapists while being married. We all hear of the cases where she cries rape after she feels spurned by Chad... but Chad never gave her anything else but a regrettable sexual encounter. With us, as husbands, we are offering more than sex: we give financial availability, social availability, support, a home, car, etc., and on top of it a constant reminder that her chances of finding another man to marry are slim and getting slimmer as she ages.

It's very easy for her to actually hamster away the idea of rape because she's not actually being forced, and while she feels raped, she's willing to deal with the shitty sex now and then in exchange for the security the relationship provides. With Chad, she has no such security, so she lashes back at him in the form of a legal proceeding. In the marriage, while divorce may get her something it will never be as much as she has while married, so she puts up with her "rapist" until she hits Stage 2 of Infidelity.

The Solution

The solution is easy, though: You just need to be her Chad in the marriage. She will have the financial and social parts that keep her married to you and the sex she wants that doesn't feel coerced. This is nothing new to us... we spout this stuff all the time; lift, build seduction all day long with her, keep her flowing for you. With your time around her being limited for your you time (lifting, hobbies, clubs, friends, etc.) she has all the benefits of a marriage, the feel of an LTR where she needs to see you more and more, and the sexual attraction of a Chad that keeps her juicy and always wanting more.