Comfort Tests

BluepillProfessor · 2015-02-18T16:14:39+00:00

The trick is that a comfort test IS a Shit Test. It is just a more insidious type of Shit Test that requires a different response.

A Shit test is delivered in a sharp, demanding or unpleasant tone. It is mostly unconscious and she will throw them when she is unsure about you or the relationship to "test" your shit. The proper response is to not be emotionally fazed by her. Agree and Amplify, Ignore, Nuke (draw a hard boundary and stop it at all costs) are the proper responses.

A Comfort test is often delivered in a pleading, sad, or possibly whining tone. She will throw them when she is unsure of your commitment and needs some comfort. The proper response is to take your wife in you arms warmly and firmly and reassure her that you love her and everything is just fine and dandy.

UEMcGill · 2015-02-18T18:15:52+00:00

A shit test is a test of resolve, of leadership. As such she is testing your commitment to frame and confidence in yourself.

A comfort test is a test of security, and her part in the relationship. As such she is testing your commitment to her and the relationship.

So a common comfort test maybe "We have nothing in common, why are you with me?". Or maybe "I can't believe your attracted to me, I feel like a hippo".

As /BluePullProfessor alludes to, the best response is quick and reassuring. But beware of the trap of fixing her emotions. Anymore than a quick in and out, is not letting her deal with them and should be avoided.

Redneck001 · 2015-02-19T13:41:39+00:00

If you have any good examples of comfort tests and how you dealt with them

I THINK the wife gave me a comfort test last night, but I'm not sure. During dinner, I was flirting, but honestly had gotten laid the past few nights, so I think I was flirting more out of habit than anything. After dinner, I read with my daughter.

When my daughter went to bed, I made my way upstairs. I was tired and cool with going to sleep early. Wife comes into the bedroom, gets in bed, starts rubbing my lower back after I had complained earlier about tightness from deadlifts.

After a few minutes, I roll over and escalate. She did not respond, and literally pulled back a little. OK, so I roll back over. She starts rubbing my lower back again. After another minute, I roll over again and escalate. I'm good to go at this point; my woman is rubbing on me and I'm a dude. Go in for a kiss, she pulls back again. So I roll back over.

She starts snuggling on me. I mean, halfway ON me. At this point, I just want to go to sleep. After a minute of this, I literally just want her off of me. 'Cause right or wrong, my wife snuggling on me turns into sex in my mind. But I had been shut down twice so far, so I'm just wanting some sleep.

No words were spoken during this entire strange encounter.

So I got up, went downstairs, and watched an episode of television on the Tivo. When I went back upstairs, the wife is asleep.

Was this a shit test or comfort test? I'm pretty confident I maintained frame and didn't show anger (I honestly wasn't angry, just confused). And if its a comfort test, was this a fail?

TravellingIndian · 2015-02-20T10:30:59+00:00

I read on some post (the gist) that the core difference between Shit test and Comfort test is whether you think the question/comment/accusation is reasonable. If you think she's just being prickly instead of pleasant, it's a Shit test, otherwise a Comfort test

Title	Comfort Tests
Author	geniusdisguise
Upvotes	9
Comments	11
Date	February 18, 2015 3:31 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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