After reading a lot's of testimony and field report on MarriedRedPill I have seen a common trend. It goes like this

  • The men in the relationship start using RedPill (Improving himself, being more assertive, Using tactic like dread, Leading the relationship etc......

  • The Women do respond positively to this change in behaviour... up to a point.

  • The overall happiness is increase for both partner. (less fighting and argument, improve sex life (for most)

But there is still something missing

Yes the Sex frequency is better but she is not really into it. Or you feel like you have to do everything yourself to maintain the relationship afloat. Resentment start to creep in because of your past history, I'm talking about decade of bad interaction, those thing leave a mark and it will come back to bite you!

Women like men are also victim of the matrix. They too have been sold a lie.

They where, like you unhappy about the direction of your marriage. They might not have said much about it (or maybe you have been fighting about it!!!), but you know by her action that she was not happy or satisfied by the way thing where going.

Now that you have started to improve the situation on your own, thing are looking up. She might not understand what going on but I'm 99% sure that she is happier than before. But she is not fully aware of her own flaw and strength.

A marriage is a different dynamic than a simple LTR. You have responsibility, children are involve, the financial implication are huge!

You just started leading a ship and your crew has no idea where you want to lead them!! This is the road block! this is what stopping your partner from really being an active participant in your marriage. And in my humble opinion this is the cause.

This step required a good dose of courage. You need to find out if she want to improve the relationship. She need to say it for herself! You have to find out if there is a will from her part to improve thing actively. You can work all you want to improve thing but it does take two to tango.

Why does this step take so much courage?

Because without good will on her part to go forward you know that it's over! Where there's a will, there's a way, An Where there's no will, there's is no way.

From that point you can start to have an honest discussion about the direction you both want to take your marriage. Bring her on board! By including her she can start to improve herself and step up her game. Not because she feel threaten by dread but because she actually want to! From that point you can both work on specific issue, Sex, power dynamic, etc.... and actually solve thing for the better.

Take care and good luck.