I’ve been with my LTR for a couple years now. But I have decided it’s impossible for me to not fuck women on the side. We just got a place together a little while ago. Had I known I was going to open my eyes to what I really want and stop hiding it. I wouldn’t have done that. But that’s too late now.
I want to let her know I can’t remain faithful. I love her and I honestly would still be with her, there’s nothing else wrong with our relationship. We don’t argue. She doesn’t cause me drama. She’s very loyal, She cooks for me. And adds tons of value to my life. So I can’t even approach like I’m not happy with how things have been. She couldn’t be doing a better job. I’m just not happy when it comes to having sex with one woman for the rest of my life. I also have cheated before and she took me back. But I think this time I’d rather be up front.
I just am so used to banging random women for so many years that when I try to settle down (for goal purposes, can’t party or drink anymore) I end up staying faithful for some time. Then I drift off and need to fuck a random here and there.
I understand that this may back fire. She may say. Fuck that and leave. I’m okay with it. I’d rather her not. I’d rather her understand. It’s just sex. I’ll be discrete, safe (protection) and not embarrass her. Something in me says she sees me as such high value she just might agree to it.
But if not I’m going to probably end up cheating. So it’s probably best we part ways.
I already have explained to her how men and women cheat for different reasons. That for men it’s just sex we aren’t “leveling up” or fucking because the girl is better. But women get emotionally involved and usually try to level up. She understood what I meant. But I feel I should be honest with what I want.
How do I bring this up to her? How do I word it in a way to maybe make her understand? I’m not trying to crush her soul just need sex else where sometimes.