Girlfriend mode

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January 21, 2017

You know when your woman starts unloading her day stories on you?

She just talks and talks and talks....

And I'm like, ok, hmm, interesting, ok...

She is so comfortable speaking her hamster outloud about all the events of the day, how her colleagues interracted, the politics of promotions at her place...

She asks me so many questions and seeks comfort and opinion

Just like a little girl talking to her dad seeking his approval. I did this is and this and this, was that ok? do you think i handled it right? what should I do in this situation? blablablablabla

She could spend hours doing this...

yesterday I was walking around the house between my weights routine, my shower, etc... and she was mindlessly following me around like a happy little girl just talking and talking...

It's not shit tests or anything like that, just mindless chatter...

She feels so happy doing this.... this is after months of me finally becoming a good captain who provides enough comfort... Years ago she would just never feel comfortable talking to me...

I'm fine with it except that it does not generate any tingles, on the contrary, it makes her dry up so bad.

And I guess this is because she's talking to me as if I am one of her girlfriends...

Somehow it activates girlfriend mode and I can see in her demeanor that she isn't sexually attracted

So on the one hand I do not want to rock her comfort.. she finally found some comfort after years of me nearly driving her to the edge of insanity with drunken antics..

How do you deal with this shit?

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Title Girlfriend mode
Author cheeseandhoneyy
Upvotes 8
Comments 9
Date 21 January 2017 05:26 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Women narrate. It's what they do. They narrate your life and theirs. Living with a woman is like having a radio playing in the background at all times. That's one of the things that makes living with them so enjoyable. Most of the time.

Your getting laid has nothing to do with the constancy of her narration and everything to do with how she feels about the audience. That's you by the way.

You really only need to listen when you hear the emergency broadcast signal. Get your shit together and keep it there and the radio will play just the kind of music you like. Most of the time. If not, you're getting nothing but static.

[–]Aaren_Augustine5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

A guy finds this place and he's got a lot of wrestling to do with himself. And it would be a pity if they missed a wonderful perspective such as this.

[–]DonaldBaelish7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

If she's been fucking you eagerly, you'll listen to her pointless observations. You are her man after all. You don't want her having orbiters who get to soak her emotions like a good tampon untill eventually, you drive her so mad one day that she screws one of them.

But if you are not getting laid and she starts unloading her verbal novel, just get busy. Hit the gym, go write a book, etc.

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're saying you're not getting enough sex, I'd start with the obvious stuff first: What do you look like?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like someone has problems expressing and enforcing boundaries.

The problem isnt the chatter, its you. WISNIFG to start

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm fine with it except that it does not generate any tingles, on the contrary, it makes her dry up so bad.

Not all of life is the tingles- once you can generate them anyway. Are you?

How do you deal with this shit?

I would listen (for at least 1/2 hour every night and only loosely speaking) so long as you are getting the sex you want. I would also try to be the comforting daddy grunting an amused nod and laughing with amusement rather than the sympathetic girlfriend mining her feelings to absorb and sample them like a buffet.

[–]youcantdenythat1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm fine with it except that it does not generate any tingles, on the contrary, it makes her dry up so bad.

I agree, my woman does this too. Just keep in mind that women's feelings are fairly fluid and can be easily guided. Here's what I like to do.

  1. When I first see her (after work, etc) I kiss her hard and cop a feel, have a little foreplay with her right away. This helps get the right mindset.

  2. I let her talk for awhile, 30 mins ish. Then I segue the conversation into whatever I want to discuss. Every day I look for some little interesting story or something to share. Talking (about the right things) is important for woman in an LTR. (Not feelings, concerns, worries, etc.. just some interesting event)

  3. After talking a little bit about whatever interesting thing happened that day I mix in some kino.

  4. Then I get away from her for a bit. If she is following me around, I just start with a bathroom break or go out to the garage and do something. Maybe run to the store, whatever.

When I come back, some kino, some playful spanks, etc. Push/pull teasing. etc.

I guess the point is keep things sexy with her, let her talk a bit but don't let her go on and on for hours. Keep mixing things up.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting... Old man conversation as an ltr strategy.

Wondering what you use to calibrate being madculine and tapping into womaneese, while avoiding girlfriend conversation?

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My wife doesn't really do this. Once or twice a week she will unload something about her day on me but that's about it. The rest is logistics, normal two way conversation or me teasing her.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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