Tactics for running the Family

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December 31, 2016

Happy New Year!

I found RP about 3 months ago. It has been eye opening. I'll save you all the life changing bull shit. I've still got a long way to go... progress is being made. I posted on the RP forum a few weeks ago and got a lot of good feedback. Some of my background is there if you think it will be useful to answer this question.

I plan to implement improved family organization in the new year. I realize I need to make this process my own, and keep it fun and positive with the family. However, I figure a group of low BF badasses like yourselves will have some valuable input I can build upon.

I'm not looking for stuff like "find your why", "set goals", and other long term vision stuff. I get that, I have most of that nailed down. There are tons of posts on MRP about that.

I'm looking for specific daily, weekly, monthly tactics and tools. I'm looking for systems. I run a company and use daily scrums and weekly check ins with my direct reports. Obviously the dynamic is different in a family, but I believe a lot of the same principles apply.


  • Do you hold a family meeting

    • How often

    • What is the agenda

  • How do you keep notes on who is accountable for what (Do you assign responsibilities are let people volunteer)

  • Do you utilize some sort of chore chart (whiteboard, google doc, an app)

  • How do you track family scheduling (google calendar, fridge calendar...)

  • How do right the ship when life happens?

  • Book recommendations on this topic?

  • Tools - Apps, planners, web resources

I have 2 daughters 6 and 9. Old enough to to own their part of this. Wife and I are busy like everyone, but this is a priority and I will make sure we follow through.

Thanks in advance.

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Title Tactics for running the Family
Author redPillOnHard
Upvotes 13
Comments 9
Date 31 December 2016 05:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206714
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5lal61/tactics_for_running_the_family/
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[–]screechhaterRed Beret9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

I start the kids days with demanding their beds are made and rooms are picked up. Our house is pretty spotless

Index cards laminated with their responsibilities and a small checklist for the sports, school, and so and so forth are right in plain view

After school for the kids are also on the index cards- snack, practice piano 20 mins, competitive sports activity 20 mins, review class notes/homework, down time ........ then supper makes their list of responsibilities easy

SO and I talk about what vacations and when, budget and etc Sundays, while prepping meals

[–]redPillOnHard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the specifics. Good stuff.

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Laminated index cards?

That's hardcore. I love it.

[–]rebbit_reddit2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

[–]redPillOnHard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is exactly what i was looking for. Thanks!

[–]jeezydasnowman1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You seem so intense! How do you plan on keeping things fun and positive when you are looking for tactics, systems, daily check-ins? Are you fucking kidding me?

You sound like spreadsheet guy, the askMRP poster who made a spreadsheet tracking every reason for every rejection from his wife trying to get laid by process of elimination.

Smile more. Laugh way more. IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS. Do you, the girls will fall in line as they see you leading by example and not being a little bitch. Hold frame. Pick your battles - is replacing the backsplash in the kitchen really THAT important? What about every sock matching? What about hair clogging the drain?

Here's what you do - tell them what to do, then move on about your business. Wife, make the bed, or I'm gonna fart in your mouth til you do. Girl, clean your hair out the drain or monsters will eat you. Girl, make sure you turn your computer off - you're killing children in Africa.

See what I'm doing? I'm giving commands but I'm indifferent, fun, playful, and not being a little bitch. Charts, meetings, scheduling, plans in general are over-invested, boring, annoying, and really toe the line on becoming a little bitch.

The key to women in general is not giving a fuck. Your marraige and family are no different - the best way to get shit done is to make it fun. Try to catch yourself when you are being lame. Frame. Fun.

[–]redPillOnHard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the input. We definitely have fun.
Trying to get them to do tasks without my oversight and repetitive reminders.

Also, empower them and create accountability so my expectations are clear.

[–]ThunderHeavyIndustry0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You might check out r/marriedredpill if you're unfamiliar.

[–]weakandsensitive-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Every once in a while I'll ask my wife "How's it going? Happy?"

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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