wife rejecting dominating oral sex moves

[deleted] · 2016-12-22T15:38:12+00:00

domination and aggression has worked very well for PIV but not oral, what gives?

Have you ever choked on a dick before? Not everyone finds it enjoyable, let alone tolerable. You should probably let it go because it's just not going to happen with her. If you let oral be an act of her serving you instead of an act of you dominating her, then you'll get a lot more mileage with this particular woman.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-12-22T18:30:43+00:00

Women also have boundaries. Face fucking, anal, ass-to-mouth, swallowing, cucking, bondage, threesomes, even tit torture and suspension are not a God given right with any particular woman- and no, the answer is NOT always that she would be happy to choke on Chad's cock. That is the answer enough to make it confusing but it is not ALWAYS the answer.

Part of the appeal of giving BJ's (so I have read) is the dominance that you assert over the blow-jobee. Lots of girls- even prostitutes- don't want you grabbing their hair or forcing a cock down their throat. I don't understand why. Perhaps we should commission a study?

Pro tip: Face fucking, even just the ability to deep throat, is a relatively rare skill that not even most prostitutes or porn stars can do right.

TLDR: Just because almost ALL women want to be aggressively taken and pounded doesn't mean all women want to gag on cock. Some want to lick it gently and worship it while you squirm and beg and I think we need to account for individual variation and do a better job vetting if that is what you want :)

[deleted] · 2016-12-24T01:54:56+00:00

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weakandsensitive · 2016-12-22T19:13:31+00:00

The whole "with you" thing is pithy, but not accurate. Some women hate blow jobs and will never do face fucking, threesomes, swallowing or anal.

Telling guys that she will do anything if you are more attractive, hot, rich, famous or care less is setting false, unachievable expectations.

I love rough PIV (that's fun for both people) but I get nothing out of giving blow jobs and I'm indifferent about getting oral. I do not want to swallow jizz or have a dick in my throat. Anal causes issues down the line, from GI distress to tearing, and not a lot of women find that to be worth it, even for Brad Pitt (who is 50 ffs; you need a younger example).

By all means, be as jacked and hot as you can. But some women aren't going to do things they get no pleasure from or find humiliating just to keep a man from leaving her.

[deleted] · 2016-12-22T15:21:05+00:00

rough and dominating and women love it. - False, read YMMV

Not all girls have the same kink, have you talked to her about the issue?

Not in a condescending/you're disappointing way but rather as a sexual discussion?

mrpthrowa · 2016-12-22T08:50:51+00:00

You've got to be in a place where dominating and aggression are welcome.

Don't go all gang ho like an autistic person.

Have some social intelligence, push pull, recalibrate, look for cues from your wife. Have some patience. If she isn't open to it you're just not there yet.

I found the pick up field videos most helpful here. They are excellent at teaching how to push pull and watch social clues.

Practice them on your wife.

DarkAges1 · 2016-12-22T05:52:01+00:00

It sounds to me that she isn't attracted to you enough to be aroused for that. Slow down, lift, pass shit tests, and learn to lead more outside the bedroom. Slowly get back to ramping up the sexual dominance. It can be a long road.

SDSAM21 · 2016-12-22T06:34:08+00:00

Aggressive PIV is your aggression. Aggressive oral from her is her worship of you. Are you worthy?

470_2_700_nm · 2016-12-22T13:29:41+00:00

The whole description of her fucking loving the hard pounding is great. I would revel in the glory of achieving this feat. It's fucking Christmas. Create a story where Santa caught one of the elves fucking Mrs Clause... no wait be that elf and then fuck Mrs Clause telling her she's a dirty slut and she knows Santa would not be happy but fuck does she ever like this now doesn't she? I'll try this tonight and do an FR. Oh fuck it's shark week never mind. No wait it's BJ week.

Ah BJ's - that's what we were talking about. Here is my go to answer and gut on BJ's: They are a mate guarding technique. So my theory and experience is BJ's increase in frequency and quality when there is competition or some chance I am going to bail on the relationship (or I have already bailed on the relationship).

Sometimes I wonder if my wife is sucking my dick to see if she can detect another woman on it. I'm not kidding, after coming in to bed from being out later, I've noticed she will put her head on my belly, not necessarily for a BJ even.

It sounds like you are further ahead than me, I'd just keep going. I bet with some extra dread in the form of her witnessing IOI's and doubling down on muscle mass gains + lowered body fat, skull fuck nirivana may be just around the corner.

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Date	December 22, 2016 5:25 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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