Is this a unicorn?

MisunderstoodAsian · 2019-01-30T18:17:02+00:00

See the thing is, way back in the days before I had any idea what TRP was, I knew a girl once who had all these qualities you're describing now. Female friend, I wasn't fucking her. From the outside not knowing any better, you would think she was the perfect LTR, like you said, affectionate to her bf, loyal despite bf's BP behaviour, HB8, horny for him etc.

She cheated on him with two different guys for months, and the bf only found out after someone else snitched. She would tell me about the slutty things she did with the guys she cheated with. (Makes me cringe recalling how much of a beta orbiter I was lmao)

Moral of the story: no matter how perfect she seems, AWALT. All women have the capability to cheat, and they will cheat if A) they think they can get away with it and B) they can hamster in their minds that they're somehow morally right.

You have oneitis for this girl and you need to work on abundance mentality, but I think you already knew that deep down.

200290043 · 2019-01-30T18:53:19+00:00

Didn’t have to read it to say.NO!

Don_Draper27 · 2019-01-31T00:39:16+00:00

I can 100% certain she has not cheated on me,

L.M.A.O.

I have total oneitis for this one,

There's this one girl...

Look OP, I get it. I was in an LTR for 5 years and I could've easily said the same. She never rejected sex. She never flirted with other guys when we were out.

The thing is that although you have these good things in your relationship, you also have bad ones that you're not admitting. My ex had red flags that I would look the other way for and I would hamster them as AWALT or I would just try to "accept her for who she is".

I was just blind and I thought that this girl was the best that I could've had. I had extreme scarce mentality. I thought that all girls were flawed in their own ways and that I just had to make it work with what I had.

Slowly though I began to notice little things like subtle acts of disrespect or resistance whenever I tried to become more independent.

And although we had plenty of sex, it wasn't THAT great. I was too accustomed to vanilla level of sexual acts that trying to do things like choking, slapping, etc. seemed out of the question for me.

I'd personally limited the control I had in the relationship because of the lack of boundaries that I failed to develop since the start and my lack of awareness of frame and basic TRP principles.

Although my relationship was "okay" or maybe even "good", it wasn't great and it wasn't really a supplementation of my own lifestyle.

Slowly I began to wonder, what if I broke up with her and started practicing pick-up? What if I started spinning plates? What if girls were begging me for my exclusivity and I got to choose and have options?

It took me a whole year to finally bite the bullet and break up with her and let me tell you OP, I've never regretted it. It's been 18 months now and I've grown and gained so much. I've spun plates, I've had girls try and be exclusive with me. I've created the lifestyle I wanted to live and now from this outside perspective, I can more easily see how much I just "settled" into my last relationship and just tried to be content with what I had instead of driving towards the best lifestyle I could live.

Edit: Also, I want to mention that although I also thought my LTR was a "unicorn", I was shocked about what happened after the breakup even though TRP taught me that it was going to be expected.

I dumped her. She begged and she cried. I had her makeup and tears all over my shirt. There were a few texts of, "I miss you, I hope you're doing good" and "no matter what, I'll always be here for you if you want to try again".

A few weeks later OP, She was already fucking one of her guy friends. She was publicly posting about him on social media. The guy she told me not to worry about. A dude I trusted and worked out with.

So yeah. AWALT.

Agnael · 2019-01-30T18:58:42+00:00

You will see a lot of that AWALT shit here, most of TRP readers came here because they were butthurt and angry towards a specific girl or situation. You won't see a lot of happy men doing google searches about the stuff we talk here, either because he has natural dominance or because his girl simply doesn't pull any of the bullshit we "study" here.

You should enjoy your relationship and trust her. But keep in mind people DO change and she may (or not) start pulling shady stuff down the road, internalizing the pill will make it easier to notice.

ethreax · 2019-01-30T20:13:41+00:00

You will regret this

Title	Is this a unicorn?
Author	MrNoFapzToday
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	January 30, 2019 5:59 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/alfe3w/is_this_a_unicorn/
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