Any other women raised as a future housewife?

reallyreallylovely · 2020-09-16T23:06:17+00:00

First and foremost, get your education. Knowledge is power. It gives weight to your words. Secondly, it allows you financial independence. Thirdly, teach a man how to treat you properly from day 1.

Never ever settle for anything less than you deserve.

In 10 or 20 years time, your family will forget what you did and the cultural judgement doesn't matter to you any more. Your happiness is the only thing that matters, for the rest of your life and your 30s or 40s will thank your 20s for making that crucial liberation.

Kitty015 · 2020-09-17T01:58:56+00:00

I was raised by my mother who was literally a mail order bride.

What do you think?

anotherdamnloser · 2020-09-17T02:33:52+00:00

I was, my family really thought that I’d follow in my mother’s foot steps. Growing up I remember always hating the idea of it. As long as I remember I knew I did NOT want that. I ended up dating but did not marry any of them. I got out of town finally, refusing to date anyone that was marriage minded, kid minded, and single fathers. Went to college, lived overseas, have a good career. My dad was so angry about all of it and esp me not having kids.

sewingmachinesavior · 2020-09-17T03:33:11+00:00

I was raised to be a good wife. That’s it. And I married and had children with an extremely narcissistic traiting person. I was groomed my entire life for such a thing.

Follow the handbook. It’s wise. Get therapy if you need it (you prob do).

I’m old enough to be your mother, and my advice is travel, work, get a trade or a degree, depending on your personality. DO NOT under any circumstances get married before age 25. Your brain is still developing and growing.

And do not support any man’s dreams over your own. It gets you nowhere.

You are aware and that is half the battle. Support and love and uplift the women around you. Investing in quality woman friendships will benefit you for a lifetime.

hikurangi2019 · 2020-09-17T03:32:21+00:00

My dad made me feel like his wife/mother, never really felt like a kid growing up :/ I used to beat myself up because no matter how much I did for my dad he couldn’t see it, it wasn’t until his most recent girlfriend telling me how thoughtful I am did I finally convince myself my dad never appreciated me, nothing I do is ever enough for him.

musclebeauty · 2020-09-17T03:44:53+00:00

Going to put this out there :🗣change your outlook rn 🗣

Your current thoughts: my mom taught me how to cook clean and do laundry for a man ..... NO!

You should instead look at it like : I have all the skills I need that I can survive independently. I can do everything for myself, most people my age can’t even boil an egg.

Some steps on reaching your independence: -like other stated get an education.... ( I personally am an advocate for women going into STEM ....just saying lol) but be smart about what you get an education in. Will you be able to live comfortably alone being doing this vs that? Don’t worry about friends once you get to school you WILL meet like minded people.

-Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone’s life path is different. Some have it all one day and lose it the next. You don’t have to be raised a certain way to be independent YOU make that choice. -Don’t be afraid to say no ....whatever you don’t want for yourself reject it.Simple

My mom was a single mother and immigrant didn’t know a lick of English. I consistently saw her putting up with garbage men just to keep a roof over our heads. That right there was enough motivation for me.

See you spring semester boo 🙋🏽‍♀️

debbyrealdead · 2020-09-18T02:23:17+00:00

Also an POC w/ immigrant family in first world country.

OP, it absolutely sucks! I didn’t have FDS back then but still possessed enough self-respect to start thinking critically for myself. I did have my PickMe Phase which I will NEVER FREAKING EVER do again.

Our culture tried to brainwash us into thinking our worth was defined by the household, FDS and it’s members have showed us that my worth is defined by YOU, no one else.

Title	Any other women raised as a future housewife?
Author	LadyLyudmila
Upvotes	32
Comments	8
Date	September 16, 2020 5:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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