What can I do to decrease my nervousness while I'm hitting on girls?

pogiface · 2017-04-08T10:46:46+00:00

Next time you see some girls that you know are a little chubby or not so attractive. That you would never have sex with, go hit on them. For practice

htbf · 2017-04-08T10:17:52+00:00

Just keep doing it, it will go. Also, try to have some public speaking experience, through presentations, theater or whatever.

IIlllIllIIIllIl · 2017-04-08T10:04:05+00:00

Lift.

Are you masturbating to porn?

[deleted] · 2017-04-08T10:23:39+00:00

Lift, eat good, sleep + outcome independence & abundance mentality - it's mostly in your head.

TehJimmyy · 2017-04-08T11:39:32+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/645zbu/how_to_overcome_getting_nervous_around_chicks/

AbraKadoobra · 2017-04-08T12:44:02+00:00

Go into it just looking to have a fun conversation. If your goal is to get laid every time you're going to think the stakes are high and psych yourself out. Plus girls will pick up on the fact you're just there to have a good time and feed off of it.

throw162534 · 2017-04-08T13:39:33+00:00

Have some drinks. I know people on here talk shit about alcohol but if you're in good shape a few beers won't hurt anything. I always have one beer before meeting any girl on a date or talking to girls at the club. 2 drinks is my sweet spot, then I just maintain the buzz. It can fuck you over in bed if you have too much so you need to regulate it by drinking water throughout the night.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2017-04-08T14:58:18+00:00

Lose your virginity ASAP by any means possible. Even if it's a prostitute, although that may not be legal where you live.

But yeah lose the V card and you'll see sex is not that big of a deal. It's fun, feels good, and like eating or drinking it is a normal part of life as a human. But it doesn't need to be a source of worry or stress.

SilkTouchm · 2017-04-08T15:19:12+00:00

Try getting phenibut or some benzo.

JackGetsIt · 2017-04-08T16:19:22+00:00

Nothing. You can only mitigate the feeling. It does dull as you get your counts up and start really seeing what women are like. The hottest fucking 21 year old with the tightest bod and incredible tits could be a god damn mess of a person: drugs, STD's, no money, shit family, abuse. You don't need that shit and you just don't know if a girls like this until you get over to her VIP section and start flirting and feeling her out. Treat all women like they might be a god damn train wreck (because most are!) and it will help reduce the nerves.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-04-08T17:16:58+00:00

You may find this to be useful: Abundance Mentality - Why It's Good For You

YongeArcade · 2017-04-08T17:59:32+00:00

One: Take her off that pedestal. She does not look that good, she just looks that way. Google results for "Makeup Tutorial" is 34,900,000 results.. There are probably a lot more just named something different. She puts a lot , a lot of effort into how she looks... and how she dresses.. and the opinions she has are lifted from some magazine or talk show etc. Don't get dazzled by that. You should do the same mind you. You are important and should look the part and dress well and buy the right cologne. Take care of your skin, eat right and lift.

Two, go visit Beautiful Agony. Watch women's faces while they orgasm. When you are talking to a women you like, imagine her making that face, believe that you are the one going to give her that face in a few hours from then. It is the same as the public speaking advice of "imagine them in their underwear or nude" but not as distracting or make you horny, but they look just as vulnerable and you are going to give them that orgasm. When you feel nervous look her in the eye and imagine her Oh face.

Three, rejection does not matter

If you took her down off that pedestal, see that she is trying hard to look good, that she is not "all that" and not going to fulfill you and make life great! by going out with you or having a relationship, or sleeping with you.

Then what she says, yes / no , is not that important. You offered her a good time and maybe that orgasm, she does not want a good time. Too bad for her. You never "blew your chance with her", you threw the dice and it did not pan out, Oh well. Don't get hurt, she did not judge you, she doesn't even know you. Just move on and offer that good time and orgasm to some other girl.

salezman12 · 2017-04-08T18:52:56+00:00

Approach every single female that you come into contact with that is between 18 and 80 (that you aren't related to of course) as if you are trying to take them to bed tonight. Once you master this, it will remove the anxiety of "Ok, I'm about to approach this HB8, play it cool GOINGFULLBALISTIC, just play it cool..." and replace it with, well, literally nothing. It will just become your default personality, and you will be much more successful. Do you have a friend who you feel like "gets all the girls"? Just observe him the next time yall hang out in public. You'll notice the aura he puts off, you'll notice that he's flirting with everyone, even the fat, ugly ones. He doesn't realize he's even doing it. Because he's not "approaching", that's just his personality. Be that guy.

Title	What can I do to decrease my nervousness while I'm hitting on girls?
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