Are you really fucked if you start the relationship beta?

awayofthought · 2017-03-27T18:22:47+00:00

She has already characterized you and your tendencies. It's only an uphill battle from here on.

It looks like TRP is working for your relationship so don't abandon ship yet. As long as you are happy and she is not disrespecting you, you are doing fine.

[deleted] · 2017-03-27T19:11:21+00:00

nope, you are not fucked. several people over on MRP (married red pill) have changed their lives around. some times it works, some times it doesnt... but hey, thats also the gamble you are going to take with relationships in general, even if you already have the RP mindset.

fact of the matter is, women live in the moment. so if you are bettering yourself as a person, you can certainly turn things around. you will ALWAYS be working to build attraction in any relationship. as soon as people get complacent and comfortable, things usually start going into the shitter. if she has enough interest in you, and you start changing and becoming a better man, she will only value for you that.

Andrew54321 · 2017-03-27T18:25:42+00:00

Just as your past acts have no bearing on current considerations, I would continue as-is and establish your ability to walk away if needed.

Herdsengineers · 2017-03-27T19:34:06+00:00

I worried about this, too. Still worry about it. But I've seen some positive results so far. A lot of fights in the transition, but the fights are fewer and fewer because I don't feed into them any more. She will still say things about when I was a pussy. That hurts, but whatever. It's also weird because it was her bad behavior that set me on this course. So in a weird way, I owe it to her.

MattyAnon · 2017-03-28T00:23:24+00:00

You might be able to turn it around. See how it goes, see how she treats you, see how you feel.

Keep your hand in with other women (keep opportunities available)

mrpoopistan · 2017-03-27T21:14:45+00:00

The challenge is how do you explain the change of mental frame.

She even told me she knows I can get other girls

This is her trying to figure out what's going on. She's fishing and trying to see what your response is. Are you going to say, "oh no baby, no please, I'd never!" or just smirk and tell her to come here.

lolligagger3000 · 2017-03-27T22:31:51+00:00

I'd say yes, but not for now.

It happened to me in my early days that she started calling on me some masculine traits and said that I must stop trying to pretend I'm someone I'm not and that sort of bullshit.

Keep her for now but bear in mind that at the second she starts getting pissed about something (anything rp or not) she'll demand you to stop and become submissive.

TxnyMontana · 2017-03-27T22:57:35+00:00

It's fucked up if the roles are established by now. Some people are saying "once a beta, allways a beta" but that's not true bro. Because we all changed and improved ourselves at some point, right?

But you can allways try a extreme makeover of your relationship getting into TRP. Time will tell you if it's working or not. But the signals will be so clear that you will notice it.

If she respects you and doesn't make fun of your behavioural change (diggin' that pill bro), you should keep on it

MrAnderzon · 2017-03-28T01:01:55+00:00

Yea keep her on toes by gaming the other women.

1Maverick1 · 2017-03-28T04:58:53+00:00

Wtf are you still in high school? You type like you are very unsure about yourself and also about whatever the hell it is you think your relationship is. My advice? Stop trying to "internalize" this shit and get out and experience your life without worrying about what some dumb slut thinks about you.

[deleted] · 2017-03-28T14:34:56+00:00

is the sex the way you want it? does she provide value to your life? are you happy with yourself? if yes, then who gives a shit if you're beta

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-03-27T20:13:40+00:00

Once a beta, always a beta

That's how it works

You may not be completely fucked but she will have you pegged as a beta and you will never get to reach your full potential with her or be able to optimize the captain first mate dynamic

Better off ghosting and cultivating new relationships with new women.

Title	Are you really fucked if you start the relationship beta?
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Date	March 27, 2017 6:15 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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