In terms of physical and facial appearance I am good looking and very muscular, typically get comments and every so often I’ll have girls call me cute to my face specially when drunk. But...

I get frozen when I sit next to, or am next to a an attractive girl. I have no problem when it’s a group setting and the expectancy is to communicate, I can even come out cocky/funny BUT when it’s say in a classroom, or library, or even the club where one needs to create the conversation and context, I freeze up.

I start to act sexy. No joke. I’ll flex a little extra, pop out my jaw and just have this autistic way of signaling sort of this autistic James Bond persona that I don’t even want to think how the girl perceives it. I just can’t help it. It gives me this sense of weird power where I am in the prince and I’m too cool to talk to you measly maid. But truth is prince wants to smash that maid.

i believe part of why I do this is right now the pain of not getting laid is still less than rejection, specially because I tie my self worth 100% to my looks, and I don’t want to invalidate the validity of it.

I am taking steps to make it a habit to approach at least 1 a day and get into social situations.

What is the cause of this for anyone that’s been through this & how does one supérate this?