This is my first time posting so I apologize in advance if I come off as a fucking beta. But I've been looking at the red pill for a year now but have been looking into it more since this happen.

I workout 6 days a week(thin but I got some muscle on me) and keep myself busy with learning new skills, reading, and hanging with my friends. I'm a pretty attractive guy and had some solid 7-8's always approach me but never been this caught up and emotionally attached as this one.

Long Story short, I started talking to this girl back in October 2018 and things were going great and we both wanted something more than just sex. I never been in a relationship cause I never really saw it with the past girls I've been with. She comes along and I honestly caught feelings pretty damn hard and fast and things were going amazing the first 2 and a half months.

December comes around and she starts to act funny, she then told me later on the month that she got in over her head and "was a mess" and needed time to find herself, then later tells me if she was against relationship. There were signs I ignored during all of it(saying she was nervous on starting something new and bringing up her fucking ex being a shit head) I, crushed, said some soft shit to her because my dumbass thought that something could still blossom and we both talked about her we cared a lot about eachother.

January- February comes and I try to talk to her the way we use too. We text a couple times a day and sometimes call each other talking our days, mostly hers. Told her more soft shit saying that I wanted her in my life (beta move) and she said the same as well. After that she started ignoring my messages and I just felt as if I was always bother her Everytime I tried to text her..

Late March comes and she is just ignoring me or reply to me once then ignoring me. I then tell her what was up and she avoided me to later tell me that she ended up working out some shit with her ex again, that they weren't official but moving "cautiously" (whatever the fuck that means too) and told me that she was stuck on him for a reason. I just read it and never responded cause I didn't know what to say and where to go from there as far as us. I was also upset with myself for letting it get this far so I just been a little sad and in my head

So my questions are really this, I care for her unfortunately and told her I'd want her in my life a month back. I do but honestly because I wanted to be her best friend and lover(beta). Not trying to friend zone myself with a girl I fucked and her talk to me about her ex infront of me.

Should I text her back to leave it on good terms to show my care as well as not make things awkward if I see her around campus or a the bars? Is she even worth keeping in my life tbh?

When should I start noticing signs sooner so I can not let this trash happened again ?

And those that went through something similar how'd you handle this and move on? Did you keep it civil or just stop talking to each other period? Did you guys ever cross paths again after and how'd you handle it?

I also predicted these things to happened(her not wanting to start an actual relationship and her going back to her ex) (I'm an over thinking) and just ignored it because I thought I could change her views.

Sorry again for all these question, new to this and really just want to get back how I use to be. I'm not saying I'm a pussy crusher but I did get around before I met her, I just always wanted a relationship and this honestly has me a little messed up(beta af) but after this and reading more into the red pill. Shit makes sense and has me just wanting to try getting my plate up (if I said that right). Also just trying to be a better me and grow and become more aware at reading what women want to avoid this.