Hi brothers, long time lurker of the forum, and could use a bit of Red Pill advice now. I discovered the red pill and this sub when I was 26, after running a Google search on low testosterone/depressive thoughts when a previous LTR ended.

TLDR : Went on 3 good dates with HB8 (virgin) over the past month, heavy make out sessions after dates 2&3, chick suggests exclusivity after date 3, I kinda laughed it off, felt bad and sent her flowers She gets upset with me for sending the flowers to her home, became much less affectionate and limited texting, and said we are just acquaintances. who have met a few times. I ended things via text after week of limited texting and cut all contact but have been feeling like shit since then.

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My Stats ; Age 33; 5'10, BF 14-15% most of the year, South Indian descent (Residing in South East Asia, not India). SMV wise probably a good 7 in my country of residence due to having slightly exotic/sharp facial features, a thick head of hair compared to most men my age, and lighter skin tone compared to the majority of my fellow race (these are comments from women I've dated in the past). I'd probably have a lower SMV about 5 if I was living in a Western country due to relatively shorter height and darker skin tone than the locals there (Disclaimer : I'm not hinting at racism, just my personal observation on western women from experience working in Western countries )

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Before I continue with my story, I do apologize if my sentences come across to be weakly structured, as English is not my native language.

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I matched with a girl on a dating app last month. This one seemed a little different from the usual plates; 30 years old ; 5'3" , HB8 (my opinion), singer in an upcoming music band, still a virgin, very intelligent and feminine. Went to an ice cream parlor and a night walk around the city and we seemed to click on many levels . Our first date went on for a good few hours and it was a really long first date going up till past midnight, talking about lots of personal stuff , especially her she even mentioned that I was her dream guy, etc. Before the first date ended she started making plans for the next few dates and even suggested that she would not be as shy if we were alone somewhere. I ended the date without doing anything, as I already made plans to spend the night with another plate. Not much kinoing since she seemed rather shy and its not a norm in our culture to be too physical on a fist date, Ended the date with a long hug/cheek kiss, and she texted me after the date to say she had a lovely time and asked if we could go out again the following week. Her interest in me at that point was really high based on the frequent texting initiated by her (I used the 2:3 terule).

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Date 2: We took a long drive to the beach and spent the day there, Lots of making out, kinoing/escalation teasing etc. She has a rather serious personality and comes across as career minded, but we were able to enjoy each others company and had a good time and a some meaningful conversations. I sent her home later that night after a heavy make out session with lots of physical touching, and she mentioned she would not lose her virginity till marriage. I did not say anything in reply and in my mind she seemed like good candidate for an LTR or even wife material. (For the record, I am open to the idea of marriage with a decent, feminine woman, thanks to RP, I know unicorns don't exist though:).

This is where it gets confusing to me. After the second date, we made plans to meetup on a weekday night for dinner, and long story short, she cancelled due to a fever. She set up another appointment for a few days later, but cancelled that as well as she was having her period. I was a little annoyed at the cancellations but took her word for it as she may be genuinely unwell. Despite all this, she was still heavily texting me almost a few times a day with selfies, voicenotes and stuff. She even made a voiceclip of her singing in thje shower. All good so far despite the cancellatiions.

On Thurday, she suggested a movie date over the weekend and asked me for a shirtless picture, I said no and that she can see me shirtless in person later. She laughed it off and told me she was heading for music practice with her band. The next day, she calls and saysshe is feeling really sick after a late night out and has a bad throat due to vocal practice the previous night. At this point, I get a little annoyed as I had cancelled plans with a friend for the weekend, and my initial replies are a little passive aggressive and then I completely ignore her texts. The next morning she calls and is in tears, saying she doesn't understand why I am being cold, unresponsive and can't sympathize with her for being unwell. We text each other for a while that night, and I end up apologizing to her for coming across as inconsiderate, We patch things up on text and she send me a couple of "pictures". Finally we make plans to meet the following night.

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Date 3 : Pick her up, go for a long drive, have a long talk in a park about what happened the previous night and everything is going well. Start making out for a while and she starts telling me that we should chill out together at her place next time. Although she has principles of abstaining from sex before marriage, she says we can do loads of "other" stuff. In my mind, I'm beginning to wonder how many guys have been in this exact same spot before me.

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Here's where things start going downhill and I start losing frame. After making out , we start talking about life plans, career that kinda stuff. She wants to know how I feel about her , and I slip by telling her that I really like her and enjoy spending time with her. Suddenly she says we should date each other exclusively without seeing other people. I make a joke about being exclusive in a sexless relationship with a virgin and she gets slightly upset. I manage to calm her down, we make out a bit, grab a coffee and I send her home, No text from her that night and I go to sleep.

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All this shit makes me feel a bit guilty, and I deliver a bouquet of flowers to her home the next day. (Big Beta Move, because I thought I had played the Alpha card too strongly by my comment that upset her). She texts me an hour later, saying she loves the flowers but is very uncomfortable with the gesture. I brush it off, saying its just flowers and its not a big deal. I ignore her for 2 days and don't reply her texts. She becomes extra affectionate and sweet suddenly, as if she's afraid I'll cut contact. Calls me and we talk for an hour.

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Two days later, she doesn't text at all, and I break the ice by wishing her good afternoon and a have some light hearted banter. She replies immediately and we start texting. She starts mentioning that we are acquaintances who have just met a few times and that we should not rush things. Its a completely different message than all the vibes she had been giving me for the past few weeks. I ignore these gut feelings and we chat for a few days, although I notice that her texting frequency and level of interest has dropped. Sensing a loss of interest on her part, I reduce texting and also become less affectionate, while meeting up with another plate that week for sex.

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After a few days, she has completely stopped messaging me, and after 5 days of no contact i say "Hey what's up, hope everything is OK". She replies after a few hours saying she is busy with work and we can meet up on Friday. After that, no texts from her for 2 whole days(It's already Friday) and I start to slip into full beta boy mode and get paranoid (is she fucking Chad?has she lost interest ; etc)

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After the 4th day of no contact, I text her and say " Hey, we had a good time and all, but I understand that something has changed, and on that note I won't be texting or contacting you anymore, take care"....then I proceed to delete her number and go out with a plate later that evening. No communication from both sides after that.

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One week later, I'm feeling like crap and wondering if I've made a huge mistake, how awesome it felt when I was with her, etc.Many questions are running through my mind and I feel empty inside:

What exactly was it I did that made her lose interest?

Did I mess it up with a decent girl?

What should I do differently in future if I meet similar types of women? (LTR material, non slutty)

Why did Oneitis strike a guy like me who has multiple plates in rotation and has slept with other woman in the past without getting emotionally attached?

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Help me brothers. tell me what I don't want to hear and make snap me out of this unproductive loop.

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