What is up with this plate? Nuclear level shit tests or bpd? Context: she is post wall and im basically a younger athletic boytoy.

I have a fwb for many months. When we see each other sex is great, anything i want and kinky as i want.
She has tried to gain commitment from me many times, which i refused. She has tried to make me jealous many times too and expressed frustration at my lack of jealousy a lot.

However she has tried extra a few times latest one was about “sex clubs”.
She talked about them and was trying to see if i was into bdsm club or anything and gage my interest. She gabe a a story about an old orbiter she has who is into cuckolding, then told me about how he loves it. She jokingly told him about me about me and he wanted me to be fucking his GF while he and my plate watched.

Then it moved onto threesomes which i said is hot but said im not into mmf which she said was “not fair” but accepted. Next the bdsm club. She told me about it and basically wanted to see if i was interested. Clearly this is a fantasy of hers, dressing up sexy and exhibitionist etc.
I said pretty much she has to go find another guy to go to a group sex club with bcoz im not into swapping, and that most ppl there sre probably fat and ugly. She started to say she isnt into it and back tracking “did u really think im into that?” Etc.

Was this some mental shit test? I really dont know if she is treating like some beta at this point.

She travels to see me and spends a lot of money, love bombs and initiates a lot. But she tries very hard to get emotional reactions out as im very stoic and indifferent, which it seems she is not used to. She blabbed about her dating history before and it sounds like she was littered with beta supplicating guys who were emotionally reactive and in her frame instead, which seems why she tries so hard.

I really have no idea wtf is going on if she is bpd, or if this is standard AF situation with an obsessed chick... would appreciate advice from more experience guys as i lack the experience to know if my game is good or not.