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[–]MrEpicwill10 points11 points12 points 12 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Women say they want to date nice guys (Urbaniak & Kilmann, 2003), but their actions and choices often send a different message
This is really all you need to take out of this article, this is all anyone needs to take out of it in order to realise women talk a lot of hot shit. However, the article does put the concept into words easy enough for someone yet to swallow to digest.
Also: Dem sources
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
The article isn't entirely red-pill though:
This was clearly documented in a study examining the date-ability of online profiles depicting "Nice Todd," "Neutral Todd," and "Jerky Todd" (Urbaniak & Kilmann, 2003). These profiles were identical except for subtle suggestions of traditional qualities of niceness—and women selected Nice Todd as the person to date twice as often as they did Neutral Todd, and more than eight times as frequently as Jerky Todd (Urbaniak & Kilmann, 2003).
This was clearly documented in a study examining the date-ability of online profiles depicting "Nice Todd," "Neutral Todd," and "Jerky Todd" (Urbaniak & Kilmann, 2003).
These profiles were identical except for subtle suggestions of traditional qualities of niceness—and women selected Nice Todd as the person to date twice as often as they did Neutral Todd, and more than eight times as frequently as Jerky Todd (Urbaniak & Kilmann, 2003).
[–]veggie_girl7 points8 points9 points 12 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
That study was flawed. They took a beta and made him rude, assuming that alone would make him more attractive. It didn't.
[–]Opioidus2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
''Jerk'' is the nickname cowardly beta losers have adopted for addressing assertive, risk-taking dominant men, it's also interesting that a bitter hateful passive-aggressive little bitch calls having no self respect or self regard for himself ''nice''.
[–]OsoFeo0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I often reflect that the similar sounding Spanish word necio means moron.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very good point!
[–]chakravanti930 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's more than that. It suggests anything "nice" is ever attractive. We've well and codified the language enough that lets clear now:
Niceness is kindness without agency.
By defenition it will never be attractive. If kindness were ever, you can no longer be nice, ever again.
[–]Cruising741 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes it is. The fact that women want dates with the nice guys shows it. Of course they want a date with a 'nice' guy who'll pick her up, pay etc.
Those beta bucks.
[–]Endorsed ContributorrebuildingMyself1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dating vs fucking
[–]TDSee3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's not nice guys, it's pushovers, there's no way to "measure" that
http://www.thedatingcaptain.com/nice-guys-dont-finish-last/
It's about being good looking or being TRP. Most of these "nice guys" need to hit the gym and learn some game. Chances are these guys are plain ugly.
[–]PlusGoody2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice guys don't finish last. Being truly generous of spirit is a pretty powerful trait in a man. "Niceness" which is actually cowardice, status anxiety, submission or currying of favor ... not so much.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gotta love an article that names its sources ...
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Indeed, women prioritize physical attractiveness over kindness when describing their preferences for a short-term partner (Li & Kenrick, 2006). For long-term relationships, non-physical characteristics take precedence: Women care more about kindness and warmth and less about status and physical attractiveness.
If there ever was a more perfect way to describe Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks, I haven't seen it.
[–]Opioidus3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is kind of bullshit though, women prefer Alphas over Betas for long term AND short term relationships. Problem is that most of them don't have the natural beauty and behavioral femininity that is needed to keep and alpha male, so they develop a double strategy.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
tl;dr
AFBB
[–]16 MGaiusScaevolus1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice guys finish into tissues.
[–]circlhat0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Being to nice is a negative thing, being to mean is a negative thing, yin-yang, balance and all that shit...
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