(On criticism of raising another man's child) "That is the attitude of a boy, and not a man."

DaddyMonster · 2013-06-23T15:36:11+00:00

My father married my mother when she'd already had my oldest brother by another man. Would I follow my father's example?

I'd rather castrate myself.

Even though my family is reasonably functional today, this whole thing's been the cause of so many problems that in all likelihood would not have come up otherwise. For reasons which are too complicated and too long to state here, it especially screwed me (the youngest sibling), and I'm still dealing with the fallout to some extent.

My mother's mistake has been the source of so much anxiety and uncertainty for my family and (especially) me. Fuck, even though it's been nearly 30 years, the shit it caused still hurts enough to make my eyes tear up and my voice catch when I think of it all.

I'm subjecting neither myself nor my future children to that shit.

It's often said that people use their opposite sex parent as a template for finding mates. I love my mother despite all her flaws and mistakes. I love her despite the (unintentional) abuse I've suffered from her. I've forgiven her for it all. She's only human, she is my mother, and she did and still does try.

However.

I'm still not going to use her as a template for a mate. I just won't. She screwed up too badly.

To the women who read this; if you love you your children, or believe you will love your future children, don't have them by different men. The resonsibility is entirely yours.

W-Z-R · 2013-06-23T17:05:17+00:00

I love how it tries to play on male insecurities, if you don't direct your resources which you've worked for, towards someone else's offspring, you're not actually a man.

ANALGAPE · 2013-06-23T17:06:27+00:00

Man up and marry these single mothers!

/s

Netlinfo · 2013-06-23T18:55:04+00:00

That's just the usual tactics:

"a real man is" ...a guy who does what they want
"a real woman is" ...a girl who agrees with their conceptions of life

And of course, they're the ones who have the right to determine who's real and who's not and those definitions change depending on the situation, i.e. when it suits them.

So really, who cares about what a supposedly "real man" is to them?

TDCRedPill · 2013-06-23T17:11:20+00:00

Personally I don't want to raise anyone else's kids. But don't redpillers as a general rule dislike the idea of boys being raised by single mothers? How does this fit into the discussion?

Title	(On criticism of raising another man's child) "That is the attitude of a boy, and not a man."
Author	DavidTIntellectual
Upvotes	8
Comments	8
Date	June 23, 2013 9:44 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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