Cold Approach feels weird?

super_doofus · 2019-04-26T22:47:15+00:00

First one is the hardest, just get it out of the way

resnine · 2019-04-26T23:37:13+00:00

It's called approach anxiety, it's pretty well documented in the game/pickup community. There are countless videos on YouTube addressing the phenomena. I have something similar too, a wall that keeps me from doing it. It's just fear man... just like when you have to give a presentation in front of the class kinda fear. Only way to get better at it is the practice it by yourself and then practice the real thing. You gotta do warm-up runs, like asking people for the time, or little chit-chats when you are waiting in line. Then start moving into more romantic territories. Small steps at first.

There is a guy that comes on here sometimes which I consider one of the best as far as pickup/game advice goes. INNASKILLZ2K18 I think is his username. His advice is this subject top-tier and straight forward.

Startlivingfornow · 2019-04-26T22:53:39+00:00

Walk in front of her and look over your shoulder to initiate. If you’re stopping her do it with a big smile and make contact we’ll before you speak.

There are slight nuances you learn that make each interaction more natural. The only way to learn these social cues are through practice.

I’ve never seen many of them mentioned in game advice, but they make a huge difference in not coming off weird or unnatural

Str8SavaJ · 2019-04-26T23:22:58+00:00

You've heard of the three second rule right? Once you see a chick that you're attracted to.. immediately go for it before that anxiety settles in. One of the classic effective things to say which I really like because it conveys that stone-hard confidence is, (I'm from Georgia in the US so this is my version, tweak it how you want) "how ya doin' sweetheart, i couldn't help but to notice you across the (fill in the blank depending on where you) but you are absolutely gorgeous and i want to take you out" pause because i guarentee you that she's going to pause to, I've ran this line 1000x. She's pausing because you're coming off so strong, but i assure you that she respect that and that's what matters. Then follow up by saying "sorry maybe that was a little strong, I couldn't help myself..." which is cool because there's an embed compliment in there letting her know that she looks so good that a guy couldn't help himself BUT to come talk to her, and she'll be very flattered. Continue: "...actually let me just take your (number, insta, snapchat, whatever) it would probably be a good idea that we got to know each other first (and why youre saying that give her a smooth smile and a little wink)...", and before she opens her mouth. "...btw my name is _____________ " and you'll shake her hand or whatever, she'lll introduce herself and what's really smooth is to give her your phone with the empty contact thing open so she can add her shit so there's no confusion of how to spell her name or whatever. Then smoothly excuse yourself with something like "anyway, i gotta get back to (my friends, errands, whatever) i hope to talk to you soon. Hope this works out for you, if you have any further questions, feel free to message me. Best of luck brother!

zxcvb7809 · 2019-04-27T05:11:32+00:00

At a bar in Florida there was this girl a few seats down from me looking pretty good. We made eye contact about 2-3 times so I signaled her to come over and went from there. I put my arm around her and started chatting her up.

At a casino in Vegas. Same kind of thing. This chick is walking around looking like she is looking for a slot machine to play and we make eye contact repeatedly.

At another casino same thing at the black jack tables. Signaled the chick to come over after I knew she was interested already cause we made eye contact repeatedly.

I would talk to women that sending you choosing signals. I tried cold approaching one time and felt like I was trying to sell myself or my product to a customer. It seems retarded to just walk up to random women and start talking to them. It seems like a number game hard core almost like online dating.

Where as approaching women who you have already caught looking at you multiple times is almost in the bag. The close rate for me this way is like 75%. As opposed to 10% or worse using online dating or cold approach. But you have to be on your shit or else no women will be looking at you.

ReformSociety · 2019-04-27T18:35:33+00:00

Everything is hard before it becomes easy.

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-04-27T06:38:46+00:00

Of course you do,you have been brainwashed to believe it’s weird/unnatural and even harassment just to talk to a random girl

Title	Cold Approach feels weird?
Author	liellevin
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Date	April 26, 2019 10:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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Everything is hard before it becomes easy.