Those who have gone cold turkey on social media, what's your feedback?

AuberyBitoni · 2019-05-10T11:44:58+00:00

I quit social media 8 months ago. One of the best decisions I've made in the last year. Couldn't stand the ego contest, everyone fishing for likes, the retarded political debates, people posting about their kids which nobody cares about, etc..

I deleted everything except Facebook/Messenger. I use Facebook to check out events and Messenger for the group chat with my friends, other than that.. No Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Tinder, ... I have so much more free time and I can actually observe what's going on around me.

When you're out with friends, are at a bar, sport event, festival, concert, work, walking around in the city, all you see are people glued to their phones and it's absolutely pathetic. I could walk without my pants on and I'm sure atleast 60% wouldn't notice. Social media addiction is real and people are turning into zombies, can't see the beautiful things happening around them. Rather post selfies of them at an event instead of enjoying the fucking moment.

MattyAnon · 2019-05-10T13:03:37+00:00

Pros and cons from those who have gone down this path?

You lose the illusion of being sociable, which is actually slightly painful even though it's an illusion.

It's worth it though, you get to rejoin reality and build your own life.

sciarda · 2019-05-10T14:56:20+00:00

I don't post here anymore, used to post nearly daily with a different username, but I'll just chime in that it was the best decision I've ever made. I deleted everything from my FB and then deactivated it. Haven't posted anything in over 6 years. I didn't have a Twitter or Instagram.

I had a very, very hard childhood and formative years. I had non existent self esteem, I was destroyed by anxiety, no social life, a shut-in, no social skills, addicted to porn, suicidal, insomniac, anorexic, anti-depressants, r9k poster.

By deleting FB and social media completely, I could completely transform myself. I went off everybody's radar for a period of 3-4 years, from about 17 to 21. In this time, I started college and started the long road to recovery. I gradually exposed myself to situations that scared the shit out of me, I channelled everything into my studies, I began to socialize a bit more, I started going to the gym and eating properly. Most importantly, I got out of a horrible, dysfunctional home. I started seeing a beautiful girl, I'm nearly finished a computer engineering degree and have 3 different internships, I know how to dress and carry myself properly. I have real, authentic confidence due to overcoming pain and adversity.

I have been back in my home town and most of the cool kids (who largely weren't bad people, by the way) are working mediocre jobs, college dropouts or in college for degrees that aren't going to give them any decent prospects. You see they are so worried about their image and what other people think that they don't want to look like "try hards" or whatever dumb shit their friends will mock them about. They can't give up drugs or alcohol because they are afraid of being left out. They can't sacrifice an evening here or there to work/study that extra bit to pull themselves away from mediocrity. They are trapped by their social networks and social expectations.

Now there are obvious advantages to having a great social life too, don't get me wrong, but it's a lot easier to get a social life than it is to build a successful business or to become wealthy.

It's still difficult given my background and upbringing to really feel "happy", but I have laid the groundwork for a successful life by consistently making smart decisions and working hard, day after day. Women come and go but the fruits of hard work and commitment are what are really important in life. If you have them and commit to being the best version of yourself you can be (not because of women, because of yourself) ironically that's what women want and find attractive.

I acknowledge that it's probably going to be lifelong process to overcome the effects of two mentally unstable parents but I feel like given what I have achieved, I really will be able to overcome it.

I'll be honest in saying that I'm not an out and out red piller and I never have been. But this place, when it still existed, finally gave me the knowledge as to why some people were actually popular and successful in life and some people weren't. I got a far better understanding of human nature from reading here. I went from very naive to very cynical, now I'm trying to claw back to a middle ground. In my opinion, the truth is between the red and blue pill, in my opinion leaning mainly towards the red. Nature is ruthless. The strong dominant men are attractive to women, the weak ones are basically repulsive and a laughing stock to them. It seems like everyone knows this but everyone acts like it's not actually true, society sells us that people are successful or attractive because of how "nice" they are. They don't mention that the reason most of these people are so extroverted and nice is that they have been given positive reinforcement from the day they were born because of their healthy, stable family homes where they were properly socialised by parents who knew the "game", their looks meant they were attractive to the opposite sex, etc, etc.

While some of the rest of us, whether from being ugly, or having neurotic parents who were also bullied and ostracized from society, got a living hell dealt to us. So many men out there fall by the way side due to the brutal nature of life and it honestly breaks my heart. Somehow I got through the worst of my misery and I'm in recovery and am starting to build my life so that I will be one of the "winners", largely due to large amount of introspection, therapy, hard work and discipline. So many others weren't as lucky. There's an epidemic out there of young men who have been sold lies all their lives. Who have no idea how to exist in the world, no reason for living. No support, nothing. I was one of them. This place was a bigger help than any counselor ever was. It gave me advice like hitting the gym, stop putting women on such a pedestal and put your self respect above everything else when dealing with others. Nobody else was telling me this growing up.

Jesus this post went off the rails. The long and short of it : the most active people on social media are generally losers. People who are actually living successful, purposeful lives don't need to look for external validation. They're busy doing things that matter. Social media is a load of bullshit. Only social media I have is LinkedIn.

redhawkes · 2019-05-10T09:48:12+00:00

Strange, no one asked this question so far. Or maybe the search form doesn't work properly.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-05-10T12:23:11+00:00

Deleted my Facebook 10 years ago, never made insta, deleted twitter just have snap. The only people I’ve added on snap are people that I talk to anyway but sometimes people tell me that an ex asked ab me or some shit and if I see anyone they say where have you been all interested and shit.

GiftedUnlimtedRU · 2019-05-10T14:43:18+00:00

It’s a little bit boring tbh

tollzone · 2019-05-10T11:54:31+00:00

It's certainly interesting I deleted my facebook and never used twitter, I'm an IT so it might mitigated but I found that at most I notice things like girls and guys walking around taking selfies more often. Especially interesting after you notice that some people take 30-40 minutes just taking the ONE good picture.

Buchloe · 2019-05-10T13:33:38+00:00

Used to use fb all the time. Noticed it was nothing but political crap and arguments, so I quit using it over a year ago. Don't miss it whatsoever. Just deactivated it though, so I still have fb messenger in case I need to contact someone who's phone number I don't have

lololasaurus · 2019-05-10T14:43:16+00:00

I got rid of mine last year.

The time that freed up has been very helpful for doing hard work to improve my life. I think it was a good decision, but if everyone did the same, it'll be harder to be a top x% man for me, so there's that.

[deleted] · 2019-05-10T17:11:05+00:00

I'm old so only had facebook. Deleted it 3 years ago after a breakup and never looked back. At. All.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-05-10T23:26:34+00:00

PROs: Not falling into anyone else frame

CONs: No more validation

ReformSociety · 2019-05-11T02:47:51+00:00

Social media is a great tool if you use it with that intent.

My IG is full of affirmation quotes and beneficial knowledge posted by forward-thinkers.

WIA20XX · 2019-05-10T09:47:13+00:00

Friends die, get married, and have kids - and you don't know about it.

I don't get wound up on social media b.s. though

Title	Those who have gone cold turkey on social media, what's your feedback?
Author	heres_johnnie
Upvotes	12
Comments	21
Date	May 10, 2019 9:36 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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