can men and women seriously be friends?

MatSapientia · 2019-06-02T15:37:28+00:00

As a general rule, any friendship between opposite genders is possible as long as sexual desire is impossible.

If sexual desire is one-sided then the friendship is other-one-sided. (Orbiters).

CarlosNeedsAHat · 2019-06-02T14:37:07+00:00

Men and women can be friends if:

Both parties recognize that there is zero mutual sexual interest
Each person brings something to the relationship that the other does not

TheRedPillRipper · 2019-06-02T12:03:28+00:00

Friendship; for me; is a scale. On the base level there’s my boys; I brag to them about a plate who’ll fly from ENGLAND just to ride The Rip Rollercoaster and who’d be here in an instant if I needed. TRUST is the key here. They’d never betray it and neither would I.

Then family. Trust is still inherently operating but not at the level of The Boys. My family know a LOT but not ALL. This level of trust is scrutinised heavily.

Then common friends through other social networks were we hook up for training, rec sports, parties, celebrations, and what have you. Trust here is face value. Similar to trusting a stranger when you’re cutting a deal. You have to trust somewhat but you’ve got contingencies.

Then my partner. Trust here is; for me; NEARLY NON EXISTENT. This is because if you trust a woman with anything; you compromise everything. Sure getting the milk, having kids or buying a rug together is possible; but NEVER would I trust a woman with my fiscal or physical future. I learned that lesson the hard way.

You can give it a go u/iloveyoudeft; and might just be able to avoid the mistake that I, and many before us have made. 9/10 times though the truth prevails.

Godspeed and goodluck!

SalesAficionado · 2019-06-02T14:38:03+00:00

Honor, respect, loyalty, comradery etc are masculine traits. You can’t get this from a women. This is the base of friendship.

319Skew · 2019-06-02T16:24:51+00:00

Short answer : maybe

Friendship between sexes can and does exist as long as there isn't any romantic or sexual intent now and in the future. The moment you have feelings for her is the moment that you become in her orbit. You become one of her girlfriends until after being on the CC she may decide that you are going to be a great Beta provider.

Why on earth would you want this?

Now I think that your young and are suffering from oneitus. Your blue pill conditioning has made you think that you are Ryan gosling in a blue pill romantic comedy. You are hamstering a pussy fantasy where you orbit her and one day between chads, she realizes that you are the one and you swoop in and live happily ever after.

That's a lie.

Here's the real story.

I was over at this girls house. She started to text her male best friend and showed me his pic. They "were perfect for each other" but obviously not because within 20 minutes she was naked on her bed.

Her phone would vibrate while I was doing all sorts of fucked up shit to her. She came. I came. Then she responded to his texts about some bullshit concert with the same intensity of someone ordering a pizza.

I wasn't the first guy to do that and definitely not the last. That's what you have to look forward to.

Again, why would you want this?

If you want true friendship, make bonds with men. Men are driven by logic and reason. Women by emotion. A guy would help you bury a hooker. A woman would send you thoughts and prayers on Facebook.

If you want loyalty. Get a dog. People can let you down. Dogs not so much.

If you want to fuck. Get a woman.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-06-02T13:41:02+00:00

You are friends with her but have feels, therefore you answered your question.

I have been the friend that you shouldn't worry about with a girl. Fucked her while she kept telling her bf I was only a 'friend'.

vandaalen · 2019-06-02T15:50:13+00:00

No. Same as with snakes, you can learn to get along, but you'll never be friends.

SemperPrimus · 2019-06-02T12:43:18+00:00

I don't have many friends around and I've become friends with some coworker females I used to work with. I'm not attracted to them but I know they want to get with me. Either way we hand out every 2 weeks or so for drinks and it's fun. So I think it's possible.

Blazerman_24 · 2019-06-02T15:41:40+00:00

Rarely do you encounter a situation where neither the man or woman wouldn't be open to some sort of sexual encounter.

FieldLine · 2019-06-02T17:53:00+00:00

Why would you want to be friends with a woman?

If we did become platonic friends is it also likely they she would magically start being interested in me?

No. More likely she'll hook up with someone like me, and then you'll get to hear about it when I casually discard her because she's boring and/or annoying.

vhfvbbjjjvgt · 2019-06-02T11:52:47+00:00

Path to oneitis.

MajesticPitch · 2019-06-02T15:01:53+00:00

Female friends are shit. They either wish to fuck you, use you as validation or they're not really your friends.

BurningOrangeHeaven · 2019-06-02T16:59:31+00:00

I think its possible, though I think its rare. But in your case you are only lying to yourself about whats going on between you two.

uwotm891 · 2019-06-02T16:48:55+00:00

Maybe some can, but you obviously can’t with this girl. The second you said you would date her in a heartbeat, you became a beta orbiter just waiting for her to make a move. Unfortunately, you’re not alone bc most guy friends of a girl feel the exact way you do.

Honestly, I’m going to have to say no. There will always be one party, at some point in time, who won’t feel completely platonic.

[deleted] · 2019-06-02T18:03:30+00:00

Read the first few sentences and stopped.

You're deep in the friend zone. Just... Why would you do that to yourself. You're being dishonest to yourself and her. Either man up and tell her the truth or continue living a lie. Personally I could never live that way with a girl I actually liked.

Theguygotgame777 · 2019-06-02T18:17:05+00:00

Yes, but you shouldn't rely on them as much as your male friends.

XT3M3 · 2019-06-02T20:36:47+00:00

a majority of women/men friendships are completely one sided. 1 party is in there for love, the other for actual friendship (or their interpretation of it)

if you know why you are there and its not 1 sided, yea they can be friends just fine. but 75% of the time its 1 sided.

UNFORTUNATELY, this isnt the case with you. you are in the friendzone (pretty deep) and currently trying to justify it. i was in your shoes when i first started TRP. im not going to say get rid of her, but you need to be a man here

Title	can men and women seriously be friends?
Author	iloveyoudeft
Upvotes	12
Comments	30
Date	June 2, 2019 11:31 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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