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Is there anything wrong with my tinder profile?

Zsaqwes7

June 3, 2019
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Title Is there anything wrong with my tinder profile?
Author

Zsaqwes7

Upvotes 4
Comments 31
Date June 3, 2019 2:09 AM UTC
(7 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/bw5c3b/is_there_anything_wrong_with_my_tinder_profile/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/is-there-anything-wrong-with-my-tinder-profile.240576
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[–]_Legendairy_12 points13 points14 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Get rid of pics 2 and 4, if you’re going to post pics with pets then actually be in the pic with them

Also I don’t rly like #3

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Ok will do. Why 4 though

[–]Protocol_Apollo2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

4 is forced- we can’t see you

Not a huge fan of 6 either- you just look like a locked character on a game.

Look at some male models on insta and see if you can replicate some of their pics

With the shirtless pic, maybe see if you can get a more natural one- eg at a pool party or something

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm sorry I was thinking 4 was a different picture. And yes I agree. Thank you

[–]_Legendairy_0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Its of your shoulder and your dog. If your dog wasn't there it would just be your shoulder, not a very interesting sight

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

http://imgur.com/a/hKLOcxo Is this better, what kind of picture am I missing that I can get easily?

[–]Startupstrapped10 points11 points12 points 7 years ago* (14 children) | Copy Link

None of these pictures will get you far on the female validation factory Tinder Market. #5 and #7 are the only decent ones.

1) is an unnatural shirtless pic taken at a weird angle. A shirtless pic should only be included if there’s context for you being shirtless - like at the pool or the beach. Furthermore, shirtless pics look better when the angle is taken above the waist, and your arms/chest are naturally flexed like when throwing a football, picking up something heavy, or even holding your phone to your face. Stretched out makes you look bony. Below the waist puts lighting on the wrong parts of your body (emphasis should be on face and upper body)

2) is forced. Everyone already covered that pic.

3) is just plain serial killer creepy. A selfie of you alone in a dark room with a shadow across half your face isn’t the vibe you want to give to strangers that you want to meet and fuck. Keep it fun and lighthearted. Showcase your life.

4 ) again trying too hard to get cute points.

5) would usually be fine but since none of your pics give a clear face pic it’s hard to know which one you are. #5 isn’t bad but it doesn’t add anything.

6) why use that? It just looks like the profile pic of a random Tumblr philosopher.

7) is the one good picture. Should be pic #2. No homo but you have a good smile. You should use it more.

8) gives off creepy vibes. The lighting is terrible and it leaves me to wonder what happened to that poor girl taking the selfie. Smile man!

Mobile formatting sucks btw sorry.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link

Your reply means a lot, thank you for taking the time.

I've never been one to take pictures, and theres been many missed opportunities. I'm not photogenic which has just given me another reason to not take them. I've also always hated my smile.

I just got out of my first relationship (2 years) with a girl who was my first. We had just moved in together and 3 months later we broke up. It has been very hard for both of us, more so for me because of my inability to find someone else. Anyways my point of bringing up the relationship is that these past 2 years I've done more than I ever have, in terms of experiencing life. I would have never gone to half the places or done half the things we did together because they were things I wanted to do with my girlfriend, that would not be the same with guy friends nor would they want to do them.

I hadn't learned how to have an interesting life alone, only as part of a romantic relationship. Combine this with my lack of picture taking and I have little to show.

I know this is something I must work on, although I believe that I am good enough right now and that I deserve to be having sex and meeting new people. But I can't sell myself or display high SMV.

Tinder has not been good for me, so I have been studying game, but find it hard to implement approach in my life right now. I lost my job, school is on break, and I am very depressed. This does not mean I am wallowing in self pity and trying to make myself feel better through indulgence or instant gratification. I am however grasping at straws and find my dating life difficult. I do not want to monk mode. I do not want to delay my desire for relationships and sex with women.

This is so far beyond my post and I probably wrote it more so to organize my thoughts, but you seem smart and kind and if you have anything else to advise I'd of course appreciate it.

[–]Startupstrapped2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

Ok I’ll bite.

First of all, you need to get some clarity on what you want out of life. If it’s just women, then don’t worry about money that much and just go out and approach all day. If it’s money, then grind all day and go out on weekends to approach women. If it’s fun, then save up money and travel while you’re still young. Be honest with yourself, what’s most important right now? Your thoughts are disorganized probably because you’re not exactly sure what you’re seeking to get out of life. Choose something to devote your time to and become the best at it.

Second of all, the first girl is a launchpad for a great man. If you’re a late bloomer like I was - once you get past that first heartbreak and figure out how to make sure that doesn’t happen again you never go back. Instead of taking your pain out on her take it out on the gym. The only reason I ever started going to the gym is because I got cheated on. Make yourself who you’d want to be if she ever ran into you again. Obsess over becoming the best you. Look at everything: fashion, physique, haircut/facial hair, the way you talk, walk, make eye contact, the energy you give other people...everything. If you’re not confident that you could walk outside and get any girl right now, then there must be something you need to improve. Fashion & physique are the easiest to start with. But changing your style means you need money so you might want to get a job :) ...As a side note, self-improvement overlaps usually, you need money for new clothes, you need confidence to interview at a new job, you need x to gain y. As long as you choose any purpose you probably won’t go wrong so long as you commit.

Once you start obsessing over being high value. Once women start feeding your ego by staring at you everywhere you go. Once you’ve gotten to the point where girls in the club grab your hand, instead of the other way around, then you can start to have fun. But it takes a level of “fuck it” to get there.

TL;DR: Decide what it is you want, take the pain that you’re in and obsess over making yourself better. It’s a positive feedback loop once you start. Get a purpose, use the girl as your purpose if you need to, and increase your value.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

You're right I don't know what I want in life. I know what I want right now though, and it's to get over my ex. The best way to do this would be fucking other women. Either it seems simple and i'm over complicating it or it really is more complicated. Since taking the red pill i've adopted the idea that all women are the same on a fundamental level but when the woman used to be YOUR woman and quickly finds another guy with ease (my ex is 21 and started fucking a 36 year old) reality about the: difference in access between men and woman / the truth about SMV peaks, hits you much harder.

I swallowed the red pill easily because I had no real experience with women and so therefore I did not have a ton of blue pill experiences and it just made sense. After the red pill I was fortunate to find a girl (attractive and a virgin) so quickly after my journey, I never had to go cold approaching or even get rejected. During the relationship I constantly reviewed trp principles because I did not want to fuck it up, and I also wanted to learn and understand women behavior. I also always worked on myself, because I knew I had to be willing to take the loss if shit went south and therefore had to be prepared to get back out there. However all this talk of "you're the prize" and "just next" and blahblahblah made me overestimate my ability to find another girl, leading to the frustration I have today.

The amount of hours i've put in to listening to podcasts, reading trp, or learning about game and the fact that it's still so hard to get women, compared to the fact that any half-decent looking girl can get dick in 5 seconds, makes it hard not to be desperate and/or a misogynist.

I have 2 questions for you: 1) How old are you? 2) My issue right now seems to be access. I live in a town of 43,000 people in CT. Friday and Saturday obviously going out is not a problem, the busier towns are usually packed. Sunday-Thursday should I not even try night game? I don't even know where to go as nowhere seems busy. As for cold approach, some people say you should go out to places like the mall or whatever to specifically approach women. Others say this is disingenuous and you should approach during the day doing the things you would normally do. However right now as a 22 year old who just lost his job I don't go out by myself during the day "shopping" or whatever these people seem to do during the weekdays. Maybe I should just go out with the intention to approach. The idea of driving to the mall, or say walmart, and basically hunting down girls seems a bit out there to me. Am I making excuses? I wish I knew about cold approaching during freshmen year, I was too focused on working on myself like trp preaches, however the importance of game was never mentioned as much as it should've been.

[–]Dane501 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Weeknights are often your best opportunity to hook up. Less noise, pressure, wariness on the part of women.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's an interesting perspective I never considered. Less access though probably cancels it out?

[–]Startupstrapped0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link

I’ll get to the questions later, but your problem is that your centering women as your main goal, and it should be the inverse.

Imagine you’re a woman...who would you see as high value?

Guy 1: Works 45 hours a week on his own company, works out 5 days a week, spends the rest of his time reading/meditating/going to church, has money to go out but only goes if he wants to have fun with friends, doesn’t need a woman but is entirely open to trying it out, buys clothes because he has extra money that he treats himself with, is confident because he’s worked hard and his life is centered around self-actualization/finances.

Guy 2: Is currently without a job, he goes out looking for somebody to fuck every day of the week, his time is abundant but he obsesses over finding women instead of having a purpose, he doesn’t know what he wants in life other than a woman, whenever he spends time reading it’s about game and being more attractive to women, his life is centered around women - and this is the goal of his life.

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You need to have something going on in your life before you start fucking women consistently. You’re a living catch 22: right now you’re only goal is to find a girl that you can fuck, but as soon as you find that girl you’ll get Oneitis and she’ll dump you, leading you back to where you are currently. It’s inevitable if you’re only purpose is to fuck girls.

I’ve been where you are and I’ll tell you: even if you start fucking women again you’ll still be empty inside. You really need to do some soul-searching and find a purpose for yourself, even if it’s getting revenge on your ex. It’s understandable that you want to get over your ex but the fix isn’t in fucking more women, it’s fixing yourself so that eventually you’ll be able to fuck all the 9s and 10s you want.

As for your questions:

  1. I’m pretty young actually.

  2. I barely cold approach anymore and I sure as hell don’t go out to bars and clubs with the intention of picking up girls. If I go out, I’m going because my friends want to and we’ll get to listen to music and dance with or without girls being there. I meet more girls when I’m not even looking for them, like at nice restaurants or in the gym or at the neighborhood pool. I’m too busy to take out a day of the week and look around for girls. If baddies happen to be there, fine, but if not then I’ll still have fun because I was planning on going anyways. All of my time is spent making me more attractive, I make lots of money during the week, work out consistently, read and keep myself mentally sharp, look at the new fashion trends every now & then...but those are all things I’ve always enjoyed doing. If girls appreciate the fact that I have spent my time increasing my value, then they’ll give IOIs no matter where I happen to be. Also I have a girlfriend so sex just isn’t important to me right now, I get pussy on demand. With or without a girlfriend, I still never made my life about chasing pootang.

For you though, a solid Instagram might help you find girls in your area.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

And how would any girl you meet in real life know what you've spent your time doing beyond looks and style without game?

[–]Startupstrapped1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Game is important. Invaluable actually - but 75% of having game is having an interesting life to talk about and relate to the other person as well.

You should read Models by Mark Manson. I think that book would help you tremendously.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I mean I only lost my job 2 weeks ago and have interviews lined up. So I'm not solely focused on women but yes it does occupy my mind constantly making it harder to focus. I work on myself but that isn't just going to make girls come out of nowhere. I have 1 more semester left until I get my degree in biomolecular science. I workout 5 days a week, track my calories, read, listen to podcasts, wear fitting clothing, get a haircut every 2 weeks, hang out with friends, etc. I've made myself sound like I'm not doing these things but I am. I'm missing something. I dont have a true passion that I do everyday but I'm young and still in college and trying new things. Just recently started doing MMA classes for example. I've wanted to go to yoga classes at my gym but they're always at weird times. But my testosterone isnt going to be completely overrided by my logical mind. I hope I dont come across as argumentative and stubborn

[–]Startupstrapped1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh, then you’ve got the groundwork, I assumed that you didn’t because of the other comments but that’s all very good.

You have a great life and you do interesting things, so stop pedestalizing women. A woman isn’t going to add anything. Meet some MMA buddies or something that fills the void of loneliness that you have, other than that keep doing what you’re doing. Girls will come & go, make your life interesting and social enough so when they leave you’re not left with your pants down. Girls shouldn’t be you’re only source of social fulfillment, without friends I’d probably be a sad son of a bitch. Just connect with more people in general.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You're advice has been very helpful and I didnt deserve all the attention you've given me. You deserve the money that my therapist will be getting tomorrow for probably helping less. I will continue to build social bridges, focus on myself and work on game but not as heavily (atleast more action than reading). I have read most of models but will give it another read. I probably forgot a lot of it. Thanks again for all your help

[–]Startupstrapped0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

No problem - everybody needs help sometimes.

Godspeed and good luck.

[–]Walkerstain0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

What's your height? I's not very clear to tell, if your tall you should post a pic standing.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Not tall 5'7

[–]discohumpty8 points9 points10 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Pet pics seemed forced. Shirtless pic is hit or miss. Better to be a natural shirtless pic rather than some weird pose.

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Gotcha. Removed the pet pics and replaced with one I was in more.

[–]thatbadrogue22 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

"bitches love animals, let me add a pic of a cat. but what if she likes dogs, fuck lets find a dog and take a pic. Can't have them too close to each other though, bitches will get suspicious, gotta spread em out. Oh yeah and then that sick picture my nephew took of me being all ominous with my blue glow, that'll make em wet" and dear lord bro, you don't even have much muscle mass, why are you trying that hard to look off into the distance, you're not Frank Zane.

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In all seriousness though idk I'm not into dudes, can't comment on if it'd make 'em wet or not.

[–]Transport1270 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmfao

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao. You're right about the spreading them apart but no both those animals are mine and the pose was taken by my girlfriend. Thank you for the advice 😂

[–]TheBadGoy1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Needs better lighting and better angles. Also Antifa is might dox you

[–]TheDero1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The first pic will get you swipes for sure, but when then the girl goes for the second profile look after the match, you may lose some. The animal pictures look a bit on the nose, and the super dark sith lord pic is a little odd, too.

It's not a terrible profile by any means, but with a few changes it could be better. Try getting some other full body shots that don't look too corny.

[–]Chadster1130 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

IMO Pet pictures are something women do

[–]Big_Red_suppository-4 points-3 points-2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Creepy vibe

[–]Zsaqwes7[S] 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Not very helpful without reasons

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