I’ve found most women think this is ok for some reason. Maybe the better ones preselect for beta guys or guys they dont want to fuck, while the worst are setting up monkey branches.

Anyway my LTR did this. We were organising a week long trip with time off. She wanted to go to some girly cafe while in our town before we left and asked if we could. I straight up told her no, not interested and asked her “dont you have any girlfriends to do that with?”.

Anyway this weekend she went to it, with a guy she has known for a long time. Now this might sound lame of me(let me know if it does) but he is older, fat, efimate and a bad looking guy, and kinda behaves basically beta.

Anyway. I’m not really sure how to handle it. On one hand i told her to go do it with someone else. But on the other hand i dont really think 1 to 1s with guys is appropriate behaviour in a relationship especially without even saying anything. Maybe as long as they are just stringing along betas or doing it with guys they arent into its different? We’re Not in our 20s or teens btw.

What is appropriate in this situation? I was thinking either dread game her, or soft next. Or even bring it up after a soft next and stating it as a boundary but imo that shows jealousy.