Tips on how to escalate on a date

brasilgringo · 2019-07-17T03:12:23+00:00

Kino is your friend. Invited a dating site girl for drinks tonight after some text banter. Picked a high table where i could stand* and she could sit on a stool-chair next to me. Constant kino* touching her back, leg, at some point talking about how I took massage courses. Transitioned into giving her "just a taste" with a shoulder massage -- that was enough to totally take her into headspace/subspce. Pulled back (push-bull) a bit, stood a bit farther away. Moved up to talking about her hair (many different styles in her profile pick), excuse to touch her neck, pulled her hair (asked her if it was all hers). More subspace. Started standing a little too close, resting hand on thigh, slowly starting to massage her leg. Finally just started kissing her in the bar. Pulled back again. From that point it was on. When she applied lip gloss after a trip to the restroom, negged her about it and said "Well, I guess I can't kiss you now." She started asking me if I like watermelon, as that was the "flavor" of the lipgloss ..... Kino, man. Train yourself to do it. #1 escaltion tool in first meets, especially if you do it when she's talking about stuff she likes (so you "anchor" that good stuff/feeling to you touching her). Start with high-fives and fist-bumps, go from there (*that's how I started above, plus full hug kiss-cheek, kiss-cheek** on meeting, guide her to the table, etc).

(* don't you want to sit? "I've been sitting over a hot spreadsheet all afternoon, I need to stretch my legs.")

** I live in BR where this is standard greeting in Rio. If you don't, you can still do it and say "I I learned this greeting when I was in Rio [on vacation/work], I just thought it says so much aboujt the openness of Brazilian culture ...etc."

Interestingly my biggest shit test on the date was her basically asking me if I have a fetish for black girls. My answer was sort of amused mastery as basically everyone of Rio has some "color" from darker to lighter, and if you look at my pale gringo skin on way off the side of the scale. I also said that my 2 ex's were mixed-race -- like everyone in Rio -- and my pasty whitness never came up as a topic when I was with their families. Seemed to get her past it

Ekhochambeer · 2019-07-17T11:59:17+00:00

Check my post history I asked the same question a while ago and got some good replies.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-07-17T01:48:35+00:00

But I kinda didnt get IOI's from her

Her asking you out on another date, and even offering to pay for everything, is a huge IOI.

So, you guys have some tips for me?

Google Dicarlo Escalation Ladder.

Title	Tips on how to escalate on a date
Author	Incognito61
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	July 17, 2019 1:24 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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