Do you pay for the first date?

Dilduo · 2019-09-02T00:08:05+00:00

Dont pay for dates, split the bill
Dont even have this discussion until the bill comes
When it comes just give it some time to breath. She may even offer to split right away. Watch her do "the check dance" she should make some kind of motion for her wallet. If she does or doesnt say "lets go dutch"
Dont take her for a "date" until you have fucked her and even then dont pay for it.
The most ill do on a first meet is is go get drinks and go dutch, no food.
If she claims shes not paying (i have never experienced this) i would probably just say "nether am I and get up and leave"

ohmanitstheman · 2019-09-02T03:49:34+00:00

It just depends. It will always be a negative in your chances to get laid. It can be overcome, but it isn't a positive. I always liked paying. I felt like it gave me better control over the situation. However, I was making 4-5x if not more what a good date drinks and all would cost a day. You will come off most as a cheapskate if a date really sets you back financially. It will show up in your demeanor and everything else.

Pdubzilla · 2019-09-02T16:27:51+00:00

This is why my first dates are short (1 drink each). That way you don't look like a broke douche, but also you're not putting out a huge provider vibe - more like a DGAF over a couple bucks vibe. Usually what happens is they say "I'll get the drinks next time" which indicates they want to see me again and they don't expect handouts. Also, frequently they offer to cook for me on the 2nd date which is a big bonus and worth 5 bucks for a drink.

Don't get into your head too much.

intl_plyrs_clb · 2019-09-02T05:59:46+00:00

I usually pay for the first date, generally, it's only a few drinks at a bar that I frequent. I just get there early and give the bartender my card and ask him to put all the charges on my bill. If not I just put my card down and slide it out of the way ignoring the "Let me get my purse" dance.

I think of it as part of me leading this entire dance that is going to lead back to my place after our 1.5 drinks (maybe food if I'm hungry) and a short walk back to my place. I don't make paying a big deal and don't respond to comments about me doing it. I just pretend it didn't happen. Doesn't stop me from noticing women absolutely melt when I do it because so many of you are splitting hairs over a few dollars.

Kabuki431 · 2019-09-02T00:35:04+00:00

I have recently noticed this behavior a lot. Nothing gets a woman wet faster than keeping you are gonna take her on a nice date. Just make it clear that you expect to get laid if she expects you to pay.

10/10 i get laid, it's fun to listen them bitch about broke ass boys can't even afford a date.

Yeah it's against trp principles, but boy it's just a tool not a gods commandment.

GrandmasterHurricane · 2019-09-03T02:32:07+00:00

Just don't fucking pay her share dude. It's that simple. Also Stop going on dinner dates as first dates. When the check comes, check how much you consumed, and put that on the table. What's she gonna do? Force you to pay?

smoothieluverr · 2019-09-02T01:57:16+00:00

Honestly, as a slim, semi attractive girl who is definitely not a model or a 10, I have never once had a guy ask me to split the check or infer that I should pay part of the first date or anything like that. I have had guys purposely try to go on really cheap "dates", to preclude spending much, but again they were assuming prior to the date that they would be paying. It wouldn't even be that horrible to be asked to split I guess but I would just be really shocked and probably never see him again bc I would wonder why he thinks he's so special, when no other guy has asked me.

Do you pay for the first date?

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"I always liked paying. I felt like it gave me better control over the situation. However, I was making 4-5x if not more what a good date drinks and all would cost a day. You will come off most as a cheapskate if a date really sets you back financially."

"That way you don't look like a broke douche"

"I have recently noticed this behavior a lot. Nothing gets a woman wet faster than keeping you are gonna take her on a nice date. Just make it clear that you expect to get laid if she expects you to pay"

Title	Do you pay for the first date?
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