I was jealous of red pill men. I'm feminine--I can dress up well, figure is good, I don't curse, some guys think I'm cute. some say pretty, some say hot, some aren't attracted to me at all--go figure. I'm new to reddit but I've been lurking around the manosphere blogs for a few years. After reading a few books (like the Game by Neil Strauss and Bang by Roosh), I began to respect these guys' self-improvement stories. They'd gone and used tools to transform themselves from overlooked chumps into masters of attraction--and well, that was and still is pretty cool in my book.

However, I hated the fact that women were/are disposable to Alphas. I hated that all these guys had to do was demonstrate high value and girls (girls who could be my friends, or my cousins) would be just another discarded notch/plate.

I hated the fact that 40 year old guys could get 20 year old girls while us poor women are only young and hot for so long--even if we caught a 'good guy' a few years down the line even a faithful husband would eventually take a peak at the hot waitress and then we'd red pill women would know that on some level we too were disposable. Well that feeling is not fun.

More unfun thoughts--we can't persuade guys to be attracted to us (it's too easy to forget that it works both ways when we're the one feeling rejected), we can't be really intelligent and have a guy view us as a perfect 10. Why do guys have to have all the control, my mind practically screamed. I never wanted to ride the carousel but I wanted to be fawned over. And then a light bulb went off--I found myself understanding the mind of a feminist--The Coalition for Chicks Jealous of Men.

Well screw that--I'm not a feminist and I never will be but I was still left with this jealousy problem. I'm a fixer so how do I rationalize the quicker demise of my beauty, how do I fix that I can't use a whole tool kit of dread or negs to make myself more appealing to the opposite sex, how can I fix that I can't overtly go after a guy (and more importantly that I don't want to go after him) but still get the guy.

I'm still searching out answers but I know this:

  1. We have to be the short redheaded Navy SEAL. Tall guys are blessed with one genetic marker in their favor as less women women want to date short guys. However, did you know, most Navy SEALs aren't very tall--they're about 5'10 and 175 pounds. And while 5'10 isn't super short, you get the point--here's a guy that's more physically and mentally alpha than 99% of men. He's that guy despite the fact that there are taller more GQ looking guys. And who wouldn't be interested in dating a cute ex-Navy seal.

There are girls that will have bigger boobs, more symmetrical bone structure, and bluer eyes--so what. You go out and get flawless skin, enjoy drinking ungodly amounts of water, enjoy squats, enjoy blueberries and the right guy will enjoy you because you enjoy you. But his enjoyment is secondary to your own because guess what, you're a Navy SEAL and you know it.

  1. Women are MJs. We are Magic Johnson, we are Michael Jordan. Red pill guys can focus on cultivating hobbies, learning languages, lifting, reading or whatever for 20 years and still get a hot girl at 40 because they are playing the Long game. You might even say they can be mediocre for a long time.

However, we are playing the Short game. Women have the opportunity to be superstars--Helen of Troy, Cleopatra, Beyonce. Guys are dazzled by us in our fertile years the same way they idolize sport stars. So we must be MVPs, soak in our femininity, our hair products, our body brushing--our exceptionalism.

Take pictures now, get in your best shape now. Frame a picture of you now at your best so that you, your kids, and one day your grandkids can look back on the memories and enjoy. It's just like all those sports trophies you can look back and laugh. Never make the mistake of being time warped just know that while you lived, you lived.

You do this becase you will retire one day and when it is time to retire (post wall) we do it gracefully and go on to other pursuits.

Magic Johnson and Michael Jordan became businessmen other retired players become coaches or motivational speakers. The sad players are the guys that don't save up money while they're in their prime in the NBA or NFL and are left broke past they're playing years. The sad ones are the guys that still think they can play but has been a free agent begging for a tryout for years.

What does this mean for women. Well that means we're not 65 years old wearing sparkly Daisy Dukes. It means we choose to keep challenging ourselves to be our 'hottest' self at every stage in life. It means we go from player to coach and help the next generation of girls replace us. It means we're not mentally competing with the faces of other women in their early 20s (I'm not older and even I don't do that.) It means knowing we still find ourselves attractive and our husbands do as well.

How do we convince ourselves of that. We go with the truth--that attraction while definite is also a little arbitrary. So base your attractiveness on how good you smell, how well you dress, how much you glow with inner passion for life. Most husbands are not comparing, if he sees a pretty young lady he's just looking at pretty things, it's like looking at a mountain or a work of art. It also, works both ways, we like handsome guys as well--wow who would've thought we were all human.

Girls go out and OWN it.