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| 1 | How to not hit the wall/ age gracefully?Thx | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 10:44 PM |
| 1 | How to not hit the wall/ age gracefully?What is LED red light? I am afraid of Botox but I’ve heard hyaluronic acid fillers can help wrinkle. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 10:08 PM |
| 1 | How to not hit the wall/ age gracefully?I’m here for the cold cream recipe? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 10:06 PM |
| 4 | How to not hit the wall/ age gracefully?Right? Like oh no, as I age I’ll have a natural filter against sleazy men who preyed on my youth and beauty in the guise of caring; anything but that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 10:06 PM |
| 2 | How to date in the modern world?Did your dates say you were too up tight, or did your friends? You should only accept that feedback if it was from the actual dates you went on, not your girlfriends’ theories. Believe me when I say that no marriage minded man is going to freak out if you speak about marriage on the first date, and don’t kiss on the first date. You don’t mention it with him specifically, at first, but why let anyone waste your time if they aren’t seeking marriage too? A mature man will be glad you saved time. Un… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/19 10:01 PM |
| 14 | Do your husbands lose attraction to you as you age?TFW you’re 27 years old and haven’t accepted that literally everyone ages. so you can either spend your life on fake edited IG...or look for a real person and accept aging in her and she can accept it in you. Sounds like you don’t appreciate her. If I was dating a man who said he felt embarrassed to show me off I’d want him to leave me. Miss me with that. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/01/19 09:52 PM |
| 3 | RPW-friendly Netflix suggestions? 😋Lol just discovering them this year, I love A Christmas Prince...sequel is out today! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/18 09:02 PM |
| 14 | RPW-friendly Netflix suggestions? 😋You could watch one of the many made for Netflix romantic Christmas movies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/18 06:00 PM |
| 10 | New here.. having trouble with macho boyfriendInsulting me, not washing hands with soap...these are dealbreakers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/18 11:43 PM |
| 5 | My libido is going sky racket and its ruining my self esteem.I’m not white knighting, I’m just an adult woman who realizes that you shouldn’t try to plant ideas of abuse in someone’s head. That’s a sick thing to do, and obviously comes from some hangup you have about women with high libidos...and one anecdotal story doesn’t change that you’re really wrong for trying to convince a stranger they were molested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:58 AM |
| 9 | My libido is going sky racket and its ruining my self esteem.How do you know she was abused? You don’t, you’re just trolling and contributing nothing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:47 AM |
| 7 | My libido is going sky racket and its ruining my self esteem.You’re accusing someone she knew growing up of being a child abuser. You shouldn’t try to sow seeds of mistrust like that to random people you don’t even know. If OP happened to be naive or suggestible, she might start getting paranoid of loved ones. Have some responsibility for what you say. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:44 AM |
| 8 | My libido is going sky racket and its ruining my self esteem.Dude you need to stop with that. Women can have high T for a woman, which would make their drive higher than the average woman. OP isn’t even having sex. You shouldn’t cavalierly suggest to random people to imagine they were abused, that is a serious accusation that can have consequences on trust and relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:39 AM |
| 8 | My libido is going sky racket and its ruining my self esteem.On average yes, but how does this pertain to the discussion? OP had a high libido, she says, and I’m telling her how to handle that. Whether it’s high overall or high for a woman isn’t really relevant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:35 AM |
| 4 | Is it RPW or is he asking too much?The fact that it was rare exceptions you were discussing, and that he was so rigid about the roles with no exceptions, is not so great I think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:18 AM |
| 4 | Is it RPW or is he asking too much?Sorry to say this, but I do consider negatively comparing a gf/fiancée to female relatives as a major red flag. To be married, two adults have to have established themselves as separate beings from their family of origin. Comparing you badly with female relatives means he hasn’t done this process. People like that are usually not self aware. And they can cause hurt from this. I only have my experience to go on, but a man trying to say you’re not as good as his sister or mom is a bad sign and not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:17 AM |
| 2 | Should I downplay education in dating/dating apps? How to present as less intimidating/more feminine?I wouldn’t fill out specifics like name of workplace, for safety reasons. I would just put a simple, generic title that shows you have a job and aren’t immature (don’t put that “school of hard knocks” nonsense), but don’t do the super formal specific title tailored to your job. Like saying “Secretary” rather than “Senior personal Secretary to the CFO” or whatever. Obviously you can put whatever you want, but the more formal and detailed your school and career info, the more you send the message … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:08 AM |
| 13 | My libido is going sky racket and its ruining my self esteem.You should try to accept and own your sexuality. I think you’ve kind of compartmentalized your sexuality as this separate and taboo thing. Maybe it feels outside of you. That’s why it’s exciting to do these crazy things online, because it’s “bad.” Instead, try to consciously own your sexuality. So it’s not some secret bad thing that is fun to indulge in, and that if you experience it, you don’t have to go so wild and crazy. Eventually that can be channeled into a good marriage. There’s a myth th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 04:03 AM |
| 9 | What I learned about male psychology in line at the airportI kind of agree. I dated someone like this and built him up as a hero, but because he was in this state of mind, he ended up just getting this false bravado, which was unbearable, and didn’t really believe in himself. Men need other men to learn masculinity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 03:58 AM |
| 15 | What I learned about male psychology in line at the airportIt’s so bad that I used to think I was some boy crazy weirdo because I didn’t always want to talk about guys as dumb and silly. Grown women talking like this. They acted like I was somehow emotionally slutty or something because I generally like men as a whole. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 03:54 AM |
| 13 | UPDATE: Me (22/F) and my bf (31/M) broke up due to my past affair with his married best friendHoney...cut ties, move forward. See this as an opportunity. Learn the lesson and move on with your life. Don’t do it again. Meet new people even just friends. Don’t dwell on what will soon be ancient history. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/18 03:20 AM |
| 16 | Marriage prep programs?I did Catholic marriage prep with my ex fiancé. It was mostly neutral, some slight BP moments but mostly ok. It worked because it brought up differences between us that were shocking to me. Even though we had talked things out, I learned a lot I wouldn’t have thought to ask. For example, they asked what intimacy meant to us. I was saying it was physical, emotional, mental. My ex laughed at me like I was dumb and asked how I could possibly think intimacy meant anything but sex. I actually walked … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/18 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Husband spoils me to a shopping day 😘Noice!! Last week he went with me to buy stilettos, at home I realized they were too small, took me back again to return...I feel blessed 😇 nothing wrong with letting him spoil you if he wants! PS don’t feel bad I usually make a lighthearted joke if he’s shopping with me about his patience and try not to be too long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/18 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Guy who brags about hooking up with other girls?Just an 18 yr old kid who thinks getting lots of women makes him a man. Nothing unusual, but if you’re dating him he’s being very rude, and if it hurts you, you might mention it. He will hopefully grow out of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/18 10:57 PM |
| 4 | Husband spoils me to a shopping day 😘Don’t forget to thank him for going with you while you picked things out! Guys show patience of Saints during that 😂 PS what are the brown and red bags? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/18 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Hair care questionHi! Just to clarify I meant if you don’t like the shorter in the back style, once it grows an inch or two you can get a trim to a bob that’s all the same length. I wasn’t sure if that was what you didn’t like but if so it’s fixable soon. Re: caffeine: specifically put it on your scalp. You can get coffee grounds or instant coffee and mix it in your shampoo. Leave it on a couple minutes. It’s very invigorating and stimulates hair growth. You can also buy caffeine shampoo. Biotin shampoo should he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/18 08:13 PM |
| 4 | Dread for womenSo by this logic I’m wondering about the gatekeepers of commitment thing—does a man find a woman who, say, has had multiple proposals she had to turn down, attractive in the same way a man who can bed many woman is? I don’t know either way but I’m curious as to your opinion. Regardless I agree it’s not good to desperately try and get lots of male attention. I’ve noticed that it can backfire too because men more than women are likely to take it as a compliment when other men find their woman attr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/18 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Hair care questionBiotin shampoo and caffeine. Coffee or caffeine shampoo is good. Hair skin and nails vitamins. Massage your scalp. Biotin supplements are ok but can cause breakouts. The back should grow out pretty fast so you could get the ends at least trimmed to the same length soon. It will grow faster than you think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/18 07:24 PM |
| 1 | What kind of nails do you have?Totally up to you. I am quitting polish due to reactions to the chemicals involved. I have an electric file / buffer and a white pencil for underneath the tips. Use oil on cuticles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/18 07:17 PM |
| 10 | What is the mix of your mate?If he’s sometimes short with outsiders it’s not necessarily bad. You want someone who doesn’t need everyone’s approval. It’s a sign he can protect his family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 07:20 PM |
| 2 | SOS. I’m failing as a wife.Maybe you’re scared that if you submit, you’ll get hurt and be weak and a failure. That’s what we are told. But it’s actually very empowering and it’s a strong choice to be submissive. Do it for your own peace of mind and happiness and the marriage will follow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 04:55 PM |
| 8 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityWhile I agree I prefer a man more successful than myself, all women do not want the purely academic type. My bf is intelligent and intellectual but is also very hands on and practical, has handled many crises in his work. I would never want to date a purely ivory tower type, no matter how much he made. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 04:52 PM |
| 21 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityWell my boyfriend has a much more advanced career than I do, and he has a higher ed degree. But he’s also military and really good at several masculine, work with your hands hobbies. He can build all kind of things. I don’t have an advanced degree and my career isn’t my main focus. Before I met him, I was surrounded by philosophy student guys, and I couldn’t take it. I needed a man who, while intelligent, didn’t live in his head all the time. And to my relief, my bf doesn’t judge me if I express… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 04:47 PM |
| 2 | the inevitable royal wedding postShe quit rowing because of the media circus around her training sessions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 03:35 AM |
| 3 | I'm an ugly woman. Im trying my best to look my best as possible but I don't see much difference even when it try. Its making me very depressed and now just wondering how I can cope with my fate as being an unattractive female?What kind of work in particular? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/18 07:54 PM |
| 14 | I'm an ugly woman. Im trying my best to look my best as possible but I don't see much difference even when it try. Its making me very depressed and now just wondering how I can cope with my fate as being an unattractive female?You know yourself better than I do, but for many people harsh exfoliation makes facial acne worse in a cycle of skin producing excess oil to make up for dryness. Burning doesn’t mean it’s working always. /r/SkincareAddiction sidebar talks about chemical exfoliants. If you already know all this and it works for you cool; just a PSA. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/18 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Reflecting on interactions with menYay! What was your weight loss plan? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 04:01 PM |
| 3 | I offer to pay and end up paying a lot (go figure...)Thank you. It can easily happen for you if you desire it and find a man who is the same type. Many men want this role and find it fulfilling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/18 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Who would u choose if u had the chance.The thing is that’s just dating. You’re not going to have chemistry with the majority of people. Not will everyone have life together. Otherwise it would be easy for everyone. People who date IRL have bad dates too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 06:07 PM |
| 4 | 'For Women Only' - Processing Thoughts - Chapter 4All this means that if your man pulls away to gather his thoughts during hard discussions, it’s a good thing. A sign of a man aware of himself and constructive. Let him have the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 05:23 PM |
| 6 | Fun discussion: What kind of wedding did you/will you have?I won’t...lol. I want like him, a priest, 1 witness. The thought of a wedding gives me anxiety. Family drama and people being people. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/18 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Who would u choose if u had the chance.Oh also you might want to find a man near you whom you can see in person. Online relationships are fantasy.. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Who would u choose if u had the chance.That’s patently ridiculous...I know many couples who met online, myself included. These days people are scattered and there aren’t the same communities as in the past where you just met people around and had referrals. Now maybe Tinder or blatant hookup apps are a bad idea for an LTR, but saying something is wrong with people online is unfair and silly. It’s a way to already meet people who are available and looking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 04:31 PM |
| 2 | Who would u choose if u had the chance.In theory a traditional guy over a trp any day. Traditional is like trp without the chip on the shoulder. But your “trad” guy doesn’t sound trad. If he’s overweight and has no job...just no. Sorry but men aren’t projects, I’m not saying you need a flawless man, but the basics like a job, tries to exercise a little, actually single, no substance abuse, are step 1. You shouldn’t be spending the relationship getting to step 1. Now if your long time spouse loses a job it’s different of course you st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 04:28 PM |
| 1 | The "nice girl" vs the "nice guy"Not at all...I think they just mean guys don’t like desperate suck-up women who are “nice” out of neediness...they want her to choose to be good to him, so it means something. If someone can’t say no, their yes has no value. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 04:20 PM |
| 3 | How To Add ValueThis....my bf is high ranking and of good moral character, doesn’t seek cheap thrills, is loyal, takes care of me, even cooks...and I once got insecure since my career isn’t my main focus and fell for the modern trap that I should have that...he smiled and told me I didn’t need to be successful at something to impress him. He was just ok with me being. Some career powerful guys only want successful ambitious women, but those guts usually seem Beta to me. Or guys who want a sugar mama. Successful… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 04:05 PM |
| 2 | I offer to pay and end up paying a lot (go figure...)If you want a traditional guy then I wouldn’t offer to pay... | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 03:42 PM |
| 8 | I offer to pay and end up paying a lot (go figure...)I never offer. So far I’ve attracted a guy who’s naturally protective and providing, because he truly wants to. I also wouldn’t date a guy who insisted I meet halfway or go to him. Maybe I sound rigid, but it’s worked for me. I have an old fashioned gentleman who wants to be taking care of me and sees me as a lady. I don’t feel bad at all. It’s what I want, and I’ve learned a lot about men and know there are men who actively desire this dynamic, not just to please me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?Looking for men who desire to be good—exactly! Someone with the desire to always be better and moral is a better partner than someone who knows how to act socially acceptable but only because it’s expected. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?Well the problem stems from an incomplete definition of love. If love is a feeling only then it can never be steady for men or women. If you are super stressed or depressed or ill. If we define love as willing the good of the other, wanting everything good for them no matter what, then it becomes a choice not based on fickle emotion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 03:11 PM |
| 3 | I have BPD. Am I a lost cause?No. Never a lost cause. As long as you are aware, treating it, responsible for your emotions and actions, and desire to be stable. There are good men who won’t judge your past—as long as it’s past. Do that if you want a good, steady, strong man. If you just want needy/creepy orbiters that put you on a pedastal until you fall off and then they hate you, indulge your illness and instability. Not clear if you’re still doing recreational drugs, but that should stop now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/18 08:07 PM |
| 2 | How to avoid coming on too strong?I actually don’t think this is bad in a LTR. But I wouldn’t do it up front until you know he’s equally involved and committed, and that if you cut back he would still reach out to you. So hold back at first. Loose lips sink ships and all that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/18 08:04 PM |
| 4 | I think I'm an alpha widow and now I don't have interest in dating other guys anymoreThis might not be typical advice, but force yourself to get over him. Don’t say his name. Tell yourself he’s not important to you. Hopefully since you never met it’s easier. Relationships online are a fantasy. Make new connections and look ahead, soon there will be a better one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/18 07:45 PM |
| 1 | What’s a practical life path for a young RPW?Me too. I am also creative and do that on my own, and focus on secretarial jobs since I can still be feminine, do not have to “lean in” or climb the ladder, and get to be of service. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/18 07:43 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop being critical?Realize that he’s smarter than you think. And your criticism is awesome a misplaced maternal instinct for many women. Which of course is not going to increase attraction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/18 07:41 PM |
| 7 | Are older men a good option?I think in terms of when you are both old, but he’s much older, health issues etc. some women are ok with a larger gap, it is personal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/18 04:45 PM |
| 7 | New here, wondering if I can make RP work for me.I’m confused why you’re doing everything, it’s like you’re taking both the wife and husband roles. That sounds insanely stressful. What does he do? | /r/RedPillWives | 03/05/18 03:56 PM |
| 2 | I am suffering from major fear of missing out/wasted youth.Stop basing your happiness on having the most fun or entertainment. Social media makes us all believe that life is only worthwhile if you’re totally confident and fun and never miss out. If you change your view to that of seeking a life with meaning and purpose, you won’t feel anything is wasted. I do understand as I never had a fun adolescence because I had to appease my family problems. I used to be so sad I didn’t live up to my potential of fun or coolness, but I realize how dumb that is now.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/18 03:51 PM |
| 8 | Are older men a good option?Every time I dated a guy around my age, I also had too much control and got very frustrated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/18 03:45 PM |
| 6 | Are older men a good option?Yes. Lots of women prefer older men, I do. I wouldn’t go over 15 years difference for practical reasons, but it’s perfectly normal and has been for millennia. Only in recent decades have people acted like you can only date your same age, most of history that would be seen as an odd rule. I think it’s a good RPW strategy, since all else being good, the man will always be grateful for his younger wife, even if you marry late, to him you’re still the hot younger woman he can show off. Also he shoul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/18 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Will being less emotional make someone want to be with me?Umm he sounds crazy and is establishing your relationship based on how he is perfectly fully actualized as a human and needs no more growth, but that you are lacking and need to change. Very unhealthy dynamic and it would only get worse. Emotions aren’t bad. Next this guy, he sounds like a neck beard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 09:34 PM |
| 5 | Relationship Update: Is this break BS or what?This is doomed. Think about how you would feel being the second choice after a guy dated your friend and it didn’t work out with her. It’s not reasonable to expect him to just get over that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 09:29 PM |
| 13 | Just a bit depressed about modern marriageThat used to be called marriage vows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 09:23 PM |
| 8 | Just a bit depressed about modern marriageHonestly, if she feels she lowered her standards and resents him for it, that would affect things negatively between them. So you’re not wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Just a bit depressed about modern marriageMaybe not lower them, but reevaluate which ones are essential and which might be excessively picky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Just a bit depressed about modern marriageWhere do you meet them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 09:10 PM |
| 6 | Just a bit depressed about modern marriageYou sound like you have your life together, if your self description is accurate. You may even come off as too perfect. Personally I admire but don’t end up close friends with people who are excelling at everything—perfect job, friends, in shape, runs marathons, crazy smart, perfect social media life, etc. If that is so for you then you need to be feminine by being vulnerable so people see your humanity. If you’re dating men near 40 who have never married, the odds that he will ever marry decrea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/18 08:58 PM |
| 8 | Boyfriend doesn’t seem curious about my interestsI think men are more interested in if your hobby makes you happy, than the hobby itself. He should be happy if it makes you happy. I wouldn’t put too much stock in it. When I was younger I thought all couples had to be obsessed with the same music and shows and activities. But you could date your hobby twin and still be a bad match. Then date someone who has totally weird interests to you, but be a good couple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/18 03:53 PM |
| 7 | [39F Homemaker w/1 kid, < $10k/year ] "I am a sexy strong woman. I want a long term serious relationship and a special someone to be my king. I won't settle for anything less than I deserve and I deserve the best. I want someone who will treat me like a queen who got his own apartment or house."If they’re super picky, they can say that must be why they are single, and not deal with it could be something personal. It’s the same reason neckbeards online will criticize minutiae about an attractive woman’s photo. IRL they have no chance with her, but it’s easier to pretend they’re rejecting her instead of vice versus. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 26/04/18 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Options for a young woman who wishes to opt out of college if I can?What is your main objection to college? Debt, not knowing what to study, feminism? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/18 12:31 PM |
| 11 | Is there something wrong with me?Go for it. If you feel attractive it all gets better, including the shyness. It’s ok to be a little shy, but if it’s crippling and makes you lonely then work on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/18 12:29 PM |
| 2 | A "committed" vibeI noticed that in Europe too...their feminism is different and they don’t see men approaching during the day as creepy...that’s my theory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Back to the basics - men are the gatekeepers of commitment.Same but I’ve noticed it is mild reverse psychology. Having high standards making me very conscious and slow about committing. Not assuming he is desperate to commit, demanding that he learn to trust me before he says he’s in love. Somehow this is like catnip to dudes. I think it gives off a high value vibe maybe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 06:46 PM |
| 3 | What is your opinion of sex dolls?Sex dolls will filter out the type of guy who actually thinks a sex doll is better than an actual woman. Easier for everyone all around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/18 08:35 PM |
| 0 | When do you expect sexual exclusivity from a man you are dating?Ok | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 09:07 PM |
| 26 | I feel guilty about being a womanBc it’s not women that are the problem. It’s badly behaved human beings. Lack of morals and self control. It just so happens that it manifests a certain way in women. Badly behaved men have different poor traits. If you feel guilt for being a woman, maybe you read those subs as a projection. A good portion of train wreck women are just very hurt and their mothers didn’t teach them. It’s a human thing. Try to focus on being a moral person so you can live with yourself. That’s all we can do. Don’t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 08:16 PM |
| 2 | When do you expect sexual exclusivity from a man you are dating?I don’t date the type to sleep around...that said I never assume any kind of exclusivity until he asks. Spell it out. That’s the culture we live in. If you lived in Europe it’s different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 08:14 PM |
| 2 | You are not a snowflakeIt’s a weird modern idea that if you have to put any effort into love, it’s not real love or something. If you love someone, wouldn’t you want to invest all you can to be happy with that person? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 04:36 AM |
| 1 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”That’s kind of what I was getting at. Practical knowledge is way more interesting. But even then don’t become arrogant or make that your personality. You are a person not just the sum of your knowledge. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/18 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Need reassuranceI agree. There are women who are milder and that’s fine and the might do great with someone like your IT guy. But if you’re intense, you need someone who’s seen it before and isn’t threatened. It’s not you, it’s just finding the right match. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Need reassuranceReminds me of why I started dating men with military, firefighter, LEO jobs. I had been through hard stuff. I thought it made guys afraid of me, turns out that was only weak guys who never had anything more than a first world problem. The men who had seen real action never got phased by my story or intensity. I’m with one now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 02:12 PM |
| 6 | I'd rather struggle every day of my life rather than ever give a man the power to say 'you wouldn't have that if it wasn't for me'She said she wouldn’t give him the power to say that. She assumed that any man who gives a gift will be inclined to say such a thing. She’s not basing it on if he actually says it, but only the potential that he might. Millions of men give their women everything and ask nothing back. The fact that she assumes all men will be toxic about giving is really an unfair view on men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 01:22 PM |
| 3 | How to attract a quality man?Be feminine, fun, sweet, but never too sweet if he’s acting up a little. Dress nice and be interested in him. It’s not just about looks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 01:20 PM |
| 12 | Need reassuranceYou just need a strong man. Lots of women feel they are too much, too intense. I think weaker guys who get overwhelmed by a woman send the message. So he can’t handle you and blames you for being too much instead of growing up and learning not to be phased and to hold his frame or whatever they call it. A strong man won’t feel like you are too much into your hobbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 01:17 PM |
| 2 | How to accurately judge your value?This doesn’t factor in the desperation of certain thirsty types who are fine throwing themselves at very attractive women since they have nothing to lose. Or attracting player types. In fact, higher SMV women sometimes are only approached by the desperate or the manipulative. The halfway decent men are often distant until they have a very certain “in” and know she won’t reject. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 01:14 PM |
| 3 | Living Together Before MarriageI hear that women see moving in as a step towards marriage and guys often see it as a holding pattern and a way to get more without stepping up to marriage. Even a guy intending marriage might procrastinate if you live together. I think it delays marriage, gives up your advantage, and makes it hard to judge the guy. It’s easy to stay w the wrong guy when the thought of moving is overwhelming. It becomes a much bigger decision. I advise no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Best friends with ex?If it were me? Just nah. I’m maybe too realist at times. For you? Don’t ask how you should feel. Ask how you do feel. You don’t seem totally comfortable or you wouldn’t post here. I don’t like that he didn’t tell you. I think you need to have a conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to do about my boyfriendThe only way to avoid the risk getting hurt by love is to never date. You can’t control people, but you can judge character. It’s not rational to assume that every guy will turn abusive. Time to look at or write down just the facts, has he showed red flags or are you just paranoid? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Am I simply wasting my time with the wrong guy?I think if a guy can’t make time for your birthday, he’s not invested enough. Even if it’s belated, a guy who is serious wants to make time even just for dinner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:30 PM |
| 2 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”It is sad, that women have been sold a lie. Even being a RP woman myself, I had a moment of weakness the other day due to a lot of factors and somehow it came out like I felt I had to be very successful at some projec or career thing and my bf was so sweet and just said, “you don’t have to succeed at something to impress me.” It was such a relief to hear, even though I knew. We were all told the lie that you shouldn’t even let yourself be open to love until you have a career like a man. Or that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:47 AM |
| 4 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”Don’t check your brain! You said it exactly right, it’s about being a human being. Intelligence is not actually a virtue; it’s neutral. Properly ordered with humility and a good personality it’s a very good thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:39 AM |
| 6 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”I think the ideal is to have that confidence in a non-abrasive way, but make the conscious choice not to compete or do power struggles. So, you’re submissive by choice, not by default. I think men appreciate when a woman doesn’t have to be submissive, but chooses to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 11:32 PM |
| 4 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”Do you think those men are actually turned on, or more pressured to be submissive? Perhaps there is a fetish there, but even that isn’t going to be 24/7. The question is if you really want a man who acts like a puppy following you around, or the more chivalrous type you attract? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 11:22 PM |
| 19 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”I think the mistake some women make is putting intelligence as their greatest accomplishment and central personality trait. This leads to bitterness when they feel their smarts aren’t being recognized. Being a good person is better than being a smart person, and truly smart women know to show good character more than showing off cleverness. It takes humility, which itself is a virtue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 08:39 PM |
| 4 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”I wasn’t talking about arts as something not about intellect. To say things like music, sewing, knitting are not intellectually challenging is false. Just random examples based on me, but could go for any subject, just not being competitive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 08:28 PM |
| 6 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”I feel the latter group also tend to overestimate their own intelligence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 07:28 PM |
| 4 | “Men are intimidates by intelligence in women”It could be true, but what does it mean? As in book smarts? Smarter than him in his field of expertise? Might be difficult. But smarter than him at feminine arts or a totally different field? I would guess it’s ok in my experience. I think men admire women who are good at things they have no clue about, a good example is creativity and crafts, but it could be any area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:56 PM |
| 10 | What if your bf made you sign a contract before moving in together?I would love to have a bonfire every night w my bf. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Is it wrong that my relationship with my boyfriend is my priority?It’s not wrong, I mean be careful that he’s as committed to you as you are to him, but no not wrong. It’s just not PC. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:16 PM |
| 2 | Are my physical requirements for my captain unrealistic and superficial?Not 6’1”. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/18 05:21 PM |
| 3 | Are my physical requirements for my captain unrealistic and superficial?I think some preferences are fine, but they’re supposed to be preferences, not requirements. I’ll never understand the fetish some very short women have where their guy has to be even taller than what average women like. It just comes off as this vanity or greed thing. Or like some thing where they’re trying to show off that they got the tallest guy that those 6” tall women out there would like to date. Like some showing off ego thing, that they took that guy from her, people like my tall friend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/18 03:51 PM |
| 4 | Invited to husband's guys tripYeah this. Didn’t even catch that. Don’t go unless husband invited you. I don’t think he’d appreciate being left out of that. Mention what they said offhand to him, not committing. If husband invites then for goodness sake don’t work hard to be interesting. The fishing is about fishing, not about focusing on the only woman there. If he invites her OP should just be agreeable and enjoy fishing, not try to entertain. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/18 03:42 PM |
| 4 | Serious boyfriend has female business partner/best friendYou simply decide if you can handle it or not. I wouldn’t, but I’m very conservative about exclusive opposite sex friends. I reduce opposite sex friendships where it’s one on one, once I have a bf, and I expect the same from my bf. Not everyone is like this. I consider myself a realist about temptations that happen to even good people when continually exposed to alone time with opposite sex, but it doesn’t mean a cheating guarantee. Basically you can never 100% know if someone is faithful, so yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/18 03:40 PM |
| 3 | On being a Disney princessBeing a princess is fine. Don’t flip out. I mean believing you’re important and matter as a person, and wanting to behave ladylike and be generous. It’s expecting everyone else to treat you like the Princess all the time that gets rough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/18 02:34 PM |
| 7 | I just want to express my gratitudeWe as a culture have to stop hating male virility. It’s like most no longer know the difference between virility and aggression. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/18 02:29 PM |
| 5 | I just want to express my gratitudeI like it too. People on other subs called me a lost cause for posting here. BP ultimately never works like it’s supposed to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/18 02:28 PM |
| 2 | The problem with being a housewife -spoiler: it's other people (rant)Wow, that is so hard. I have a caretaker nature and I am the type to be interested in how bodies work and healing illness, not get grossed out, but you have just confirmed why nursing would not be for me full time. I cried at my desk seeing my cat die, can’t imagine just walking it off for a human being. Sounds like there is a lot of politics etc. glad you found the right path. Also, I was just hospitalized and the nurses being kind really helped me, so basically I am grateful some were nice lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/18 12:02 AM |
| 5 | Looking for advice on keeping my husband happy.Definitely possible, or if not gay has some very severe issues regarding women. A healthy hetero guy does not want to avoid vaginas at all costs, on the contrary... | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 11:33 PM |
| 4 | Looking for advice on keeping my husband happy.I am sad that you have to experience this, this is not love, no this is abuse. Physical injury and not being able to say no is abuse. No amount of mental gymnastics on your part will stop it. It is time to find a way out, I know you can do it. There is a certain level of abuse where it is worse to model to your child that it’s ok. I think it’s time to leave at all costs. Especially with the cheating. Just no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Can men and women be friends?I always say, not if it’s super exclusive—one on one, opening up personally, all that. Yes, if it is in a group or maybe one of them is not sexually attracted to the opposite sex. But yeahhh nobody at work should be touching your thigh, especially against your will. It’s not ok that your boss doesn’t care and it’s an HR matter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 11:18 PM |
| 1 | The problem with being a housewife -spoiler: it's other people (rant)I think a good lesson is that you don’t have to appease others, and it doesn’t mean you can’t get along. You can frankly say what you think and still be a friend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 11:16 PM |
| 1 | The problem with being a housewife -spoiler: it's other people (rant)Just curious, why do you think your personality didn’t fit with nurses? I always thought about being a nurse in the back of my mind, but I too would want more time with family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 11:15 PM |
| 2 | The problem with being a housewife -spoiler: it's other people (rant)A woman at my work quit before her wedding because she didn’t feel invested and wanted to evaluate her life and focus on marriage. Women in the office made little smug, catty comments about “different” life choices. I thought she was smart honestly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/18 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Staying polite after the honeymoon?Very true that there is relaxed casual like a cute comfortable outfit and face mask, vs just kind of sloppy relaxed which is unwashed and unflattering clothes. The latter might be acceptable if you’re extremely ill, like hospitalized, but as soon as you can, you will feel better if you wear presentable clothes. They can still be yoga pants or whatever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/18 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Staying polite after the honeymoon?You shouldn’t give up on common courtesy...if you get sick or something happens that’s awkward, if you’re both mature you should handle it...but you cope with it, not deliberately drop manners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/18 05:01 PM |
| 5 | Femininity isn't superficialFeminine energy is strong but vulnerable. It’s not about seeking perfect or in control or flawless girly appearance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/18 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Stop complaining: It's ruining your relationshipsSo I kind of complain a lot because my grandparents are from an area of the world where you are supposed to complain to people, it shows that you are down to earth and not going around faking “I am so happy everything is great!” and trying to act like your life is better than other people. It is not unreasonable; isn’t it true that everyone is tired of people constantly competing to have the best social media life? Also, in post-Soviet countries people kind of knew you were lying if you said “I … | /r/RedPillWives | 02/04/18 08:01 PM |
| 1 | What are good presents for your husband when he is the sole provider?Obviously you can’t just throw some lavish cliche gift at him, so make sure it’s personal in some way. Something that makes his life easier, relaxing, something that shows you know him really well, even a funny simple gift. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/04/18 07:55 PM |
| 5 | What are good presents for your husband when he is the sole provider?A girl at my work left right before her wedding, and people gossiped about it and made obnoxious comments about people “liking different things” while laughing at her behind her back. I thought she was smart, she wasn’t higher up in the chain and didn’t have serious ambitions there, and she did it because she could. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/04/18 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Tough TimesCorrect answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/18 07:51 PM |
| 1 | How to handle a flirty friend with a girlfriend?Imagine if you were the girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes. I think you know you wouldn’t be thrilled with him hanging with a close female friend where there’s lots of sexual tension. You need to realize you have more affect on people than you think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Something so obvious that I only realized recentlyI’m the opposite. Paranoid if a guy and I get along that it’s just because he’s sociable and popular and I’m not special to him. I need lots of reassurance. Your first paragraph alone deserves its own thread. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Wealthier men prefer slender womenRead Gone with the Wind about Scarlet’s 16 inch waist. (Actually would have looked freakish, but it made a point about ideal body type then.). | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Is my LTR too flirtatious with other girls?Can you define flirtatious? Give an example of these comments? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Is my LTR too flirtatious with other girls?Yeah marriage isn’t some big power struggle or good ones aren’t. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 07:49 PM |
| 4 | How to take him initiative?You don’t have to ask him out? Say that you would say yes to him if he asked you on a date! Reverse it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 07:46 PM |
| 3 | BBC tries to be sarcastic, ends up being relevant.I love this. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/03/18 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Women drinking an articleNot even just moms. My old housemates loved to drink wine all the time to feel adult, or something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/18 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Leave your crown in the garageTrue. Goes for men too, though. Being a leader at home as husband is a far cry from handing out orders to those below you at work. Some men struggle with the transition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/18 03:34 PM |
| 3 | Let’s Talk About the “Pick Me” FemalesI saw some woman complain to a magazine how no guy will commit even though she’s “totally chill,” just wants to hang out, doesn’t demand fancy dinners, isn’t rushing to the altar or having babies, is on birth control, isn’t up tight about dates, isn’t a “gold digger” and if she is so chill and cool, why does no man want her? I remember I thought “well maybe all those things are your exact problem; act like an adult woman and admit you want those things instead of acting like you don’t need anyth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/18 05:10 AM |
| 5 | Let’s Talk About the “Pick Me” FemalesYeah I think it is awful how seeking someone who is stable and wants to provide is called gold digging. Gold digging means you marry someone’s money, and you don’t care about them. You find men who want to provide because men like that are healthy and happy and well adjusted. And a guy with nothing going on who sits on a couch all day can never be a good boyfriend or husband, he’s not achieved his goal as a man yet and he won’t be able to focus on it, let alone buy flowers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/18 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Let’s Talk About the “Pick Me” FemalesI have heard about and met women who fund guys like this, and it is not good to see. I am so glad when they get out of it and date a man who has his life together. I am glad my dad taught me not to even bother going on a date with a guy who wants to meet halfway all the time and isn’t willing to come to you. He was right and now I am dating someone who truly wants to provide and protect. Modern ideas of equality have taken away the power women had and allow nonsense like deadbeat guys being babi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/18 05:03 AM |
| 19 | The Art of Getting Things... Without Demanding ThemI kind of feel bad you assume all the men in that line are there out of obligation. When I see that line I see men who love their wives. Maybe some of them were nagged but I doubt the number who are there for love is zero. Yes one should always receive graciously. That’s all it is. I don’t demand gifts I just accept his terms on it. But we always do Christmas gifts, can’t imagine otherwise, just our preference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/18 05:00 PM |
| 2 | I may have ruined my future husband.....I don’t believe this has to be who you are, but your actions were very wrong, however I believe you can change but that starts with removing yourself from dating and doing nun mode. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 08:53 PM |
| 2 | I may have ruined my future husband.....I know it is hard to leave, life is never easy but it is worth it. I honestly think it’s the loving thing to do. I know it’s annoying when other people tell you so try to think and reflect on making it your own decision to go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 08:48 PM |
| 9 | I may have ruined my future husband.....Read it in detail, and I personally think it’s fubar, but you are going to do what you will do. I don’t think you should trip ever, I am sure that is contributing to both of your decision making even if it’s not daily. I am unsure how him angrily claiming he can cheat on you at any time is a good relationship, and I don’t think that trust can be repaired at this point. Again, you will do what you will do, but that is my take on it which you sought advice for. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 06:53 PM |
| 0 | DAE miss when women's magazines weren't yet *feminized*?Were they ever? I mean in the 50s maybe some. But Cosmo was literally created as a feminist magazine for working “liberated” women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 05:49 PM |
| 4 | Sexual AssaultIt just makes me think of that club penguin meme where they say “hello 911” and the other says “someone just (broke whatever law)” and rather than helping the penguin says “That’s illegal you can’t do that.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 05:45 PM |
| 42 | I may have ruined my future husband.....If this is actually real, do your bf a favor and leave. Don’t go back to the game, stop doing drugs, if alcohol triggers you to do in drugs don’t drink, then stop trying to date for a while and focus on molding yourself to rpw and getting some discipline. I see no future for this relationship. Don’t torture him any longer. I think he deserves better after being loyal to you, but his bitterness is sending him down a dark path of want revenge. The trust is gone. You knew what you were doing and yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Accidentally mislead my boyfriend? How do I come clean?Am I the only one who feels like nobody is under an obligation to hash out every detail of the past? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/18 04:00 PM |
| 2 | SAHWs I need some inspiration...Good idea. I use Erin Condren hourly. I had a bullet journal, but my perfectionism and childlike drawing skills left me anxious, so I got a pre made one. I love it. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/03/18 08:43 PM |
| 3 | SAHWs I need some inspiration...Plan it out in a planner maybe? IDK I love planners. Sounds like you might enjoy a volunteer group or meet up? | /r/RedPillWives | 08/03/18 05:42 PM |
| 10 | Submissive Behaviour as StrategyThe more I let myself be feminine, the happier I feel and the easier life is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/18 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Mental ImprovementsNice. Also we should give ourselves a break. My culture is really into self improvement but don’t forget to enjoy life now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/18 05:57 PM |
| 1 | journalling / bullet journals?Yes...but I quit bujo. It stressed me out. In my premade planner now I simple make a note at the top of the week no fighting (nitpicking or distrusting) and be kind. Goes for everyone. It helps because if I feel emotional I see that note and I realize it’s a choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/18 05:50 PM |
| 5 | Overcoming addiction to attentionNew hobbyies are great. Remember quality over quantity. Attention from one good guy is worth way more than brief shallow attention from many people. It comes down a lot to fear of missing out. You won’t miss anything by doing a craft rather than posting a photo, or texting a real friend rather than tweeting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/18 05:48 PM |
| 1 | How long did the "honeymoon phase" last for you and what was that like?I don’t really buy into that stuff. It seems like maybe a crush could be that way. Each day we love each other more. The more you trust, the more you love. Trust takes time. I have trust issues, so time makes things better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/18 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Advice on how to grow the f*** up? (tough love needed)All this advice is good. I feel like you might find a man who can easily provide for you and kids, given you want to focus on motherhood. It’s easy. Obviously he must be kind and you must love each other. A protective guy who wants to help you heal from the past is good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/18 09:08 PM |
| 6 | How to keep from sleeping with a guy you're not dating?Yeah do not get back with him, ever. I can clearly see he was contributing to your sickness. He does not love you, I’m sorry. He may love your company or what you do for him. True love wants the best for the other. This guy wanted you to be more anorexic just to please him. No. I have a high drive, too. Please remember that there is no such thing as no strings attached. Someone will get hurt. And you would feel empty. You may need to get some help, there’s no shame in it. It will help you heal f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/18 09:01 PM |
| 8 | Alpha, beta and the ideal RPW marriage.A gentleman. The last part is so accurate. I consider TRP guys seeking to juggle a bunch of women as not mature as men. Still trying to let women make them masculine, dissipating all their energy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/18 08:57 PM |
| 2 | QuestionsI’m like you and pretty loyal, but it isn’t a terrible idea to make yourself go on some coffee or dinner dates with others until you know for sure the one you want is committed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/18 06:39 PM |
| 1 | QuestionsIt depends what you mean by seeing other people. If you go to dinner with more than 1 man, have not made a commitment, and none of you are physical, it’s not a big deal and could keep you from overcommiting before he does. These days some women are physical with multiple men at once, that’s definitely a bad idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/18 06:37 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI liked that book better than the others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/18 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Is there anything left to fix or is the damage already done?Yes! Absolutely. That must come first before any decisions are made. I found it concerning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/18 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Question Regarding My Husband’s Treatment Of Our SonI agree, and I’m sure when they spend quality time he’s showing he does care. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 07:10 PM |
| 4 | Question Regarding My Husband’s Treatment Of Our SonOP says the dad spends lots of quality time with their son. He may be a bit brusque, but these are lessons the son will grow from. For previous generations this was normal. And men became adults at 20; look at many men today: can’t do laundry, crippling anxiety, video games all day, incapable of relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Question Regarding My Husband’s Treatment Of Our SonThat’s a good point. I wonder if the prevalence of anxiety disorders is related. Mothers are nurturing and single moms could foster dependence without intending it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:50 PM |
| 1 | False nails?Can we see? I’ve had gel but never fake nails, the only ones I notice are the obviously fake ones since they stand out. I’m interested to see your natural style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:12 PM |
| 1 | False nails?I see nothing wrong with wearing them for fun sometimes. I only imagine it would get impractical if it was always. I don’t wear red lipstick every day, I think natural is better, but I might wear it now and then for fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Finally losing weight! (So excited)What is your diet consisting of? I’m not overweight, but would like to slim down. Yet as someone with anemia, I feel weak most of the time and end up eating extra when I try to do 1200. Is it protein focused? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Question Regarding My Husband’s Treatment Of Our SonI really don’t think this is cruel. If he’s very cold to your son 100% of the time that’s one thing, but these seem like he’s a little rough but not cruel. His job is to teach your son to be a man and be strong. My dad was somewhat like this, I’m a woman but it still allowed me to cope as an adult. Is your husband from a rural background? Those types can seem a bit rougher around the edges, but he will teach your son strength. Your son does not need 2 mothers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:08 PM |
| 5 | Question Regarding My Husband’s Treatment Of Our SonThis...my dad was like this too but now I can handle high stress things where I saw my peers break down...fathers teach children to be adults. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/18 02:06 PM |
| 7 | Check out this article about casual sexI always thought it was so nuts to hear advice like “don’t have sex until the third date.” Are you serious? And that’s supposed to be some kind of achievement in discipline. This is for woman who want to make him their boyfriend. I can’t imagine knowing someone well enough or trusting at that point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/18 04:16 PM |
| 2 | RPW on "hard mode": seeking advice from other women with stressful jobs!Censoring yourself: yup. I have to be a level of fake with people, really just boundaries and manners, because they are not my family. Even if I see them more, it doesn’t matter, as I open up only to my bf. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/18 04:13 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being so "boy obsessed"?I’ve always been a bit like that. I daydreamed about boys for as long as I can remember. There’s nothing wrong with you for having a healthy interest in men. So I noticed with myself, I would sometimes neglect my interests, because I was so focused on someone outside myself I personally didn’t seem important enough to spend time on me. Needing a guy there validating me before I could focus on myself. There is also the fear of missing out; like if I immerse myself in a hobby, I’ll miss some time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/18 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Redpill book recommendations for 17 year old girl?Gone with the Wind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 02:25 PM |
| 2 | Making friends with his friends gf.Curious, why does your bf want this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Losing our sex lifeHave you built him up recently, tell him he’s hot, you believe in him, you see him as a success? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 06:08 PM |
| 4 | [Question] i actually thought that the part of being a wife is to satisfy the sexual needs of your husband? But why are there wives who carelessly declined to have sexual interaction with their husband???I don’t know why women do something so cruel as to cut off sex from their husbands, and I can’t relate, it is all very sad. Sometimes I think in my country lingering puritan culture makes people prudish. Edit: hormonal birth control reduces a lot of women’s libido and the doctors and media play this down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 06:04 PM |
| 31 | F (26) How to not be damaged goodsYou are a human being with dignity, you are not “goods.” Try dropping that label. Therapy, nun mode, friends, and getting to know a patient guy slowly.. People with trust issue must must go slowly (Everyone should vet someone slowly but it’s very important if you have trust issues.). He should be patient and tolerant and understanding, and not a guy who will be traumatized from hearing about your trauma...that will only make you feel worse. He should be a strong type. It gets better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 06:01 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend is on his phone a lotThis isn’t unusual. He doesn’t appear to be doing anything bad or anything you woudn’t like on there, it’s just using it too much. It may be as simple as politely telling him at a restaurant that you prefer meals to be screen-free. You may have to do this a few times but over time it may get better. I kind of disagree that you should compete with the phone, that’s a bit sad. This is a manners thing, and he seems like a good guy so I feel over time it may work to mention that you prefer good tabl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 05:57 PM |
| 3 | [Late 20sF] "I've met a ton of amazing, successful single women, but the number of good looking, intelligent, successful men is much fewer. AND when you add 'looking for a relationship' it's even less. Where have all the good men gone?"When I read that part, I felt like a plumber, “I think I found your problem.” | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/02/18 03:02 AM |
| 3 | [Late 20sF] "I've met a ton of amazing, successful single women, but the number of good looking, intelligent, successful men is much fewer. AND when you add 'looking for a relationship' it's even less. Where have all the good men gone?"I’m sorry but unbalance is not a word. I was going to forget about it, but she used it twice. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 25/02/18 02:57 AM |
| 1 | My boyfriend broke up with me because of jealousyYeah, you aren’t compatible right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 09:39 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend broke up with me because of jealousyHe needs to heal a bit, but if he decides a part of him will always be like this, he would need to date someone who is not a social butterfly or anything that would make him feel threatened. I am sure his experiences gave him a false idea that being left for another guy is normal and common. You seem to not have the same values on this, and you seem more social than he is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 08:56 PM |
| 7 | When, if ever, should you concern yourself with SO’s opposite-sex friendships?I am a bit cynical, maybe not the right word, but I don’t think there are cheaters or non-cheaters, but just people. Some people are more likely to maybe because they choose to tempt fate, but my point is, I think people should avoid situations of temptation as much as possible and that it could be dangerous if they don’t. Could but won’t always be. I am conservative though, I prefer that my partner and I limit opposite sex friendships to seeing them in groups or occasional small talk, no long e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Does your SO have influence on the way you dress?He gets a say in my jewelry when he buys it for me. I always like it. He likes me in black, which is good, because I don’t plan on stopping wearing it. If he tells me a certain color looks great on me, I listen, because I like the feed back. He also likes a certain undertone in my hair so I play it up a little bit, but all of these things I have done on my own as well, so it works out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend wants a baby but will never be homeGood, I am glad you will be clear with him, I think you can both communicate this and figure it out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Article: Why Men Marry Some Women and Not OthersI read this book, and I found it is one of the best books out there, as it is based on statistics and polls, not just concepts that worked for one person. Some good information that I got was men over 40 or so who have been married and divorced, are much more likely to remarry, than a man over 40 or so who has never married before. He said that women who grew up with brothers sometimes find it easier to get married. That is a generalization, but even if you did not, think about any guys you had … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Article: Why Men Marry Some Women and Not OthersAbsolutely, don’t get a party fun girl reputation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend wants a baby but will never be homeOkay, that is good. Remember that hinting or implying marriage and support, really needs to be backed up with strong actions. And I agree you should not be left to deal with pregnancy, labor, and a newborn all alone. Even if you feel like you need to hurry to have a baby for any reason, I think it’s smart to hold off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend wants a baby but will never be homeI read everything it comes across like you are considering his idea of having a baby outside of wedlock. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Left a 2.5yr relationship. How long does emotionally unavailable last? [25F]Also don’t buy guys stuff, that is a low value move. I mean don’t buy stuff early on and shower him with gifts, that is the reverse of what should happen. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend wants a baby but will never be homeI mean don’t say “I will have a baby if we get married.” Say “I would never consider having a baby with a guy I am not married to now.” Your situation is nuts if you are considering this and you are in more trouble than you realize. I really hope you set this boundary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Left a 2.5yr relationship. How long does emotionally unavailable last? [25F]Young adult groups in church! It’s less pressure than dating but lots of people find spouses that way. Don’t assume there are no high value guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend wants a baby but will never be homeTell him you won’t have a baby and commit to being alone so long without marriage...that security matters for you and the kid...you have no protection as a gf only and bringing a kid into that isn’t fair... | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:48 PM |
| 24 | Caught husband doing drugsTalk to him and tell him you are concerned. Steroids have bad long term health effects. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:47 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend broke up with me because of jealousyI can understand the principle he’s coming from, in the sense that in a serious relationship I think the people should both be a bit less friendly to opposite sex than before...but that should come from a place where, they are saving their best energy and sincere attention for each other, so as a natural thing they don’t have the same energy for outside people. But he has taken it very far, and I am sure it’s because of his ex leaving him and that happening to his friend. To him it probably feel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Do I need to change?I used to be around people who had way more education than me, and their identity was wrapped up in being academic. I had different goals. Although I knew I was ok, I could tell they believed I had nothing going on in my head because I was not like them. They were rude and only talked about their thesis topics, excluding people who didn’t have the same knowledge. It was easy to believe they were right, my brain was empty, and feel bad about myself. Distancing myself from that crowd helped. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/18 05:12 PM |
| 3 | [Serious question] am i slut just bc i have alot of guy friends??Great comment! It’s also interesting that male friends may react unexpectedly to your finding a man. I had a guy friend where all we did was talk about girls he liked and men I might date. I felt safe since he always liked some girl or other. Once I got a boyfriend, he almost immediately lost contact. Fine with me since guy friends complicate things. But I never would have expected him to be weird about me getting a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/18 04:59 PM |
| 5 | Not the "Ideal" Woman ?Your boyfriend cheated on you and you found out on Valentine’s day? I am not sure how I wouldn’t be upset with him all the time, but then I would not stay. Do you have a short fuse with everyone, or just him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/18 07:12 PM |
| 3 | "More and more women are asking why they can’t find a good man to marry"Serious question, where are you from and where did you meet him? Unfortunately, even women who want to marry at that age, if they are growing up in an area where that is considered taboo, will be hard-pressed to find a man interested in marriage. Big liberal cities are like this. People that grow up in small towns in the south and Midwest can expect that lots of men will seriously look for a wife in high school. In big cities, if someone gets married at 23 people are appalled and gossip about it… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 19/02/18 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Why not issue ultimatums?I don’t see how sharing with a guy that you want marriage and family one day is an ultimatum. Guys you date should always know early on that you don’t date just to pass the time. An ultimatum is dating him for a year and saying propose by this month or else I leave. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/18 08:00 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with ageing and the shift in value?The thing is, being aware of how age affects us is half the battle. Now you can age gracefully and dress with taste. The problem is when people pretend it won’t happen and act 20 at 30, and embarrass themselves. Or when they don’t find a man in time. You have one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/18 02:48 PM |
| 2 | How do you LET / GET a man to take care of you?If your first paragraph isn’t happening with a guy, then you are not actually dating. Don’t get confused. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/18 09:36 PM |
| 10 | Is there any right way to "ask a guy out"?I advise against asking him out. You could make it super obvious that if he asks you out, you will accept. Maybe just say it outright. But the ball is in his court. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/18 09:10 PM |
| 6 | Why would a high-quality man marry?Passing on their genes, wanting a woman to inspire and push them to greatness, the benefits of family. It’s often important to image and career. The benefits of regular access to one woman. Lots of Christian high value men believe in marriage. I consider monogamous men higher value than men trying to get many women. The latter hasn’t grasped that women don’t make him a man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/18 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Does this count as "good advice" from the red pill? And is it common sense?Dude I think you need to move. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/18 07:07 PM |
| 3 | A Letter for Blue PillWomen don’t like guys who hate their entire gender. This. The kind of guy that gets lots of women has many of the traits RP wants such as being confident. But bitterness towards women, like on TRP, is an attraction killer. The men who actually really enjoy women are the men in demand. When I was dating and perceived a man to be bitter to women, I was very turned off and rejected him. All of my friends did the same, instinctively. The thinking of women as children is based on bitterness. Guys who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/18 06:53 PM |
| 33 | I'm attracting men in better shape than me and not sure how to proceedKeep losing weight, first of all, until you’re healthy and look great. Keep wearing flattering clothes, every woman should do that. If you’re getting dates with them then don’t worry. Are they asking for second dates? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/18 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Please help: I have 2 questions about TRPWe’ve been trying to discourage those guys from doing that recently, I think it’s been going well. I am Christian and I take what I like and leave the rest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Am I being a bitch?I don’t know what they are thinking, but I wouldn’t go. Did you used to be close up your cousin? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 08:55 PM |
| 9 | Men talking about past relationshipsUm is he comparing everyone badly to the perfect ex? He’s not ready to date. Was he abused or something, nervous about dating, and reminding himself “this is a different and much nicer girl”? Proceed with caution but if you love him healing happens, most people have been burned. But as you are with him longer he should get more forward looking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 08:54 PM |
| 4 | VulnerabilityHaving “soft” emotions and not trying to cover them up and act tough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/18 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Does Love exists for an unattractive woman?Online dating works out all the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/18 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Does Love exists for an unattractive woman?Please say you fake tan. Skin cancer is bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/18 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Does Love exists for an unattractive woman?There is always someone cooler than you. And that’s ok. You’re enough. Unattractive women can do quite a lot to maximize their assets. Fitness, makeup, hair, clothing, skincare. Of course love exists for them. Believe me, I’ve seen many plain women get devoted husbands by having a great personality. I don’t mean like interesting, I mean truly feminine. Men go for women like that who are safe, who will always support them. They are practical. Hot women can be really objectified but struggle to fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/18 04:34 PM |
| 1 | How Can I Bring My Girlfriend to a Relationship with Jesus?In general you ask the Holy Spirit to convert people. You can’t do it on your own power. | /r/RPChristians | 06/02/18 05:15 PM |
| 5 | How do you show gratitude to your man?Compliments...I remember some politician who had an affair was in the news, and apparently the mistress would tell him “you’re hot.” Don’t underestimate the power of a sincere compliment. Men really don’t get them out in the wild the way women do. He will seriously appreciate you if you verbalize sincere compliments. Don’t assume he already knows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/18 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Please help me understand relationshipsIt sounds like you don’t know how t be vulnerable without being dependent. Like to be strong you close off your emotions and block out even the good ones. Maybe practice deliberate vulnerability like admitting you need people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/18 05:10 PM |
| 5 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I relate to him, in that I can enjoy activities a lot if I feel they have a purpose but don’t feel drawn to do things purely for amusement. Maybe you can frame things in a way where you don’t use the word fun and present the reasons, like learning at a museum, watching a movie to relax and bond, etc. You could even read theologians and philosophers like Aquinas or Aristotle and their view on leisure. Some great thinkers say it is a great good because it helps us reset and relax and it reflects o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/18 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Open relationship, stupid idea?Bad idea. It’s a grass is greener thing. People in couples should be mature enough to realize there’s nothing out there that’s so important they can’t miss it, they are supposed to love the one they are with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/18 01:45 PM |
| 13 | Advice please, boyfriend cleaning too much?Lol you’re complaining your boyfriend cleans. What next, he’s too affectionate and takes you out to nice dinners too much? There are many ways to show you care for him besides cleaning. That’s a classic one but it’s kind of a stereotype to say that’s all you have to offer. I’m sure you can show love in other ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/18 02:35 PM |
| 4 | Honest question, why does SMV matter if all men are inherently horny and looking for partners?Say you’re a scientist. You want to get really advanced in your field and explore all the possibilities. What will help you learn more—a full time secure job with benefits that allows you to maximize your potential? Or a freelancing lifestyle of short gigs with little depth and constant changing material? The second situation will only give you a superficial knowledge of your science and you’ll be too focused on surviving without stable work to get into it. You won’t know your coworkers or be a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Honest question, why does SMV matter if all men are inherently horny and looking for partners?I didn’t say it was fair. But it’s how society sees men and women. And women get strong attachment hormones if they sleep with a man. That’s a huge disadvantage if you are just a plate. People like to pretend they can overcome biology but it’s not true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 08:30 PM |
| 6 | Honest question, why does SMV matter if all men are inherently horny and looking for partners?Why can’t you explore your sexuality with your husband? Must it be multiple guys? You’d think it would be easier to “explore” with a husband who knows you well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 06:22 PM |
| 9 | Curious about engagement stories from more traditional standardsEven in my church community people dated as a couple before engagement. But it was closer to your way, no living together or being attached at the hip. You’ll be hard pressed to find guys that will propose while you aren’t dating yet but it could happen. That system probably used to help women a lot because she could have several options and only have to commit after a ring is on her finger. So it encouraged guys to propose quickly. And she didn’t give up that commitment which is of high value t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Honest question, why does SMV matter if all men are inherently horny and looking for partners?Yeah what do you mean by that? If you mean being completely identical in every way, then no, that’s not the “equality” we preach. If you mean both have equal value and dignity as human beings, but they play different roles, then that is RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 05:23 PM |
| 8 | Honest question, why does SMV matter if all men are inherently horny and looking for partners?Because if you don’t vet you could end up with a loser guy who treats you badly. It’s common sense to learn the character of people who want to be in your life. That’s not a RP idea at all, it’s a universal don’t be an idiot idea. Make sure the person you date is trustworthy and good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 05:20 PM |
| 2 | When a man says, “Don’t worry, I’ll handle it.”I can’t answer this without more details. Do you mean he doesn’t vacuum just how you like? Or do you mean he doesn’t clean cutlery used to chop something you’re super allergic to? | /r/RedPillWives | 24/01/18 09:19 PM |
| 5 | Losing my virginity [advice]Glad you weren’t seeking it out. Still, he seems to be prioritizing you losing your virginity and that seems to be the focus of your plans with him. He’s treating LTR as a future maybe/carrot on a stick but putting the virginity thing first. Hints from a TRP guy about maybe one day committing to you are worth about their weight in dust. I wouldn’t trust it. It’s supposed to be that love and commitment is the goal. I know people who were robbed at gunpoint meeting someone online and others who ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 05:16 PM |
| 2 | A cake a weekI love baking too but we both try to limits sweets intake. I like finding middle grounds like the healthy versions, cake only lightly sweetened, breads, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 04:42 PM |
| 18 | Losing my virginity [advice]Girl?? Meeting a guy from a forum who is eager to help you lose your virginity? You know that’s how people end up in trunks of cars? I think it’s really odd you’re just trying to find a guy to lose your virginity to. You should be looking for a captain. IMO Any guy who is willing to sleep with a woman just to “help” her lose her virginity is a giant walking red flag and possible worse. I suggest you reorganize your priorities and ask yourself why you aren’t looking for an actual relationship. Wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 12:07 AM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?Awesome comment. I had a man tell me it’s the worst time to be alive as a woman. We can do our part. By grace we’ve seen the truth. We can be the change we want to see and we can raise our kids with truth. More and more people are tired of the sjw stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:33 PM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?I tend to believe those women are all kidding themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:28 PM |
| 1 | How can I encourage my girlfriend to keep trying?You can filter the site so only people above a certain match % go to inbox, the rest go to spam folder. Have her set it at 90%. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Relying on a man for financial supportSo what does for a long time mean? Like you’re afraid he won’t marry you? Or you think he’ll definitely marry you? If it’s the latter I wouldn’t look a gift horse in the mouth. If you fear a career gap work anyway... | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Healing from past relationships and sexual behavior, any advice?There is no point in ruminating on the past beyond simply “I regret that and will do differently now on.” Don’t wallow for years denying hope or love over this. Your choices are to either give up and let yourself go or to do damage control and make the best of it. It’s possible to find love. It’s unrealistic to expect every single man to not be affected by your past, but even without your past you could never get every guy to like you. I think it might be good to talk to someone about the child … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Does Stoicism work for feminine women the way it usually does for masculine men? + On the inability to be vulnerable even with loved onesTo answer your title. I don’t think hard and cold Stoicism is ideal for women, but I do think have an inner life you can go to is essential. Like a place you meditate and feel whole. Without needing validation. Otherwise you’re just dependent on other people to make you feel ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:18 PM |
| 1 | I want to be ladylike, but instead, I feel childish.I have a baby face and slender upper body and a lighter voice and I really struggle to not feel like I’m surrounded by grownups who want me at the kids’ table. People can’t help patronizing and giving advice. The only answer I know is to give myself total permission to be a woman no matter what others label me. I don’t need anyone’s permission or approval. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 07:15 PM |
| 12 | I have masculine interestsThose don’t seem masculine or feminine to me. Maybe arguing about politics in an aggressive way is but the rest are neutral. You can study politics without being argumentative or anything. Stereotypes aren’t good, feminine women have inner core of strength and warmth and it’s not about being miss homemaker in a pink skirt. If you enjoy that style it’s fine but it comes from within. Men want a lady who can give birth and raise kids, that takes strong woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 06:41 PM |
| 6 | I have masculine interestsBetter than a overweight woman who does not try. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 06:39 PM |
| 9 | Identity crisisI wish we didn’t call it rabies like it’s a disease. It’s a good and natural desire to want to have kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Relationship is sinking S.O.S!I’m pretty sure when you find a man who pulls his weight and shows affection, many of your emotional problems will disappear without therapy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 03:17 PM |
| 13 | Relationship is sinking S.O.S!Deadbeat dude. OP needs a responsible man who works. The difference will be like night and day. Most of the resentment is from OP doing everything and him being a dependent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 03:13 PM |
| 1 | How should I deal with my husband who doesn’t work?I'm assuming he actually is looking for work? Just believe in him and trust him as if he's ambitious and successful, it does work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 06:14 PM |
| 3 | On vetting marriage minded menYeah I wouldn't punish people for their families, as long as they are their own person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Does my profession matter?The only thing I cared about was not making so much that men don't feel needed and not putting career above him. If we were already married and I sold a book or something of course that would be great. But it's different bc I wouldn't be at an office all day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Moving In TogetherI agree I don't think it's wise to play house. Women see it as moving forward but men often let it delay marriage. He will get all the wife benefits without marrying you. People who don't live together first have a lower divorce rate. I would only do it if circumstances were dire financially or something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 06:10 PM |
| 5 | Spending winters apart to escape the dreaded coldGet the lamp and vitamins before making such big decisions. Test the lamp bc it can cause anxiety or manic feelings in certain people. Most are fine, though. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/01/18 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Being "high maintenance" - opinions?It's about believing you are hot too bc that attitude is intriguing to men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Is it too late to secure a real commitment from my boyfriend?You seem scared to admit to him just how important marriage is to you. Maybe that's because you didn't tell him sooner. It's fine to change your mind so don't feel bad if you are like "marriage is non negotiable for me and I need it within a certain frame" but say it just as in general not in a "you in particular must marry me." Maybe start there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 10:22 PM |
| 10 | My friend is giving red pill a bad nameRP doesn't mean desperately making a man like you who doesn't want to be there. It's presumed the relationship is loving and secure. RP just makes it better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 09:53 PM |
| 3 | What personality are you?Me too. And I usually don't know why I get that look like I have three heads. So I am quiet in big groups and then get "you're so quiet!" Just stick to the people who get you, who you trust. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/18 10:49 PM |
| 3 | What personality are you?I'm INFP as well. Very sensitive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/18 08:01 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend is paranoid he's found a unicorn (me) and he feels anxious.Is there a way you can make it clear that you're morally opposed to no-fault divorce? Assuming you are. My bf I think is confident in me bc I'm Catholic and we don't do that. Being Catholic made me finally open to the idea of marriage. I would hope all RP women are against no-fault divorce. Maybe that will help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/18 08:00 PM |
| 11 | Women in media?April Ludgate from Parks & Rec. She pretends to not care with most people, but she's completely devoted to Andy. Like not afraid to marry him young when feminist Leslie freaks out saying "but you CAN'T get married, you're not ready!" Feminists assume marrying young is a bad idea. April did it anyway. She's very strong but never picks fights with Andy. If you watch you will see she's tolerant and devoted. When Andy sends her his laundry in the mail, Ben tries to say "ew gross" and April, rather t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/18 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Women in media?YES! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/18 07:52 PM |
| 1 | I don't want to go to church anymore.A lot of people who are tired of the hippie influence on modern churches like the Latin rite of catholic mass. Medieval grandeur and beautiful chant. Frankly some of those churches you went to sounded cult-like. There are places that are not that way. | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/18 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Not a virginThe oddest thing about her is you say she openly admitted to traveling with a non single guy and sleeping in his bed and it didn't even occur to her that this was really inappropriate because she shared it with you. (I'm assuming it was just sharing and not confessing "oh I did this in the past and I regret it."). That's just not good if someone thinks being like that with unavailable men is ok. | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/18 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Not a virginlol I love that. I'm a book and music snob but the truth is I also enjoy YA fiction as well as classics. | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/18 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Trying to understandTotally yeah. I see those women on WhereAreAllTheGoodMen and I know it's real. But so are serially cheating men who support can girls and have affairs. And abusers. You always take a huge risk to love someone. And I fully agree on the state of marriage today. That's why I stay in my Catholic Church where divorce is not an option if you want to remarry. My Christian view trumps RP for me. Basically RP is about nature and my faith is about grace. So all humans do have certain destructive tendencie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/18 02:16 AM |
| 3 | Trying to understandIf I am on RPW do you really think I want to take up with aging feminists? I just disagree that literally all married people cheat. And I'm not preaching to you, you are entitled to never get married at all. This all just started with me wanting clarity on a point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/18 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Trying to understandThinking it's a chance is different from assuming it's literally happening in every case, that's what my question was. Married men cheat too but I wouldn't assume every single man does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/18 10:42 PM |
| 1 | What is the value of femininity?Cool. Yes, she's super strong in the best way. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 09:53 PM |
| 1 | What is the value of femininity?I'm glad I'm Catholic and have Mary. She's so greatly honored and is both feminine and very strong. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Dating Christian women?Feminist Puritanism. I have seen those books for women. Most of the authors are single women over 30 or even 40. The only exception is this one married couple and I think they got more idealistic and up tight after they were married. Nothing like a married couple getting regular sex, preaching to singles about how easy it is to be celibate, how gravely important it is, and what failures they are if they don't. One book this single woman said to dump some Christian man because he was really attra… | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:32 PM |
| 2 | Dating Christian women?A woman dumped you for lack of "spiritual chemistry?" That's a little crazy. The women I know who won't consider a man unless they 100% share their entire interior spiritual landscape are single and in some are convents. Only Jesus is going to satisfy that. Those girls who fall for a youth group celebrity because he talks all sensitive about his spiritual life are kind of groupies, it's immature and I wouldn't say you are missing out. Find a more grounded Christian woman. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Advice to get over a breakup ?You should be fully depending on God right now. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:26 PM |
| 1 | How much to value physical attraction in datingWhen you say you want a sexy girl, do you mean like someone who everyone finds sexy, as a status thing, or do you mean one you are personally attracted to? Which matters more? Attraction really matters, everyone else thinking your spouse is hot is less important. University is a weird time, but if you don't give up you can find a woman who fits what you need. Be open minded. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Is speaking harshly to your wife a sin?I wouldn't do it without good reason. Like if she was about to step on a rattlesnake and you yelled to stop her from being hurt. As you would do for any friend. But using a short tone in daily life is hurtful to everyone, and women are usually even more sensitive to words. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Should Christians Care About Physical Attractiveness?Yes. You should. Not in the sense of a vain idea that everyone must think your spouse is hot. But you must be attracted. Married sex is a gift from God to create new human beings made in His image and to bond the couple for a happier family. A marriage without sex is bad, and withholding it without good reason is cruel. So you really need to make sure the chemistry is there. No you don't need to sleep together before marriage, but you need to be attracted. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:20 PM |
| 7 | Trying to understandI definitely see young women do this for sure. I know what you mean, but I was kind of unclear if the RP view of AF/BB is literal or not. Some RP men seem to actually believe that every single married women chose some sucker for his wallet, and is out right now carrying Chad's baby. I know that's false, although the AF/BB concept is an important idea. Younger women pull this stuff more because in high school and college men don't have that alpha trait of making a mark in the world and a name for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/18 08:16 PM |
| 1 | For those who are married or want to marry: Why?/thread Thanks for clarifying the first point. I absolutely love my bf in the Christian sense of I want what is best for him and I want him to be happy. I promise you this is a strong urge for me. OP seems upset at the different forms of attraction for men and women; men are more into femininity and beauty, women are attracted to strength and protection. Women talk about their men being good providers to show other women, or their family, that they are safe with their man--that they aren't marry… | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:12 PM |
| 4 | The RP is tearing me apart. Don't know what to do.This is smart. The relationship with God cures dependence on normal humans to satisfy all our needs. Non Christian RP tries to cure the disease by detaching from the one woman and spreading out among many so you don't feel too much, but that still will not fully satisfy and make you more a slave. Always needing women to feel masculine. The separate connection to God is what breaks you free. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 08:01 PM |
| 6 | Trying to understandI asked if it was literal or not. Is it supposed to be a phrase to illustrate a concept, or is it a literal belief? I have read and spoke to several RP men who explicitly said they think every woman actively cheats like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/18 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Not a virginIDK though I mean guys enjoy comic books and cheesy action movies; I think it's ok to enjoy low brow stuff. | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Not a virginIt really matters whether or not a woman was Christian at the time of sexual actions. Some women were reverts or converts and spent time brainwashed by the culture. Be careful not to get prideful about this. Having the grace to be born Christian and stay that way your whole life is not something you did, God did that. I've seen men and women get really prideful about this and it's sad. I also talked to Christian men who had decided no Christian woman was good and pure enough for them. One even s… | /r/RPChristians | 06/01/18 07:51 PM |
| 6 | Trying to understandI never really got this thing. Do RP guys literally think that all women marry a beta dude and use his money, but then run around serially cheating with "Chad?" Do they not realize that many women have no interest in that? Or that men exist that have the best of both worlds, and can satisfy her? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/18 07:40 PM |
| 17 | How to get started with wearing jewelry?This is my traditional view: Read up on jewelry for different ages. It's intuitive. You know the bling earrings at Forever 21 are for a younger crowd than the heavy jeweled necklace. Traditional is good. Pearls, silver, gold. I believe only women of a certain age can wear a lot of heavy jewelry. It looks really elegant and regal on older women, but on younger women it is kind of tacky. Basically as you age, your jewelry can get a little more indulgent or mature. I wouldn't wear large diamond ear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Hard vs. Soft "Next" for a RPWWhat even is a soft next. It's not a next if you keep them around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:48 PM |
| 2 | We (29F, 40M) are pregnant after ~two months of dating. Help!Sounds like life is happening! Sometimes our best laid plans, pardon the pun, get changed. Guy loves you, owns dream home, is committed, blessing of a child, mom happy...why not go for it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:47 PM |
| 1 | 23F & I want to truly connect with the right man w/out resorting to the CC. Input?By the way, give men a chance who you aren't sure about at first but who are basically good to you and seem nice on dates. I think some women actually just need to get to know a guy a little bit before she can even figure out how she feels. It's a defense mechanism to shut off your feelings until you know it's safe. Frankly a guy who you know really loves you and has your values will naturally form a bond. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:43 PM |
| 1 | 23F & I want to truly connect with the right man w/out resorting to the CC. Input?OP has it backwards. Compatibility + Attraction = intense bond forms. Not the other way around. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:41 PM |
| 1 | 23F & I want to truly connect with the right man w/out resorting to the CC. Input?Oh man that sucks for that girl, I hope she gets it together asap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:39 PM |
| 1 | 23F & I want to truly connect with the right man w/out resorting to the CC. Input?I am from Eastern European family but born American. Can I ask if your close family members carry the values from EE or US? Because they are different, quite different in some ways, and I have always been a little at odds with the prevailing attitude here. Because if it's a strong influence on how you are, you should factor in what you need of a man who understands that about you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:37 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI don't believe there can be exclusive opposite sex friendships among heterosexual people. Not always a popular opinion. That is, a group of friends that is gender mixed is ok. Hanging out one on one, no. And groups of only opposite sex is a red flag too. Men and women are designed to be attracted when spending lots of time in close quarters. Someone ready for marriage should be greatly reducing or even totally letting go of those exclusive friendships. Many disagree but I could never be with a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:31 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsSubs have different goals, as you can see. We aren't strategizing to change TRP dudes and "catch" them. We're trying to be happy and good women for a guy who's interested in marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:28 PM |
| 1 | How can I (22F) bring up my problematic parents to a man I'm datingWait until you know he really is into you and committed. You have no obligation to reveal everything at once, although you do have an obligation to share relevant information before marriage. We don't tell people to share their baggage on date 1. Let him fall for you. Open up about it little at a time. Don't seem bitter. People respect more of you open up little by little. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:27 PM |
| 2 | The vast majority of people I know who recently had a baby are unmarried. Why is this the new normal?I really can't answer this without more info on who these people are, their location (rural? Small town? Urban?) their ages, and how you know them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:24 PM |
| 1 | The vast majority of people I know who recently had a baby are unmarried. Why is this the new normal?Preaching to the choir there about the state of marriage today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:23 PM |
| 1 | The vast majority of people I know who recently had a baby are unmarried. Why is this the new normal?All the men I know are really wanting marriage. We are all Catholic though, so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:23 PM |
| 2 | tips on living in a feminist world with traditonal values?I wouldn't preach either. Live by example and you might get converts. 2 friends have come to me after changing their mind set on stuff like this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:19 PM |
| 1 | tips on living in a feminist world with traditonal values?If you're tired of it just move somewhere more traditional. That's what I'm doing. Also church. But as you've noticed, prideful traditional women can be just as arrogant as liberals, so don't assume it will be a picnic. It just will be nicer not to be seen as somehow bad. Liberals tend to see non liberals as almost criminal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Confused!Seems like a punk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Confused!OP I don't really like the terms alpha and beta, but basically you want a man who has enough leadership traits to be attractive and reliable, but enough relational and loyalty traits to be there for you. Just the former types will be a flash in the pan fling, and the latter types might not have that spark. Find you a man who can do both... | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:16 PM |
| 2 | Confused!Hey now, there are plenty of guys who are tall and fit who are still nice and loyal. We shouldn't dismiss anyone based on good looks or bad looks. There are only average looking dudes who are players, and traditionally handsome men who are more shy or nerdy and prefer one woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Dennis Prager on "I'm Not Ready to Get Married"Feminism has screwed us. It's a sad time to be a woman. But there is hope. A woman is much better off acknowledging to her man how much the system can ruin men with divorce, how unfair it is, but then explaining that she does not believe in divorce except in abuse cases because her word and vows mean something. Hopefully all RPW feel this way. Acting like there isn't a problem against men won't make him trust you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Dennis Prager on "I'm Not Ready to Get Married"Preach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:05 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with boyfriend's bad moods when he gets home from work?I get what you're getting at here but this is way too legalistic and merciless. Where is the love? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:02 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with boyfriend's bad moods when he gets home from work?Everyone has to chill out when they get home. Let him be silent for like 30 min unless he wants to talk. You could turn the lights lower and bring him a cool or warm drink maybe. Also try to wait for him for dinner, the family that eats together stays together. Edit: I feel I need to add that if I disliked my job, came home tired, and my spouse was already eating dinner with Netflix, I would be sad. I would prefer to eat together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Becoming a High Value WomanYou don't notice the good ones because they look real. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 09:48 PM |
| 4 | Becoming a High Value WomanOP needs to do her own research. There's been a lot of progress and it's possible to get them done without affecting breastfeeding. They also don't always have to be replaced every 10 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Becoming a High Value WomanPretty much this. Hair dye, makeup, nails are fake too. Surgery is a much bigger commitment but it's the same idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Becoming a High Value WomanDon't listen to the "what 'real men' want" advice. And just do expressive research on everything about it. I'm sure you wouldn't want anything tacky, but it's possible to get very natural and tasteful enhancements. It's more serious than dying your hair, but it's the same concept. You can't live your life worrying about what a future guy would want because men are different. There's no such thing as "real men" liking natural or unnatural. For all you know the surgery could give you a confidence … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 09:42 PM |
| 4 | Horrible (curable) medical condition that’s destroying my SMV. Please help.Plus you have workout and diet habits you will keep after you're better, that's great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Looks of high value womenBasically internet and personal experience. You can google it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 09:36 PM |
| 7 | Horrible (curable) medical condition that’s destroying my SMV. Please help.Honey you need to focus on your health above all and not fret about these things. You are doing what they call "living in the wreckage of the future." You have already planned on surgery after recovery, so everything is going to be fine. It's going to be fine. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but I very much doubt you will be unattractive when it's all said and done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Looks of high value womenFYI on Biotin--it causes acne and weight gain for some. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Best way to respond when Captain says "I need to make more money for you"?Say you're happy with him no matter what, but you're so flattered by how sweet he is to you! Don't at all act like you need it or demand it, but be all smiley and sweet at him for saying it. Don't deflect it or say you don't need anything! That is rejecting him. But receive it gracefully, because the sentiment behind it is good. Trust me, when a guy has that overwhelming urge to get you nice things and take you nice places, that's a very good sign about how he feels. So be glad he's very into yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Thank you for reminding me to do self-care. It revealed a bigger problem's depth.I find little shortcuts. I'll take a relaxed bath and wash my hair tomorrow if a shower is too much work and it's cold in my bathroom. I don't feel like brushing my wet hair so I leave conditioner overnight and rinse it in the morning. Go easy on yourself. Half my stress was from some idea o got somewhere that unless I'm feeling tortured I'm not really working hard enough, no matter the task. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 08:32 PM |
| 6 | How to handle a bitchy boss with grace?I would struggle with that. You will get flack from unhappy feminist women because you challenge their view and make them envious all at once. Don't take it personally and don't expect her to change. Stay positive. I would probably be finding other work myself, do what you can. Get other influential people on your side to protect you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 08:29 PM |
| 7 | What’s the point?You're 10 years younger. Most men will always feel lucky to have a younger wife, even though you won't always be 23. You met still young so he will still see you as the young woman he fell for. Good people who love us don't toss aside women as we age. It's society. If you are in the U.S. we have a cult of youth. This isn't standard everywhere, in France they think older women are sexy, but the point is the problem is not him, it's the world. All the more reason to secure a loving husband and hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/18 08:26 PM |
| 3 | How do I get a dominant man?I just dated online and saw more profiles hinting at wanting a certain dynamic or calling oneself alpha. Personally the guy who's strong on the inside and doesn't need to flex his strength all the time is preferable for me. Nothing to prove. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 10:46 PM |
| 1 | How do I get a dominant man?Occasionally, and chatted with. I think the 50 Shades of Grey trend made more people do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 10:15 PM |
| 1 | How do I get a dominant man?Sure. A guy who's obsessed with sayibg how dominant and alpha he is rarely is, and it can attract unsafe people who want power for bad reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 08:41 PM |
| 6 | How do I get a dominant man?I can tell you what not to do. Don't advertise seeking a dominant man. If he has to say he's the king, he's not. Find the guy who is strong on the inside and therefore has no need to pose or show off. He might seem humble or shy at first. Still waters run deep. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 07:43 PM |
| 12 | How do I get a dominant man?Kind of harsh. Dominant doesn't mean inhuman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/18 06:46 AM |
| 3 | Afraid of vulnerabilityYou were never really vulnerable when single. Sharing doesn't mean vulnerable. If any of the guys rejected you after opening up, you weren't tied down so you could just go find a guy who did accept your sharing. But a committed relationship runs the risk of you opening up and being rejected and then you can't leave or go to another guy. So it's hard. Just practice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/17 09:40 PM |
| 2 | How can I get over my past sexual behavior?Pray 🙏 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/17 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Advice on backpedaling following swallowing TRP?You need to have an inner life even when with someone. Just have your own inner peace and place to be fulfilled. Then you aren't desperate for him to fulfill you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/17 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Can single girls participate here?I want this sub more active for the same reasons you listed. I wondered the same thing and I think anyone is welcome who wants to be RP. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/12/17 06:08 PM |
| 2 | What is the appeal of red pill to women who are fat or older?Everyone here is trying to maximize their strengths and play down weaknesses. Maybe a 22 year old here is young but isn't that attractive and maybe a 32 year old is over 30 but attractive, the point is making the best of what you have with a positive attitude. You can't improve anything if you won't admit a disadvantage. There's nothing offensive. I do believe in grace and miracles so I'm not as rigid in my acceptance of views here, but it is smart to be realistic and prepared. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/17 05:29 PM |
| 4 | What do you think is the cause of women becoming complacent?It's like you have to always fight society every waking moment to live right. If society actually pressured us to live right it would be so much easier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/17 06:30 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend seems like Captain material but he's not very political. It matters a lot to me. Does this even matter for a long term potential?This | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/17 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Appropriate expectations for emotional support?I like this. If you need to be obvious just say you need a hug. That gets it across and isn't critical. OP I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. Sounds like your husband bottles feelings to cope. I doubt he's purposely being insensitive. He might be trying to stay grounded so you can both function. Asking for hugs and to be held might be easier for him too then discussing feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/17 05:40 PM |
| 2 | How to show love to SO after having a fight where we both completely lost frame?That meltdown before going to a busy crowded place was me before getting on my flights tbh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/17 05:37 PM |
| 4 | Do men respect women with a mission?Everyone has a purpose here and needs to follow it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/17 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Simple Questions - December 02, 2017How can we get this sub more active? I like it but I wonder if the wives part makes unmarried women think they can't post. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Entertaining, Recipes, Crafts, Decor, Hobbies, etc. Megathread!!Try a scarf next. They are fun and not hard. I've been making my own patterns. Mostly just random K P patterns that make ribbing. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Entertaining, Recipes, Crafts, Decor, Hobbies, etc. Megathread!!Earl Grey cake is amazing too. A very light cake to have with tea. I make a light frosting with confectioners sugar and milk, no butter. It's lovely. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Entertaining, Recipes, Crafts, Decor, Hobbies, etc. Megathread!!Obsessively knitting. I have anxiety and probably ADHD although I don't know I believe in that, but I struggle with fidgeting and this hobby has really cut down on anxiety and on taking out my anxiety on others. It's bad but I would feel anxious and try to find a cause, when it's just my own issue. Knitting helps stress. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 03:57 PM |
| 1 | How are you supporting your man right now?Just believe in him. Treat him like he's a success and you know he can reach his goals, like you never had a thought that he wouldn't. People become what we tell them, to an extent. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 03:55 PM |
| 3 | 7 Habits That Make People Seem Less IntelligentI was going to say the exact same thing. It just is another feminist article telling women they aren't smart or powerful unless they ape men. Spread your legs and put your hands on your hips like Superman! Don't nod or be agreeable! I'm so sick of being told that being a woman isn't respectable or powerful. It's laughable how feminists claim women are superior and yet they can't stop whining until all men acknowledge them as good enough, and until they have completely cut out their femininity. W… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 03:49 PM |
| 7 | Camille Paglia - Women should regard men with a mix of gratitude and rational fearI have always felt ambitious and wanted to change the world. Just not in a corporate boardroom masculine career way. I can't stand that that's become the only respectable path for women. I've learned to channel that desire into creative pursuits that might inspire someone, prayers for others, serving others. Helping on any scale I can. I agree with the title. Fear doesn't mean terror or bring inferior, it's more a deep respect of men's strength and otherness. Having a healthy respect for a man b… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/12/17 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Sex Questions [NSFW]I just have to say that being Catholic isn't supposed to be about hating sex. Catholics are really pro sex in the right context and consider it God's gift. I'm sorry but I just hate that straw man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:33 PM |
| 2 | Judging other womenMaybe they are threatened. A woman staying by her husband's side represents a RPW idea and challenges feminist ideals of being Strong and Independent ™ | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Taking care of men when sick and the “man flu”I don't really understand this term. Im a woman and I'm the same, whenever I have a bad cold I think I'm dying. Being sick is rough so just take care of your SO. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Let him stand or help him stand?Do you think the mom is manipulative like my friend's case, or is she just an attached mother? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:09 PM |
| 5 | He's not fighting fair and it hurtsDo you have family? Can you get a motel even for a night to show him you're serious? You're allowed to get space too. Take action since no one can do it for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:06 PM |
| 2 | He's not fighting fair and it hurtsI dumped a guy for name calling. Fighting is one thing but names are not ok. Can I ask if these incidents always happen when he's been drinking? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:04 PM |
| 5 | Let him stand or help him stand?Not sure what you should do but please take this seriously. Being able to stand up to family of origin is crucial to a marriage. My friend and her husband are divorcing because his mother is so controlling and he can't say no to her. Now that was a very special case because the mom was kind of evil and trying to destroy my friend. Your case doesn't sound as bad. Mothers of sons usually feel a little like a woman is taking him away. But the questions is is he can stand up to her. Keep observing b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 03:00 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend is broken.I think he's just hurt and needs to heal. It's up to you to decide if you love and respect him enough to help through that or not. He deserves love and respect. Everyone has damage of some sort. Maybe his expressing fears about divorce is a cry for help, for you to counteract him and say why you're not like that. To give him hope. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 02:57 PM |
| 3 | Handling jealousy from other womenJealousy from other women is so hard. Believe me I get it. My general advice is awareness. Don't let anyone tell you you're imagining the envy. That way you are prepared. And warn your guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/17 06:41 PM |
| 4 | I'm overweight and my partner is not attracted to me. Please help...Try reading French Women Don't Get Fat. It's for women for 20lb or so to lose. Eat slowly, enjoy your food. You aren't rewarding yourself by overeating, you're just choosing a different sacrifice--giving up a lean body. Tell yourself you deserve to be thin. Learn to love black coffee, tea, and water. If water is boring drink those no calorie flavored seltzer ones. Change your mind to a thin person who is temporarily overweight, don't think of yourself as that girl who can't lose weight. I can't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/17 07:32 PM |
| 10 | I found out that the man I have been dating for two and a half months doesn't know my last name and Im unsure if I reacted the right way.A 30 year old man making a 21 year old woman pay for Air B&B to see him? Yeah no. Accept this as an expensive lesson, it will stick well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/17 02:50 PM |
| 13 | Update about possibly cheating boyfriendNow is a great time to turn to your faith to give you the strength to leave this cheater. Xo God Bless You. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/17 02:46 PM |
| 3 | How to complain less/It looks nice. No green at all! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/17 04:15 AM |
| 7 | How to complain less/Be careful I suggest you put a red tint in first before you go brunette again. The red is important or there could be a green tint to your brunette. It absorbs it from the yellow in the bleached hair. If it's too late and you see a green undertone, douse your head in ketchup and wear a shower cap for a few hours then rinse. It creates a chemical reaction to fix it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/17 04:39 AM |
| 7 | How to complain less/Hair dye dramas are serious crises! Lol. Believe me I understand. I wouldn't take it too personally if he said you were a princess. You could just joke around about how being a beautiful princess is hard work. I think it's ok to be yourself. If you had a bad day you did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/17 12:46 AM |
| 4 | Shedding negativity and presumed emotionsFor almost a year if I heard tense phone calls between people in the office I worried they were arguing about me. It's not your fault. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Shedding negativity and presumed emotionsLol yup. Dysfunctional families often have one person that's the scapegoat. That person gets treated and examined for "their" problems which are really a reaction to everyone else. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 05:06 PM |
| 6 | The Fastest Way To Push A Man AwayImportant lesson. Your feelings are yours, don't blame them on the nearest person. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/12/17 04:37 PM |
| 8 | Shedding negativity and presumed emotionsI'm very sensitive. My house was fraught with tension and fighting growing up and it was my job to be highly attuned to everyone's mood so I didn't get attacked. If captain gets quiet for a second I can go back into that "are you mad at me" thinking which truly baffles him. A decent person will not be mad at you for tiny things. Awareness is key and you have that. If you already are aware you project your feelings onto situations you can realize it's happening and that feelings are not facts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/17 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Trying to cope with cheating. Thoughts or advice?Sometimes I just feel sad on RPW because I feel like people think this sub is "why the woman is always the problem." We can clean up our side, but if someone is treating us badly to this extent you can't fix it and undo by your own self improvement. I personally don't think anyone deserves to put up with a cheater, it's a major dealbreaker for me. This philosophy isn't about how relationship issues are all our fault. It's about keeping marriages and LTRs that are solidly founded. It's about not … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 10:59 PM |
| 7 | I feel alone in my relationship. How do I talk to him about it?I think he's going through some grief stuff. I mean he lost a cousin and a gf unexpectedly. That needs to be worked through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Guy I'm seeing hasn't left my house for weeks, asked to be exclusive and gets jealous BUT he deliberately talks about other women constantlyI couldn't sit there and be insulted like that. Seems a clumsy attempt to neg or dread. Really poorly executed. I wouldn't take it to heart, but I also wouldn't take it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:56 PM |
| 7 | Would RP men consider it a red flag if their GF asked for an FMF threesome with them?That was really good of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:53 PM |
| 7 | Would RP men consider it a red flag if their GF asked for an FMF threesome with them?Be very careful. The gap between fantasy and reality is huge. A lot of people find that their acting out of such a fantasy ends up not only disgusting them IRL but permanently affects their relationship in a way that is irreparable. You've been warned. Sometimes fantasies need to stay that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 02:51 PM |
| 2 | How to show loyalty without being clingy or desperate??It's your actions. It's sticking by him if there are awkward moments. It's forgiving. It's not nagging. Loyalty isn't proclaiming your feelings all the time. Yes say you care. But acting clingy can be a selfish way to seek attention. A little can be charming, a lot is kind of selfish and a turn off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 07:25 PM |
| 3 | Do I [23F] put more effort or break up with my boyfriend [33M] of one year?My dad has advised me before not to even bother with a man who tries to suggest "meeting halfway" for dates. Seriously, he didn't think guys who think that way are provider-minded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 07:23 PM |
| 3 | Do I [23F] put more effort or break up with my boyfriend [33M] of one year?Well, I can't tell you what to do. All I know is that it never went well for me when I had a boyfriend who wasn't stable. It's very mean IMO to tell your SO you don't miss them. My bf drives 5 hours per weekend to see me. Never once has he asked me to meet halfway. And he said even if I did have a car, he would still come pick me up. I personally feel like guys who haven't established themselves never feel like they can afford to focus on love. But I'm not opposed to being there through it all. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 07:20 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever want to give red pill advice to your blue pill friends? Have they ever taken to it well?I have expressed general views but am mostly in the closet about it. I learned this as young as age 5, when I would like playing with boys who were teasing towards me and things like that, and I saw the way some older women were appalled and shamed me for acting that way. That said, I have shown by example and by refusing to nod along when bitter single women whined about wanting a "man not a boy." Something strange happened; people started coming out to me and admitting they hated feminism. Thi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 07:14 PM |
| 3 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountLooking forward to it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Homemaking & cosy catastrophesI never knew that had a name, but I love those books too! Always have. Being faced with no tomorrow does bring people together. Life is short and we should remember that rather than agonize over little things. And your family is your shelter. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:58 PM |
| 7 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountThis has been a long time coming, and it absolutely should be on the sidebar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:54 PM |
| 4 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountCan you blame them? I've filtered out blonde guys, for goodness' sake. This is why I'm dating someone a bit older. I'm happier that way and I know he is more than happy to have a woman in her early 30s. He was even worried initially I would be too young, and certainly doesn't want someone younger. It's worked out beautifully. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:54 PM |
| 14 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountNot only is it the truth, but it's a must.. If you're smart you will use your wisdom and intelligence to stay competitive and later respectable when you're secured with your husband in your old age. It would be foolishness to have try to keep the strategy you had at 21. I think we would all be lying if we said we had never been intimidated by an older woman; one who kept herself up and dresses in jewelry that we would look too young for, who clearly has years of feminine abilities to stay intere… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:51 PM |
| 1 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountI don't think all women here are looking for a guy like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:47 PM |
| 12 | For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-CountYou've covered great things here. I would draw further attention to the point you made about how older women have more self awareness. Not only is that true, but you should have learned (and should learn if you haven't) how much feminine power you have. You should use your intelligence to be a strong support and get the love you want. It's not about acting sweet and young. If your plan is to keep imitating 19 year old female behavior, you will fail. But you DO have feminine wiles and you should … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with male/female attraction at work while in a LTRAttraction is biology but as humans who are above animals, we should overcome base nature by choosing the right thing, like ignoring an attraction in favor of loyalty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 02:56 PM |
| 2 | When did you discuss your timelines?I guess it's easy for me as a Christian. We both have the same goals, but I was fine bringing up these goals directly quite early, since it's just my religion. I brought it up as soon as he asked to be exclusive which he did fairly quickly. But I phrased it as me following my faith and that I only date with a purpose. There's really no cookie cutter timeline. Just do not suppress your needs. It's fine to be direct on these big issues...nobody is going to do it for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 02:46 PM |
| 7 | When did you discuss your timelines?I find it so ridiculous that we have to justify our desire for family and love. I've gotten that a lot. "But why do you even want to be married?" Huh? What kind lf question is that? It's literally a biological urge and an institution that's been around for millennia because humans so desire to do it. It's nature. Lord knows why I'm supposed to explain myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 02:42 PM |
| 8 | Rejecting men politelyI don't really care too much about being polite to a guy I barely know. Maybe that's just because every time I've actually rejected a guy rather than ghosted, he threw a fit and demanded explanations and sent crazy messages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 02:40 PM |
| 4 | Question about commitmentI don't think it's inherent in men not to commit without sex. People did that for centuries when society enforced it. Society just doesn't anymore. I have talked to men who were teens in the 60s and they all went crazy about how they could sleep with women and not even have to marry them. At that immature age they took full advantage. If they were pressured by society to be different they would. In many ways it's not the best time to be a woman. In the name of feminism women gave up much of our … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 02:38 PM |
| 11 | His reaction to me saying I "wanted to be a mother" was much better than when I said I "wanted to get married and have children."I'm so glad I'm religious. I just tell a man (if it isn't already obvious) that as a Catholic, I don't date just to pass the time, but for the purpose of discerning if he is the right match, since I feel called to marriage. It's really easy to communicate that it's me following my religion and not me desperately obsessed with one man in particular. That allowed me to have that conversation very early on. Of course later I can talk in terms of him in particular without being too direct. After a c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Need advice: my SO is leading a secret life, can't decide on a clear action planThe fact that this was kept secret from you before the wedding could very well be grounds for an annulment. I fail to see how this is an actual marriage, considering you made vows without knowing a crucial piece of information. His behavior is out of control and unacceptable. It's cheating and worse. Since he won't change I think you need to move on. Divorce or even annul. You're young enough to start over. I would. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/17 09:41 PM |
| 3 | How do you offer opinions without them coming off as naggy?I read about an experiment or maybe just a misunderstanding where a teacher was given the remedial class in elementary school but was told they were the advanced class. By the end of the class, all the failing kids had succeeded beyond what people thought possible. The teacher expected them to be exceptional students, believed it, and so they were. What works better on you...being told "you're an idiot who can never get good grades" or "you're smarter than this, I know you are an intelligent har… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/17 08:44 PM |
| 7 | When your SO opens up to you: what do you do?It's not the crying, it's the message behind it. If a woman tells a man a bad situation she's in or was in, begging for help, and all he can do is cry, it's like saying "your situation is hopeless, I can't help you, you're damaged and all I can do is pity you and not help or protect." That is terrifying and sad for a woman. No one wants pity and no one wants to be told there is no help. To feel the man they turned to us too weak to help. If a man cries to show his real pain...that's different an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/17 04:39 PM |
| 3 | I am 23 and and want a REAL MAN (I like older men) but they are impatient and just want sex?Yes you should wait for the right one. Absolutely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 10:36 PM |
| 21 | I am 23 and and want a REAL MAN (I like older men) but they are impatient and just want sex?Okay so all older men do not just want sex. That's not a rule. Those are just the ones you met. Where are you meeting them? Dating a bit older is not a bad strategy since a man will be pretty happy to have a younger wife. I personally wonder if at 23 you're looking for early 40s men is too much of a difference. Men that much older might feel you're in a way different life place and can't take you seriously. Try maybe 10-12 years older max. Just my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Is it okay to ask my boyfriend to hang out?My bf still takes most of the initiative and we've been together over a year. But we have steady plans and I can say a general thing I want to do at some point. Mostly he calls and texts me first unless I need something. We just like it that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 03:29 PM |
| 7 | A request for advice on our (23f, 29m) sex lives please.I hate to say this but you are very young and it seems a shame to settle for someone you know for a fact is mismatched with you like this. As rubywoo said look at /r/deadbedrooms. Not being desired is way way more damaging than I think you are realizing. Do you want your life to be about wistfully watching other couples, strangers even, get those kisses and hugs every day that you most beg for? You're young enough to still find someone better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 02:58 PM |
| 5 | Recently married and questioning everything. Unsure where to go from here.I suggest the book First, Kill All The Marriage Counselors by Laura Doyle. I don't know if it's a magic bullet but it certainly won't hurt you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 02:53 PM |
| 3 | How men show their loveIt's too simplistic. The main lesson is the general concept that people feel loved in different ways. That's why these days women try to act alpha because they want that in a man, and guys do "nice guy" stuff because they want a sweet girl. Those need to be unlearned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/17 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Who do you talk about your so to?If he's a strong man who can keep his mouth shut, that's far better than asking the Internet. He wants the best for you ideally. I think this is better in theory than talking to women so it doesn't become women vs. men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/17 04:11 PM |
| 5 | How to get over infatuation and focus on knowing the person betterFish or cut bait. Tell him in general you want something serious without making it specific to him. If he wants that, great. Be willing to walk away if he doesn't. There's always a chance he will miss you and come back. Or not. But either way you aren't wasting your time. You say you want a casual thing but really aren't happy with that setup. Be honest with yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/17 12:33 AM |
| 9 | [cross-posted from r/asktrp] How to get over a RP exI'm a fan of the eat a dessert, buy yourself boots, and move on plan. Unless it's a death or a tragic divorce after decades of marriage, I don't think dwelling is the best idea. Shopping helps, as frivolous as that sounds. Exercise and try to be social. And Cut Him Off! Nature abhors a vacuum, you'll create space for a new guy. Keeping an old guy around just closes you off to your future man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/17 10:43 PM |
| 2 | What's your style?I love black. I try to broaden to colors but it's so hard for me. Good news is my bf is a fan of the look. I also wear skirts and dresses a lot. When I branch out I prefer earth tones. I will do a color splash but I just want my personality to show through what I wear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/17 05:03 AM |
| 11 | What is the value of femininity?It's really freeing to live life as a woman...what I mean is to drop the pressure to behave in a masculine way. Our power is less aggressive and more intuitive and influencing. We have a different rhythm to work and life. Trying to be as decisive and direct as men is tiring for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 04:18 PM |
| 10 | What were the most striking RP truths to you?You're emphasizing appearance kind of, and it's true but actually the traits of shutting up and not nagging you mentioned are even more important. Mature men know looks will fade, hence an agreeable but still strong woman is a top choice. Plenty of men marry plain women who are agreeable. Also what a relief, for me anyway, that men don't care as much about my career success as my schools did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Little Things (LTR and Married RPW, Please)Now I want sandwiches ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/17 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Entertaining, Recipes, Crafts, Decor, Hobbies, etc. Megathread!!I'm reading it. I need to declutter. I'm not going to be as extreme as her in discarding but I'll do it in order of category. She lost me at talking to your socks and emptying your purse daily, though... | /r/RedPillWives | 12/11/17 04:26 PM |
| 1 | How is social media effecting your life and relationships?I'm very private on the only social media account I have. Rarely post rarely comment. Mostly it's photos of us, and messages and events. BF uses it for niche interests and less for social reasons. Both of us are private and have zero interest in the posts people do of their SOs where they gush about "out with the hottest, most wonderful and kind man I know!" and all that. I think our photos say enough. We don't really need to prove anything; we just show others that we are seriously together but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 04:24 PM |
| 30 | Little Things (LTR and Married RPW, Please)Gratitude and shutting my mouth when I want to say something nitpicky. Thanking him for thoughtful things he does. Being a good sport instead of uppity and looking for reasons to be offended. Society tells me to take offense so I choose not to take offense when there's no reason to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 04:20 PM |
| 1 | New and need advice (book recommendations too!)That preppy handbook is good a little tongue in cheek though. It's more about style. I remember some book online called the old money book, or something? Some of it was too material focused but the privacy and family values were spot on. What are your sources? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 04:46 PM |
| 5 | Jordan Peterson's advice to young women choosing careers over childrenDo you have a quick summary for the lazy? | /r/RedPillWives | 11/11/17 03:53 PM |
| 1 | New and need advice (book recommendations too!)This isn't RP but I went through a phase of reading about very old school/preppy/old money kind of lifestyle. It's kind of good for handling life and stability...it's about privacy and not getting carried away by emotion or oversharing. Like Downtown Abbey. You don't have to be super stuffy, but imitating decorum and certain privacy values helps a ton when your background was unstable. Helps regulate emotions. You also have to decide the past is not you. PM me anytime as I come from a chaotic ch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Starting to feel bored, slightly indifferent, don't want to feel this way?You need to get in touch with your emotions because when you numb them for routine that's where boredom comes from. Get in touch with your inner life and he'll want to know that part of you. I mean you're doing a lot of seiarate screen time. That's not bad but you may need to deliberately create more time where you give your undivided attention. Absolutely shake up your routine in a small way. Men love when you're into your own hobby or you mix things up...it keeps things a bit exciting...no dra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 03:34 PM |
| 8 | Slut Tells and N CountHere's the practical advice takeaway from the tattoo thing. No one is obligated to date a girl with tattoos. Let's say a dude happens to want a LTR and he likes a girl who's acting really classy and loyal but he finds out she has a tat. Does he have to ditch her? Not necessarily. Where is the tat, what is it, and why. Is it some cheesy live laugh love or similar phrase, or a cliche heart or lotus or a tramp stamp? Is it a pinup girl on her arm? Is it on her neck or face? What about if it's a mem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Slut Tells and N CountThe last paragraph about not being able to make a ho/player into a family person: I think the warning is saying that you can't change somebody in that way. If they had already made the decision themselves to change it's different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/17 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Sherry Argov (author)It's a good book about not being so business like in love. I take some of it with a grain of salt because she is an American infatuated with France, and the US won't suddenly adopt French relationship habits. But the jardin secret concept is great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/17 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Sherry Argov (author)I agree about mystery. Maybe it's just bc I'm a very poetic type, and grew up with strong French influence, but I preferred the less business-like tone of French Women Don't Sleep Alone, a good book about preserving your inner life. This book seems about truly having an inner life, not faking it. I had a lot of men in love with me when I was I was unemployed and sad. Honestly there are a lot of attempted saviors out there. I've hear even women in some Eastern Euro places choose not to advance to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/17 05:15 PM |
| 4 | Sherry Argov (author)I can't stand Eat Pray Love. Just another spoiled woman throwing away her family with no fault besides "I want to find myself" and going on a shallow pretentious "journey of self discovery" by indulging her senses in food and sex and fake spirituality. It's funny I have no clue of Argov's marital status and that's really all I need to know isn't it. It's like those Rules books; at least one of them divorced so it seems their plan was good for catching but not keeping a good man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/17 05:09 PM |
| 5 | Unlocking Erotic Intelligence: How Can Couples Keep The Home Fires Burning?I could write a thesis just about the intimacy being the enemy of sex false dichotomy. It's such a real problem. I think there's this immaturity, especially with women of seeking a motherly kind of love from your spouse. In childhood development it's normal to need the most maternal love until being a teenager, at which point there is a breaking away from the family identity and which the fatherly love about independence and thinking for oneself becomes important. So why exactly are so many stuc… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/11/17 09:49 PM |
| 8 | Any tips for a girl who's never been on a date before?Take the advice here. Do remember that you are assessing him as much as he is assessing you. Don't try too hard to impress. Just have fun and observe how he treats you and others. If you don't have any enjoyment of his company than decline a second date. If you do, let him initiate the next date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/17 07:51 PM |
| 18 | How do I keep the good ones around?You say you are sweet and devoted. This is a high value quality. My question is do you act like a high value woman? If you give away the devotion when it's not earned then it loses its value. Do you try really hard to make him like you? Or, as Laura Doyle says, do you remember that you're also interviewing him to see if he deserves your devotion? If you give it away without assessing him, he can tell. Your devotion is not valuable if he thinks you give it away without discerning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/17 07:49 PM |
| 2 | [25F] Wall Street banker tells gold digger why she's not worth marrying.I'm interested in the answer to her question about the assets these "plain Janes" she mentions provide. I have seen this situation. I think it's something with supporting and respecting him as a man. Not sure. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 04/11/17 05:01 PM |
| 5 | Should I ask if he is sleeping with other womenIf he takes you out on actual public dates and spends on them. If he introduces family and friends. If he asks for the bf title. If every meeting is not just about physical intimacy. If he calls to talk when you can't meet. If he is interested in your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 03:33 PM |
| 5 | Relationships are like business mergers, approach it as such.I think it accomplished the point, which was a detached perspective on marriage. In an age of Hollywood romance we need this reminder. In times past every relationship commitment was approached this way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 03:28 PM |
| 5 | I believe I need to let go, but I don’t want to.All women attract jerks at some point, it's not personal, but we all have to learn to lose them fast. Maybe addicts like you because you seem very sweet and they don't want anyone who calls out their addiction BS. The question isn't why you attract them though, but how to lose them and hold onto the good ones. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/11/17 02:56 PM |
| 5 | Are the kinds of guys you're mostly approached by an indicator of what "league" you're in?The Nice Guy who thinks women all choose bad men and just need to see how Nice he is so they choose him. But unlike the other Nice Guys who get angry and call her names when she is not interested, this one starts groveling and obsessively attaching himself to her, constantly begging for the privilege of speaking to her. Can become a stalker. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Approaching Men: the Art of the Bad Excuse.Lol nice | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/17 02:15 PM |
| 6 | I believe I need to let go, but I don’t want to.It's nice to dump him because he will never get the help he needs if he keeps getting enabled and told by a nice girl that it's ok to mess up his life. To walk over her. It's nice because you can't possibly love such a broken man until he heals. Most of all it's nice to future you who can be with someone much better to you. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/11/17 12:28 AM |
| 8 | I believe I need to let go, but I don’t want to.You're not a fool you're a human being who probably has a big heart and you figured other people also have big hearts. But love is sometimes saying no and having a boundary. You have to leave him and if you're too emotional you have to be cold, it's not really cold it's just self respect. You will just feel mean but I assure you dumping him is the nicest thing you can do. I'm not trying to shame you as this has happened to the best of us. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/11/17 05:49 PM |
| 14 | I believe I need to let go, but I don’t want to.Thank goodness you found out now. He's a hot mess and not your problem anymore. No chance of finding the right guy if you stay with the wrong one. Forget him. Be as cold as you have to cut him off. This is not the ex you stay friends with. You can go to meet ups to make new friends and meet people. Some people stay in bad things because they are ashamed to admit they judged wrong. There is no reason to punish yourself like that. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/11/17 05:31 PM |
| 7 | Depictions Of Abusive Women In Pop CultureIt scares me and makes me sad women are taught this is ok. I think there are some better portrayals of men coming up in newer good shows. There are people coming out of the woodwork who are tired of it. I've had two close women come out to me that they are so tired of feminism. They used to be pretty BP. The truth will come out. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/11/17 05:19 PM |
| 28 | I believe I need to let go, but I don’t want to.You're hamstering that you maybe should stay but you should definitely leave. Next him, this is ridiculous. If a guy insulted me that badly I wouldn't even look at him anymore. Your attachment hormones and feminine need for security are messing up your vision. Forget him and work on vetting better next time. I wouldn't care if you were 45 this is not worth it by any stretch of the imagination. If you get sentimental, think about how nasty the smoking it is and what it's done to people you love. … | /r/RedPillWives | 03/11/17 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Men understand that powerful people can be(generally are) dangerous; why don't women?Women do know this but have been taught in Western society to ignore the feeling. There are no societal limits in place to protect women, like how women going out alone at night was once scandalous. Probably on some level women go to powerful men because some part of the brain says he will protect them. And since society won't anymore, they run to the powerful guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 04:00 PM |
| 3 | I’m discovering RPW and I really need some mentorsIt's a great Proverb. Notice the wife is shrewd and clever in supporting her husband and profiting in the marketplace, but it's not due to blind ambition or forgoing family for success. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:44 PM |
| 2 | I’m discovering RPW and I really need some mentorsIt's ok to have a career but it's not good to do anything because you "should." Who's opinion are you worried about? Mom's? Society? Reddit Hivemind? What about when you're 101 on your deathbed, do you think you will say "wow I'm so glad I did everything by the party line for what I thought a faceless mass of people wanted." ? No... Life is very short and there is no time to live to fit in or get approval, be a good person and ask what you want to look back on. Then do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Share something cute/sweet your SO has done recently or things that are going well!It just strikes me how blessed I am with him. I'll stumble across articles with advice for women about how if he's not calling, he's mooching, he's going no contact, says he is not ready for something serious, only sees her to have sex, etc then she has to accept he isn't into her. I just realize I could not relate at all to any of that, with my bf now, although maybe long ago I knew how it felt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Feeling mad although I probably shouldn’t.Forget about it and don't needle him again or say ew about his showering. I mean he's not your brother. If you're insecure then lose more weight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Are the kinds of guys you're mostly approached by an indicator of what "league" you're in?Kind of, but there is a such thing as a crazy nice guy who is way below in value but has obsession problems. I think it's a bit hard to tell. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Are the kinds of guys you're mostly approached by an indicator of what "league" you're in?No. Some low value men have nothing to lose and go for very hot women. Some men only want a fling and it isn't about you. Some good decent guys are too polite to approach. A lot of men will take a friendly 7 who makes it clear she will respond over a 9 who is shy and challenging. Men are not confident just naturally. Look at red pill stuff, so many men go there to try to learn confidence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:28 PM |
| 14 | Approaching Men: the Art of the Bad Excuse.Honestly I think a lot of men would miss the coffee hint. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:25 PM |
| 18 | Approaching Men: the Art of the Bad Excuse.The main takeaway is men will only slightly pick up on what we feel is glaringly obvious. You can drop hints and make it clear you're available, and he will get confidence to step up. You can say you would accept a date. And you might feel like you acted desperate while he will not see it that way at all. This is a good way to get those decent (not "nice") guys who are slightly too well mannered to do a super direct approach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/17 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Slave to My FiancéExactly, I mean let's be honest a company can fire you at any time for no reason and they don't care like family does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/17 06:11 PM |
| 1 | What are the chances of a divorced mother of two marrying a high value male?yes those are the exceptions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/17 11:01 PM |
| 1 | I hate myself because of my high n-count..advice?What I mean is he's insecure and would be whether or not you had a high n-count. I think people should accept the person they love when it comes to things they can't change. If you can't stand someone's past you shouldn't stay and constantly torture them about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/17 10:04 PM |
| 5 | I hate myself because of my high n-count..advice?My female? 🤔 I get how he feels but normally guys would either accept it or decide they can't handle it and break up. Kind of mixed signals from him...he's insecure seperately from your n-count. Hopefully not so insecure he makes poor decisions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/17 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Please help me know if what I did was really wrong or he is overreacting.Why would you even say that? A husband who wants to build for you and you tell him he's going to suck at it. No one but men especially don't like being discouraged in their dreams or told they will fail. You should believe in him. If your reason is it will take too much time then you should have told him you are so happy he offered and believe in him but are worried about the time commitment. Maybe you can damage control by saying that's what you meant. Don't shut down men's dreams. If a man wan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/17 08:36 PM |
| 7 | Boredom in LTRYou should be with someone you feel ok being boring with. Like sitting on the couch chilling in silence reading or watching a movie. When you have a family it's unrealistic to go out all the time to events and dates every time. If you can only be happy together when there's an exciting thing happening you aren't compatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/17 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Boredom in LTRLibido mismatch is a recipe for a nightmare marriage, save yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/17 04:06 PM |
| 6 | What's with the term "emotional labor" I see everywhere now?It's real work, it's a serious job, I just didn't like how people were using it to keep score against men. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 10:32 PM |
| 1 | What's with the term "emotional labor" I see everywhere now?That I can relate to. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 10:31 PM |
| 3 | What's with the term "emotional labor" I see everywhere now?Relationships take work, so unfair. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 08:30 PM |
| 1 | What's with the term "emotional labor" I see everywhere now?That is understandable, but it sounds like he's got other focuses that are good...when I read the complaints they keep going on and describing their SO as basically a deadbeat who sits on the couch and I sort of wonder how these women got in that situation. And you're clearly not using it to keep score against him / men so you like him enough to deal with it, that's love. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 08:28 PM |
| 9 | What's with the term "emotional labor" I see everywhere now?It's real work for sure, and it's not only bad that it's used by women to keep score against men, but it oddly contradicts the idea that a woman who is a SAHM and fully runs the household doesn't do anything. So they say "wah why do I have to do this" but then also judge women who stay home and discount it as not real work, kind of odd. I think you should be proud you manage that well and that you've both set things up to run smoothly. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 08:22 PM |
| 1 | What's with the term "emotional labor" I see everywhere now?Yeah I feel like people use it as just another keeping score tool to point out why men are bad bla bla. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 08:18 PM |
| 2 | SHIT POST SATURDAY - October 21, 2017Why is the term emotional labor suddenly everywhere. I thought it meant like women tend to address relationships issues more than men, but it turns out women feel like they do all the planning and birthdays anniversaries and visits. That hasn't been my experience and I wonder if the women chose to date men stuck in high school or something. My bf is not an idiot. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:50 PM |
| 1 | What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?Telling your friends is a really bad idea. For so many reasons. I also personally would never ever ask the internet. If you desperately need advice it's better to go to a close confidant you completely trust who would never gossip, like an older relative you get along with, or similar mentor. But yes, if they are a raging feminist that doesn't apply. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:41 PM |
| 1 | What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?I honestly think not presenting a united front is really wrong. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:39 PM |
| 1 | What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?I noticed this a while back and it was easy to accept. What's harder is not being influenced and ignoring the creeping influence of it in your daily life. I feel so alone sometimes. I wish I lived where it was ok to do things right. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:38 PM |
| 5 | What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?For some people RP is basically their religion. As a Christian, I think RP is trying to grasp our baser natures. We have these tendencies, but admitting it is supposed to be the first step, not the end. I believe in free will, will to choose faith and cooperate with grace to rise above lower natures. So when I see fatalistic ideas and cynical attitude about men and women, it's a bit hard, because I think the point of RP is to get better, not become all depressed. That's more on TRP. The point is… | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:27 PM |
| 2 | What has been the most difficult or challenging thing for you to accept or even understand since you found rpw?Ugh same. You feel like people are only doing the BP thing because they haven't heard of your way yet, and you'll totally tell them and they'll feel better. It's crushing to realize how even the more traditional girls I know still think "boys are stupid lol" | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Some Funny Images To Brighten Your Day :)😂 | /r/RedPillWives | 27/10/17 05:10 PM |
| 6 | 26 and that wall is approaching fast. What do you do to stay in shape and looking good?I have heard that bigger people think hunger is an emergency and thin people do not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 05:02 PM |
| 1 | "The One."All that makes sense. I associate the word butterflies with liking a celebrity, but other people might describe intimacy that way. Chemistry is what I'm looking for. Also my trust takes a long time to give and I feel more deeply the more I trust. Someone older told me in high school that wanting kids is a biological urge, and I'm really glad she did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 04:47 PM |
| 2 | My husband makes me feel bad about having ADHD. Should I talk to him about this?What the actual fuck was word for word my first thought at this post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 04:19 PM |
| 7 | How do you deal with gossip?Why would you care if they talk about you? They're obviously just gossips, and it has nothing to do with you. Your SO obviously doesn't buy into what they say, share anything, or join in, so what's the problem? You deal with gossip by not responding and saying you don't want to discuss it if they ask nosy questions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 04:12 PM |
| 1 | "The One."I don't really get the difference between that and attraction. Every time I see my bf I'm very attracted and want to be close to him. Is that what you mean? But it's very intense and there are times I love him so much I want to cry, I mean I feel very soft and open to him. I associate butterflies with being a teenager and I learned that "crushes" is another word for noticing someone is cute and that's all it is. I've discussed this with women who went through the same process. As I said, I'm con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 04:02 PM |
| 1 | "The One."I really don't get this. I had this experience with several men in my 20s--an overwhelming intuition we would be married on day--and didn't even end up dating them. They didn't end up all that cool. My boyfriend now I just took a day at a time, although I will say with certainty that the moment I clapped eyes on him I did decide that I would say yes one day if he asked, if that makes sense. I thought "yes, this will definitely work for me." I wish I had a cute story like yours but mine is always… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 03:46 PM |
| 3 | "The One."One time an old married man at my church gave a talk about marriage. He said his wife and he had chosen to go through life with "a soul mate." It wasn't this fate thing, rather they chose to walk with another soul through life together. I think that's what The One really is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 03:38 PM |
| 1 | "The One."Actually, Keanu Reeves is The One. Have you not seen his other movies? Or South Park? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 03:36 PM |
| 3 | "The One."I must be odd because I stopped getting crushes years ago, and I only found real relationships with a man who is there for me to be sexy. I fall in love and it feels serious and deep, which I prefer. I might be a more intense person though, I get that a lot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 03:35 PM |
| 1 | "The One."Definitely a problem. And if you consider any tiny aspect of a marriage from a practical viewpoint, you're suddenly some cold-hearted witch. Marriage has been practical for all of human history. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 03:31 PM |
| 3 | Going forward with a new relationship, navigating serious logistical difficultiesI'm less concerned about the moving thing, and more about the fact that you met on a time-limited fellowship abroad. Those situations can very easily inspire feelings of being someone's soul mate and radically in love, but it's caused by the adventure of the situation, and the time constraint. It's like people falling in love at summer camp. Your adrenaline is higher because I bet it's more exciting than your normal life, and that bonds people. He might really be the one, this may be one of the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 03:29 PM |
| 4 | I think I (30)have screwed everything up with my husband (35)and I don't know how to undo the damageThere's a lot here and it's definitely not all your fault, but one thing you can start right now is flipping negative to positive. "I trust you will get a job because I believe you can" and I mean say this maturely and seriously, not in a cutesy girl way. He will hear you, he knows that means "you better do this" but it's in a constructive way. You are allowed to say what you need once in a matter of fact tone and then go do something else. No tears or whiny voice. You're also allowed to take em… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 06:13 PM |
| 4 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?Comfortable dresses and skirts but if I'm being honest I do wear yoga pants and sweaters since I'm always cold. Light makeup. We are casual people a bit country. You can still look feminine that way, if everything isn't super baggy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Afraid of being alone forever...2 other thoughts. Read the book "Why Men Marry Some Women and not Others" by John T. Malloy. It's based on years of hard data he gathered. Second, if you're attractive, you will have to be what you feel is obvious about liking him to get a good guy to ask you out. He won't see it as obvious so don't worry. If you're attractive and you ask a guy out he might think "what is wrong with this woman that she is this good looking but doesn't have guys ask first." Rather, be very clear that you will say… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Afraid of being alone forever...Very ambitious men can be focused on goals a lot, but I don't think there is a causal effect between that and womanizing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 05:57 PM |
| 4 | Afraid of being alone forever...Well it's also to do with rejecting men who could be really good if you have a long term view. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 05:54 PM |
| 3 | Afraid of being alone forever...I don't know the full story and don't have all the answers. However if you want to not be a career woman, then when you talk to a man don't talk about your studies or work much. If I heard about a woman with phd who did fashion modeling, I would assume she was very ambitious. I respect your achievements, but you'll attract dependents if you talk about them a ton. That may not be PC but it is true, if you want a strong leader. I always suggest looking for men with more achievements, career or sch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I wish I could find 1 RPW friend. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 05:11 PM |
| 2 | I want to share a tragedy.You need therapy to unlearn this idea that physical abuse is ok or deserved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 01:33 PM |
| 5 | I want to share a tragedy.Alright. I was with you until you said he started hitting you. Now it's possible he had anger from feeling criticized all the time, but that does not making hitting ok. If he was that angry, that is when he should walk away from it all and get a hold of himself. That goes for anyone. It's good that as a rule you want to be less critical in love, but I get the vibe you think you deserved to be hit for it. His inability to handle anger and to abuse is his issue. I don't know any details besides wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 12:08 PM |
| 4 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.You obviously don't hate her. I know how exhausting it is with a friend that you care for but who constantly shoot themselves in the foot, particularly women who are trapped in the cultural messages about how to treat men. It's hard to watch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Do you have no experience with people like OPs friend? Do you actually think she would listen to a word of criticism about her boyfriend? All you can do with people like that is to plant seeds and hope one day they see they are in a bad relationship. OP doesn't "hate" her friend, she is probably just fed up with her friend repeatedly acting this way. It's also odd that you assumed OP has never tried to help the friend. This post was obviously venting and didn't address every detail of their frie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I literally just answered the question of why they are friends despite being so different. There's nothing wrong with it. I was pointing out OP is probably just venting here because it's hard to watch her friend be miserable in love...and friend likely hasn't listened to any advice. I would be sick of it too even if I liked my friend. Maybe they go way back. Learning how you don't want to be is important. If a loved one has a drug addiction I still love them, but I hate their addiction, and thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 11:34 AM |
| 2 | Reflecting on bad habits I want to quitThat is hard! I always admire people who have strong discipline about not bringing work home. I think it gets easier once you realize it takes discipline to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:29 AM |
| 11 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.I agree it's because feminism has become all girl power and girls can literally do no wrong when it comes to how they treat men. It's taboo to ask "will this hurt my man to say it, and if I must say it will it hurt him to say it in a mean tone and make him the enemy?" When we should all be asking that in how we treat everyone, men aren't the exception. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Do you know how hard it is to find RPW friends IRL? I consider myself blessed if they don't openly preach feminism. It's everywhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:04 AM |
| 4 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Yikes, dating her sounds unpleasant. It makes me sad, but I feel the same at some of the posts on /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen I pity these women and I don't know why I have been given the gift of stuff like RPW and others haven't been so lucky, and I feel bad about thinking "note to self, do the opposite of her" but there it is. Some other woman messing up doesn't mean I shouldn't learn from their mistakes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:03 AM |
| 2 | What counts as infidelity?You're the worst kind of human! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 02:58 AM |
| 5 | What counts as infidelity?You're not going to like this, but it feels that way because you're 19. Here's the truth. If someone was engaged and their fiancé pulled what he did, I would advise taking time to seriously reconsidering the engagement. Even if she was getting older, I would say that. If they were married and had kids, I would say they need outside counseling to resolve this because it's disrespectful to say the least. (Edit: and I wrote this before I saw it was his ex, which makes this even more serious) You ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 02:50 AM |
| 2 | Reflecting on bad habits I want to quitYes precisely. You're bringing the solution when you should bring the problem. I noticed when I can't be soft and vulnerable I try to control outside events. To prevent getting hurt. Yet, to get your needs met you actually must be vulnerable! Just trust. And it does not mean whining or tears-manipulating (genuine tears are ok.). Just showing your heart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 03:45 PM |
| 1 | He offer me an official ring, but don't want to wear any ring himselfYou should be glad-- it will be a symbol to everyone you have a good man who takes financial actions to prove he loves you, and it will help ward off any attempts at orbiting from annoying hangers on. You get a ring even before engagement. Sounds good to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 03:42 PM |
| 2 | He offer me an official ring, but don't want to wear any ring himselfWait sorry he is a dud? What's that mean? Men don't usually wear engagement rings, so pre-engagement is even less so. I think if he agrees to wear a wedding band when you marry, you should be quite happy with that. Also also: don't get mad and angry when you get nice things unless you don't want to get nice things anymore. C'est un cadeua bon. Être heureuse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Reflecting on bad habits I want to quitOk so the little nitpicking is actually an attempt to control things because you're scared to be soft and vulnerable. Instead of being vulnerable you protect yourself and try to control. So actually the answer is to open up and be vulnerable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Feeling a void inside. Anyone with similar experiences?Yes, counseling and church helped. | /r/RedPillWives | 22/10/17 06:37 PM |
| 13 | Your voice tone mattersI think some women have lower voices or higher. I think it should be a softer tone but not quiet. I think natural is important. A false low register sounds masculine and a false high register is painful. Just be who you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/17 04:11 PM |
| 2 | How to accept the wrong gift graciously?This. The differences might seem obvious to you as a woman, but a guy won't necessarily see why it's super important the difference in material or style. Imagine a typically masculine hobby of his, say he remodels houses and he asked for a very particular epoxy and you got a similar one that seemed fine? If you don't know about it maybe it seems ok but it could be all wrong. It's like expecting a guy with no beauty experience to know to get you a hair dye that's ashy and not warm tones because t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/17 04:09 PM |
| 4 | Should I tell my husband that I'm unhappy or is this just me hamstering?I really like the idea of suggesting a date night weekly but at the same time focusing on him, personal attention, relaxation. Frame it as a way to help him relax from all his work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/17 04:05 PM |
| 6 | Single & pregnantIt's certainly a human baby. Even for those who do not agree with that statement...it's not good to act like abortion is transactional with no consequences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Single & pregnantDefinitely true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Single & pregnantRight, and career allows a man to be better in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Stay at home housewifeLife is short. Way too short to spend it worrying about the judgment of others. People can judge you all they want but at the end of the day, are they there for you the way husband is? Are they taking care of you? Maybe you can make your writing lucrative if you have the time to stay home. If, God forbid, something should happen to your husband, does he have life insurance? | /r/RedPillWives | 19/10/17 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Single & pregnant👍 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Single & pregnantI strongly suggest a church counselor, I don't know your views but a lot of them don't care if you're a church goer. Here is why: it's free first of all. Second it's a good option for people who are uncomfortable with a psychologist "getting into their head." It's not a psychologist, it's just someone who's good at listening. He sounds like he's weirded out by "head doctors." Third they are very experienced at confidentiality. If he won't go then you go first and tell him you're going. Set the e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Please help me decide if I am being overly sensitive..."Detach with love." I used to whine about disagreements to control and get my way. Try to ask what's wrong or get him to respond how I wanted. In response men would close off. Now if I feel I'm not being understood / feelings hurt, I step back emotionally and respect myself first. Instead of emotional distance as a response, I get flowers 💐. Give it a try. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Single & pregnantIs therapy and option for him or both of you? What about even counseling at a church? That's free, and most priests and pastors will still do it whether you go to church or not. The older ones often have years of experience with counseling couples. Please consider it for the sake of your child. You're frustrated because you're trying to fix him when you don't have that power. A disinterested, professional 3rd party can help a lot more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Single & pregnantYes, but he needs to feel established as a man first to feel good as a family provider. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Single & pregnantSituational depression is what you're describing. Remedied by improving the situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Single & pregnantI'm glad you are keeping your baby. I think terminating the pregnancy would have exacerbated his depression and caused you issues to say the least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/17 01:27 PM |
| 14 | My boyfriend has suddenly become very alpha.I don't think things like wanting kids and security are some silly female crisis. Security is a really important thing and it keeps many people anxious. As for kids, NEVER be ashamed of planning for that and don't let anyone tell you it's a turn off. Some guys don't get how much we think about that or how important it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 01:44 AM |
| 6 | He compliments specific parts of my body: help.Yeah, don't punish him for complimenting you, unless you never want to receive compliments again. Just say thanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/17 01:53 PM |
| 5 | How do you move past your husband hurting your feelings?If I get annoyed or hurt by something I try to remember that there are times I probably was inconsiderate that the other person chose to ignore and forgive me. If he didn't say it in an awfully cruel tone then it's really that he wants you to be healthy and to preserve your sex life. You want to lose weight so you keep it up. I recommend the book French Women Don't Get Fat. It's about intuitive eating without torturing yourself. /r/fatlogic is good too. Some people eat because emotions or oral f… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/10/17 04:47 PM |
| 3 | How do I back out gracefully with a guy I went out with that is oddly attached to me alreadyWhy do you care what he thinks? Does he know where you live or something? If yes don't tell strangers that again. You think you owe him because of the gift? You don't, keep it, it was a gift. You can tell him no or say nothing. It sounds cold but it's not like you're ghosting someone you had a relationship with. I'm confused why you're worried about politeness. Polite=/=virtuous. Sometimes you gotta be blunt. I've dealt with his type a lot. If you're too wishy-washy in your rejection, he will fi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 04:42 PM |
| 2 | What are the chances of a divorced mother of two marrying a high value male?I agree with the comments about erasing the D word from your vocabulary. Use all your planning skills and SMV/RMV to work on your marriage. It's not meant to be easy but it's worth it. (I assume there's no abuse as you didn't mention it; obviously that's an exception.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 04:35 PM |
| 3 | The reasons why men marryI agree. A lot of guys aren't into sowing wild oats, at least not literally. They may go through a phase where freedom to travel and do hobbies comes first, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 04:27 PM |
| 2 | The reasons why men marryI've found the opposite. It means the guy was marriage-minded to begin with, and has spent some time conforming to life with someone else. A bitter divorce might make him a bit gun shy, but it was his nature to seek a mate. Never married guys have often been molded to single life too much. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Sexual Orientation - Does It Actually Exist?Yeah I'm glad you found this. Can you imagine if I went around saying my identity is being straight? That's all I am? It's sad to reduce people to sexuality I think. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/10/17 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Sexual Orientation - Does It Actually Exist?Having a fixed sexual "identity" is a very modern concept. In the past it was generally not defining you as a person. There were simply actions you took or didn't take. I believe there's a fluid spectrum although some people are less fluid. I don't believe it's black and white for many many people, and it's very political. I think a lot of people go through unnecessary angst trying to figure it out, and that there are lots of adults who moved past the labels altogether. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/10/17 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Lets talk about the new RPW article.What ever happened to only being in the paper when you're born, you're married, and you die? A discreet private life is a happy one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 04:18 PM |
| 2 | How do i deal with being inferior?Alright girl we'll get some sleep. It sure sounds like though that you're unable to accept him now unless he changes some fundamental values that he has no intentions of changing, which is kind of a doom recipe. It's just as easy to like a monogamous guy who values you as this guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 04:15 PM |
| 4 | Lets talk about the new RPW article.Also that RP men are seeking wives. TRP is mostly seeking plates... | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 04:14 PM |
| 4 | Lets talk about the new RPW article.Guys don't even like women like that. If Reddit is to tell anything, they think it's trying too hard and a red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 04:13 PM |
| 5 | Lets talk about the new RPW article.It's about being a good person A concept lost on much of society. I'm a Christian. I believe we have innate human dignity, but we are all flawed and must always improve. That goes for everyone, men and women. There's no accountability anymore. Btw, I think Gage was more a "cool girl" example. Certainly not RP at all, just sad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 04:12 PM |
| 2 | How do i deal with being inferior?No you can't be the traditional housewife when another woman is going to show up. You don't want to be poly and he does, so that is a clash of values that makes you no longer compatible. Your low opinion of yourself is keeping you stuck. I hope you get the courage to seek someone better. Stop feeling old. You're 27. There are lots of slightly older men out there who want a younger woman, but not so young they can't relate. My bf is 9 years older than I am. Why don't you look for a guy who is mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/17 03:58 PM |
| 15 | [30F] "Was sick of waiting around hoping to find some guy worth my time, so I'm pregnant via artificial insemination." (analysis in comments)Her hair isn't "very long." | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 13/10/17 07:00 PM |
| 2 | RP conversation with my boyfriendI'm not from there but it was the grandparents' influence. Their generational view helped. I prefer not to share the country as I don't reveal a lot of personal info online. But one of the more old-fashioned ones. I had trouble fitting in with many US women with that old world influence; I guess compared with many of them I was FOB. I mean some families got here before it was America. I used to think I was weird but now I'm glad. I didn't get as uppity about men. I agree with all you said about … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 04:19 PM |
| 7 | Should I be liking posts that are anti-feminist on twitter? Or keep my views secret. Is being Anti unattractive to males?Even the non-leftists have often come to accept feminism as normal and post videos about men being lazy or calling parenting "babysitting" when Dad does it or saying guys are dumb. It's pretty bad out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:59 PM |
| 5 | Should I be liking posts that are anti-feminist on twitter? Or keep my views secret. Is being Anti unattractive to males?My bf knows my stance and agrees. I don't preach my stance to society as it's considered so fringe and society is super far gone by now. Occasionally women come to me who are sick of feminism and I'm thrilled when they have that turnaround. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:57 PM |
| 3 | RP conversation with my boyfriendSo sad about the EE changes. I was raised with the old school EE influence and I'm so glad. Hate to see another beautiful culture go that way. Hopefully it's mostly just the big cities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Hamster of the YearDo you think he's doing sexual tourism? Kind of sounds like it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 02:49 PM |
| 7 | Saw this online today and thought it was fitting!Expectations are the root of all resentment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/17 02:44 PM |
| 3 | will breaking up with him make him respect me more?A friend once told me something that really changed my life. Another friend was treating me very poorly. I was agonizing about which part of it was my fault and what I had done to provoke this person. Friend 1 said, "I had someone like that. I stopped being their friend due to disrespect. I'm sure I had some part in the whole situation, but I just didn't feel like I deserved to be treated that way." You can analyze if it's your fault all you want, but do you actually think you deserve to be trea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 02:50 AM |
| 17 | Swallowing the Red Pill Is Not a Lifestyle--It's Choosing Society and CivilizationI really don't like this myth, that you need to perfect yourself before you can find love. Yes, be the best you can at the time. But deny yourself really love opportunities because you haven't worked on yourself enough? That's a sad misconception of our our time. I know people aren't wrong to say you have to love yourself first, but it has set up so many people to fail, because they are afraid they haven't perfected self love yet. When in fact everyone is insecure at times. It's about two humans… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/17 02:45 AM |
| 7 | Boyfriend sets poor boundariesUmm no. Bye Felicia. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/17 04:04 PM |
| 3 | ConfusionThis. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/17 11:28 PM |
| 3 | ConfusionI'm going to be honest, this seems a bit clingy and weird. Like he's needy of love without caring who the person is, since he can't really know you very well yet. I don't think that's a great trait for anyone man or woman. Proceed with caution. If he respects you he can wait for you to be ready. If he just needs anyone to love him because he's got issues, it will get more obvious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/17 11:27 PM |
| 1 | I want to be the best wife I can be.Please don't laugh because I'm being serious; don't most people have to pee first thing in the morning before anything else? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/17 11:21 PM |
| 3 | "Where are all the good men?"Like I said, it's better to ignore the guys commenting. I feel sorry for all those women and it's quite clear many of them are in poverty. I personally would never post a guy's profile to mock. The reality is, I'm not judging the women harshly as much as trying to remind myself to make good choices. I've no idea what path those women have been on or their struggles. I did not intend to single that woman out. There are so many just like it they blended together and I just tried to make up an exam… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/17 12:07 AM |
| 10 | "Where are all the good men?"I met my boyfriend online and he's the sweetest man I've dated. There was a guy I had a perfect meet-cute with in my apartment building, like out of a movie. He was walking his dog and I held the door and something caused us to chat and he got my number. Rom com material. He pursued me at times but we would have been an awful match for religious and values reasons. I think it's a bit narrow-minded to suggest all online dating is bad. The way those women's profiles are done is a disaster, and the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/17 05:00 PM |
| 8 | "Where are all the good men?"Do you mean people shouldn't date online? I disagree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/17 04:34 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to unromantic gift from boyfriendThis is so sweet. I actually read this book a while back that said if a boyfriend won't get you jewelry or flowers or chocolate for every gift then he doesn't see you romantically and you should dump. I always thought that was too rigid. But it made me paranoid. Thanks for this perspective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/17 03:14 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to unromantic gift from boyfriendI grew up around several doctors and nurses and this is so accurate. I have this trait too, and I looked for a man who is mature about body and health stuff and doesn't have hangups, since I've always been frank about it too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/17 03:11 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to unromantic gift from boyfriendAnd link to it; I'll get the popcorn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/17 03:08 PM |
| 3 | How to respond to unromantic gift from boyfriendOk. So if this was your birthday present and you got nothing else my eyebrows would be raised. But here's the two main things: He got you a gift for no reason. That is a really good sign from a guy. He's a doctor. Obviously, he's going to be detached and mature about medical treatments and not act squeamish about it. I don't think this was malicious. As a doctor he probably doesn't think the way most people do about what condition is or is not attractive, he's thinking about health. I don't thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/17 03:06 PM |
| 3 | "My goal is to find that special someone that will treat me right and not **** me over."I would never get in a car and drive to a remote location on a first date with a stranger. What? That's many levels of lack of a self preservation instinct. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 06/10/17 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Understanding RP: What I've Learned and Will Teach My KidsThe physical is skincare and fitness and good diet and tasteful makeup. Too much makeup will age you. Maybe certain things can be done that will look good on red carpet with professional cameras or on tv, but it won't IRL. Too much powder makeup is aging so keep it minimal. Too much eye makeup as well. As you age you want to remain a sexual being, you just don't want to do it in the same manner a 19 year old would. That's why women embarrass themselves. The goal is sophisticated elegance and und… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/17 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Understanding RP: What I've Learned and Will Teach My KidsA lot of this is good, but some of it is very off. RP is not useless to women after the wall. Also, plenty of guys don't see women as nothing but sex toys if they don't want kids. As for the idea that women basically stop being sexy or sexual beings after a certain age, that's a misunderstanding. The aging and effects are real. But I'm not sure you realize this--the idea that childbearing and then passing a certain age kind of desexualizes women into a matronly mommy and coach role is a very Pur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/17 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Monthly GoalsWrite. Every Day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/17 04:54 PM |
| 11 | You will never feel beautiful until you are wearing your own skinSkincare long term helps aging more than makeup. But yes aging gracefully is a must. But do everything possible till to maximize what you do have. Also the title freaked me out a little, lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/17 03:37 PM |
| 9 | Skincare tips?/r/SkincareAddiction | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/17 01:52 AM |
| 3 | Male shit testsI always do with gifts and dinner etc. but I guess I notice he likes to get me little things I need to help me save, like around the house stuff. I know he likes to but when it's not an overt gift he won't know I need it unless I ask. I want to not push asking too much with still letting him do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/17 07:45 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to unromantic gift from boyfriendWisdom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/17 07:41 PM |
| 7 | Male shit testsI really don't get why these categories are necessary. Why are only women doing shot tests and men are doing compliance? It seems all the same to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/17 07:29 PM |
| 4 | Male shit testsHow do you advise balancing accepting the ways he wants to spoil you and provide with also showing you will not be a crazy spender when you are married? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/17 07:27 PM |
| 2 | How can I help him overcome his grief?Right. If OP puts pressure on him to "overcome" grief, they will both seriously resent each other. She's mad he won't get better and he's mad she expects him to and won't let him grieve. I've seen marriages irreparably damaged and eventually end due mishandling grief and one spouse not letting the other grieve. Losing a parent is a huge loss no matter the kind of parent they were and that needs to be respected. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 09:39 PM |
| 1 | How can I help him overcome his grief?Good! That's really healing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 04:51 PM |
| 1 | How can I help him overcome his grief?Try a lot of non-sexual touch. Massages and hugs. People really need that and it's good for men who are not verbal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 04:42 PM |
| 1 | How can I help him overcome his grief?Grilled cheese sounds good I mean you might as well try. I think just be in the moment? Don't pressure him to feel or not feel anything, and just be there try not to worry about his work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 04:37 PM |
| 1 | How can I help him overcome his grief?So then definitely you could make him food and literally place it in front of him with no pressure to help or come to the table. Don't nag him to eat but if won't at all when it's right there, just encourage him a little. Fold his laundry. Normally I say don't do laundry if he's not husband, but this is different. Those things are so helpful when someone is grieving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 04:17 PM |
| 1 | How can I help him overcome his grief?Well there is a time and place and a way. I just don't think men like being asked about their feelings a lot or if they need help; especially not that. But ask if he wants food or wants some other tangible thing and just be with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 04:10 PM |
| 2 | How can I help him overcome his grief?Don't bug him by asking a lot if he's ok or if he needs help or whatever, just be available and stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 03:53 PM |
| 4 | Worrying about my value as a woman/r/SkincareAddiction Now. Seriously. And put down the fork and exercise. Even a mile walk a day does wonders. Do everything you can control then put yourself out there. Maybe seek slightly older men who aren't going to feel entitled to a 22 year old and will get an ego boost from dating a younger woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 03:42 PM |
| 3 | How can I help him overcome his grief?You can't help someone just get over grief. You don't really get over that loss. Just be there but don't pry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/17 03:40 PM |
| 11 | The Red Pill Room's "Girl Game" AnthologyThe GFE post is extremely insightful and I think people here should read it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/17 03:46 AM |
| 5 | TemptationVery true. That's why there's a sidebar note here that RPW advises against going for the type of guy who acts like the TRP sub guys. A RPW is worth a lot in this society, and she deserves a man who also actively works to control his baser nature and grow as a person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 11:13 PM |
| 1 | TemptationThat's not what I said. Have a nice day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 08:00 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend doesn't like when I miss himHe's not your boyfriend. Red flag that he got mad when you asked. Either way if and when you have a good bf, you can phrase I miss you as "your strong arms make me feel so safe, wish I could have a hug" and similar. Vulnerable and compliments his masculinity. Less needy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 07:43 PM |
| 1 | TemptationYou know I meant serious deception like cheating, drugs etc. But even hearing someone say I look nice without makeup and then find out one day they were lying would be lame. The idea that people can't be hurt by what they don't know is false. Even ithiut guilt, the person acts differently in subtle or obvious ways. It's impossible not to. I know you don't want it to be true but it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Using your looksWhat's your career? If you don't feel degraded I see no issue; unless your SO doesn't like your boss talking to you that way or it blurs lines. I certainly use my femininity in love; men literally want us to, so why would I not? Maybe I'm just pragmatic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 07:24 PM |
| 1 | TemptationSorry no, any kind of deception affects a marriage. It alters the relationship even if she never finds out. And it's usually obvious something is off. Disagree strongly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/17 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Ways to show love besides cookingDefinitely communicating that he's making me happy after something nice like dinner or flowers or gift seems to be great. Obviously I'm sincere but I'm trying to be very communicative that it's making me happy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 07:17 PM |
| 1 | The purpose of higher educationPersonally I think the college experience is very overrated. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/09/17 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Why Can't Male Sacrifice Be Acknowledged?I think the mainstream is a lost cause, until it hits rock bottom and hopefully wakes up. Or until the naturally succession of hating men and reproduction makes them destroy themselves. You can't say a single thing that suggests men are strong or good in any way. I said that push-ups are easier for men than women, to make an acquaintance feel better about finding push-ups hard. She looked crushed, like she saw me kick a helpless kitten. It's a biological fact. I don't want to feel like a monster… | /r/RedPillWives | 24/09/17 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever made the first move?There's a middle ground. Don't literally ask him out, but encourage him a lot that you would accept a date. I did that and I have a really decent guy now. I read in an older book from the 50s or so that it's even cool to say "if you ask me out, I'll say yes." | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it's reasonable to expect to be the closest woman in your SO's life?Um, yes. Otherwise I wouldn't stay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:25 PM |
| 1 | What do you ladies think of the 'Taken in Hand' movement?What I liked about it was that it says the whole thing only works in a loving marriage. These days people say "oh it's just a kink!" But it's only ok on the "scene" or as a sexual thing; it's taboo to say it's got to be in a loving marriage. So I like that. Not sure I agree with all of it but I'm glad it said that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else get harassed for posting here in other subs?Lol, Grandma with the sick burn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else get harassed for posting here in other subs?Please don't let your facts about birth control get in the way of their narrative. /s | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else get harassed for posting here in other subs?I am convinced they are actually fascinated by us. I think they see a level of stability of inner peace and are secretly interested, since they lack that. But it conflicts intellectually with their beliefs, so they get mad instead. If they didn't have any interest in us as they claim, they would just ignore us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else get harassed for posting here in other subs?Yes. I posted in an unrelated sub and someone thought my post was a slight towards them, when it wasn't in any way. He went back to my post history and had this cringy attempt at a gotcha thing of me. Posted that I was Catholic and post in RPW and prefer my military bf over guys who have always been white collar. Took everything out of context. Like having a dating preference is a crime. Basically he was European who hates Americans; those types on Reddit are super angry. It was really embarrass… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:14 PM |
| 4 | Revelist author reminds us that looking good is "sexist"Is this just a variation of "if you can't accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best"? The author's logic is a bit much. Trying to look nice is fake? So by the same logic, deciding to act kind and respectful when you feel tired and cranky is "fake." You should just be as awful as possible and not temper yourself in any way to consider other people. Only then can you know they truly accept you with your flaws. Heck, why not become obese and get into credit card debt, just to test that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 04:04 PM |
| 5 | I keep getting ghosted before first dates and am at my wit's end.That's true. We all age, but if women freak out about it and chop off your hair and get fat and frumpy because they've given up on themselves, that's when it gets bad. Alternatively the denial approach of too much makeup and acting immature. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 03:55 PM |
| 1 | I keep getting ghosted before first dates and am at my wit's end.I just want to say that you should not take this to heart. Ghosting is a part of the online dating culture, for better or worse, and you must not take it personally. Get back on the horse and try again. And yes, maybe pay for a more serious dating site like match or eharmony where people are seeking a partner, not just a swipe app where people are passing the time. I mean keep the swipe apps sure but focus on more serious ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 03:51 PM |
| 1 | I [21F] can never take my SO's [24M] word for anything anymore. How do I handle this situation?Honestly the title tells me all I need to know. That's awful, I briefly dated someone who spiraled into this due to his own issues. I wasn't even mad, I was just sad at the constant crushing disappointment. It's one of the worst feelings. The thing is, if you let it continue, it will start getting in your head that you don't deserve a reliable guy, that reliable men are only for other women. Your brain will process him letting you down and conclude it's somehow about you, partly, since you're st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/17 03:44 PM |
| 4 | There Are More Traditional Men Than Women Now, I Think!I believe you are right. Men know what they want so many are more open of wanting tradition. I'm so discouraged how hard it is to have women friends since they all seem to buy into scorning men. Yesterday a acquaintence and I discussed push-ups and how hard they are. I said it's easier for men. I was trying to say we shouldn't be hard on ourselves since as women push-ups are harder. She got quiet and sad and acted like I kicked a puppy. It's a physical fact. Like if I said on average men are tal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 04:25 PM |
| 15 | " you're way too nice", but isn't this what I am supposed to be?I'll say what I always say on here. RPW is not just about being sweet. A lot of women in here, myself included, are naturally intense or even dominant at times. You absolutely must approach this from a basic core of self respect. Ever instance of submission and sweetness should be an active choice, and it's very meaningful when coming from someone who fully makes that choice. You should be like a lioness who chooses to show her neck and be vulnerable to the male lion. Not a rabbit or prey animal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/17 04:14 PM |
| 3 | ProjectingIt's true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/17 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Is being depressed unpleasant to men?I get depressed and my bf cares and wants to help me, he always tries to build my confidence, listen, be there. He won't let me wallow in self pity either. The main thing is I do my best not to take it out on anyone. When I hear about a guy whining that a girl's depression is a buzz kill for him, I assume he's a huge baby or just doesn't care. Adults realize that people have issues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 12:29 PM |
| 4 | Field report: knowing when to disagree?You have to be there for each other, have each other's back. I thought that not questioning was for things that aren't as big, like dinner or whatever. Travel documents seem important. I wouldn't worry about being a perfect RP when stuff like that's at stake. | /r/RedPillWives | 13/09/17 02:55 AM |
| 1 | I need emotional support but I do not want to be needyIt's hard when you are apart during the week. Use lots of FaceTime and daily contact throughout the day. Find something you enjoy to immerse yourself in like a show or book. It's not easy but it makes it special that he doesn't see you all the time early on. It's fine to tell him you're anxious. Guys like when you express vulnerability. Then get back in and keep trying. Just try to escape with him and no talk about work the whole time. Maybe mention it briefly and then just be with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/17 02:51 AM |
| 3 | 'Slag culture' has destroyed datingI actually fully support traveling for you. It's so bad in your culture right now that if you can and are open to it, seriously just go. Those more traditional cultures mentioned are great. You are lucky to be so close to many EU countries; please open your search there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 11:22 PM |
| 5 | Ned some advice, please!I never said that, stop projecting. She's just insecure about asking for anything, and I'm giving her a tip that it's ok to ask and not an issue, plus to rest if she's sick. She has the right to be troubled about a guy giving mixed signals about the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Ned some advice, please!You're sick, just get better, not try to figure it all out. I'm sorry but if he's 28 he can make time for a short dinner date. Even at like KFC. What I mean to say is somewhere public. this is important. Food for thought--a friend follows several high class escorts on Twitter. You know what they all say? Women these days give themselves away for far too little. Think about the implications of that statement by those women. You have more power here than you realize. Don't fear using it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Never dated at the age of 22What about dating online? Not your main strategy, but as casting a net. Make it ciear you only want a real thing. If you filter carefully, the worst that happens is some dinner dates where you get more comfortable with the process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 11:24 AM |
| 4 | Ned some advice, please!That comment was really weird and angry, don't worry about it.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 11:22 AM |
| 3 | Ned some advice, please!Do things on your own, have your own life. And yes, you just insist on real dates with him, even simple, short ones. Hanging out alone isn't enough, especially not so early on. It does concern me that he has future plans to go away--I'm assuming you are younger, early 20s? As such you must stay busy with your own plans too, then his response will tell you what you need to know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 11:22 AM |
| 7 | Does a man's N-count matter to you?It matters more to me if they were LTRs/marriage, or random. A guy who can do random one night stand is not someone who shares my values. Nor someone I trust, since I would know he is capable of sex with a woman he does not know. He had to have only been in LTRs. And needs closeness and commitment to be physical. Men who only had LTRs won't have a high n anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/17 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Please, don't become this woman. Swallow the Red PillThe have to drink to deal with the horrible feeling they must have from random hookups and going against what brings women happiness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Please, don't become this woman. Swallow the Red PillOkay so first of all, none of my friends drink like her friends. Clearly she had a problem and surrounded herself with other heavy drinkers, and she needs new friends. She is right about not "having it all." That was always silly. I also have never understood this obsession with "ladies night" and "girl time." I hated my all girls high school. Sleepovers were spent wishing I went to a coed school and being bored. It seems to be a very American/UK thing. These women who act like they are free bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 06:07 PM |
| 1 | I can't break up with my boyfriendIt's not that hard, just do it. You need a source of inner strength that isn't from a guy, though. Faith, spirituality, something. Not having that is what makes it seem hard. You are getting deeper entangled with the new guy. Please clean up loose ends with your bf before stuff gets messy. You wouldn't want to be treated that way. No matter what everyone needs to remember this, though: the guy that seems perfect now will have lots of flaws that you will see in a year. No one is perfect. I don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 05:57 PM |
| 6 | 23f asking: how to reassure my bf of my value? he is jealous of past relationshipI could never date a guy who had dated my friends. I even turned down a guy who had chatted with my friend on a dating site, but it didn't work out. It's not like he chose her over me; I wasn't even on the site at the time. But I did not want anyone's hand-me-downs. I feel like that combined with the stress of him feeling threatened by your old image with your ex, being the "new guy" is the problem. You either need to have a frank heart to heart where you both listen, and decide to move forward,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 05:56 PM |
| 9 | Do you know any women who refuse to take care of themselves?My mother is pretty anti-beautification routines, hair dye, makeup, dressing up, watching what she eats, basically "trying" at all. I always disliked it and worse, it's because of her liberal agenda, not even because she just prefers it that way. So she has to force it on everyone. She is always preaching about not "needing" makeup as if all women who wear makeup are just ugly naturally. I wish she would dye her hair, it's partially gray and partially dark, but she always goes on about how perfe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Monthly GoalsWrite every day. Read every day. Work out more during the week. Do my own hair color. Do real effort in job apps I want. Frugality. Be kind and real with bf. Stop eating as much. Pray more daily from the heart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/17 05:48 PM |
| -3 | The number one reason for leaving red pillWell I liked this comment anyway. I think it's wise. RP has the problem but not the full solution. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/09/17 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Keeping the love tank full in a long distance relationshipJust stick it out. It will get better. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/09/17 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Keeping the love tank full in a long distance relationshipI hope you can move closer to him asap. To me family is number 1. It will be so nice when you're together more! | /r/RedPillWives | 05/09/17 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Brag About Your Man!He spoils the heck out of me with cooking and sending flowers. I love cooking and baking but he likes taking care of me and cooking for us. On my honor I will never say a negative word about this or discourage it in any way :) | /r/RedPillWives | 04/09/17 03:13 PM |
| 2 | "Yes, I know."Just smile and say you remember. I'm spacey and forget things I've already told him a lot. It's not personal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/17 03:11 PM |
| 3 | How should a RPW handle life once she becomes an adult?Biggest lie Western culture has taught is that happiness is the goal. Thank you for saying this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/17 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Fiction recommendations?What's Outlander like? Seen it in stores for years. Now it's a tv show. I've always wondered why I didn't hear more about it from people IRL, because it's always prominent in sci fi section. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/17 03:09 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend gave me an inappropriate giftI wouldn't take it to heart if most other things are good with you all. Did you have brothers or male cousins? Do you remember how sometimes guys just do or say things occasionally that seem...well sometimes dumb or obnoxious, for absolutely no reason? Guys just are more direct than us usually, and aren't trained to be as sensitive and socially attuned as we are. A lot of times in life it's good they aren't like us, but once in a while it comes off juvenile or insensitive. It's not personal. If … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/17 03:08 PM |
| 2 | What Makes a Woman Boring AND How Not to be BoringThis is smart, but I think people should still find themselves cool and interesting even if they aren't always doing exciting stuff. Try too hard to be exciting and it comes off insecure and unstable. Just another way to please people. Just do you and respect yourself for it. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/09/17 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Advice: is it important to have an anniversary date?Definitely not as important as wedding anniversary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/17 11:45 PM |
| 2 | RPW-do I truly want an Alpha and/or why do I keep choosing abusive ones??Shot in the dark, but I think you feel guilty for wanting a high dominance man, so you suppress that desire, and it pops up in weird ways like being drawn to guys that are bad for you. Maybe be more deliberate in searching and you'll find a guy who's got the strength you want and is good and kind and committed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/17 02:07 PM |
| 6 | What RPW "idea" DON'T you subscribe too?My grandmother was the most feminine woman I know. She was angelic. But she had survived crazy hardship and farm life and did NOT let anyone mess with her. She accomplished this in a way where you felt like thanking her for it. She had this spark of life in her that made her more beautiful. The submission should be a choice by a strong woman. It's about letting go of controlling the things that don't matter much. But what is love if not helping someone be their best. Most men I know are thankful… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 03:08 PM |
| 6 | "We're equal."They are equal. Equal in human dignity and rights in a relationship. But modern usage of equal means to say "identical." Obviously men and women are not identical. Don't think you're inferior, but also don't think you're only free when you're the same as a man. Your power is your feminine wiles, not becoming like a man. Use your power to the fullest, as it's meant to. Good men actually want you to do this, but usually won't say it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 02:33 PM |
| 16 | What RPW "idea" DON'T you subscribe too?That being only sweet and submissive is the answer, without any spark of your own life or willingness to stand up for yourself. Every relationship I've seen with a truly feminine women, she doesn't mindlessly submit but chooses to be sweet, but also has a strength and even a slight "rudeness," just simply directness or fearlessness of being real. Not being a nag or b just being real. When I was younger I did mindless Suzie homemaker stuff and guys got bored OR I found weird insecure guys who cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/17 02:31 PM |
| 2 | DepressedLook RPW is great and insightful, but it's one small view on life. It's sociological. When it comes to actual philosophy of life, overall, there is something greater. Do you believe in love, and grace? As in the idea of good things happening that we didn't earn, that we didn't do x y and z for result b. Ultimately you should still have faith in humanity. We still observe human inclinations, but we have free will and self awareness to improve. It's civilization. We don't just let our impulses run… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/17 04:32 PM |
| 1 | DepressedThis is wise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/17 04:29 PM |
| 3 | When Your Husband Doesn't "Meet Your Needs": Fighting for MarriageFWIW Since I became Christian and stoped expecting a man to fulfill all my spiritual needs, it's gotten better. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/08/17 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Feeling insecure as a result of husband's emotional affairAre you honestly not upset? I mean you're so sweet and patient is it possible you're burying some feelings? You're writing this post, so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/17 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Feeling insecure as a result of husband's emotional affairBut she's not happy with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/17 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Feeling insecure as a result of husband's emotional affairHmm. I don't think you should try to make a decision about a divorce or anything now, but moving out...well if you didn't have kids I would say 100% do it. You don't have any leverage and you need it regardless. You have kids so that does give me pause. I do think you need leverage now though somehow. He's not seeing consequences for his actions bc you are not setting them. At the least you must compartmentalism this and emotionally detach, to gain emotional control of yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/17 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Dressing for Mr. RightIt was just my anedctodal Facebook stalking study, but it stayed with me. It was the single and looking girls, who while they had many friends, they couldn't get a man, who proudly wore red lipstick every day. I looked at recently married women and it was nudes and gloss. I think one girl had one photo with more bold reddish lip color, but it was after she was married, at a formal event or something. A lot of these are churchgoers which could skew it, since church guys love to freak out about si… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 03:19 PM |
| 5 | Dressing for Mr. RightThe general idea that women's magazines are selling ideas that work for hook ups only and not love--definitely true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 03:15 PM |
| 8 | Dressing for Mr. RightAn aside....I will never understand the mystery of why women's magazines absolutely insist all men adore red lipstick on a woman bc "science", while IRL I'd say ballpark 50% or less of men really do. All the women I know who regularly wear red lipstick are single still. The married ones wear nudes or gloss. Not a judgment, just observation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Bachelorette Party: Male Strip ClubIt sounds awful, just don't go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:22 AM |
| 2 | Bachelorette Party: Male Strip ClubI always thought the strip club bachelor(ette) parties were the craziest thing...right before you marry? How is that logical? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:21 AM |
| 1 | I have a "tone"As an aside, [spoilers P&R] I actually thought April was a good example of RPW. In terms of how she acts with Andy when they are together; she trusts him, is sweet to him and doesn't usually read into his words negatively, doesn't nag much, sees him as a teammate and not a competitor, and is willing to marry him at a young age in spite of everyone finding it crazy. Made career choices around him. Accepted him. Think about how Ann was to him vs. how April was. Ann was condescending and nagging. A… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:16 AM |
| 2 | I have a "tone"You're not the only person who was encouraged to "speak up" all the time as a kid. It was really big in a lot of education, especially for women. It taught us that just commenting is always laudable, even if we don't have something good to say. You can change your tone. It will take practice. The best way is to find examples of people in real life who have feminine and patient voices and emulate them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/17 12:10 AM |
| 4 | Men love women, women respect men.Love is willing the good of the other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 11:49 PM |
| 3 | I've been told I what I come across as and I don't like itI agree with the commenter who said he didn't really pick it up, bc a lot of women feel that way. It sounds like a line to me. I've met people who say stuff like that just to get in people's heads and control or mess with them. Not saying he's malicious, just that it has more to do with him than how you're coming across. First things first. Disliking yourself because you feel insecure is a bad cycle. Acceptance is the start. Then you really don't have to be 100% confident to be okay; literally n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/17 11:45 PM |
| 2 | How to support an unemployed SO.I'm really glad you told him this was hurting you. It might have been hard to hear, but men get their main motivation from wanting to provide for the ones they love. This might wake him up to see that you actually need him. He might have seen you as the stable one since you've been so helpful. This should help him step up. Good for you for being vulnerable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 05:30 PM |
| 0 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomBe careful w this stuff it will mess with your head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Asking for sex- is it anti-RP?Don't lots of wives talk about making the guy think stuff was his idea? Not just about sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 05:18 PM |
| 2 | RP TruthsScientist aspect does make a difference I agree. I find them all insufferable. I had to hear that stuff constantly growing up, walking on eggshells I might say or think or do something non PC. Seriously damaged my life. So so glad I found other people who realize how awful that is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:57 PM |
| 2 | RP TruthsI beg to differ; baby boomer hippies act very entitled and annoying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:46 PM |
| 2 | RP TruthsI think OP meant this is what the SJWs believe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:46 PM |
| 8 | RP TruthsPeople bigger than me trying to constantly push carbs, sweets, and sodas on me and literally attempt to brainwash me to being dessert-obsessed is the creepiest thing! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:45 PM |
| 5 | "Soft place to land"/ ways to destress LTR while living separately?I agree. Soup when sick or stressed or baking you made is cool, but that other stuff is wife treatment. He gets that once he's put a ring on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:31 PM |
| 2 | RP Relationships & Abortion?You're in a tough spot. I don't believe abortion is ok. But regardless of my view, either way, not telling him is a terrible idea that would ruin your relationship. That's his child, too. What if you sadly got an abortion and got depressed after? It's common, especially with hormones acting up. The idea it's just transactional and you forget about it after is a lie. You will start resenting him unfathomably, guaranteed! Then it would come out eventually and he's going to be horrified you broke h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Coming Full CircleIt's fun to talk about what you all were thinking on the first date and stuff. I personally don't have that puppy love early on. It grows deeper and we can have that fun affection more after we know each other and date a long time. I just need to to have that security and built up trust to give myself to those feelings. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:10 PM |
| 9 | Really need help being 'soft' and supportive for a manJust being able to say "wow, that sucks" instead of trying to fix people's venting with "helpful" ideas is a life skill. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/17 04:06 PM |
| 12 | How do I politely tell the gentleman I'm just not interested in you.Why do people seem to forget about the block feature and the losing someone's number feature? We don't owe every random weirdo courtesy, if they're clearly being weird. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Female victimization and figureI wish this too. Maybe then my grandparents would still be alive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 02:45 AM |
| 0 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?And what I think is that you have been brought up with ignorant views, and people like you damage people who need help. Have a nice night. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 01:46 AM |
| 0 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?Because I said it's FOR ME. I didn't come into a mixed forum proclaiming how it's the ultimate truth and everyone should watch out for it. We both know you can't draw a parallel there. There ARE tons of people who won't get help, or when they do get help, hate taking meds and feel they are worthless, because of people w your attitude. Don't date them, but don't go preaching it as gospel truth that they are undateable. Notice I didn't proclaim my personal "red flag" as such. And even if I did, it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 01:16 AM |
| 1 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?I don't think you grasp the concept of personal choice. People have different red flags. For you, even treated mental illness is a big one. For me, a non-Christian would be a big red flag. But for many, that is not a flag. That's my point. I don't like thinking of young men or women terrified to date because they have prescribed medication--and believe me, there are young people who will refuse treatment because they want to seem "normal" and get dates. Your attitude is perpetuating that kind of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 12:47 AM |
| 1 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?Accurate yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 12:43 AM |
| 1 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?It's not a red flag. It's your personal red flag. Based on ignorant notions from the past. No need for the arrogance to proclaim your opinions as fact. Fortunately there are good men who look at the full human, not the label. It's wrong to say a person who takes care of a mental concern responsibly is inherently risky. Many of them have handled far more adult responsibilities than some ever will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/17 12:22 AM |
| 1 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?are you talking about illegal drug use here now? I'm lost. If you're still on about prescribed medication for depression and the like, maybe that's a red flag for you, but as a general rule it is not. Acting crazy and refusing medication is the red flag. I hope you don't make any young women on here afraid to date because they think all men will think like you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 07:01 PM |
| 1 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?No one cares about this buried conversation, and people agreeing or not doesn't change truth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 06:11 PM |
| 1 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?It's your opinion, that's it. Some people in this world are not afraid of love, others spend forever running away from it, looking for a checklist. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 04:04 PM |
| 3 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?I honestly feel sorry for you. Your level of ignorance about mental illness is what keeps thousands from getting the help they need, when it could save their lives. It's what makes people refuse to take meds--they think everyone will judge them as hard as people like you, dehumanize them, and they think they will never find love, so they risk their own lives trying to be "normal." If a person with a physical illness treated themselves, you would support that. If they refused treatment, that woul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 03:12 PM |
| 2 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?None of what you're saying makes sense. Someone you don't know who takes meds is a red flag? What about when you do know them? Are they a person yet, or just a flag still? What about if you fall for them, and they, because of people like you, kept their medication a secret since any random person doesn't deserve that info, and then you found out that this person who is cool actually takes meds? There's too much ignorance out there. Where did I say anyone's obligated to date anyone? I didn't. You… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 02:24 PM |
| 4 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?Glad not everyone is as judgmental as you are. You don't run from the ones who responsibly treat their mental or physical illness, you run from the ones who refuse to treat it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/17 02:13 PM |
| 2 | how many of you actually work out?Second T25. It's shorter workouts, and less intimidating for someone new. Also the low impact routine (brunette girl) is amazing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Stance on having guy friends.I have a few male friends. Some I only see in groups, one is miles away and we don't meet. My bf knows about all of them. If my bf had a close female friend he once hooked up with and didn't tell me for a year, I would be livid. If he needed to hide it like that. Let the friend go. The fact that you kept it a secret this long is crazy, to me. Why do you need to hide it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 09:11 PM |
| 2 | How to start vetting in the beginning stages of getting to know each other?Are you saying taking meds is bad? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Advice on living togetherDon't move in before marriage. It'll just delay it. Couples who lived together before marriage have a higher divorce rate. The fact that his buddy would be there makes it lame too. You can say it as you've decided not to do it on principle, not personal to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Should I start dating now or wait?Nah, don't date. High school can seem really important, socially, but it's not. Make friends, study, activities and hobbies. The exception is if you're in a location where tons of people marry high school sweethearts. Not saying do this, but at least you'll know a guy is looking for something serious. And don't feel like you must settle for the first guy when you're 18 if you aren't sure c But you're honestly quite young. Take advantage of learning why feminism etc is bad, use it to your advanta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Advice AppreciatedIf he asks you on vacation, tell him you don't go on trips with men who you aren't in a committed relationship with. Say it like it's your policy; not some attempt to manipulate him. Trust, if he wants to be officially exclusive, it will give him an easy opening to that conversation, he will ask you. If he says he doesn't want that, time saved for you. If he says he's not sure, don't go on the trip, and remember that he has your number, he will call if he wants. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:47 PM |
| 2 | "You should propose to him"Men always claim they love women pursuing or proposing but they don't really like it IRL. Nobody knows themselves. It's like women saying they want a soft, sensitive guy who worships us. It's hard to admit that's not fully true, it's hard to know yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Am I Doing It Wrong?Not totally. But you seem to need someone quite dominant and you're looking in a very wrong place. Establish solid loving recommitted relationship before you give that valuable submission. You don't get vulnerable with just anybody. So find a guy who's dominant in a loving and moral way, not this joker. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Am I Doing It Wrong?I can't find your particular post history about being subs, could you link it please? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Am I Doing It Wrong?Well I talk about how a core of self respect is needed with femininity or else it's just being a doormat. Submission is from a truly strong woman deliberately choosing a worthy man to submit to. You are not choosing, you're addicted to him because he keeps dangling the carrot of commitment and then pulling it away. Anyway if you keep acting like a dancing bear trying to make him like you, you won't like yourself. That's not what it's about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Am I Doing It Wrong?Lose his number and cut him off! You can do it! Begging him and treating life like an audition to make him like you will only backfire. Would you be turned on by a guy white knighting you like that? If you have the feminine qualities you say, you can get a good guy who asks you for your commitment before you ask him. Have you read Why Men Love Bitches? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Have You Filled A Bucket Today?I like yours. But I think the quote is saying she's entitled to be totally nuts and do whatever, but makes no promises she'll accept the guy in return. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Getting the best partner you can get and the effects of career choicesSage advice, but the truth will always be "youth is wasted on the young," as they say. Many won't see the wisdom until later. RP is smart, but I do believe in grace myself, the beauty of love and things working out. However RP is smart bc it's strategic, so it's saying don't count on winning the lottery. Change expectations and overprepare and you might be pleasantly surprised. As an aside, I never wanted to be a career woman, but ironically I was offered a corporate job. Yes it's closer to assi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:18 PM |
| 2 | I had an epiphany this weekI have a question: how can a woman show gratitude for these things, without coming off surprised or patronizing? I don't want to thank him in a way that says "wow, I didn't think you would do it," or "wow surprisingly you have manners." My bf is a bit strong and silent (military) so doesn't get too expressive accepting thanks, but I don't want to be ungrateful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/17 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Evolving ManipulationI have a soft voice too! People tell me to speak up, but it is physically hard and I think I sound shrill/bossy, and I hate that. I grew up thinking the popular girls were loud and uninhibited, but it turns out a soothing soft voice can be hypnotic. I don't believe men actually like the high pitched baby voice, at least many say they can't stand it, so a sultry lower voice is great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/17 02:19 PM |
| 7 | How to treat men at work?Exactly. How meaningful can submission be if any guy who wants it, gets it? Do what your boss says sure, but that's it. A strong woman who chooses to be submissive to her man, im chooses to be vulnerable...that's meaningful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/17 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Is confidence overrated?Vulnerability takes true confidence. Most people I've heard the confidence thing from seem to mean acting like you have no weakness. That's the confidence I say isn't great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/17 06:10 PM |
| 33 | How to treat men at work?I see this question a lot. If you're wondering how to treat them "red pill women," stop. That's for your spouse/boyfriend. Your man won't really love it if you act submissive and sweet and compliant with all men. Part of committed love is excluding others. The world today in the US especially demands we all act neutered and innocuous at work. Do that. Just mind your business. Be respectful of your boss, but no need to pull out your feminine wiles. If you must you can make small talk. I repeat, R… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/17 03:23 PM |
| 11 | Evolving ManipulationWe are weaker than men physically. Our voices are softer, we are not equal athletically, etc. If you're getting really basic survivalist here, the smaller animal has to develop ways to maintain power and safety. Not to say that men are dangerous to us by nature, but just physically are dangerous to animals etc, and it's natural to factor this in when assessing human interaction. So instead of brute force, we have charm, subtle influence, etc. This is all compounded on pregnancy. We need triple t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/17 12:24 AM |
| 3 | I'm never approached by men.This is an explanation of why so many men desperately want to save strippers. I read that in some countries, women stay poor on purpose while single, to attract men. Of course my bf has told me if I ever sold a book and earned a lot he would be thrilled :) but, he's also met me at not the most stable time for me...yet still more stable than I used to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 04:03 PM |
| 7 | I'm never approached by men.I had a guy friend who would ask girls to coffee as friends. He said they would say, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now." I mean, really? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 03:58 PM |
| 4 | I'm never approached by men.Smiling never worked for me. It seemed to put guys off. Honestly only teasing or ignoring kinda did. But not the guys I wanted. I ended up being "obvious" but it attracted someone where it was mutual, and not him obsessed with me. Of course I lived in a place where being a jerk is a prized trait. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 03:54 PM |
| 12 | I'm never approached by men.Sometimes I see screenshots online of women responding with such vulgarity, and so out of proportion to the guy's statement, that I think it's a wonder any guy has the courage to ask women out at all. If a guy sends a harmless message, or holds the door, screaming curse words at him seems inappropriate. At least she should just ignore him. Even if he's being a real creep, the block button exists for a reason. I don't get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 03:53 PM |
| 3 | I'm never approached by men.I had to learn that there's a middle ground between standing off giving no signals of interest, and actively chasing and pursuing. You might need to do things to show interest, things that might feel incredibly obvious to you...but that won't seem so to a guy. We women can give long eye contact and it makes us feel like we just went up and said "please ask me out," but the guy didn't even register it. Don't assume all guys are confident and self assured. You can make it obvious you're open to a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/17 03:41 PM |
| 2 | I don't know that I believe that respect is the key to relationshipsBe who you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 10:57 PM |
| 2 | I don't know that I believe that respect is the key to relationshipsIf it's fake or superficial it would get old. Being a goody two shoes to a guy is a way to annoy him and yourself. I chose Lucy because she's kind of saucy and very playful, but is never bitter or rebellious to Ricky. She isn't willfully or angry, but she's real, and Ricky is able to help her handle herself basically. But the key is she isn't rebellious or angry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Quitting birth control changed everythingDid you see that study where men were giving a hormonal BC and couldn't handle the side effects at all? Depression, mood changes, libido etc. it's interesting women have been putting up with it for so long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Quitting birth control changed everythingWhen it first came out, it wasn't women who were excited about it. It was unscrupulous men, who wanted sex without responsibility. They would ask each other if their girlfriends were on the pill, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Oral contraceptives influence mate selectionSo glad we are discussing this, it isn't talked about enough. Edit: think about how it would affect the relationship when she goes off the pill and wants a man with a different scent and look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 03:56 PM |
| 1 | How can I be less judgmental?Lower your expectations for people to be perfect. I get you, sometimes I feel I've been through more adult problems than most people in my world, so I get frustrated. "Arrogance is always expecting the best of people." You know perfectly well that modern mainstream culture has brainwashed everyone in the young generation that living together is a natural relationship step. It's wrong, but for someone who doesn't know better, you shouldn't be surprised if they do it. No need to act like you've ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 03:42 PM |
| 22 | I don't know that I believe that respect is the key to relationshipsI understand what you're saying. However, I don't think it's that men don't want respect. I think it's the desire for a woman who respects herself too. One thing I don't see enough of in this sub is that all the submission and demure sweetness of a woman must be based on a core of her respecting herself, a core strength. Otherwise she's just a pushover and a dependent child, and that's hard to see as an equal. It's important to communicate directly. Even in very old relationship books I've seen … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/17 03:32 PM |
| 12 | Get Pregnant at 25 If You Want a High-Powered Career!Yeah, I totally think women who want big careers and family should have a family first. It just makes sense. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/07/17 10:25 PM |
| 3 | Quitting birth control changed everythingI second this, natural methods are better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Elite Older families and red pillI agree with you that avoiding negative outbursts can be really helpful. Really upper class, traditional people's values are simply having the confidence to not breakdown or panic or tweet go on /r/relationships (lol) when you are worried about something with a person you love. You don't need to ask the feminist culture for answers and validation. Instead, control yourself and remember that it's not necessary to talk about everything. Save that for truly important moments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 03:11 AM |
| 2 | I don't understand how Western men workJust a caveat about that book--the traditional general message behind it is good, but it is extremely rigid and legalistic about some of these "rules," and in your case that might be bad given the culture around you. For example, they have rigid rules about never approaching him or even saying hi first or even standing near a guy you like or making too much eye contact. If you follow that rule in Germany the guys might never make a move. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/17 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Mental illness really took a toll on my SMV and RMVYes. That is a risk. It's just a general rule to seek men who have seen real life. Some adult men are still in high school and act cliquey and arrogant about anyone different as being "weird," they lack empathy for people and can't handle real adult problems. Filtering by profession is just a shortcut to hopefully avoid those types. It's not perfect. To be clear the military guys I dated were out or almost out, so that matters. It could be a psychiatrist or even simply a guy who has seen hardshi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/17 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Mental illness really took a toll on my SMV and RMVI PMed you. But for anyone out there struggling with real life issues, that can't be hidden with just feminine dress and manners, I suggest men in professions like doctor, military, EMT, firefighter etc. If he's been exposed to real heavy situations, a trusted mental illness will not intimidate him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever take back a cheater?Never take one back. Next. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 11:16 PM |
| 3 | I ruin everything and don't know how to fix itAdmit you were wrong. Apologize. And you must learn to examine and be aware when you are anxious. Clearly I can see the anxiety in your post, you say you ruin everything and worry at every problem that he will leave. A guy serious about you dies not throw in the towel over a minor thing. Admit you were being unfair and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Do young men tend to go for women under their league and are non-threatening?It's this. For all the manosphere talks about how an 8/9 can get any man, and that men are throwing themselves at her constantly, they consistently fail to discuss men's fear of rejection. I've had enough men honestly tell me about not risking approaching a highly attractive woman that I believe it to be true. Hence the whole hot women only attracting players thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Do you agree male circumcision is worse than female circumcision?Where are you getting these sweeping generalizations that sex to women is only as important as having trendy things? You must not know very much about women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/17 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Talking about bodily function [serious]I agree :) mine does | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/17 01:00 AM |
| 2 | A French Take on Feminism | Notes From a Red Pill GirlI had a lot of French culture growing up, and I really like how they are in many ways. The women are taught to be strong by way of being feminine, not to deny their femininity and act like men. They don't seem to have the problem with aging poorly on any of the level we have in the US, or with bickering with men all the time, or with getting fat. I am so grateful I was exposed to a lot of that growing up. Even if American women did try to make me feel I was weak for not bickering about petty thi… | /r/RedPillWives | 24/06/17 05:01 PM |
| 3 | A French Take on Feminism | Notes From a Red Pill GirlI know, as a French speaker she was totally blunt, it was great. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/06/17 04:59 PM |
| 2 | What RP tenet made the most difference to you and your relationship?Literally just the fact that I am not betraying myself and other women by examining my actions, my mistakes, how I contributed to the problem, and how I can improve for my SO. I stopped shaming myself for the fact that unlike many women, I do not get super uppity and sassy at a man for doing something tiny wrong, and that doesn't make me weak. That sacred cow that women can do no wrong, and that asking yourself how you might do better is sacrilege, has to be broken. Once that happens, it all get… | /r/RedPillWives | 24/06/17 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Discussion on The Handmaid's TaleI am not interested, since I understand it is implied that the society is "Christian." Christianity bashing is pretty boring, to me, and overdone. I also don't like the implication that fertility and reproduction in women being important, is inherently linked to women being enslaved, oppressed, and abused. It seems very preachy. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/06/17 04:50 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of relationships progressing very quickly?Some people do it and it turns out fine. Others not so much. If either party feels pressured, that's bad. If they are naive kids rather than rational adults making logical choices, that may be bad too. I would never move in that first, or even at all without protection of marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/17 04:24 PM |
| 10 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenSome women are wise enough to choose a man based on character, not success. So if he loses that success, she knows she can count on his character to stay strong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 11:19 PM |
| 11 | Loyal women vs hypergamous womenI did learn from my dad that my word is all I have, so if I go around breaking it I'm not worth much. Maybe you have a point about learning from dads. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 11:17 PM |
| 6 | Applying RP principles in young LTRSince you're young I just have to say. If there are sexual things you aren't ready for, don't feel like you have to do them. Remember that a lot of the sex advice applies to married RPW. Just a PSA. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 11:16 PM |
| 4 | How could having a stay at home parent benefit my SO and I?Very true. Kids who don't have chores and rely on maids and cooks will have a hard time with cooking and cleaning as adults, if they aren't at the point of being able to afford help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/17 11:07 PM |
| 12 | The Case for GravitasI love this post. It really cuts to the core of what modern society does to harm women. All the surface femininity, dress, softness, makeup, cooking, submissiveness have to come from a core strength. A serious man wants a mother for his children and a woman who sticks around during hard times. I began dating mostly military men a few years back due to their ability to accept my difficult past. They are unmoved and not scandalized by my hard family life. They see me as strong, not damaged or hope… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/17 09:16 PM |
| 1 | feeling resentful towards my husbandWhen he's in a far away time zone, it's hard. Hopefully he at least tries. Maybe you can be very happy and affectionate about what he does share. "Oh, that snorkeling looks exciting!" Etc. encourage the sharing so he wants to do it more. If act mad that he didn't share enough, he will share less overall. Also, are you jealous? I mean of the trip. My bf went to a tropical island for work conferences, and the photos he sent made me super jealous. He didn't have any downtime, but I still wanted to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/17 08:33 PM |
| 1 | feeling resentful towards my husbandI love this!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/17 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Spending nights together vs moving inMoving in is where you officially move in together, and don't have any other place to live. For me that only comes after marriage. Living together before is a predictor for higher divorce rate. Spending the night is just an overnight and isn't the same. Try to pack good to go bags and only keep a few things there. Beauty products are ok in my book, they can be messy to carry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/17 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Question About AttractionTotally, spark develops over time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/06/17 12:59 AM |
| 1 | How to accept help from your captain?I think a gift where if you didn't have the gift you would survive is ok. Gifts like paying the bills early on are not good because you wouldn't be okay without it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 09:13 PM |
| 10 | Deal Breakers in Your Relationships - What, Why, and From Where?Ouch. my parents had a bad divorce and I'm aware of having no good examples and feel insecure about it all the time. Luckily my bf is patient and helps me handle it and reassures me, and I'm self aware. There are plenty of adults who actually detach and heal from their childhood, and don't just act out subconsciously. One of the most painful things I've ever experienced is being judged for being from a broken home. Dude, that wasn't my fault. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/17 08:21 PM |
| 2 | I'm emotionally challengedHonestly, therapy can be really good for naming emotions. Even realizing "I'm bad at identifying emotions" helps. For example, I am so bad at realizing I miss somebody. When I miss them I think "they abandoned me and are doing things without me and I'm never going to see them again" which means I then get mad at them. It's so unfair and I'm trying to work on just saying "I miss you." | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 08:17 PM |
| 1 | How to accept help from your captain?Honestly...when I was younger I was all noble about this kind of thing, but then I heard this old guy I really respect explaining to a young guy how in general if someone puts cash in your hand, you accept it. It's about humility. My measure is if it makes you dependent on him. It's a one time payment gift? Not something you will repeatedly need in order to live, like apartment or a car or something. And not a loan he wants back. If not correct me. Kinda seems like he wants this opportunity bc h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 08:14 PM |
| 6 | How do you stay strong when all your friends are getting engaged?Yes. Just keep respecting yourself always. Then you won't be desperate about it. I mean it's ok to vent here or whatever, but you're still cool now, not just when you marry. And it's totally ok to have different paths. People just do. My friend who is 33 just explained that she does want a man one day and she accepts that if she can't have her own kids she would adopt. Her life circumstances just worked out that way. I'm not saying that's what everyone wants, but I realized that having a differe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Question About AttractionIf you give a guy a chance who waits a few dates to kiss...then there is a good chance he's the kind of guy who doesn't like to get physical with a woman unless he knows her and has had one on one time. Which means he won't be the type who just sees a hot chick and has an overwhelming need to sleep with her. Which means cheating would be less likely. So you do want that. Give even more than 3 dates if he needs it. However only if you think he's objectively cute, like you don't need to desire him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 07:53 PM |
| 13 | How do you stay strong when all your friends are getting engaged?Comparison is the thief of joy. But it's soooo hard not to do it. I guess it helps to realize their marriages have challenges as well as joys. It's not always a fairy tale and that's fine. Too easy to assume other people just had a magic fairy tale courtship. Plus there is no shame in being unmarried. I've known attractive and feminine and cool women who delayed marriage until they found the right one. I'm not recommending that, but the point is nobody respected them any less because they never … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Receiving money / presents gracefully while first datingHa yeah the poor guy, he wasn't a deliberate jerk, just very inexperienced and clueless. I wasn't dissing sugar babies, I know that they can be very refined and classy. Ultimately though, seeking just financial support from a man is empty, and it can lead to a feeling of your soul being dulled and materialistic, and that's very sad. However that does not in any way mean that accepting support from a man is wrong or shallow. Just make sure you love and respect him, and that if he lost it all you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Talking about bodily function [serious]I think the science thing is part of it. I was raised like a southern belle standard, but when you have scientists and doctors in the family, you just learn to detach and think about a lot of things clinically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Dating lowerSo much this. It's about character, even more than results. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Receiving money / presents gracefully while first datingI personally put food in a separate category bc I'm quite old fashioned. The guy covers it. That's just me though, and obviously, this only applies if the man is okay with that too. I think it applies even more if he makes more than you. I once had a bad date where the guy bragged about his 6 figure income, and he knew I was looking for work, but he wouldn't cover my meal, and I found that very off putting. These days, who pays for food/dates is really individual to the couple. It was probably e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 04:18 AM |
| 3 | Talking about bodily function [serious]No I definitely don't mean that mocking someone being sick is ok, and my bf does not do that, I mean being able to use humor to deal with these human situations, which I do like about him. I just thought crass humor means bathroom humor or whatever, it's not mocking people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 02:06 AM |
| 4 | Talking about bodily function [serious]I think the last paragraph about how what's key is that those women with that humor have man who has that humor too. I think if that works for them, cool. But it's way different from oversharing on dates or acting like a frat guy. Realism is good too...if you have debilitating periods, he's going to notice, and he'll think you need a doctor if you just say you're "sick," so you gotta communicate. I'm weird though, I read those gross medical stories on Reddit or watch surgeries and don't get gros… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/17 02:01 AM |
| 1 | How prepared are you to be alone?I'm not. I've been unmarried a while after calling off a wedding. I'm sick and don't earn enough to have my own place. It makes it hard to understand why I'm dating people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/17 01:44 PM |
| 1 | I feel like I should know by now whether I want kids?Well the main question to ask yourself is whether you actually have not wanted kids, or if you are just so scared that the fear is keeping you from something good. I used to think I never wanted to get married unless someone came along worth it, meaning I never deliberately sought it out or vetted guys with that in mind. My parents' divorce traumatized me. I'm still scared of marriage but I do want it. So ask yourself what you would want if you had no fear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/17 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Married when he had nothingYeah that is the one caveat. A lot of guys who aren't established at all often feel like they can't be in a relationship and have all these issues around it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/17 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Married when he had nothingWhen getting to know a guy, it's not about if he's successful yet, it's about is he reasonably ambitious with a good work ethic and providing instinct. If he works hard to make his way it's fine. If he sits on couch refusing to seek employment it's not fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/17 04:06 PM |
| 10 | Understanding infidelityI'd like to add: a lot of men find one woman takes all their energy. The thought of trying to keep another woman, or even to sneak around randomly, is so exhausting they can't imagine it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 05:40 PM |
| 18 | Understanding infidelitySimple. Don't date an anger phase RP man. On here we don't seek that type. Better to seek someone with good "beta" qualities like provide and protect, who still feels alpha in terms of your attraction. It's quite possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/17 03:16 PM |
| 3 | (xpost) guys who want a relationship, but not with meWhat about continually decreasing time with him because you are meeting new guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 03:57 AM |
| 2 | (xpost) guys who want a relationship, but not with meThe be honest and then let go step was the one I was thinking of in particular. Never too late for that. Do you like those orbiters that try to logic you into liking them? Don't be that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 07:13 PM |
| 2 | (xpost) guys who want a relationship, but not with meWatch this video, s'il vous plait. "Comment sortir de la Friendzone" (how to escape the friend zone.) https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eaABWY-Ugkc | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/17 04:53 PM |
| 2 | How to better demonstrate value?I feel so bad because I can't remember. I know I read fascinating womanhood, but I feel like this was a related book but for single women. I feel so awful! I had to go find it at the library, and it was awesome. I would have expected a book from that time to focus on acting domestic, but it was very clear to avoid this while in courtship and only do it when married. It also said not to let on how much you like that guy until you've secured him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/17 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Having a bit of trouble in the bedroom situationIf you're high libido and he's low, for whatever reason, and that's just how he is, you won't ever be happy. You'll just feel further rejected and miserable as time goes by. Look at /r/DeadBedrooms if you want to see and also be sad. For me one of my biggest fears is a sexless marriage. Loving sex with your spouse shouldn't be some pipe dream you can only hope for. That is where you could be headed. Only you know for sure if he's truly low libido and if you can tolerate this. Only you know if it… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/17 10:49 PM |
| 2 | The male equivalent of "I love you so much!"This is exactly what I'm getting at, because I know just saying I respect you doesn't work as well without action. I am actually looking for specific examples of small but powerful actions that women can do that communicate respect. I'm aware there are major long term respect that can be established, but what are some quick shortcuts? Kind of the equivalent of a man sending a woman flowers, or looking her in the eyes saying he loves her. Small but powerful things. One thing I know is listening s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Wedding nerves at an all time high. How to process when you love him but think you aren't "in love" with him?I left a fiancé too. I had a massive blessing, which was I developed a silly crush on someone else. Turns out, it was just that he was nice to me and the fiancé wasn't. My point is, I am so lucky if it gave me the courage to go. At the bridal shower, I had a feeling of terror and dread, instead of excitement. I couldn't hide it, even the dad commented I looked like I'd seen a ghost. I don't know if this is just your cold feet. I don't know if you have childhood issues around marriage. But if you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:37 PM |
| 2 | How would you respond?You say more by ignoring it than any words could....next. Lose his number. TBH the guy seems like a head case, and you shouldn't let him damage your self image further. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Met my LDR for the first time; we kissed and I felt nothing - we had sex and I felt nothing either. Do I not love him?Only time will tell. But be careful with LDRs. Easy to project a fantasy. Give it a few dates. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:29 PM |
| 2 | I am a legit, full blown alpha widow and I'm suffering the consequences of my bad choices. I don't know what to do. Is there anything to be done?A guy looked down on you as damaged? Everyone is damaged in some way, so that was immature of him. I think all you need to do is open your mind. You have been swept off your feet, so you aren't giving a chance to men who you may develop a slow building, deeper romance with. That guy who you don't want to jump his bones instantly, but he seems like a strong and gentlemanly type? Give him a chance. Love and attraction can be a flame that burns out, but also a slow burn that is solid and lasts. You… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:27 PM |
| 5 | Compromising on cohabitationAlso, people didn't cohabit before marriage for many generations before us, and great marriages still happened. In fact, in the US our divorce rate is higher than ever in spite of all the cohabiting and "test drives." | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:23 PM |
| 8 | Compromising on cohabitationYou need to stop being a people pleaser. I know it's hard. If you speak up with authority and confidence once, you don't need to fight. I would stand your ground. Men respect you more when you do that. A man who leaves because you respect your own boundary, was never worth your time. Pleasing people means trying to fit in and be the normal and cool girl. Don't be afraid to be different. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Compromising on cohabitationDon't move in...why do you have to do it? Why should he get all the benefits without the contract? Marriage is partly a business transaction, like it or not. Many studies indicate that women think cohabiting is a step forward, but men use it to put on the brakes and be lazy. They don't mean to do that, but you gave up your leverage for marriage. Cohabiting couples have higher divorce rates later. In general, to avoid being a nag/shrew, state your boundaries plainly, once, with authority, then tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:18 PM |
| 13 | How can I become a better woman?One day at a time, girl. You're already halfway there if you realize that relationships take work from both people--you've let go of the message that women can act as poorly as we want, and still be entitled to be worshipped. Both equal humans have to examine themselves, the guy and the girl. Don't do a job or career path or relationship to please anyone but you, listen to where you feel called. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/17 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Anxiety and Withdrawal After Periods of HappinessYes. I realized that the only true happiness is peace and stability and being a good person. Feeling warm and fuzzy is not the greatest good, and it's always dependent on things going your way. That can't happen all the time. Inner peace is the real happiness. | /r/RedPillWives | 01/06/17 05:14 PM |
| 12 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"I do not cohabit. He still has to work to meet me and see me. Cohabiting feels like moving forward to the woman; to the man it's a holding pattern to put off marriage. And it interferes with vetting. Breaking it off, if you ever must, is hard, but think about how much harder it is if you have to kick someone out, or find your own place. Case in point, I've stayed in a house with housemates who bully me for far too long, due to being simply way too tired to think about moving, and not seeing many… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:32 PM |
| 42 | Difference between girlfriend and wife "duties"Showcasing homemaking skills to convince him to like you doesn't work. Very true. Be warned...if you've ever read some of the trp blogs out there, there are a number of sexual tourism / American women are gross circle jerks out there. Sexual tourism as in, going to other countries to get notch counts with women there. These guys that are only seeking an easy lay will harp on about how American women have no homemaking skills, but foreign women do. In reality, they simply seek out the foreign wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Need marriage adviceIf it's a lie then he's still severely emotionally abusing you. "Honey just letting you know you're worthless compared to these (imaginary?) women I'm sleeping with" is what he's telling you all the time. That's a bunch of b s. And weird that he would brag they are underage. You're maybe scared to leave because he's the main relationship you've had? Do not be afraid. This is very black and white. He's a train wreck. It's not too late for you if you get out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Dating older men?I'm the same as you. I disagree with posters who say it's wrong and you need to psychoanalyze this thing. I once dated a guy 1.5 years younger and it was an absolute. Nightmare. I'm just not cut out for it. My bf is 10.5 years older. I wouldn't do more than 15 years, as that really starts to be problematic when he's in old age. Whatever floats your boat, though. Guy friends have been older too. I stopped bothering with men my age. It absolutely never worked, he was always a brother. Dating older… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Need marriage adviceI skimmed this and when I saw that he's sleeping with underage girls that was enough. Get. Out!!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 04:37 PM |
| 4 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.You're not wrong that it's a hard time to get married. It's like, the most anti-marriage culture in history almost. So it won't fall in your lap. You can either accept it's a hard time to have it happen and work for it, or be sad that it isn't the 50s and do nothing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 04:33 PM |
| 2 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.As a churchgoer who has been very active in my young adult communities, consider looking outside those circles. I've found many of the men won't ask out women in the group, for fear of it ending badly and then making the whole group feel awkward. They may be interested but won't make a move. Be more independent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 03:31 PM |
| 1 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.FWIW I've had more men into now--in a serious, truly wanting marriage and commitment way--I've had more than one proposal--than at your age, when I simply looked and acted so young that I think it made men feel uncomfortable being attracted to me. I've become self possessed and all that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 03:21 PM |
| 1 | I want to quit. I feel lied to, from feminists and conservatives.These aren't cookie cutter things. You feel you have to choose either man hating feminism, or a superficial understanding of red pill. Being fit, sweet, and so on are the results of having a core identity as a strong, feminine women; not the equivalent of change you put in a vending machine to get the snack you wanted. You need to find your deeper identity as a feminine woman, which goes way beyond being sweet and pretty. I understand the anger, western society is in a terrible place for both me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Lack of strong and positive female role models in my childhood has set me back. I don't know where to go from here.I really relate to you. There are few to no good marriages in my immediate and extended family. It's mostly divorces and one or two marriages that are not the type I desire. Only my grandmother had a good one with my late grandfather, RIP. There are more divorces than marriages in my family and the women all hate men. If there were even one marriage where the man adored and loved the woman everything would be different. You need to stop identifying with this. If we feel that being born into this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Cohabitation Prior to MarriageI don't, because it's said women consider it the next step, but men consider it a way to postpone real commitment. If you're still vetting the guy, as you should be until marriage, you shouldn't live together. It just makes it harder to see objectively, since you know that kicking someone out is a huge pain and so you might tolerate stuff you never would otherwise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:40 PM |
| 4 | how long is 'too long' to wait to have sex?The only time that is too long is if you're married but haven't consummated it. Otherwise there is no too long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:36 PM |
| 5 | How to better demonstrate value?Even much older books I've read, from the 50s, said you must not be too cutesy and domestic before you've secured a guy. It's too try hard | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:32 PM |
| 5 | How to better demonstrate value?YES! Read this comment over and again, OP. You must be self possessed and self respecting. You are evaluating his suitability for marriage, not married. Even the engagement is a period of discerning if it's a good match. It's a mutual period of evaluation, not you alone proving how great you are like it's an exam. Nobody worthwhile really wants someone who sucks up to them and won't see their flaws. Marriage helps people better themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:27 PM |
| 10 | Is this a sensible RPW life plan?The only problem is you're too rigid with your relationship timeline. You may meet an amazing man, and reject him because he doesn't line up with your 5 year plan. You build a life together, not build separate lives and merge, necessarily. "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Acquaintance who overestimates SMV?Rather than trying to tell her she's overestimating her sexual/relational worth, encourage her to give guys a chance she might initially pass over. Trying to tell someone they aren't all that and a bag of chips doesn't usually go over well. Telling someone to be open is different. Remind her that often in life, our closest friends are people we initially didn't even like. Tell her she may find deep satisfaction by being open minded. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/17 02:20 PM |
| 1 | A Simple Joke To Brighten Your Day! Share Your Own In The Comments :)I take no offense, cooking and baking is a happy place for me. He likes to cook for me too, which is nice as well! | /r/RedPillWives | 24/05/17 04:37 PM |
| 1 | RPW social media presenceI just straight up don't post a lot. Recently it's been some nice photos with the man, and a couple he took of me. I'm just kind of private, and I think it's classier to have my own life without sharing it everywhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/17 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Don't want to be a plateAre you being sarcastic? I'm confused. It's the part where he openly is sleeping with other women that's not going to be compatible with her desire for an LTR. Why try to change a guy when there is a guy who fits better out there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 07:15 PM |
| 2 | How do women find serious relationships in female-dominated college when guys just want to fuck and dump?You're allowed to date a guy a few years older who's out of college, works, and got all that out of his system already. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 04:43 PM |
| 2 | Could you get past infidelity?No. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 04:42 PM |
| 7 | Employing RPW principles, but have been dumped twice now and was completely blindsided by it. I don't know what I am doing wrong.This reminds me of how in Laura Doyle's Surrendered Single, she says don't talk a lot on dates to try to impress him, because you are evaluating him, not trying so hard to make him like you. OP needs to apply this to dating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 04:41 PM |
| 9 | Don't want to be a plateNext. Don't be a plate. You risk it by seeing him. How do you know he doesn't tell every girl he's only courting her? Many guys out there only want to see you. Find them. Abundance mentality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/17 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Compatible Relationship Value Chart?Even men who stay in touch longer term as a friend or colleague, may desperately pursue a relationship. That's why an important factor is whether or not she at least said "hmm I could maybe see myself with him..." of the people who pursued her. That's a better indicator. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Compatible Relationship Value Chart?Well, as a Christian I believe in grace, so I can't reduce relationships to such a legalistic and transactional view. Grace as in, someone can love you for who you are even if you aren't perfect or you made mistakes. And vice versa. So it's smart to be as good as possible, but there is no formula for logic in the human heart. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 03:09 PM |
| 3 | Compatible Relationship Value Chart?I think other factors must be accounted for. There are some women, for example, who tend to attract men desperate for relationships, who are actually well below their "league" (I don't love that term though.). Some women are nice or kind people, so if she's also beautiful, desperate guys decide she's an angel and all that. It is not an accurate reflection of her range. It may be better to look mainly at the men interested in a relationship, who she also seriously considers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/17 03:03 PM |
| 2 | The red pill way of dealing with creepsExactly. Turn on the heel and keep walking unless it's actually polite situation or at least public like the gym. And that was just an example, I meant in general the attitude of "why are you looking at me." | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 07:13 PM |
| 2 | The red pill way of dealing with creepsTrue, gut instinct is good. Some creeps will take any acknowledgment as an invitation to bother you more. The car thing is cut and dry sketchy to me. The gym guy maybe less do because it's in public. So in that case acknowledging him is fine. "Can I help you?" works, it's not polite but it gets the point across. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Anxiety and Withdrawal After Periods of HappinessYou're afraid to feel happy in case it goes away. Focus on fulfillment more than feeling good. Our emotions are a roller coaster. Remember thoughts and feelings will pass and you don't have to act on them. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/17 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Laura Doyle's book knowledge, is it that realistic?Yes mental and emotional problems are very important to consider. They can strongly skew that sense of surety and cause fear. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/17 02:42 PM |
| 2 | Laura Doyle's book knowledge, is it that realistic?I got engaged after 6 months and as soon as he put the ring on me he let out his dark and cruel side. An older lady mentor warned me some men change after the ring is on. I left. Now I'm dating a nice masculine caring man, and I'm cautious as heck about it. My whole extended and immediate family are divorced and all the women hate men. I have a lot of fears and confusion. I'm afraid of being like my parents, angry for decades with miserable kids. It really depends on your story, and you don't ne… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/17 02:40 PM |
| 2 | The red pill way of dealing with creepsTo me your approach to the car guy is still too nice. I've been mugged before though and it made me wary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Is it really THAT bad that I want a man to take care of me?No it's not. My health makes me weak and I'm realistic about needing help. No need to be a kept women, but humility is important, admitting you need help. Everyone tells people to jump ship if things aren't always magically ideal, but it's ok to be a realist and practical. Just find a man who likes caring for you, don't manipulate anyone and you'll be fine. Here's how I know you aren't crazy: I'm the same as you. I used to think every person at the 9-5 was as stressed as me. I thought they were … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 02:29 PM |
| 2 | What do you as women feel you offer a relationship?Marriage minded men like women who are loving to kids and animals. Also, you should find a balance between expecting him to take care of you to an extent, (open doors is an example but it's little things like that,) and being down to earth. Don't give yourself away for free, but too high maintainence is bad. These tips are all good, but you are worth more than what you can do (in any context) so do your best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/17 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Best RPW Ways to Manage an Intense CrushSometimes even really confident guys need more than a sweet smile. I mean, don't have to ask him out, but you may need to be way more obvious. The subtle eye contact thing isn't obvious to guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/17 12:27 AM |
| 1 | How important is it to be your SO's type?Hmmm. I don't have all the answers, but for me it's fine if I'm not his exact "type," but it's not fine if he says demeaning critical things about features I can't control. My bf and I don't either have an exact type, but it's enough that we love each other. As someone said perhaps he's trying too hard to be alpha. Kind of lame. Not judging you at all, just saying there are guys who will not critique your appearance or call you homely or make you jump through hoops. You say you're beautiful to m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Hello, RPW.Welcome! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 10:36 PM |
| 7 | The red pill way of dealing with creepsHoney...you do NOT worry about how to be polite to dangerous people, which includes anyone approaching you in a sketchy situation or manner. That's how you end up in someone's trunk. It has nothing to do with red pill, that's for your own established life. Please be careful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Best RPW Ways to Manage an Intense CrushBut what if you're wrong that he's just nice, and he actually likes you? Just saying. I don't know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 10:32 PM |
| 2 | How to stop being jealous?So glad! <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to consider yourself a feminist and a RPW?Actually your view that the feminine should be celebrated really fits here. I think we more take issue with the idea "for a woman to have value she must be like a man." Or at least I do. I don't want to be like a man. I enjoy being a woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to consider yourself a feminist and a RPW?I just wish the new feminism had another name. Those things you mention, and things like doctors knowing women's symptoms can be different from men's and taking us seriously...those things do matter. In my church it's already taken for granted that this should be so and that all humans have equal dignity. Then it got ruined, so off the course and hateful, and it makes me so sad to live in this time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 06:44 PM |
| 2 | How to stop being jealous?Exactly! So glad to help. Yes, there were family dynamics growing up that sadly were orchestrated to play people of each other in a power struggle, so I still struggle to shake that feeling of inadequacy when I feel threatened. You are stronger and more beautiful than you think. Another tip is to ask why you feel inadequate to keep him interested, at those moments. Rather than be jealous, try to get in touch with the deeper parts of yourself, try to self accept. Sometimes, jealousy happens when … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 06:37 PM |
| 5 | How to stop being jealous?I have this too. Best thing is to realize you're good enough even if you aren't the most perfect woman ever. Also, draw a parallel to your life. He liked some girl? Think of a time you mildly liked a guy and how not a big deal it was. He stared at a girl at a restaurant? Think of a time to you stared at a hot guy. You'll realize these things are not so big. Remember there are no big deals. If he is deliberately making you insecure then reexamine the relationship, otherwise accept it as part of l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 03:29 PM |
| 2 | I don't understand the concept of Red Pill Women? Can someone explain?Yeah it's def genetic so I should count my blessings. My skin still broke out like a teenagers sometimes in my 20s...I actually have the translucent skin you're talking about, the good news is my family all look really young for their ages. Also I'm obsessed with skincare. That's a huge thing to slow down aging. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 01:42 AM |
| 2 | I don't understand the concept of Red Pill Women? Can someone explain?Yes I was similar. And as many young people do, I got sucked in by trends rather than the fashion that suited me best, although for the most part it was preppy trends so could have been worse. There are girls who look very womanly at 18 and then it fades, but others just look very childlike for a long time...I still have an anime character face, but it's not quite as young looking as before. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/17 01:27 AM |
| 1 | I don't understand the concept of Red Pill Women? Can someone explain?I don't think I never achieved my potential. Hindsight is 20/20, I had the kind of problems (not of my own doing) that many people will never experience in their lives. Nobody exists in a vacuum. I could speculate how it would have gone without my particular family or location but it's pointless. Worth it for what I know now. Not to mention, I had such a baby face I just looked like a kid. Edit: to be clear, it was the life experience that allowed me to be comfortable in my own skin enough to ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 11:30 PM |
| 2 | How to become less judgmental?Maybe it's overcompensating. I got a bit like that at first bc I had been surrounded by BP stuff my whole life and never liked it, but didn't know there were other places for me. Just let it balance out. Being really uptight and judgmental hurts you more than others and makes you unhappy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 07:45 PM |
| 1 | How to avoid men who orbit?Honestly, that sounds frustrating, but let them call you whatever. Anyone decent won't believe gossip anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 07:30 PM |
| 2 | How to avoid men who orbit?Okay, you just have to stop caring about their feelings. I know that sounds horrible, especially because in my case at least those guys I sort of feel bad for because they are so obsessive, but if engaging them at all in any way is leading them on just stop talking, and walk away if they talk to you. Seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 06:47 PM |
| 5 | What are some signs that the relationship is going in the right direction?If he talks about the future, whether that is next week or this summer or in a year. Non serious guys won't even talk about next Saturday's plans until Wednesday (or even later.) Of course he must be exclusive with you also, that goes without saying. As well as public declaration of relationship once it is exclusive (facebook or whatever,) and letting you meet the family at the right time. Being weird about meeting the family is a bad sign. But please do not feel like you have to follow some pre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 06:45 PM |
| 3 | I don't understand the concept of Red Pill Women? Can someone explain?Am I the only one who has not had this experience? I mean, maybe my skin was slightly tighter when I was in my 20s but I was awkward, nobody taught me how to do makeup, I didn't have money for good clothes, and the guys who liked me were just sketchy and somewhat predatory. I was way too concerned with what people thought. Starting around 29 I just got it all together with more of the makeup and hair and dressing better, and there were way more decent men seeking something serious with me. I lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 06:41 PM |
| 1 | I don't understand the concept of Red Pill Women? Can someone explain?I am with you about the Wall term. Honestly, the wall is only a sudden crash if you not only peaked at a young age but stopped taking care of yourself, and rather than deciding to age gracefully with dignity, just gave up and let yourself go. Let it serve as a warning, but I think for many people it's a gradual change and you should embrace the respect and dignity you have gained from life wisdom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 06:38 PM |
| 1 | I don't understand the concept of Red Pill Women? Can someone explain?Hi. Just want to say your post is needed and insightful. No relationship style is a magic pill, but some are way more functional than others. That is why it's important what you said, that we not idealize this, because there is no snapping our fingers and not having to work at it. We don't identify ourselves with the TRP sub. Those men are in an anger phase and are seeking dominating multiple women as the source of their manhood, which isn't actually the right path to masculinity. That is not th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/17 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Disenchanted With Modern Romance MediaAbsolutely, yes. I am so happy I touched base with a girlfriend this week who is the only other woman I know in real life who actually realizes feminism is problematic. I always just deal with it, the prevailing wind...but, I love to read and it's hard to find any recent books, unless you count Twilight or something, but that has other issues. Try reading older books, like Gone with the Wind and things like that. There is nothing wrong with strong women, but they don't have to hate men and all t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/17 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesI guess they think that, but those two I haven't seen in much lately, except the news discussing their surgeries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesThen you are the 9 men have a chance with so they are nice. Before you were the 7 who was shy and people often think shy people are cold. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesSo true about cities. Out in rural areas there is way less buying of overpriced things and makeup etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesI'm talking more about actresses that do it way after they are very famous, which means they did look amazing already. Like both Renee Zelwegger and Portia de Rossi looked lovely, but they removed the things that made them stand out, and now look more generic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesBut maybe you had an open, warm personality both times and so you are now the hot one they have a chance with. The 9 who is shy or cold or whatever, men will stare at and not always approach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/17 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesMen don't necessarily treat beautiful women best. They treat attractive women they feel they have a chance with best. But (I hate using the number ratings since it's subjective but I will for brevity,) they will treat a 7 who they feel likes them better than a 9 who they think they have no chance with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesIt's definitely true, and you have a neat perspective on it from your experience. It's a fair point, I always just sorry like if I ever did anything dealing with the awkwardness from people who know...I like to be natural. When actresses change their entire face I always think they looked better before. They just change to be more generically mainstream. I deal with plenty of cattiness already and prefer the company of more secure people. Nobody is insecurity free, but very insecure people proje… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesYeah location affects this a lot, prevailing culture changes things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesCool. I could be wrong but I wonder if men would have different reactions than women. When you see an actress alter her whole face, people judge. Personally, I don't have anything I want or need to change badly, but I think about the future like Botox or having things lifted as I age, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesThanks for explaining. So, did anyone treat you differently afterwards who knew you before? Like, were they judgy? I'm in mostly the natural beauty camp and my faith kind of leans that way, but I'm not opposed to surgery totally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesThanks. How long did you consider it? Did you get drastic changes or subtle? I have always wondered if, were I to get a procedure someday for whatever reason, would getting more compliments end up making me sad? As in, I feel good about my look mostly now, but if I changed it and got more compliments, I might feel "oh, I didn't look good before, I was kidding myself." | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 12:39 PM |
| 3 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesThis is extremely insightful. Your idea about less feminine features actually improving appearance in some cases is a great point. For the sake of being interesting. Reminds me that "jolie-laide" is a good thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenHi I'm sorry if that came off very negative. I get defensive at times bc Reddit often acts like divorce is nbd for kids. I hoped to communicate that parental behavior is the key to kids doing ok through a divorce. I was just trying to say, 50/50 isn't the answer, it is mature and loving parents. It sounds like both of you are behaving maturely and amicably about this divorce and in that case the fact the kids see both mom and dad is great and your kids are in the best situation they could be for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesYes, we are saying the same thing, that an underlying self esteem issue isn't solved by surgery. I think it's important to consider the medical risks. Anyway yeah, the blonde example was a stereotype as I said, but there are women who pick some trait of theirs and hate it, and let it define them. It's more common than we might think. So yeah, having terrible self esteem over something that's not really a flaw is a character defect and can hurt relationships so it should be handled. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/17 12:33 AM |
| 4 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesAmen to all this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 11:59 PM |
| 2 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesI meant like to seriously consider why one might want an invasive, expensive surgery before making a decision. For example, some women actually look gorgeous, but are extremely self conscious about one thing or another when they really don't need to be. If it's a mental thing, it's sometimes better to work through it. If in fact it's a truly debilitating condition, then one should still think long and hard about a surgery. Surgery is a very invasive and exhausting thing. I said the jury was out … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesGood point about the industry and unreality. I agree with your point about any guy demanding you get crazy alterations in how you look, like surgery. Weight loss is different because it's about health. I would say most of the time, I'm fine to play up my features that are attractive and regarding my features that do not fit media beauty standards, I am okay with being different and feel beautiful. However, I have moments where the media takes over my mind briefly and I get very discouraged, even… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesI meant femininity isn't primarily about looks. There was just a thread up about "Instagram Baddies," and those women looked attractive with great WHRs, but their behavior and attitude and dress wasn't really feminine based on the photos. Surgery I meant like yeah nose, or breast size, or similar, like if somebody has a serious hang up about it. It seems the jury is still out on how we view such procedures. True that cultures vary but some traits are universal. Here I speak mainly of traits one'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesThanks, very helpful. Totally just curious--5--do you like extensions? I imagine that could be fun. Also 8--how long did you deliberate these surgical things, and how was recovery? Again only share if you are comfortable, this is purely informational. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesPhrased it badly: I meant "how would one cope." Not if he said it to you, but rather with the ideas one received from society. Edit: and I don't mean being told by individuals, but with the subconscious messages we all receive. I like your attitude. But for me at least even though I usually am fine, there are time I buy too much into certain media ideas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:40 PM |
| 5 | "I want all the perks of maternity leave — without having any kids" [triggerwarning: entitled women]My response to this is Lol. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/05/17 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesInteresting. Would you be open to sharing more details? If you aren't comfortable it's ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:22 PM |
| 11 | I need help dissuading my friend's opinionsYou don't need to dissuade them or change them. If it's getting too much get emotional distance from these women. If your relationship is fine then it's fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesYay natural beauty. Yes you only need to attract the one guy. But how might you one cope with while he does love your look, you've been told *by the media and society (not your man) that all those women with a different feature than you oneself are conventionally attractive, and men always want them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:15 PM |
| 3 | Being Feminine & Body InsecuritiesI think surgery should be rare, but I'm open to if a woman was very dissatisfied with her breasts after breastfeeding, getting something done. Of course for injuries and illness it's ok. Small things that are not in any way crippling your identity and self esteem (just decided your cheekbones aren't high enough or lips too thin) should definitely be left natural. It's a dangerous game. So do we think RPW is a lot about enhancement of natural beauty? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:13 PM |
| 2 | New to RPW: Questions on RMV, friends, and meeting high-quality men (and a small rant)Seriously, once you realize swearing is a way to really ruin your vocabulary and ability to communicate eloquently, you will rarely to never want to swear. If you do on a rare occasion your man will find it funny or realize you are serious. But not all the time. It's awesome to expand your vocabulary and expressiveness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:10 PM |
| 2 | New to RPW: Questions on RMV, friends, and meeting high-quality men (and a small rant)It takes more inner strength to be in control and kind and soft than it does to get outspoken and outraged. Google the term "steel magnolia." | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 07:03 PM |
| 1 | HappinessIt's a modern idea that you have to be happy, settled, career set, no insecurities, and "fine being alone" before you are ready for marriage. Men also didn't feel they needed substantial career success beforehand. People used to build their lives together. Now people are too scared to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 06:56 PM |
| 5 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for children50/50 was extremely negative for me as a kid. It's just having two single parents who contradict each other. What matters is that both parents are mature, not how time is split. Yes it's good to see both parents but that alone isn't the answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 06:51 PM |
| 8 | How do I properly handle my husband's relationship with a woman at work?I am not okay with "work spouses." Just another weird modern lack of boundaries thing we are supposed to be cool with and feel like an uptight old fashioned square if we don't like it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 06:48 PM |
| 7 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenBoth men and women have commitment issues these days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 06:41 PM |
| 7 | Example of why single motherhood is bad for childrenNo fault divorce and hookup culture. Romantic movies. Bad for marriage and family. We live in a rough time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 06:39 PM |
| 7 | why is the instagram baddie/ kylie jenner style not redpillwomen?Girl you are making me feel old, "Instagram Baddie?" TIL. I have a similar body or at least my WHR is .65 about or a little higher. Those looks in the first link are aging the women and giving them a look of being experienced. That's objectively attractive but in a very objectifying way. And you don't really want that. You don't have to dress overly girly or childlike to be RP. As someone with a similar (ish) body type to those photos, let me tell you that outfits that are modest and classic but… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 01:49 AM |
| 4 | why is the instagram baddie/ kylie jenner style not redpillwomen?A RPW knows that the deep attention of one good man is worth the shallow attention of thousands of men. It is worth far more! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/17 01:37 AM |
| 6 | The captain-first mate dynamicAuthoritarian is the wrong word. That's totally not what it is. Maybe you don't struggle with this, but many women get tempted to sometimes second guess their man for no particular reason, it's often a control thing, and our culture strongly encourages this attitude. See any modern tv commercial with the "mature genius wife who handles everything with flying colors" who then laughs at the "bumbling oaf husband" trope. So this is something for those times when it's like not actually a huge deal a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 11:41 PM |
| 2 | How do I become more secure with myself and relationship?A simply pretty woman has nothing on a truly feminine woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 07:52 PM |
| 15 | The captain-first mate dynamicVery good. Adding that rigidity in roles is bad. The Captain might need you to make a decision for him at some point, or say "just tell me what you want." Replying "whatever you want hon" is not helpful at those times. He will need you to be strong when he is weak, and you must. You are not play acting at being in the 50s. (Of course you can wear cute dresses and bake if you want because that is awesome!). But this isn't playing house or a role. I tried that, doesn't work. This is a real symbiot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 07:44 PM |
| 6 | The captain-first mate dynamicThe buck has to stop somewhere. It's not about inferiority at all. Companies don't have two CEOs. Catholics don't have two popes. As is often said, the husband is the head, but the wife is the neck who can influence where the head turns. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Non RPW friendshipsI get it, but still I sometimes wish I didn't have to go around suppressing this huge part of myself. Doesn't help I am in an area that is very liberal, and I'm not. My whole life I've been used to being in the closet about my beliefs, and it's really frustrating. The hardest part is people at my church who really should get it, just disobey the truth and try to modernize the church based on their views, many also love feminism or at least don't see issue with it. I have never shouted it out to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/17 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Pursuing or flirting with someone who is taken?I only saw one other comment mentioning that this is a generational difference. That's where your aunt is coming from and you can't possibly apply it to modern dating. This really not okay anymore, but it used to be okay. Women in the past actually used to have multiple suitors right until one of them proposed. Only then did he get commitment. Obviously, she wasn't meant to be sleeping with any of them. I don't know when this fell out of practice, but it did still influence the generations after… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/05/17 07:30 PM |
| 13 | You're not the one she wants. You're the one she's using.Maybe the problem is you only did it to show her you were a good cook. You would hate it just as much if a woman only wore makeup and dressed well to "show you she could dress well" and worked out only to show you she could do it, but then got really lazy and stopped doing those things, and complained if you said something. If you came off like you were the master chef who could handle anything, she probably had no idea how hard it actually was. Was she actually sending the photos demanding you … | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/17 03:32 AM |
| 3 | what is an alpha woman?Don't forget that she crushes the head of the snake, and has even been depicted fighting the devil with weapons...of course this is not her outward personality, but I do imagine when she walked earth, she had a quiet but palpable strength inside the demure and obedient personality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 09:25 PM |
| 0 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Yeah I think we agree and semantics is the issue. All those self improvement things are excellent. I don't really see that would make me feel afraid, but then I'm no the type of woman to deny physical affection in marriage. The things I have an issue with are reading stories of men deliberately overtly insulting wife with flirting w women in front of her, for no reason other than to inspire envy/insecurity, and basically saying they will cheat or even doing it, just creating threats and all that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 07:22 PM |
| 2 | If you stay at home full time, how do you avoid being lonely?Really good point. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/17 02:45 PM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Just the same, that you promised your husband a commitment and marital union is part of that, it's not optional, and you are not letting him show his love physically and you are being selfish. I don't claim it will change anything not trying to change you either, just discussing. I agree with you about self improvement and all that. I didn't know that's what you meant by dread. I meant when I read men say they used dread by out of the blue flagrant rejection and hanging off of other women, makin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 02:33 PM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?No that's true, but he can definitely improve himself without going out of his way to flirt w women and make her feel he's going to leave...and there are ways to spice it up and change around. I'm not sure of specific case, but I think many women are less wanting to be intimate if he makes her feel rejected. Obviously a woman always refusing her husband physically or vice versa in marriage is really not ok, and it's sad it happens. The thing is I feel like a lot of young guys who aren't married … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 02:27 PM |
| 2 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?They are very bad, and I would have similar harsh words for women who do that...but being more shitty doesn't fix it, there are way better ways to take control and be the take charge man...that should at least be attempted. But I'm just a silly old fashioned girl who thinks vows mean something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 02:07 PM |
| 1 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?It's weird because men communicating with me has worked for us, I don't mean sitting down and endlessly hashing out feelings, but saying something...demonstrating...you don't always need words. Men I have dated have told me something one time, and I realized that something bothered them, and I didn't do it again. But the dread stuff is wrong because it's not fair to just do a 180 and be an utterly different person, who deliberately attempts to make the other feel worthless. Two wrongs don't make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 02:05 PM |
| 2 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I never said just words. Pulling that crap on your spouse of years is really wrong, there are better ways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/17 04:57 AM |
| 3 | If you stay at home full time, how do you avoid being lonely?Lol old people are great! | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/17 03:11 AM |
| 3 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Fix'd. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:33 PM |
| 6 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?It might make someone knee jerk react to restore the marriage, but that won't last long and it does irreparable damage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:20 PM |
| 2 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?Yeah I agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:18 PM |
| 12 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?You also could try communicating, yes becoming hot and life together is good, but nobody reads minds. Communication is a better idea than a weird game intended to hurt | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 09:14 PM |
| 3 | If you stay at home full time, how do you avoid being lonely?Those all sound awesome. I can't do half the activities I want rn since my health makes me so tired after work. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/17 09:04 PM |
| 5 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?They are rather blind. If you just start being an ass out of nowhere, the reaction is probably a mix of being appalled and hurt, but also wanting to hold onto the long relationship you've had. There may be initial scrambling to fix it, but the damage has been done. I'm not ok with dread in serious dating. I think it's understandable in the flirting or casual dating sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:47 PM |
| 6 | Why do I only attract boring beta males and not alpha males? What am I doing wrong?How old are you? Are you very young? Only ask because it's been years since I heard anyone care of their man was "cool." You seem actually too concerned with being the perfect cookie cutter women, and that can attract the men you don't like since they feel safe, while being a turn off to more assertive men. Just how it looks in my experience. My ex liked me during my cookie cutter Suzie Homemaker phase, but he was just insecure so he felt safer that way. He was threatened by any past guy I dated… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:44 PM |
| 35 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?The single TRP guys are going for other single women who are also looking for a thrill and no more. It's a selection bias. Meet girls in clubs, who are drinking and maybe looking for a guy, and think that your game worked on them. when in a truly randomized study, it would be different. So RP women are both more aware, and less interested in that life. So it would work less. The worst thing about reading men's RP stuff has been my paranoia that if a guy does something minor but thoughtless, I wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:33 PM |
| 34 | How well do Red Pill practices work on women who are aware of the Red Pill?I've noticed that most of the MRPs who employ dread and flirting w/women find their wife to suddenly be very angry and fed up, and they use this to somehow confirm "women be crazy;" and if she leaves it confirms that women are bad or hypergamous. I don't think it's super effective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:29 PM |
| 6 | Some thoughts on AF/BBDoes he see you as only his little sister, or as a sister but also more?(not trying to sound creepy, lol) Frankly for a guy to feel that level of protective bond is really good. Maybe don't look a gift horse in the mouth, if your biggest problem is a man who honors you too much in bed, you're doing ok. Have you considered gently opening discussion? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:18 PM |
| 5 | How to be a bit more dominant in bed? (Sex strategies)Yeah that's not true at all. Men have many psychological needs too, why should that be hard to respect? By your logic no man can respect a woman who is submissive in bed. Just no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:12 PM |
| 2 | How to be a bit more dominant in bed? (Sex strategies)2 or 3 times a year to meet is the circumstance here, not "all men." | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Am I alpha widowing myself?Attention whoring is bad because then when you meet a new guy you really love, as you get exclusive with him you will feel deprived of something, namely random guys giving you attention. Do you want resentment at your future SO because you feel he's depriving you of attention you are used to? No one man can give you as much constant attention as a whole bunch of random dudes who message you all day. Even if his time with you is way more quality. You don't actually need that. I think you need fri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/17 08:08 PM |
| 2 | How do I become more supportive and pleasant to be around for my husband?I'm sorry but cheating in past relationships is a serious problem. I hate to say this, but please consider holding off on the marriage. No amount of pleasantness can fix a cheater--I am NOT saying he's cheating on you, just saying it's not crazy that you struggle to trust him. I could tolerate a guy who had a high n count in the past, as long as it's out of his system, but cheating is about deception and disrespect. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/17 07:55 PM |
| 6 | What NOT to say to your man – ever. -Shaunti Feldhahn BlogI never say this to him because my heart sinks and stomach drops if anyone says it to me. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/17 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Feeling guilty about issue, help?Do you still over drink and regret actions you did? You weren't committed to him at this time. So, you don't need to feel guilty as if you were deceptive or unfaithful. Separate the action from your relationship. Would you maybe regret the kissing even if you were single? Sometimes the desire to confess is selfish. If something is eating us it seems easy to just lay it on our SO yo remove the burden. But there's times to do that and times not to. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/17 07:39 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop liking gossip?This is the best advice. I succumb to gossip but more in the form of bad eyebrow pics or ridiculous tumblr profiles. The relationship subs just straight up stress me out. Read a really good novel or a show and get your fill. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/04/17 07:27 PM |
| 1 | [Guide] An Introduction To Kibbe - An Amazing Body Typing And Personal Style System!Just read it, that fits pretty well too. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/04/17 09:25 PM |
| 1 | [Guide] An Introduction To Kibbe - An Amazing Body Typing And Personal Style System!It didn't quite fit me, although some was correct. I found the same forum with Theatrical Romantic and that was much closer actually. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/04/17 09:18 PM |
| 3 | What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight?Do you think he said it to be hurtful, or because he is concerned for your health? This is important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:30 PM |
| 7 | On Gifts..Thank you. My boyfriend just bought me a musical instrument I've been wanting for years after selling mine. No occasion, he just heard me saying how much I missed it. He said he thought about jewelry, but decided I really wanted the instrument. Jewelry is traditionally more romantic, but what do you think is more romantic to me? The generic gift, or the one I've been unable to have for almost 3 years, that allows me to pursue my passion, that he picked by listening to me? I don't like that quote… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/17 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Kindergarten teacher finds Legos are good for cognitive development in young children and bans boys from playing with them in order to "close the gender gap"Can we get a highlight for the part where she defines "fair" as getting whatever you need to succeed? What delusion world is she in. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/17 08:57 PM |
| 1 | [Guide] An Introduction To Kibbe - An Amazing Body Typing And Personal Style System!Oh ok, I meant I didn't know where I fit because I got a lot of classic, but my face and shape look romantic to me. Theatric is possible I guess? You are the expert, lol, I would need to read the book. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/04/17 02:33 PM |
| 0 | ChangesTurn on your heel and walk away. You don't owe them a thing and your main attention is on your guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/17 03:14 PM |
| 2 | [Guide] An Introduction To Kibbe - An Amazing Body Typing And Personal Style System!C/D tie with a lot of E in there, but the images make me more romantic than classic. I think I'm like a mini-romantic, body type is proportional to romantic but smaller. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/04/17 03:12 PM |
| 2 | It Is Possible To Say "Thank You" Too Many Times!I do wonder. I was raised to say thank you for every kind thing, meals, gifts, work, travel, whatever. But I don't want to come off like I'm totally surprised my BF was kind, because of course I'm not. It can make things too formal. Hard to find balance. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/04/17 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Desperate for help with an unfaithful partnerCome on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 05:25 PM |
| 1 | What are your feminine skills?Huh. It's funny because the older I get, the more men talk about marriage and future. Even though I don't have tons of friends or social life. I was in monk mode a while on purpose, but still had people following. I think, my theory is it can be annoying only when they put you in the wife/mother role, without seeing the real you. Like checking off a box. But, if he loves you for you it's totally ok. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/17 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Confusion over a remark at work, old feminist mindset warring with RP mindset. I don't know what to think or feel.Yeah this happens like 10X a day here lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 12:40 AM |
| 2 | Confusion over a remark at work, old feminist mindset warring with RP mindset. I don't know what to think or feel.Maybe he was from the South. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 12:39 AM |
| 2 | I'm a walking red flag.Don't worry about your childhood. Yes it's alienating to hear people talk lightheartedly about childhood, but there are men who are adults and will love and accept you, they don't think you're a red flag because of a tragic childhood. And as long as your behavior is good now they will say what's past is past, why would it change my love. And you don't have to be the most interesting woman in the world to be loved, either. I'm not making this stuff up, I've lived it and seen other women live it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/17 12:35 AM |
| 2 | The Difference Between SMV and MMVYeah, I've replied twice and now this to say that about LA. People here are not wrong on their advice, but they don't get L.A. If it's that bad then to repeat myself, you should move and or date guys who aren't centered in LA. You're looking for a needle in a haystack--the non superficial, marriage minded LA guy who only looks into a woman's heart and not her looks first. There are tons of normal good men who want marriage so why torture yourself looking where many of them aren't? Yes it's possi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 11:18 PM |
| 4 | The Difference Between SMV and MMVI'm staying out of all this other than to say if you're really serious about wanting a man, you would either leave LA or broaden your search range a lot. I'm not saying don't take all the other advice here. But I know what living in such a superficial status obsessed city does to people. If you really want a guy you will take the advice here as well as either move or seek guys who live at least a couple hours out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 11:09 PM |
| 2 | RPW approach to drug abuseHis main relationship is with his drug of choice. It will never be you and you do not have the power to make it you. It will be like the man you love having an affair and being cold and cruel to you, except his mistress is slowly destroying him. You can walk away and sometimes that is the most loving thing to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Whats the next step after feeling like you're a quality RPW looking for a committed RPM?Hate to say it but it's your city. If you date online expand the geography. A good man will drive hours to see you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/17 03:02 AM |
| 24 | Seeking advice on desiring monogamyIMHO you have no business being in a committed relationship if you "often cheat." You don't appear to understand the damage that does, since you can speak of it in such a lighthearted manner without remorse--you may feel sick at the thought, yet I see nothing about being saddened by what you have done to the men who trusted you and gave their love. I strongly suggest being single and seeking counseling. Not to sound harsh, but you really hurt people even if they never find out. You destroy the i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 07:11 PM |
| 6 | Both Thanks and a Question on ChattinessI'm quiet most of the time, but with people I'm close to often talk too much because I'm not used to being comfortable expressing myself. They get too much of it. Also I still have this old idea I'm supposed to open up about everything, like it isn't real unless I share it. That's not true. But it does make me feel better to share at times, but not always. The reason I do this is an old idea that I'm supposed to be interesting and I fear if I'm too quiet I'll be boring. After all the quiet girl … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/17 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessI thought the ideal for women was .7? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Best makeup channel everThis could become a rabbit hole, lol. I like how she explains her thinking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/17 12:40 AM |
| 14 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessWhen you boil it down, I'm basically here for one reason: I can't find another women's forum in which it's ok to ask how I can improve my relationship or be considerate of my SO. I feel like so many other places just get this sassy attitude of how it's always the man's fault, and looking in the mirror as a woman to ask how you contributed is sacrilege. This place isn't my gospel. I even believe from experience and speaking with men about relationships that most men also need firmness (in a gentl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 08:56 PM |
| 6 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessI am so glad. I like the biblical phrase: "The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath." If the advice here is helping then take it, but the minute people start trying too hard to conform themselves to the concepts even if they don't fit, it becomes destructive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessAmen. If you work, and you're stressing, ask if it's really so serious a life or death matter, and if you need to be so worried or frustrated. Actually this goes for everything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 07:28 PM |
| 3 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessThanks. Very good point about stress. I've taken to going out much less during the week, whenever I need to chill. I know women older than myself who go out socially every weeknight and barely sleep. I can't understand how they do it. It can't be good. Whenever I stress about life I remember that if I live to 70 or 80 I will want good health. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Aging: be aware, but don't panic and obsessVery true. What did you notice with the women who "smashed in at high speed," in terms of their lifestyle? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/17 05:22 PM |
| 2 | What non-food treats and acts of kindness do you do for your man?Massage! I tell him things that I appreciate he does. This seems to go a long way. As in I individually name the things. He doesn't want me to spend on him, so for his birthday I went to a craft store and just made a nice, creative card. | /r/RedPillWives | 27/03/17 07:03 PM |
| 14 | How do you deal with jealousy/insecurity in a new relationship?Don't date someone if you can't tolerate certain things. How close you both are to opposite sex friends is a matter of values. One person might be chill about hanging out one on one with opposite sex friends. The other one might not be able to tolerate their SO doing that. Make sure you're on the same page rather than pretending to be cool with something you are not. I'm old school and not a huge fan of my man having one on one time with another woman so I don't date men who do that. I date men … | /r/RedPillWives | 22/03/17 02:56 PM |
| 3 | "My Husband Is Not Romantic" - Great Post About Letting Go Of Expectations And Accepting Your Man!This is exactly it. I think she and the woman writing the article must be forceful, intense, and associating success of their relationship with a lot of small things that aren't inherently about the relationship going their way. I can see how that could drive a man crazy. I mean an adult woman just saying "oh lets go to the drive in!" to husband without planning or considering his mood or energy level seems like...juvenile. To expect it to be like teenagers in high school senior year where he ju… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/03/17 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Is marriage really the curse for female sex drive? I don't think so.Sure, yes I know much of it comes from parents teaching kids a misconception. Or from only focusing on the negative. That's why any chance I get to clarify a misconception I take it. I know you didn't just mean Catholicism but it could have fit in your umbrella. And many non religious people also have unhealthy hang ups as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/17 04:13 PM |
| 3 | "My Husband Is Not Romantic" - Great Post About Letting Go Of Expectations And Accepting Your Man!I appreciate her point about Hollywood setting ideas for romantic gifts. How she learned to see what actually was expressing love from her husband. That is big especially for anyone who still thinks only a certain gift means he is in love. Like jewelry every time is the only proof or something. Some people believe this such as the Rules book. I think it's too rigid. Otherwise I am confused. Laura Doyle is good. But I don't understand how the author here could be all angry about her husband not r… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/03/17 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Is marriage really the curse for female sex drive? I don't think so.Just dropping in to say that you may have been referring to Catholicism (no birth control comment,) and that you're suffering from a common misconception. Catholicism teaches that married sex is unitive and procreative. It's for uniting the spouses as well as reproduction, not just reproduction. It's considered a metaphor of God's love and closeness. Read John Paul II. Read Song of Songs in the Bible. The church says no sex outside of marriage precisely because it is such a strong force, that ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/17 03:29 PM |
| 3 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?Just want to say that there is nothing wrong with this. If we are going to label men as Alpha or Beta, a huge amount of the bravado-filled Alphas are as annoying as the more insecure betas. If you find a guy who is kinda in the middle, not macho or clingy and desperate, personally I consider that a win. Life isn't all about scoring the hottest rock star. If you're talking pure sexual strategy in an evolutionary theoretical plane, sure, but that isn't where we live. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/17 03:17 PM |
| 1 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?I think you're onto the reason why some women these days just let themselves go and wear sweatpants, don't fix their hair, get cats and eat ice cream. Fear of trying too hard and anxiety about natural aging. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/17 08:30 PM |
| – | Is marriage really the curse for female sex drive? I don't think so.I think there are better ways but I personally can't relate because I have never experienced a loss of drive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 09:11 PM |
| 4 | Is marriage really the curse for female sex drive? I don't think so.Jealousy and a guy trying to play me with it causes me to shut down, and my pride also kicks in to say no way I'm going to desperately compete with anyone. (I mean if he's playing me; I do present my best self generally.) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 07:37 PM |
| 19 | I have never actually seen any real examples of the wall?Honestly, in my twenties I had family problems and was insecure and didn't enhance my appearance, and I attracted low value guys. Sketchy or losers. When I hit 30 I started attracted better guys. I look better now if not as youthful. Go figure. I will say I decided years ago to age gracefully with acceptance and not act foolish with makeup and too-young clothing. I decided to use the wisdom and savvy I have to my advantage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/17 07:32 PM |
| 5 | Life advice neededDon't get one if you don't want it. I used to be near a university and surrounded by friends who were all getting higher education. Masters and PhDs and all that. I don't want one. I love to learn but I have no desire to go back to school. If I ever wanted to work on an individual skill I could get a certificate and training. Sometimes I felt less than the people around me, but I wasn't about to go into debt on something I didn't even want that would stress me out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/17 03:27 AM |
| 4 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?The other he had told me all about the effort he made to purchase and thought behind it, and he already had given it to me. Either choice would insult him. I couldn't win. He told me to keep both rings. It was about which to wear daily. Caring how it looked or fit made me a bad person to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Thanks and yes you're right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 03:06 AM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?No...I think you may have a point...considering how much over analysis I have done in this post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Yeah I hear you. And you said it. I hate overspending but clearly, being miserly and fighting about pennies is for men who don't really get women. That's exactly what I don't want to do, put pressure so it feels like I'm forcing him. Edit: thanks I hope you're right about us | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:40 AM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Yikes. Yeah maybe she needs a wake up call but some people are too far gone to listen. You can always plant a seed. She must be really terrified at her core of being poor and helpless again. You and I have such a similar story, my dad lost it all and my engagement ended all within weeks and I was fully on my own. Played the bill roulette game and had a job with free food or I would have been in trouble. You know I've read advice for women to make sure he buys you a certain price for dinner to sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?This is insightful. It gets tricky for me since I tend to attract old fashioned guys who insist on paying for dinner and all that, and I do think a providing instinct is important so I'm fine with it. I never forced anyone to do this and I try to express gratitude for any kind of meal out or small gift. My bf likes to get me little gifts now and then. I don't think we are close enough yet for me to ask for anything major, that isn't on his terms. What your ex did commanding you to buy her someth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:26 AM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I'm sorry you had to feel that way with your dad. It does suck. And you feel weird because you are incredibly grateful to have the necessities covered, very much, but beyond that family matters so much more...and yet your dad was doing all that out of love. It gets confusing. Are we twins? Ha...my walls are empty. I just looked. I think I got a poster for Christmas from an artist friend. I guess I should put it up. I don't know what the name trend is and maybe that's good. I used to kind of envy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Hmmm. I have been well off and also very poor at different times. I understand the terrified feeling of poverty and why security would be important to her, but you really have to love the guy and love him even if lost it all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I admire people like your grandmother because I think that's the only way to handle having wealth without going insane. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I might be. Maybe the ex from my story messed with my head. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/17 12:45 AM |
| 5 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Hearing about that is the saddest thing. No amount of money can fix a broken heart. I think that's why those families that have that "old money" value being understated and not showing off, maybe the generational wisdom is that you can never have enough things, it won't make you happy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 11:52 PM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Thank you for saying I am not crazy. You are massively validating my experience of growing up. My poor father wanting to make up for a broken family by getting us nice things, killing himself working. It is really hard to explain to anyone who hasn't been through it, why you feel kind of sick about having too much expensive stuff. I don't want to come off a poor little rich kid. And yup, I've known people who grew up poor who were the most materialistic people ever, while others were detached. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Thanks for your insights. I think we completely understand each other regarding background. Well, my dad to all appearances was wealthy; mothers house was quite different but nobody ever takes that into account when judging me. But as in your case, my ex panicked he would never provide for me and I would ruin him, and that my simple desires were all a show. I know that it's very possible to grow up well off and not develop an attachment to things, but prefer stability and love. Believe me I desi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:57 PM |
| 8 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?True. It's also probably innate to being the weaker sex. We do need protection more than men. But I certainly have a beauty budget he does not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I always say an immediate thank you for meals or gifts. Maybe I need a better way to also express gratitude for being with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:40 PM |
| 4 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Yes, he wanted me to choose which one I would wear out of one he had purchased and an heirloom. I was confused since I knew the effort he made to get a new one but also I didn't want to be rude about the family one. I feel that taking any time to check the thing I would wear for the rest of my life would offend him, I feel maybe only putting my hands behind my back and blindly choosing one would have made him happy. I think you're right...by that point he was just setting me up, because he alrea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Is there a female equivalent to the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book?Thanks. I'm not sure I follow your second paragraph but the book looks good. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?Ok, I'm really glad that my understanding is correct so I can improve this. I don't want to take it personally. It's easy to say "what a cute dress!" with girlfriends; of course we are just dreaming and admiring the style. Now I must remember a man will take that comment very differently | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:14 PM |
| 5 | Are men worried women will be too materialistic? If yes how can I be sensitive to this?I do think it's important to discuss, finding the balance between letting men provide a little without hurting them or causing them to fear you're a gold digger. As far as I can tell, he was extremely paranoid that a future wife would not be frugal enough to his liking. I'm all about frugality and dropping frivolous things. But he was more like miserly than just frugal. I'm not sure what the origins were; he didn't grow up really poor...he would get so angry with me over pennies. He religiously … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 10:10 PM |
| 9 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?Could be. I have a lot of theories about SAHMs in modern society. I think some do get stir crazy. In the past I feel like a lot more women stayed home and there were larger communities around, aunts and grandmas and neighbors, so maybe it was easier with more adult conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:20 PM |
| 9 | Does staying home create an echo chamber?I know plenty of SAHMs who are really balanced and mature women. I'm not sure it's a causation, because I've also known working women who are drama queens too. The ones in question must feel unfulfilled in some way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Is there a female equivalent to the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book?Ah thank you. I've seen this author but not read it. Recs from RPW help sort through the valuable books vs worthless ones. Will check it out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Witnessed an AWALT momentI can't really comment on your friend since I don't know enough. Why I think women don't self examine is that feminism has severely brainwashed everyone. I think many women honestly truly believe that if they examine how they may have provoked or influenced a problem from a man, that they are being emotionally abused and everybody's favorite word, gaslighted. Women have been taught that to even consider that they are an adult who is flawed and needs to be responsible, is the path to being abused… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Texting and being too availableYeah...don't play. Reply if you have something to say or it's time sensitive. If you're busy or unsure what to say reply later. Sure maybe have a life so you're not sitting by the phone all day, but you can't fake that by ignoring. If I've learned something it's that having deep convos over text is a bad idea. Phone calls are only a little better. In person is best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/17 05:16 PM |
| 6 | "10 Easy Ways to Deal With Me When I’m Being a Bitch"I am always so relieved when I find out my negative hopeless mood is mostly just hormones and not the truth. Article is infantile in expecting the world to revolve around her and treat her like a special snowflake. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 11:08 PM |
| 1 | My Hypergamy is acting up [22]True. Well for Christians he is the only man with no flaws. Good luck finding a man to marry with zero flaws. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 10:51 PM |
| 1 | My man is probably considered "low value" but I think he's got a lot of potential.Marriage protects you and your child and gives you many benefits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Successful post-wall marriagesI know a woman who was like an aunt to me who is happily married. Don't know the exact age but she was well over 35. Also my aunt and uncle married rather late I believe. There are plenty of people who do. It's not necessarily the norm but it doesn't mean it's literally impossible. It might be harder for a woman who totally lets herself go and never goes out, of course. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:54 PM |
| 1 | new here, what steps can I take?That's interesting, I've also heard the reverse the guy should be more in love or something. Not sure myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Does it matter what He looks like?There is wisdom in your mom's words. Looks don't matter for men the same literal way they can for women. But you have to find him attractive regardless of if he'a a "pretty boy" or not. It's different with men. There are some men with beautiful faces out there and women might find them nice to look at like a painting. But give a lot of women a rough looking guy without the most handsome face, but he's in a firefighter or military uniform and watch how they react. That is just one example but I h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:12 AM |
| 15 | My Hypergamy is acting up [22]Well maybe theoretically. But the warning about hypergamy is there for women who basically have a good catch but are tempted to throw it away for some new superficially charming guy. In this case her current catch is pretty suspect according to a lot of people's standards, so even if it's technically hypergamy that she's considering she might want better, it's not necessarily destructive... | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:08 AM |
| 5 | My Hypergamy is acting up [22]I think your first step in all of this is to maybe stop perceiving yourself as "not much of a catch." Nobody is perfect but first of all good men will cut you a lot of slack if you did done dumb past behavior as a result of acting out from abuse (and not just from being spoiled or selfish.) tell a decent guy you acted impulsively due to deep wounds and now no longer do that and they will say what's past is past. Second of all RPW isn't about despairing and beating yourself up for having any trai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:04 AM |
| 7 | My Hypergamy is acting up [22]For me living with parents/no reliable job and weed are dealbreakers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/17 01:01 AM |
| 10 | What happened to attractive post-wall women you know?Yes I think they want to film us in our natural habitats, narrating quietly so as not to startle us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/17 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Saying goodbyeHonestly I've found it makes room for someone new | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/17 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Battle of the Boobs: Feminists defend freedom – but only for the right kind of women.LOL nailed it. | /r/RedPillWives | 08/03/17 11:40 PM |
| 10 | How do you feel when some guys put you on a pedestal?If I'm truly on a pedestal it's awful. If he thinks I'm an angel in the flesh you can't have a real conversation, every tiny thing you say gets worshipped so if you say something offhand it becomes way too big. And every second you are just waiting until he sees your flaws and then immediately becomes angry you aren't the angel. It's a form of being objectified. If rather in just with a good guy that loves me and treats me like a lady then that's just fine. And if someone doesn't help you improv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/17 11:23 PM |
| 4 | Free Friday - March 03, 2017Eh I don't know, if she truly is the height and weight she says she is, that's not fat and out of shape. Don't know about the slob/pretty face thing. But if his delivery is as insulting as she said it gives me pause. The bigger thing is that he had no intention of marrying her. I think people here would agree that if he said that he means it. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/03/17 11:21 PM |
| 12 | Older women, what depressing social changes have you seen in your lifetime?Family fell apart. Divorce became no fault. Without family structure society falls apart. Socialization isn't about family, it's almost the same dynamic as gangs/lord of the flies. Like, not literally, but you have to make a bunch of random friends to be your family in a sense. There isn't order. Family used to protect women from guys who didn't want to date but only use. Those men were seen as bad news. Once Upon a Time the girl's dad/brothers/male cousins etc would have a few choice words with… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/03/17 11:12 PM |
| 5 | SAHMs and SAHWs, what do you wear at home?I fully believe you can dress in comfy clothes at home that still show your feminity. Like yoga pant and a fitted shirt instead of baggy sweats. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/03/17 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Chronic Illness and Keeping UpIn general in life you have to respect your illness. So for me I know I slack on seeing my friends and miss a lot of work but so be it, they don't get it. I'm sorry about your bf, I got lucky w mine and he is tolerant of my weakness and takes care of me. Maybe start just completely respecting your own need for rest and it will communicate. I learned this from an old roommate who didn't look sick but who fully knew she needed rest no matter how "lazy" it looked and didn't care what anyone thought… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/17 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Hi RPW, I'd love your insight on some things if you don't mind.My only insight is that if you are married your first priority is the marriage, period. Not your family of origin. I don't know if you're religious but the Bible discusses the importance of grown adults separating from their family of origin and becoming one with the spouse. Actually secular psychologists will tell you the same thing. It's called differentiating. You need to accept it. This marriage is your family now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Need help fixing my imageJust rein it in a little. You don't have to flirt to connect always. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Ashamed of my pastThis post is so good! Bipolar is a serious chemical imbalance and mania is like another person takes over your kind and actions and you don't even have the self awareness to see that. Your culpability is reduced due to this although the actions are still there. And I agree telling your SO about it and when you are experiencing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/17 07:42 PM |
| 9 | Okay To Be a Housewife With No Kids?Didn't it used to be called a homemaker? And was respected as a real job? | /r/RedPillWives | 28/02/17 04:26 PM |
| 2 | (Serious) Why Shouldn't Women Perform Sex Work?Oh I understand. Yes I was just speaking from personal experience--I'm acquainted with a couple women who used to do sex work and their boyfriends do not mind. I didn't mean to suggest it was impossible to get a man if you're still in it, I just was talking about the people I know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/17 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Any form of advice for a 19 year old girlIt's not required for both spouses to work, although it's often necessary when a woman is single. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 09:21 PM |
| 3 | (Serious) Why Shouldn't Women Perform Sex Work?Thanks for sharing this. I've seen some girls who did sex work go on to be traditional housewives with men who knew of their past. They decided they wanted a different lifestyle so they changed. Their man didn't hold it against them. People here are being a bit rigid in their understanding, likely from theorizing alone without seeing any real life examples. People can choose to change, and that some guys are not the type to hold a woman's past against her if he's happy with how she is now. Of co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/17 08:33 PM |
| 2 | How Masculine Jobs and Lives Can Affect a Woman’s Beauty and Feminine EnergyI relate to feeling it hurting my soul having to be in masculine roles. In an ironic twist I was randomly offered a corporate job and I needed a job, so I took it. By no means is that my central life focus. My mother was feminist and her agenda was to put me in masculine roles. It was really bad. I know part of my exhaustion is not being able to be who I am during the week. I should be able to work hard without neutering myself. I don't work in a highly masculine way compared to others. I have a… | /r/RedPillWives | 24/02/17 07:44 PM |
| 9 | Seven Reasons I’m Sleeping With Your Husband [A Cautionary Tale]False. A deeply happy and loving marriage will make the kids feel safe, secure, stable, and loved, as well as give them a great example. A bad or mediocre marriage makes kids feel unsafe and placed into an adult emotional role, trying to "be there for" their parents instead of be kids. | /r/RedPillWives | 24/02/17 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Lessons in Love from a Couple Who've Been Together for 60 YearsThis is extremely sweet but I like the realism in it as well. Don't hold onto resentment although arguments happen. After being together so long why would they break up, "where would they go, what would they do?" In her words. Sounds unromantic but I think it's quite romantic since everyone is being told to cut off contact with people, find yourself, all that. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/02/17 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Trying to Understand my Alpha BoyfriendI understand from what you said that fear is your main reason for staying (of being alone over 30, not finding anyone better.) If there are no positive reasons why you stay, maybe think about that. You have to surrender (not to him, just in general) because it's too hard to force yourself to make a big choice (in my experience.) women are relationship oriented and can get blinded by even a mediocre guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 08:10 PM |
| 6 | How to keep n-count low when you are ridiculously horny (serious)I think this is a serious concern that we don't talk about in conservative and religious circles due to a confused idea of women's purity being akin to being prudish and having a low drive. A lot of women have a very high drive. This is why society used to be ordered towards marrying young, towards a culture that supported marriage with families setting people up, and a culture that made divorce very inconvenient. All I can tell you is whether you feel you want it or not, start seriously looking… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 03:48 PM |
| 11 | Is there something wrong with being a girl that wants a high n count?I steer clear of any guy who still associates his n count with his masculinity. I don't mean men who like sex. I mean thinking a high n count is what makes you a man. Guys like that haven't matured past an adolescent mindset. Men achieve manhood through accomplishment and learning from other men and from providing and protecting. Even if he claims he's trp and doesn't care about women but just wants to have sex a lot, the n count obsession is obvious and a sign of being emotionally stunted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 03:27 PM |
| 9 | Trying to Understand my Alpha BoyfriendJust because somebody says something doesn't mean that it's true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 03:22 PM |
| 3 | So, RP gals, what did you get for Valentine's Day?:( | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/17 03:18 PM |
| 2 | (Free Friday Share) Traditional family structures are still the best for your children's potential futures.I agree it shouldn't be but sadly today having an intact home is actually very much a blessing. Maybe not a privilege but it's not taken as the norm. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/02/17 05:50 PM |
| 5 | "Society is creating a new crop of alpha women who are unable to love"Maybe just bossy and headstrong but thinks she is strong and independent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/17 07:40 PM |
| 4 | Free Friday - February 10, 2017Sadly Americans have a confused view of sexuality. We apparently think vulgarity will cure our puritan repression. Being vulgar is just a sign of an immature attitude toward sex, still secretly thinking it's about cooties and yucky, so overcompensating. Could these same women be sensual and intriguing while even keeping a straight face? They would feel silly. Sexuality is to be respected and channeled properly. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/02/17 07:37 PM |
| 5 | What little things do you do to show love to your SO?I suspect it's cultural from feminism partly. However I strongly suspect that women who are more practical and concerned about security, become nervous the guy might actually empty the bank account and go to the jungle. They feel the need to nip it in the bud because they think he is a child who isn't thinking clearly or prudently. A responsible man won't quit his day job and impulsively do that but many women can't trust that. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/02/17 05:10 PM |
| 6 | What little things do you do to show love to your SO?Seeing a lot of small signs of affection here. One thing I actually do though is be sure to respectfully and attentively listen when he's excited about something. So if he's talking about one day wanting to go exploring in the jungle for ancient treasure, I listen to understand about his dreams. Realistically he can't just up and do that, but the point is to respect his heart. Many women in my family would treat men's wild dreams like they were children out of touch with reality, and that is act… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/02/17 02:45 PM |
| 2 | How did you figure out what needs improvement?:) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 11:57 PM |
| 4 | "Society is creating a new crop of alpha women who are unable to love"I'm glad she clarified the term "nice." That conjure up a mousy pushover image. She explains it just means not a contrary and rude person essentially. I would use the terms being at peace, receptive, confident in feminine strength and mystery. Love the chess analogy, I've used it before. And the fact that men are deeply influenced by how we feel and act. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/17 03:52 PM |
| 5 | "Incredible Women Often Have the Worst Dating Lives" or Strong Independent Woman Who Don't Need No ManIt's sad I know. I feel bad because honestly it isn't easy to resist an e tire culture brainwashing and shaming you about this. Anyone who saw the light is lucky really. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 08:43 PM |
| 3 | How did you figure out what needs improvement?Second the nagging thing. Women are instinctively wanting to care for children, sometimes we feel protective of our man and act like a mom to a young child. In short we don't realize we are doing it. It isn't like a movie where the women is obviously a bitch and telling her man he's dumb or short or whatever. But even feeling the need to debate his opinion for no reason, or suggesting a better way to cook a dish just because you think it's interesting, or sort of treating his wild life fantasies… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 07:51 PM |
| 5 | "Incredible Women Often Have the Worst Dating Lives" or Strong Independent Woman Who Don't Need No ManI've read a lot about this. I'm very lucky to have been influenced by recent immigrants in my family. I always thought I was a weirdo because I'm terrible at getting uppity about things. I actually need to work on communications a bit. But yeah, I think we modern American ladies should take a hint from some other cultures. Even in some feminist cultures, their deal is that being a woman is great, not to hate men and feel disadvantaged. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 07:42 PM |
| 4 | "Incredible Women Often Have the Worst Dating Lives" or Strong Independent Woman Who Don't Need No ManThose articles...the lady doth protest too much, I think. I hope she can get out of those beliefs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 07:39 PM |
| 11 | "Incredible Women Often Have the Worst Dating Lives" or Strong Independent Woman Who Don't Need No ManDAE relationships are for silly girls and only career and travel matter? /s Deathbed regrets are always: wish I had worked less and spent more time with loved one. So done with modern idea that loving and being loved is for pathetic people. At this point figuring out a suitable husband is my work; my job is just a day job. Oh, lol, and don't tell me men run away from "intense lovers." Decidedly untrue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 07:33 PM |
| 2 | I feel badSo true, I went from upper middle growing up to family disaster leaving me very working class. However any woman who really wants to can find a man to help her and who cares for her, and in that we are blessed. I see nothing wrong with it either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 07:20 PM |
| 1 | I feel badAfter my family fell apart and I left my ex I had nowhere to go and no income, and I had to work at jobs with mean bosses unexpectedly and live hand to mouth, yes I had a new appreciation for how hard many men work. I haven't always lived in a cushy bubble but even so I live with the knowledge that any woman who had feminine wiles can find a man who willingly takes care of her because he finds it fulfilling. Contrary to many I see nothing immoral about this truth, as long as everyone is honest a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/17 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe in soulmates?Well tell her the joke! I'm religious but I know God won't make me win the lottery if I don't buy a ticket... | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 01:06 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe in soulmates?Kindred spirits are definitely a thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 03:35 AM |
| 9 | Do you believe in soulmates?Ever heard the joke about the guy stuck on his roof during a flood? He tells himself not to worry God will save him. Three different people in boats come by and offer to rescue him. Each time he refuses, saying "God will save me." Finally the flood claims him, and in heaven he asks God "Why did you let the flood drown me, I thought you would save me!" And God replies "yeah, I sent three boats..." 😇 | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/17 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Need help finding graceMaybe I'm just lucky but I inherently think of problems like cleaning as "our" issue not his. And honestly men can be messy at times a little bit, they don't always "see" it like we do. Also if you are PMSing don't take offense be relieved it might just be your hormones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 06:43 PM |
| 20 | Do you believe in soulmates?I believe that a soul mate is a partner you travel your journey with. Two souls as mates. An older married man used the term saying it's so nice to have "a soul mate." It wasn't "your soul mate" but "a." Freely chosen. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/17 06:40 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?Very good point about communication! There have been times I just am afraid I will talk and say something insane. At those times I tell myself "don't talk." Not, "don't say that one thing," but literally "do not speak." If I must talk, it's a way I shut off that compulsive inner voice and use my intelligent words I've thought through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It? | The Feminine WomanI do not think she's extolling having no friends as much as saying, if you realize all your friends are bad to you and you need to temporarily have no friends, that is ok. Don't fear it and don't keep up bad fake friendships just to look normal. I really needed to hear this because I'm not great at having friends and I feel shame about it, but I don't want bad friends either. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/02/17 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Ladies who lift. Part 1: BeginnersI know you mentioned it just wanted to second it! Good health when you're older is priceless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Have you read Renee Wade's The Feminine Woman Blog?I think it is pretty good although I would not see it as gospel | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsIf you can control it it's ok. I choose not to for many reasons. But personally I wouldn't have my main social media photos with alcohol since it cold give the wrong impression. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Simple QuestionsWhat is it about? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Ladies who lift. Part 1: BeginnersThank you so much. And just a friendly reminder to anyone reading this: the motivation lasts longer if you do it for your health, not just for perfect results. The results are a nice side effect! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Ladies - Do You Feel Welcome On Other Subreddits?Basically apparently if you have fair skin on those subs it means you're a spoiled princess. God forbid you mention your skin tone in relation to a makeup question. It was a real surprise to me after hearing all my life that tan skin is more desirable and pale skin is awkward. I honestly have no idea, it's very odd. The SJW on there are absurd. If we can all afford to buy paint to make our faces pretty, we aren't oppressed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:23 PM |
| 1 | Ladies - Do You Feel Welcome On Other Subreddits?Haha yup. Whatever you do, don't be fair-skinned on a makeup sub. It's the worst faux pas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Ladies - Do You Feel Welcome On Other Subreddits?Honestly, I don't even consider all of RPW to be gospel, but it seems there isn't anywhere else on this site where I can actually examine my own behavior and strive to make a relationship work. Everywhere else people are shrieking and getting uppity about men being terrible, and they all seem to love separation and divorce and all that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Age of oldest man you've been with?I was 26?and he 48. We were friends first. He looked about 32-35. But had that older guy wisdom. I didn't know his age for a while. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/17 01:35 PM |
| 4 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?Then you must accept that there are some things we don't share with others and that's ok. I honestly imagine my mouth being sewn shut during moments where I feel I might say something careless. That sounds dramatic but as they say "loose lips sink ships." I'm not intending to be harsh it just telling you what I've gone through with it. Perhaps you have received the cultural notion that a relationship is not good unless you are an open book and confess everything about everything? That is actuall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 07:48 PM |
| 17 | How do I stop attention-seeking behavior and build self-control?I understand. I briefly acted like this because I was reserved as a kid and wanted to be "interesting." The first thing to do is realize that your life is not about having cool stories to share or being a Manic Pixie Dream Girl that fascinates people. Marilyn Monroe, for example, is not actually some fascinating and unique woman. I mean she was, but she was mostly just miserable with a pathetic level of self esteem. She was tragic but not romantic. The culture paints people who are a mess as the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Not where I want to be. {21f}I consider vetting a relationship to determine if there is a family future there to be my "career" and not the job I do during the week. That is the work that matters in life. You need to accept that if you're with an older man he is inevitably going to be ahead in terms of career unless he's a total bum. My SO is high status enough he probably can't get fired and I'm at a new job. It's not my main purpose in life. Worthy men are not looking down on you about career. Work on yourself and discern… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 12:05 AM |
| 3 | What are your favorite feminine rituals?Yay! I also love skincare and an wear minimal makeup but lipstick is my thing. Instant femininity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/17 12:00 AM |
| 4 | What age did you reach your peak?As a 31 year old still going strong, this encourages me :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 09:02 PM |
| 3 | What age did you reach your peak?Please don't think this way. Read the Sadie post and the sticky about this topic and don't be discouraged. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/17 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Random RP ThoughtsOh well she's not a real woman because she uses her beauty and poise to her advantage /s | /r/RedPillWives | 29/01/17 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Random RP ThoughtsI think so. Especially with her clothes. People mock her calling her a gold digger, but I respect that she wanted a successful husband and got it. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/01/17 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Random RP ThoughtsLol all my friends who don't make a lot always act like I'm up right when I am careful about throwing away a lot on fancy food I don't even want, but whine they are broke. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/01/17 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Random RP ThoughtsI totally get this. It's like this groupthink and the idea of a nanny state, except instead of the state people appeal to the mainstream cultural ideas. They need to go ask people their opinions on every tiny part of their life to seek approval instead of making choices. | /r/RedPillWives | 29/01/17 06:53 PM |
| 13 | Are Women Being Raised to Fail?Wow. Are you me? All I ever heard was about education, that I'm smart and all that. Constant pressure. A belief that higher education will lead me to a better man. Assumptions that I have regular career ambitions. No one ever even told me I might seek a man except my grandmothers. Like my parent acted like romance did not exist. Didn't help they were divorced. I honestly have a chip on my shoulder about being born in this time because I wish it was a time where I had been taught properly how to … | /r/RedPillWives | 29/01/17 06:51 PM |
| 3 | We are the MVPs, Our Game is not Guy GameThis is so true. In my 20s basically loser guys liked me. I had family problems and was too insecure to wear makeup and act like an adult woman. At 29 or 30 I started having some men obsess over me and even want marriage. I just became confident and maximized my good traits and worked out. Never tell me the odds... | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/17 06:01 PM |
| 4 | I'm at rock bottom: Mom doesn't think I'll ever get married. Need some advice. 21/fI relate. I'm told all the time I'm beautiful but in general I used to think I was ugly because I'm shy and I have childhood issues that keep me from being open. I'm self conscious and feel that when I'm open people find me weird so I decide they "don't deserve" me. It's not easy but you have to ignore your mom's comment. You are in charge of your life not her. I used to care what older relatives thought until my aunt said "yeah and what if that person died?" Not to be morbid but you have to liv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/17 05:59 PM |
| 1 | We are the MVPs, Our Game is not Guy GameIn some ways but I try to never give up, stay positive, and capitalize on what I do have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/17 08:46 PM |
| 3 | We are the MVPs, Our Game is not Guy GameAmen. I read some article where a guy asked his French wife why their women had the reputation for being alluring and seductive and aging gracefully. She said "Of course, because they enjoy being women, and they are glad they are not men." Feminism told us to envy men for their apparent power...but they ended up turning in their woman card and giving up there real power. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/17 08:46 PM |
| 8 | We are the MVPs, Our Game is not Guy GameI love the Navy Seal analogy so much We can forget that we are Queens. I don't mean that in a bratty cheesy or trashy way. Nor am I in denial. But women have a unique power even with certain odds against us. I've learned a lot about male psychology and it's not always the youngest or cutest who wins. DON'T assume you are exceptional but DO maximize your feminine wiles without shame or shyness, to get what you need in life. Edit: I think about a chess game. The King and Queen aren't equal...Queen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/17 07:00 PM |
| 1 | There Really Is A Dating Site For Everyone (For us it would be #1)As far as I recall, they used photos of real guys but then at some point would ask for money. It was really confusing because some were real. I randomly chatted to an Australian guy for a while off the site. But even if some were real none of them were very active. It was hard to discern the real from the fake. I lose momentum using it since I didn't know if it worked. A google search simply afforded fake reviews that were just ads (is this website a scam? No! It's actually great. Click here) | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/17 08:11 PM |
| 1 | There Really Is A Dating Site For Everyone (For us it would be #1)The only thing I wish is that there were legit military dating sites for gals who feel most comfortable with that type. Most of them were all scams. Fortunately I found one anyway :) | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/17 04:59 PM |
| 3 | "Are You Sure You Aren’t Unhappy?" - Ladies Do You Experience This?I agree. I realize this is a case of be careful what you wish for, but I sometimes do wonder if it wouldn't have been much easier to figure out a spouse and stick with it in a satisfied way back when everyone wasn't so spoiled. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/17 04:45 PM |
| 1 | "Are You Sure You Aren’t Unhappy?" - Ladies Do You Experience This?How stressful would it be to constantly have to be on and have "fun". I couldn't do it. There is beauty in day to day routine done with love. Of course my family wasn't boring because of the endless fights, slander, lawsuits and "I wonder who will go to jail" that I am relieved to have all. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/17 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Birth orders and relationshipsSometimes I wish I wasn't first born. My SOs are very often the youngest. I always feel like they are free to be themselves where I am responsible to a fault about overthinking what I will affect them and others. It kinda sucks. I'm like this in general. It's probably also though because my parents are insecure and tried to make me into a huge people pleaser and never defended me so. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/01/17 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Would you recommend The Rules?People like the Laura Doyle books here. I'm reading a few others too when I'm done I'll let you know if they're good. Fascinating Womanhood is great too. The Rules are sort of good if you say in the words of Captain Barbosa (yes I love Pirates of the Caribbean haha) "they're more like...guidelines." Otherwise you'll make yourself crazy. It was still in my head when my bf got me a designer bag over Christmas. Because they said he must get "romantic" gifts or he doesn't love you. Their idea of rom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 10:56 PM |
| 4 | How important in your opinion is your voice for femininity?Do not force a high pitched voice if it wasn't you. Watch some old black and white movies with femme fatale characters. Tell me how many of them had high pitched voices. Yet they were all seductive to men. I have a lower voice and to be feminine I relax it and let it be. Forcing a higher tone sounds shrill. You just need to relax and as was said don't use a monotone, be expressive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 04:58 PM |
| 5 | Would you recommend The Rules?I think there are better books out there. I read this and it's too rigid. There is some good advice to take as s general principle, but if you try to follow it to the letter it will make you paranoid and manipulative. I actually had to post here at one point about this question and people said it was pretty rigid and not really the best choice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/17 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Light and Dark FemininityStrongly agree. Some men do need that but it's all based on each other's needs. Becoming too rigid can backfire in terms of ideas of what is masculine/feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/17 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Light and Dark FemininityI actually don't think it's the same as assertive although being assertive is fine. It's just a simply metaphor to clarify moving beyond just the "pure and light" femininity idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/17 02:22 AM |
| 2 | Light and Dark FemininityYes so it's good to move beyond stereotypes. I wouldn't want to be just the sweet affectionate "mother of his kids" (in theory) or just the sexy/seductive one, I want both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Don't attractive women reach "The wall" at older ages?It's not nearly as rigid as some RP men like to act. Personally I looked youthful a few years back but was awkward and sucked into trends. I got more dates this year and men begging to be my bf now and finally found a decent man. Fertility is more rigid of course. But some men aren't looking to have 12 kids. That said being in denial about fertility decrease and aging is stupid. There is no problem with considering one's own age when vetting a man. I feel bad for women who postponed marriage and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Unknowingly been on Red Pill my whole dating lifeKeep that courage to have the relationship you desire. These days women get shamed for not being uppity and all that. Stand your ground. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 05:47 PM |
| 3 | How can I be less opinionated?Personally growing up my school was obsessed with "participation." So you got brownie points in class even if you said something vapid. I was always told I had great insight but didn't speak up enough. I simply didn't want to fill the silence with dumb thoughts. Was there an influence growing up like this on you? The internet is a culprit too since we all comment and act like special snowflakes. Think about the Ask subs all about "what common thing do you absolutely HATE" etc. I don't even have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/17 05:45 PM |
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