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PumpkinSub · 2018-03-01T22:04:48+00:00

I don't think you can categorize the sex life of men that easily. Some men prefer coyness I'm sure but you don't have to pretend to be coy or slutty. I think you should be authentically you in the bedroom otherwise you wont be sexually compatible at all. I'm a total hoe in the bedroom for my man and my man only. I don't dress like a hoe on the street though. Ya feel me?

imanewwoman · 2018-03-01T20:48:57+00:00

It's not rubbish!

I think it's completely ok to date exclusively even when you're not official. Of course, it's more time consuming because cut your options.

I've done it all my life. I only text with one guy, date one guy, and when I had friends with benefits several years ago, I had only one at the time.

It makes me feel good, to only focus on one person, and actually in my country it's kinda normal. Over here, nobody likes to find out that they're texting/dating someone who's texting/dating other people (even if they're don't have a physical relationship). So I think this depends on your personality and culture.

I of course don't mean that you should give all your attention to a single guy when you he gives you no commitment: don't be available for him whenever he pleases, by having your own active personal and/or social life.

Then for the sexual part, Im guessing you most likely you avoid men that get sexual quickly and aggressively (who usually are looking for sex only). So how can you know if he is sensual/sexual before he makes overtly sexual advances?

it's not possible to know your sexual compatibility beforehand in specific stuff like frequency, preferred positions, etc. But I've noticed that, people who eat, dance, speak, listen to music, and dream with passion are passionate about sex too. The kind of people who eat a meal and take their time to enjoy every taste, every moment, and flow with the moment. People who kiss and look you in the eyes with passion, will most likely be like that in bed, at least In my experience.

This is very common also among creative people. According to philosophies that explore the energetic body like yoga and taoism, sexual energy=creativity, water, flow. People who are creative and FLOW in their lives usually have a more active sexual self. Even if you work with very technical stuff, creativity can manifest as a way of solving problems and creating strategies. This is ONE of the reasons why so many artists are promiscuous: they live un a constant state of creation/sexuality/pleasure-seeking that sometimes overlap with their personal lives, and they translate into having lots of sex.

With my ex boyfriends I felt that we'd be compatible in sex from the first kiss, because they kissed an held me with passion, even when we hadn't had any sexual contact. I believe that's the most important part, and the specifics are manageable with communication.

On the other hand, I have 4 girlfriends whose boyfriends have very low libidos. They all waited very long to have sex for the first time (1+ year), they didn't initiate sexual activity for the first time, and they are kinda robotic in personality (not quiet or awkward, just like...dry). They don't exude joy either.

I only have my experience and my girlfriends' to compare to, but it might be helpful for you.

denimondemon · 2018-03-04T02:58:39+00:00

I think it could be good to meet go on dates with more men to get your confidence and experience up and to see what else is out there.

LateralThinker13 · 2018-03-07T22:19:31+00:00

1) If you go exclusive before the relationship has evolved to that point, it can come across as clingy and moving too fast to the guy. Which will usually get him to back off/leave.

2) If all of your past boyfriends had sex drive/physical issues, then the problem here (if you consider it to be a problem) is you. Specifically, your selection criteria for men has issues. You're vetting for this type of man unconsciously, if not consciously.

3) What do guys really want? Every guy is different, but if they're RP material, they will tend to want fairly traditional feminine qualities. Available sex, respect, admiration, appreciation, etc. Read Fascinating Womanhood for more insight.

lespetiteschoses · 2018-03-02T07:04:28+00:00

Before exclusivity I would be exclusive anyway. Just because I wouldn't be bothered to go out with others and I don't particularly like the thought of it. What is your opinion of this?

that's fine! i also preferred to focus on one man at a time when i was dating. just understand that he may be seeing other people, and that until that exclusivity talk has been had, you need to be ok with this.

In the past I've had bad sexual experiences with my boyfriends and all of them have had low sex drives / physical sexual issues. I don't know if this is because I don't talk about sex before exclusivity/LTR.

i don't think you need to overtly bring up sex before you're exclusive, but you should be able to flirt and be seductive with one another before then. sexual men tend to behave sexually on dates, even if it isn't crass or overt. take notice of the way he looks at you, the way he touches you. go out dancing and see how he moves. i think you can tell a lot about a man's sexual appetite and ability without addressing it directly.

What do guys really want in the bedroom. I feel that they are turned off by "slutty/tarty women" that you see out at clubs drunk etc. And they prefer more innocent girls.

lady in the streets, freak in the sheets!

men like to feel like you are very sexually available, but only to them. don't act slutty in public, but once you're sure that you're exclusive you let that out and have fun!

Rivkariver · 2018-03-02T18:37:31+00:00

It depends what you mean by seeing other people. If you go to dinner with more than 1 man, have not made a commitment, and none of you are physical, it’s not a big deal and could keep you from overcommiting before he does. These days some women are physical with multiple men at once, that’s definitely a bad idea.

andheaven · 2018-03-18T22:53:50+00:00

I’m always so curious what dating websites women use on here- what do you use?

Title	Questions
Author	hobpop
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	March 1, 2018 1:47 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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