How to deal w people disliking you because you’re too confident and good looking without changing your personality?

Pdubzilla · 2019-09-13T22:19:14+00:00

You sound like a dick. I doubt it is your looks that people dislike.

amphix339 · 2019-09-14T01:14:19+00:00

From your post I can tell you're one of the guys who only speak about themselves so others will validate your ego.

Do new things that you have no idea on how to do and you'll quickly realise you ain't shit. This'll help you become more stabilised and help you as you grow up and fail at many things.

If people's first instinct is to dislike you then they're not the problem

Schhwing · 2019-09-14T11:36:41+00:00

Frame: All that matters is how you feel about yourself. If you feel good about yourself you don’t need other people to like you (have friends though), and you don’t need to bully people.

If you are acting arrogant in some “persona”, that’s when shit can go bad and you start attracting bad shit.

nobody_thinks · 2019-09-14T00:07:38+00:00

I feel amazing

starts with a description of his emotions like a true cuck

PickUpScientist · 2019-09-13T23:53:46+00:00

idk but if you find out the answer let me know. that's the million dollar question right there.

ShotgunTRP · 2019-09-13T21:37:19+00:00

Everybody popular has haters

If you have haters youre doing something correct

dr_warlock · 2019-09-14T03:31:30+00:00

TLDR haters everywhere..... everywhere

I have the same problem. Height and looks. I am thankful but its not the poosy paradise people think. Nobody will believe you and dismiss it unless they have it too.

Your prescence, not your actions, instills insecurity. Being better in any other field is acceptable... except looks. Even if they have more objective success with women, have more money, and more power than you, they get hung up on it; they cant let it go. No matter how interesting or fun you make it, they can only see you as competition. At most enjoying your company at arms length.

Everything positive is rationalized to a negative. Confidence is arrogance, competitive is aggressive, posture is try-hard.

Everything negative is rationalized as a big negative. Slight mistakes makes you stupid because youre held to an unrealistic standard designed to fail.

All of this is their subconscious fighting to justify putting you down and kicking you out despite lack of provocation. Its like a girl blaming her bf/husband for not knowing she cheated or exaggeratting how he never helps out. The main objective of getting rid of someone to further personal gain is hidden from the conscious.

Theyll even make indirect remarks about your looks (guys mostly). Females may auto-reject to protect their egos, even being rude for no justifiable reason. She rejected you. Take that fuckboii!! She hasnt even met you before or heard about you. If youre smooth youre a fuckboii who gets arrround too much. If your game is less than stellar, youre unworthy betaness.... even though your game was on par or superior to the guys she sucks and fucks. Superior smv and game doesnt make you the winner. Ego is the first barrier to the sale, not attraction.

The group subconsciously pegs you down in unison not daring to acknowledge it. Has happened at most of my jobs, several bars, and anywhere an attractive female interacts with the group I'm with. Even if I include everyone and dont talk much and help out. They can be all cool and inviting, but then a female enters an equation... then suddenly the group silently turns on you. Betas too scared to confront you before see other members lowkey hating then muster the strength to do the same because theyre safe in numbers. Women if found you attractive at first pick up on this tribal dissaproval and lose interest.

Bosses dont feel like the boss when youre around even if you do the job right with no complaints, call them sir, and dont talk much. They'll go out of their way to give you a hard time, distribute harsher punishment, exaggerate your mistakes, down right insult you, and lowkey use you as a punching bag in a group convo. They mostly certainly dont like it when you arent intimidated by them. I could go on and on about insecure bosses. But I digress.

Edit: dont forget cockblocking. GOOD LORD CHAD the cockblocking. Coming up to my set to sabotage it by stating 'playful' negative comments about me making it awkward and firing up asd. Coming up to me just to say she has a boyfriend (shes all over me) and instant ASD activates and betas back him up. Using morality as a cover for their beta insecurities. A literal wall of guys form up around a girl to block me. Its unreal. If they cant get pussy nobody can.

Edit 2: Dominant handsyness: People will put their hands on your shoulders, tap you on the chest, or even wrap their arms around you under the guise of playfulness. They will act like youre overreacting when you tell them to stop. Trying display social dominance to ease their anxiety.

It's very important that you understand that theres nothing you can do to change their minds. NOTHING. Just get everything you can out of the interaction, even at their expense. Leave or stay and dominate. Fuck em.

There's only 3 ways to escape:

1) Hang with people who are big and/or good looking.

The problem here is that many 'heavy hitters' dont like hanging with their equals, at least not for long. Theyll respect you but want their own kingdom. Friendly competition at most.

2) have the goods ie drugs, contraband, access to spots/VIPs, any valuables they need.

This overrides the negatives of their insecurity. People need to feel they benefit or neutral in your prescence.

3) Be the boss at work or have fame.

Social heirarchies ie where position is unofficial (not in a company), people play those games. Not at work where youre in charge of their financial destiny.

Fame overrides the negatives of insecurity.

I give most people a chance regardless of looks to test for good vibes and confidence. But few people pass. Sad but true.

jjj2576 · 2019-09-14T16:13:35+00:00

OP: Your talk is big. What books have you read on the sidebar, or are you another lazy faggot?

youcancallmedada · 2019-09-14T01:24:34+00:00

maybe you should check yourself. how do you compare to someone like Brad Pitt - traditionally good looking, worth hundreds of millions of dollars, famous, kind and generous

A couple genuinely ugly motherfuckers called me ugly (they was projecting)

maybe they're referring to your mind

Haytch1234 · 2019-09-14T05:41:36+00:00

Drop your chest buddy.

Domebeers · 2019-09-13T22:10:44+00:00

How do girls react to you (this reads like it's the reaction from guys)

Whitefarmer · 2019-09-14T20:01:46+00:00

Most people can’t fathom that someone that level of self confidence. Look up BDE it’s a personality disorder that I have apparently sounds like you do to haha

Whitefarmer · 2019-09-14T20:06:37+00:00

BDE is the acronym for "Big Dick Energy". if you have confidence but aren't cocky about it, you have BDE. if you are a tryhard about it, then you don't radiate BDE

Look it up for yourself

ScooopWoopScoup · 2019-09-14T00:48:48+00:00

If your own teammates don't like you and you are good at football (jacked/coordinated) you must be a faggot.

Maybe when you sit down or walk you look tight and not relaxed, like you're about to fight somebody.

You might just have to relax

Title	How to deal w people disliking you because you’re too confident and good looking without changing your personality?
Author	youcancallmedada
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Comments	55
Date	September 13, 2019 9:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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