Should i bother going to bars alone?

TimPartendale · 2014-11-29T05:45:32+00:00

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Maaahoney · 2014-11-29T05:47:55+00:00

Staying home and thinking it's lame is just your mind making up more excuses. Go out, get comfortable in bars, learn your bartenders name and talk to them. Pay with your credit card/debit card so they actually read your name, too. It's a great way to expand your social circle. Then, when you go out with friends, you'll be a regular and people will know you.

However, I will admit, that I've never enjoyed work-related gatherings at the bar. I work in IT and it's just a blue pill nerd convention. It's a good opportunity to show that there is something special about you, and it's not a bad idea to show up, but use the group to your advantage to expand, don't get sucked into bitcoin conversations (unless that's something you're passionate about, ya know?).

Good luck.

copralalic · 2014-11-29T07:01:14+00:00

If you think you'll seem creepy, you can always make up a story about your friends planning to meet you there. Approach a group, talk to some girls. If things go well, text your "friends" that you'll meet up with them later. If things aren't going well, perfect excuse to ditch.

This would work better in a place with a few bars in walking distance, so you could move between multiple ones if you want.

Going out alone will really build up your game, plus you might actually meet some people worth being friends with. It's win-win-win.

2014-11-29T08:31:02+00:00

Go and strike up conversation with everyone, the bartender, the people smoking outside, you don't need to have a goal other than that, but by doing that it will almost guarantee you have a good time (provided you allow yourself to show your personality and you don't have anxiety issues). I've had some of my best nights out alone, do it.

mega_beta · 2014-11-29T06:27:11+00:00

I've had some wild adventures result from going out to clubs and bars alone. I don't do it much in my own city, but all the time when I'm on vacation.

rastermasster · 2014-11-29T07:52:26+00:00

just had this discussion with myself..... went to one, felt like a loser, there were 2-3 guys per woman around and all were occupied or in groups. there was hardly a chance for me to open anything anywhere. decided to let it go. not a solution, i just am lucky i'm not very horny.

harkrank · 2014-11-29T10:12:14+00:00

Yes, you should go. Going out alone is much more fun, find some nice people to talk to or just chat with the bartender. Girls like much better a lone ranger.

ThirdLegGuy · 2014-11-29T11:14:08+00:00

Go to a bar to entertain yourself, to meet new friends, to discuss interesting stuff, to get new experience, but not to get laid. And that's how you'll probably end up getting laid.

raceAround126 · 2014-11-29T08:59:06+00:00

Going alone is lame.

But you have to start somewhere!!! Just go out and be yourself. If you're really stuck, take a book to read, or go somewhere with a TV where you can "watch the game". Even if you're not even interested in "the game".

And don't make it specifically about only talking to girls. If you need to ease up the confidence or expand your circle, guys are your best friends. Guys know how to be friends with each other. And they're more receptive to other guys on the outlines!

Title	Should i bother going to bars alone?
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Date	November 29, 2014 5:39 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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