So I've been reading a lot of TRP, psychoanalysis, evopsych, biology, and philosophy. What I'm about to do is challenge core ideas of TRP. I implore you all that before you make a knee jerk reaction and shout me down as blue pill you read and apply reason and think about what I've said. One point I'd like to make very clear is this: in reality there is always another level of self awareness and enlightenment. Just because you have swallowed the red pill does NOT mean you see things the way they are. It means you may see a tiny portion of reality slightly more lucidly than many others. There will always be blind spots in our understanding of reality and I feel as if many TRPers think they've just "figured it all out". It's a very teenage "know it all" mentality. You're path to enlightenment, not just in gender relations, but life in general, will go on to the end of your days.

Having said that let me get onto the contentious issues.

ONEitis: I know right now you're all probably wondering how I can refute such a core tenant of TRP as ONEitis, well I don't intend to refute it completely, only partially. You see while I think we can all agree that there no ONE for any one person, we can also agree that the number of people available and compatible with any one person varies wildly. For example there are 7 billion people in the world, however, if you are not bisexual you instantly eliminate 3.5 billion people from your pool of potential partners. This is one factor of MANY. Culturally you will be most compatible with someone from your country, your city, your town, etc. This is not to say that cross cultural relationships don't happen they are simply not as likely or as common. Sociologists say that biggest factor for us when choosing our mates is proximity. There are also people who are so ugly or so dysfunctional they never find a mate. Yes that's right some people live with ZEROitis. The point I am getting at is that ever persons potential partner pool runs from 7 billion to 0, and 1 is a number in between. The more you fall outside the bell curve of ordinary in all dimensions of life the less potential partners you have. Have you noticed great people of genius and esoteric personalities tend to also be loners? The more exceptional you are the SMALLER your dating pool becomes.

NAWALT/AWALT: While women all contain the same biological imperatives such as hypergamy and all that entails, every woman is still an individual. Every woman as a unique set of circumstances that have crafted her personality as much as any innate biological drive. So while yes all women will try and swing up from you given the opportunity just remember not all women will be able to make you break fast just the way you like. Not all women will be able to have a conversation about shakespeare. Not all women will understand some important detail of your personality. Remember this when you say to yourself ONEitis is bullshit; on to the next one.

Men Vs Women: A lot of you call women children, think they're lacking in faculties that men have, or to be more lenient, simply overwhelmingly different to men. While this is very true that equality circle jerk feminism and mainstream culture has going on right now is hopelessly naive I would like to point one thing out. Men and women have more in common than not. Let me repeat that another way. Men and women share more in common through their shared human experience than they are divided by their sex and gender. Each of us is a living breathing human currently scuttling around on planet earth. Your human experience lets you empathize more with women than your gender divide cuts you off from understanding women. Use this to your advantage as well as your knowledge of the differences.

The Light Triad: I see a lot made of the Dark Triad personality traits. I see many people talk about it and try emulate them and I personally think this is very misguided. So I'm about to pose the Light Triad as an alternative. The Light Triad consists of Confidence, Empathy, Self Reflection/Awareness. By definition these things are quite literally the antithesis of the Dark Triad. I guarantee you they'll get your further in life as well. Perhaps I'll do a follow up post about the importance of Light Triad traits.