What kind of SMV or whatever. It seems like me and a lot of guys I know have a lot of issues getting these kinds of women.

I want to make this question specifically about that, my question was poorly worded and I did not get much accurate answers. Anyways, I see some of these women walking around in my area (California) and I have no idea what it takes to get with these kinds of women. In the past, my interactions with them have not gone too smooth and I have had struggles with these kinds of girls in high school and college. Now as a college grad, I am trying to get an idea of what it takes to do well with these kinds of women.

Also, I am middle eastern (brown), will this hurt me a lot in getting these kinds of women?