Commitment

SkorchZang · 2014-12-13T09:13:24+00:00

Here's the problem, bro. When you took the red pill, we can imagine that a lot of things changed in your brain and even the body. You started to think different, move different, feel different. It's like you're in a car and just switched it into one of the upper gears.

But your car isn't used to that, and it's not good yet at upper gears. You may be assuming all you need is "new understanding", and that when you have that, you'll basically have arrived where you wanna be because besides a couple BP errors you're perfect. Mistake!

You're fucked up right from the start, from assembly line onward you were a cheap puttering clunker rather than a Ferrari. And there are so many hidden strings attached to your ego that women can jerk you around with, that you currently may resemble a marionette doll.

That "feel" you're having now where you want to break it off with your plate because she cancelled on you is definitely YOUR PROBLEM, not hers or anyone's. Your ego is up in arms and you're being flooded with butthurt feelings. Inwardly, you are allowing yourself to be a pouting little bitch, you gave yourself permission to be that way whenever you feel "mistreated". If you think about it, it probably goes way back to when you were 5 years old or something similar. It's up to you to decide that shit is over, you won't permit it any more, and to punish yourself appropriately for it if you keep on backsliding into it.

All you do is, take it one thing at a time, and keep doing the right thing inspite of the butthurt you may feel. So nobody ever sees you having these feelings (especially not your plates). Then inwardly, you have my permission, just kill it with fire dude. Whenever a woman causes you to experience angry butthurt feels, she is jerking one of those latent ego strings, and showing you exactly where you need to think it through, then cut it to permanently improve yourself.

So in your self-talk you may want to be more like "thanks, bitch", instead of "how dare she do that to me".

kingofpoplives · 2014-12-13T15:13:56+00:00

I think it is almost impossible to avoid getting burned like this occasionally when spinning plates. As human beings, we are wired to connect emotionally. If you become sexual and start spending time with a woman, feels are going to occasionally get triggered. Even if it's not full blown love, there is still a connection, and still the potential for emotional injury.

SkorchZang is dead right, the pain you are feeling is largely a result of your ego. I had a plate tell me she was no longer interested earlier this week. This was a girl with many red flags. I had zero interest in a relationship with her, and was barely in on continuing the plate relationship. But when she broke things off, I felt like shit for several hours. The main thing going through my head was "how dare this bitch reject ME". It was a blow to my ego, since it called into question my superiority.

I think when you get this type of feeling from a plate, you just gotta shake it off. Since you aren't super invested in them, it doesn't last that long. That is the price you pay for having sex and spending time with women. Only way to avoid it entirely is total celibate MGTOW.

With LTRs, you make a different bargain. You spare yourself the constant stream of small to medium emotional injuries inflicted by plate spinning, in favor of a smoother ride in the short term with the potential for massive emotional disaster.

You should check out the Anti-Dump post from yesterday (tried to link, apparently not allowed), since the book proposes a strategy for protecting your heart by only dating women who are extremely interested in you. It is a system for filtering out all woman are not highly interested, and thus will likely burn your ass at some point down the road.

That said, there is no way to completely eliminate emotional pain without becoming dead inside (a psychopath) or refusing to engage with women. If you feel the desire to interact with women romantically, this is the price you pay for all the pleasures and benefits of those interactions. Personally, I think it is well worth it, but that's life. Nothing is free.

Title	Commitment
Author	BlackHeart89
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	December 13, 2014 5:17 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2p5ecw/commitment/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/commitment.26302 https://theredarchive.com/post/26302

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