CMV: Women have more opportunities to cheat than men. Women avoid conflict more than men.

dakru · 2016-07-28T18:40:33+00:00

Women have more opportunities to cheat than men. Women avoid conflict more than men.

I posit that women cheat more than men. A lot more.

It seems blatantly obvious that women have more opportunities to cheat than men do. Women are a lot more likely than men are to be approached and pursued and given the opportunity for sex, to the point that many women actively find it annoying and a burden in one way or another (whether because they don't find the men appealing, because it interrupts them going about their lives, because they see men's sexual desire as offensive or demeaning, because they've experienced bad reactions when rejecting, or anything like that).

But having more opportunities doesn't necessarily mean that they cheat more, especially in light of research on men's and women's sex drives. These bolded factors below could plausibly make women less interested in taking the casual sex options that they're given:

Across many different studies and measures, men have been shown to have more frequent and more intense sexual desires than women, as reflected in spontaneous thoughts about sex, frequency and variety of sexual fantasies, desired frequency of intercourse, desired number of partners, masturbation, liking for various sexual practices, willingness to forego sex, initiating versus refusing sex, making sacrifices for sex, and other measures. No contrary findings (indicating stronger sexual motivation among women) were found. Hence we conclude that the male sex drive is stronger than the female sex drive. [http://www.sjsu.edu/people/james.lee/courses/soci172/s0/3Baumeister3.pdf]

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[deleted] · 2016-07-28T18:38:18+00:00

I disagree with this:

Women are also more prone to avoid conflict. If a woman is not happy in the relationship, she is more likely to cheat than to confront her unhappiness head on and break up.

I don't think this is always true. I think some women will cheat, then divorce. Divorce is too easy to get; alimony and child support are too easy to get, the free money gravy train coupled with freedom to hop back on the cougar carousel is too tantalizing.

[deleted] · 2016-07-28T18:53:04+00:00

Other posters have already addressed why assuming that just because women have more opportunities to cheat doesn't mean they actually cheat more. Women have lower sex drives, and more importantly, the empirical evidence we have relating to this question points to the conclusion that men cheat more.

The few studies I'm aware of by googling this topic about 5 minutes ago all claim that men usually cheat more than women.

While I agree that women are on average much more likely to avoid conflict, I disagree that this means she would use cheating as an indirect 'solution' to her unhappiness.

One could just as easily argue that because women are more prone to avoid conflict, they would avoid cheating more because of the inevitable and large conflict infidelity usually leads to.

Archwinger · 2016-07-28T18:53:10+00:00

The title of your CMV is true. Women do have more opportunities to cheat. Women do avoid more conflict than men.

But the conclusion in the body of your post -- that women actually do cheat more than men -- isn't true. For one of the reasons stated in your title. Women hate conflict. They're risk-adverse. If their relationship is okay, they're less likely to fuck it up for an unknown, just because they can.

Being risk-adverse, they're also not very likely to go home with strangers or have spontaneous sex with men they barely know. It happens, but most women find those types of situations unsettling. They're risky.

I do agree, however, that if a woman is unhappy in a relationship, she is going to make sure she has her next branch secure before she ends it, unless things are extremely untenable.

Title	CMV: Women have more opportunities to cheat than men. Women avoid conflict more than men.
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Date	July 28, 2016 6:28 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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