Asian and Indian guys in the western world that have taken the red pill, how has it improved your life in a better way? Are you doing better with women now?

MakeMoneyNotWar · 2015-09-26T23:59:31+00:00

I found Reddit -> TRP -> AsianMasc

Asian parents and kids generally never encourage lifting. It's always school, go to good college, get a good job, and women are assumed to just fall into place after that. Sure, jocks get laid but I assumed that in the long run they'll just be unemployed losers. In reality, the jocks end up making more money than me, and get to have tons of lays. In addition, white social circles that were generally open when I was a kid close off around high school or college, even though I was fully "assimilated." After all, I came to the US at 6 years old. Hence, beginning in high school, I mostly was in mixed race social circles. In college, these circles were the engineering or premed tracks, with people going to great things but are almost cut off from the sexual marketplace altogether.

After college, I got that great job, car, own place, but stunted in the relationship area. Never big into exercise before, so was really skinny, with glasses, and bad teeth (parents were too poor to get me braces). Before someone comes in with, oh you were just too shy or meek or whatever stereotype, I was none of those. My jobs before college were all in sales and I was decent at it. Tried online dating with zero results. Not even 1 date. Found TRP by accident and it basically gave me a blueprint for self improvement.

In the 2 years since TRP, I've started lifting and gained 40 lb mostly muscle. Got multiple interesting hobbies and stuck with most of them, and am basically a renaissance man compared to friends and coworkers. Got contacts, finished up with braces and just started to refit my wardrobe. Started online dating again with a IDGAF mentality, and started a relationship out of it. I still have a LONG way to go, as my biggest weakness is still a poor social circle outside of work, and still am pretty bad at game. But I know where I am weak and what to do about it. TRP and AsianMasc might sound crude, or angry, or whatever, but it is the language of men and it kicked me in the balls hard enough to get me to change my life.

It all seems so obvious to me now, and probably to most of you as well. But you have to realize that as an Asian man, I had zero guidance from my parents (they didn't grow up here), nothing from older siblings (thank the one child policy), zero guidance from friends (they were all incels), no positive Asian male role models in society, nothing in the media (except the Ken Jeong types), and no way to enter social circles w high SMV males (invariably white) to learn from. Today, despite all my improvements, I am probably still only in the bottom half of the SMP, even though I would probably be in the top half had I been born white, and near the top in Asia. But I have no desire to move back, as I grew up in America and still love the country. So everyday, I fight on, with TRP being the coach I never had.

autoNFA · 2015-09-26T22:14:48+00:00

Not Red Pill, but early/mid-2000s PUA. It made a dramatically positive difference. All I got in the way of advice before was useless platitudes, like "you'll find the right girl someday who likes you for who you are!" and "getting buff won't help you with girls, it's all about confidence!" and "you don't need to learn how to flirt, do what comes naturally and it will all work out in the end!". Going online and comparing notes with other guys opened my eyes to all the bullshit. Before, zero success. After, I was romantically and sexually satisfied.

I don't really see blondes as more attractive than other girls, but yes, I have slept with hot blondes. Of course some of them will reject me outright for my skin color, but plenty of them are not so foolish.

alreadyredschool · 2015-09-26T21:43:56+00:00

The red pill claims that you just need to "lift, hold frame, and be moar alpha".

Really? I thought there was ~~more~~ moar advice.

DidUBringTheStuff · 2015-09-29T15:40:53+00:00

Don't like the assumption that being Indian means you have bad luck with women. I'm Indian and that just doesn't apply to me, my cousins and other family. I agree a lot of Indian dudes are clueless - and wouldn't know what to do with a hot blonde - but for American-born Indians it's a lot better. The only thing working against me is negative/racist preconceptions that girls have before meeting me. That's why I said I don't like the assumption... perpetuating that reduces my chances! Not mad at you though, by any stretch.

In my family we are tall, medium to fair skinned, cultured, and upper middle class. I realize if I weren't these things shit would be a lot harder. But I'd say only 25% of male American-born Indians are the socially awkward, ridiculous, goofy characters that TV shows makes us out to be. And that's because their parents are straight up squares.

Edit: and Asians are the highest earning race in America so you have to figure a good percentage of them are rich, either by their own hard work or from their families.

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2015-09-26T21:51:51+00:00

I'm white but today I saw a jacked Asian dude and I immediately wondered if he's RP.

[deleted] · 2015-09-30T08:02:35+00:00

My chinese husband did red pill stuff and he has never had any luck with hot women. However, he's never been very charismatic and he naturally has no clue how to act socially. He knows how to fake all that stuff but it never gets him past the first few dates and it's never gotten him into bed with anyone. I think men with natural charisma and men who are naturally positive, confident, assertive and friendly do better with women. You can't fake these traits around someone forever and over the course of dating your true personality is going to show to some extent. If you don't have this personality type then you are probably going to have to settle for lower SMV women because the hottest ones are all extroverts. Reason why me and him ended up together is probably because I have high functioning autism and I don't give a monkeys about many of the things that most women seem to. I also actually prefer east asian men and I wanted someone who would allow me to stay home and have at least a few children.

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