"Men use love to get sex, women use sex to get love."

max_peenor · 2015-04-26T06:00:07+00:00

Ha my mom used to tell this to me all the time when I was younger. As I grew up and got married, I realized that this statement is mostly crap, at least in my case. It's pretty red if you ask me.

[deleted] · 2015-04-26T12:28:19+00:00

'Men use love to get sex, women use sex to get love"

This was never true. Not red pill or blue pill - just a very old fashioned way of looking at love and sex. It was probably made up as a cautionary saying to young women before the age of the pill (yes the pill)- so that they wouldn't get caught single and pregnant.

sweateraficionado · 2015-04-26T06:04:46+00:00

Alphas use STEM to get women. That's biotruths.

wombatinaburrow · 2015-04-26T12:29:13+00:00

Something my grandmother and mother told me. Not blue or red, just a stereotype that is true in high school and Peters out once you've old enough to drive.

TimeDoesDisolve · 2015-04-26T06:28:10+00:00

Most definitely redpill. Women aren't people they are leaches of time and money and men just want sex not emotional comfort in TRPer's minds.

[deleted] · 2015-04-26T08:21:05+00:00

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max_peenor · 2015-04-26T13:49:04+00:00

Well , I'm BP and I always believed that things work like that . I guess I'm cynical :(

dejour · 2015-04-26T13:01:38+00:00

Both. The redpill connection is obvious. But the bluepill connection is there at a buried level.

If you worry more about men "using" women for sex and less about women "using" men for sex, then you tend to believe the saying.

If you think that two equally drunk people having sex means that the man took advantage, then you tend to believe the saying.

If you think that men are often manipulative, then you tend to believe the saying. (I think the red pill thinks that men are not normally manipulative, but they should be.)

JP__Whoregan · 2015-04-27T05:36:57+00:00

Only men are capable of love, women are not capable of love. Therefore this statement is false

[deleted] · 2015-04-27T12:23:26+00:00

It is a generalization. I am a man, and rarely cared for sex, but far more for love. I am not a testosterone "monster"... more like a boy in an adult body, feeling kinda lost and scared. So I tended to see my mother in my romantic partners.

cxj · 2015-04-26T05:47:15+00:00

This truism definitely leans red, as it views romance through a transactional lens.

I also have a strong suspicion blues are gonna pour out in full effect to deny affiliation with such a view, and possibly contest its truth value as well. Nothing wrong with that, do your stuff blues, that's what you're here for :)

nomdplume · 2015-04-26T05:27:47+00:00

I don't know. Since I've heard that truism widely told since I was a youngster, but it's also a "harsh truth", maybe it's a purple way of thinking?

haircombsnightmare · 2015-04-26T22:19:10+00:00

Why would they need to use it nowadays, though? There are women who want unattached sex, and I doubt any man will marry you just because you two have sex.

lolobviously · 2015-04-26T06:01:38+00:00

Replace sex with commitment.

[deleted] · 2015-04-26T14:06:46+00:00

Neither. That's a misquote. The real quote is that men use power to get sex and women use sex to get power.

Title	"Men use love to get sex, women use sex to get love."
Author	thats_not_what_i_hea
Upvotes	2
Comments	37
Date	April 26, 2015 4:52 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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