I’m trying to wrap my head around overt communication vs covert communication when it comes to your boundaries, expectations, desires, wants and needs.
I get that if I sit her down and tell her my demands and what I expect from her, that it may not go over well. You can’t negotiate desire; no one wants to be pushed to a point of being this overt – where a husband creates spreadsheet of wife's excuses for not wanting to have sex with him (you can google it for a link).
Dread game is covert, but telling your boundaries of what you will or will not accept from her behavior is overt.
Consistent advice I read here is to never explain or justify yourself (being overt). Which I agree. Also, you must set boundaries and explain things to her what you want (being overt). But if I let her know my boundaries than I am explaining myself and negotiating.
I don’t think advice is contradictory, it’s that I do not fully grasp the concepts yet.
Can someone clarify the distinction of overt vs covert communication - especially as it comes to letting your woman know about boundaries, expectations and what you will or will not settle for so it doesn't come across as butt hurt, negotiating, explaining or justifying.
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